Dear Bella: I’m caught in between my male friends and one of those friends’ ex-girlfriend. Recently my friend broke up with his girl for some dumb reasons. He claims that he wasn’t in love with her, it was just for the sex. They broke it of some time ago, and now the girl talks to me about the problem.
She tells me certain things that I already know and I don’t want to tell her that I know because she might think that I betrayed her by not giving her a heads up. On the other hand, I feel like telling my friend what’s going on, but I still don’t feel like telling him for the same trust purpose, but if I don’t and he finds out we may not be friends anymore. I keep getting myself into these situations. I sometimes wonder if its because I’m too nice. So what should I do? Also, how can I avoid getting into these situations?
Dear Too Nice,
There’s nothing wrong giving your emotional support to those who trust you enough. Your male friend and the girl have already broken things off so why mix matters to cause more of an uproar? Simply listen to what each party has to say and don’t feed neither of them information about each other. If you disclose to neither of them what they’ve been telling you then they won’t trust you anymore. Let your buddy know that not because he and the girl are not on good terms there is no reason you should not be friendly to her.
However, if you feel like there is too much pressure on you to please people kindly tell them that you wish not to hear their stories and you are not the best at giving advice. Let your friends know that you hate being at the centre of a relationship that is no more and they should forget about each other, move on and give it a rest.
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