Cheating girlfriend seeks forgiveness

I find myself really upset all of the time. I have cheated on my boyfriend and it was multiple times. Every time he has forgiven me and I am so grateful. I have cleaned up my act and I have done what it takes to make him happy.

It has come down to buying him things he wants and spending my last dime on him just to make him happy. I spend all my time with him and any question he ask me I tell him everything and nothing but the truth, but we argue constantly now.

He brings up things that I have done that was over 2 years ago. I know that he still hasn’t forgiven me for. I cry and scream because I am so hurt because I know that I was wrong. I admit it to him all of the time. He tells me that he is going to leave me and I cried more because I cant imagine life without him.

He says that I used to be so happy and he said that he cant get over stuff if I dont get over it too. But he is the one that starts the arguments. I feel like if I am happy, he brings something up to make me miserable again.

I feel like I have to tip-toe around his feelings and I have to make sure that i do not say anything to make him mad, because all he is gonna do is bring up the past.

Listen, I try everything to make him happy. The worst part about it is that he has cheated on me too, and he makes me feel so bad about myself I don’t even dare bring up what he has done. I really love this man and I want to be with him for the rest of my life, regardless of all of the mess we have been in.

He tells me that he wants to marry me and he loves me also. Sometimes I feel like I am at a crossroads, I just feel like we need some help. I am confused and scared that he will leave me and that is the last thing that I would want. please help…..

Signed Scared of Lonely

Dear Scared of Lonely,

It appears that your boyfriend has not forgiven you for your past transgressions and from all indications, he probably won’t. This makes the relationship a very unhealthy one and as far as I can see it is having a profound impact on on you.

If you hold on to this relationship you will cause more harm to yourself than good. The love and need you feel for him now could just be guilt and it can cripple you. And to make it worst he is also cheating on you, adding more insult to injury. He even mentioned he is going to leave you.

Probably its time for the both of you to see a third party, a pastor, priest, close friend or counselor. If that doesn’t work, then maybe it is time you move on.

Bella

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73 Comments

  1. peaceful
    April 23, 2011

    woman of the day is all about $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$ they don’t care about love ,, it is about money, where is your love woman , Lord have mercy on men our woman is all about money money money.

  2. wondering
    April 7, 2011

    hey sweetheart you should never tell him keep it to yourself and ask God to forgive stop seeing the side man and all is well….

    my last relationship ended because my ex used to lie and cheat I would be home and he would get home at 3am not something he used to do, I play detective and find concrete proof of he cheating… remember the song say anything you do me I go do you back well that is just what I did I cheat on him too he never find out up to this day. but then I say to myself two wrongs don’t make a right, I stopped but them his cheating got worst it went from one woman to two women. hey AIDS not easy so I pack up and run yes I know i cheat on him back but it was wrong.

    now is today he love me but I have moved on with my life, my point to you is that yes you cheat and he do you back it gives him no reason to be nagging you about it…. He hasn’t forgiven you walk away and seek God

  3. Cox
    April 6, 2011

    Scared and Lonely I’ve read all the comments in here and you can learn alot from what some people have to say but the buttom line is you’re only in the relationship becuase you are scared to be lonely…you need to leave this man and find yourself. Start by giving your life to Christ and by thinking that you are worth more than what you’re trying hard to settle for. I pray you find true love and happiness one day but honey today is not the day. Leave this man, dust yourself off and try again. I was a victim of a cheating spouse and time and time again he said he was sorry and I forgave him because I though at the time he was the one for me then I started listening to my grandmother who told me to pray and read my bible and ask God to help me find my purpose in life. Now, thanks to the Almighty, I’m still single but I’m at a good place and I’m not giving up on finding that one that will be perfect for me. God bless you young lady.

  4. sweet pum pum
    April 6, 2011

    Nobody is perfect and I mean NOBODY !! sometimes you try to come clean about your mistakes
    and then its your biggest mistake. One more thing to throw in your face and nag you about. Take
    your thing don’t tell nobody and smile to yourself about how good it was :wink:

  5. GRANOLA
    April 6, 2011

    it funny eh after allu take all allu man on allu man head is when allu does luv more hmmmmm.

    • sweet pum pum
      April 7, 2011

      yes you right lol especially how the men are so innocent the poor things don’t do shit.
      women are the bad ones who cheat all the time while the men stay at home with both hands
      between their legs I like how you all feel when the shoe is on the other foot :twisted:

      • lol
        April 7, 2011

        u too funny sweet pum pum..women r not d only ones cheatin..men cheat too so if u hav noting to say jus shut ur fly trap!! get some toothpaste n clean up ur stinkin tongue.

  6. Anonymous
    April 6, 2011

    My girl, never tell when you cheat. When always bring that up over and over again. I myself will never tell. What he don’t know can’t hurt you

    • Sunny
      April 6, 2011

      what he don’t know CAN hurt u, u will be filled with guilt after awhile, that alone will work on u especially if u have a good man or woman who really loves u and don’t deserve to be hurt that way!!

    • GRAMPY
      April 6, 2011

      HMMM..LOL… I AGREE.. BUT DEM MEN SO DOE GOOD.. OPEN UR EYES HE MAYBE DOIN U D SAME FING

  7. Muslim_Always
    April 6, 2011

    Allah says in the Quran, “Do not go close to fornication and adultery.”

    This is an illegal relationship in the sight of the Most High. This relationship was not built on spirituality but on infatuation and lust that is why both parties have cheated on each other especially the woman quite a few times.

    She claims she loves him is lip service. Why would you love this person yet cheat on them? Is that love? She did it on repeated occasions.

    Thus, we see this is a very unhealthy relationship and I suggest both go their separate ways.

    • Crackerjack
      May 4, 2011

      Allah created humans in his image, so He will understand their shortcomings

  8. DAYLAN ST.HILLAIRE
    April 6, 2011

    aye babes that situation u in not easy… First of all why did u cheat ? doo u have feeling for a fresh man now an then… How did he founfd out firstly ? did he stauck u and find out or you told him on ur own.. them other mens that u hard are they better than him ? both in bed and man size { size of penis}. are they more vicious and animal listic in bed than him? doo u get more feeling of agorny { passion and satisfaction in length and girth } from them others? doo u scream and breath more deeply with them? ARE U FEELING HIM IN SIDE U DRUING SEX IS HE THEIR YET WHERES CHARLIE ? ARE MEN TALKING ABOUT ME WHEN I PASSING? and say how they mash that up already !!! can i trust her by men my friends my brothers? Girl these are the things that going through his mind every day like 90% of his day. from the time he wakes and to go too sleep,, He does love u nothing can change that but it hurts because the vision and siloette of that image thats bistole in his mind got distroy because we men know the damage we does cause and doo other man ting BECAUSE WE CHECKING THE NASTY COME FOR IT THAT U WANT LOOK IT, so when it happens the monet reflects to the same..gIRL AT THIS POINT IF U LIKE HAVING OTHER FLAVOURS OF MEN TELL HIM THAT , BECAUSE ALL NOW HE STILL CHECKING HOW THEM OTHER FELLARS HARD SEX WITH U HE CANNNOT IMAGINE IT A MAN HATE OTER MAN TOO TOUCH HIS SPECIAL ONE AND THATS U HAD IT ALL HIS MIND ,BODY AND SOUL, NOW ALL THAT REMAINS IS HIS BODY { SEX} THE MIND CANT TRUST U FULLY ANY MORE AND THE SOUL WHICH WAS LOVE IS ON A STAND STILL .. TRY DOIN WHAT ONE WRITER BRING OTHER TING FOR DE MAN TOO ENJOY AND SOON HE WILL DOO THE SAME U WANT BUT JUST MAKE SURE THEY SMALLER DOWN THEIR{ IN HIS PANTS } BECAUSE I BET U HE WANT TOO SEE HOW U TAKING IT BY OTHERS… and dont give him stress about loving u alone and he cannot have sex with other people u will cause old memories too come back and the noise and silent moments and u say u feelkin embarass if u want too be with him u der already just behave because if he was leaving YOU he will be gone already , that just his ways of victory over the moment atleast u did not mention bodily harm that all good u safe. never watch blue movies or things that can bring memories, have sex enough time. and becare full of the men u trust because they can cause and transmitte what they have.And get some enhancement for de man so sex can improve between u all like it or not u i believe u are still cheating and i believe de man really love u because he forgive everytime it clearly show he wants no one else by his side but u, just love him alone and u will see great changes buy a big dildo it will help the crave of for others,AND DONT LIE ANY MORE AND WHEN U REALISE HE IS IN A MOMENT JUST TELL WHAT HE WANT HE WANT TOO KNOW CAUSE HELP WITH THE EASE OF MIND AND STRESS AND TELL HIM HE IS THE BEST

    • sweet pum pum
      April 6, 2011

      Good effort….but Ouchhhhh!!!!

  9. Truth, Justice, Love, Peace and Unity
    April 5, 2011

    Well, she cheated on him and he cheated on her. How many times did he cheat on her? Was she aware of all the times he cheated on her?
    She has apologized and is trying her best to make up yet he keeps bringing up the past issues. He did not forgive her and he does not want to forget and to forgive her. Their relationship is now a stormy one which needs to be quelled if they are to continue together and to get married. She better not consider marrying this man under the circumstances.
    My suggestion as Bella is to seek counseling. If this does not help then you will have to part ways.
    It is said that breaking up is hard to do. Consider that many people break-up and after all is said and done and tears were shed, they returned to their old self with peace of heart and mind. Later, they meet another partner and are happy once again, even happier than they were with the other partner. For your happiness and peace of mind, if you separate, it is only a matter of time and you will get over it.
    Do not waste your time and flatter him which is what you are doing. He is wallowing in your reaction. Stand tall and be proud. You have a life to live and a future. You were not created to live in bondage and in unhappiness.
    There is the saying: “When one door closes the other one opens. Too often we look at the closed door and not the one that is opened for us.”
    The only alternative you have is to seek counseling and hope that he will cooperate. Otherwise the best you could do for yourself is to call it quits with him. It appears that he does not deserve you.

  10. Q!!!!!!
    April 5, 2011

    .girl u are paying this man to stay with u, he hasnt forgiven you and u havent forgiven yourself. You act like u scared of this guy if u cannot bring up his cheating then its a one sided relationship. Bottom line girl its time to go if a man forgives u it stays in the past and if he cant deal with it run for your life you have a loser on your hands,. I cheated on my bf and he forgave me after he found out my baby wasnt his and now he doesnt bring that up argument or not, alll he will say baby just dont lie to me or cheat on me and i tell him the same

  11. Love
    April 5, 2011

    Men thinks we women have to forgive and not them…… But we need to show theses men it’s woman time and what go’es around comes around. We stop staying home and keep the bed warm while they keeping some woman or (who knows maybe men too) bed hot!!!! Girl friend move on with ur life his an A**hold Go online and get a date let him go mad!!!! he can’t C u with another man anyway…. that’s wat u need to do get a younger man live that( a***hold) alone!!!!!!! IT WOMAN TIME!!!!!!

  12. natural dominican
    April 5, 2011

    if u love something let it go. if it comes back it’s urs if it doesn’t it never was

    • ^_^
      April 6, 2011

      totally agree

    • GRAMPY
      April 6, 2011

      TRUE STORY…HAPPENED TO ME.. EVEN IF IT TOOK 3 YEARS

  13. for my vagina
    April 5, 2011

    woman please do not let this guy torment you because believe me as soon as you go crazy or commit suicide he will move on! if you have both cheated he has absolutely no right to bring yours up at every opportunity he gets. so why don’t you throw his right back at him? life goes on with or without him, and though it may hurt initially, leave him, get someone else and please try to be faithful to him. And as for me no man will torment me when I sex with my VAGINA! NO MAN!WORST IF HE HAS DONE IT TOO, PLI MOVAIS!

    • sai sa mem
      April 5, 2011

      hip hip hurray!! is dat self..fully agree..i did it..u did it…then lets jus 4get it cuz we both did it..lets jus try never do it again…wat da !!

  14. jeff
    April 5, 2011

    that good for u u too nasty once is a mistake twice is a habbit i hope u get a rash

    • Kb lyric
      April 6, 2011

      hahahahahaha lol

    • highgrade
      April 6, 2011

      whoooshhh………..lolll if she get a rash who u think she going to give it to………..me man r him?

    • coshony
      April 12, 2011

      hahahahahaha. salop

    • Sour Sop
      April 13, 2011

      All you too funny eh! Look jokes!

  15. LOVE
    April 5, 2011

    let me tell you this has nothing to do with you cheating….. belive me young lady… he wants to move on.. thats what men do when they want to move on… i know ur hurting but dont give into this by crying.. in fact help him by teling its ok he could leave.. see how fast he wanting you back… dont beat up yourself.. and if he leavs it really means he wants to leave… MAN MAN …. i have one there and I dont play with him…

    • yep
      April 5, 2011

      thats true u kno..my man wanted to leav me so bad(well so he said).until he ended up gettin another woman..i used to beat myself up about it.but then i realiz its no use, cuz he was takin advantage of d fact dat i didnt want to let go..d day i told him its alright to go cuz i was willin to move on..it took him less than a wk to break ties wit d girl and come back playin lover boy..but guess wat..i am not cryin anymore..now, if theres any tears, then it will b fr him not me.

  16. Kb lyric
    April 5, 2011

    shame ,shame ,shame my boy pack that “caboyay” and get a better ride ….lol

  17. kandy44210
    April 5, 2011

    you should have dumped him,he is a complete waste of time

  18. my my
    April 5, 2011

    well honestly, cheatin is someting hard to 4give wi pal..i jus dont c cheatin as a mistake and i dnt c myself 4givin this..i may say i 4giv but if 4givin means 4getin..im sorry, i cant..hav been in a situation where my man cheated.n yes i love him..yes i cant imagin life witout him..yes i tell him i 4gave him..yes i want to 4get..yes i want both of us to b happily together..but anytime some ting comes up..i knock him wit his cheatin story..i tell him tings, dat i dont mean..i try my best to hurt him..i watch him cry n laugh..but wen im alone n tink about it, i feel real sorry to do him those tings..i jus cant pass d fact dat he shared his self wit another woman.

    • Wicked Heifer!!
      April 5, 2011

      I am a woman but I don’t care if the guy cheated, im sure u probably gave him reason to, u sound like a very wicked & insecure woman. Maybe he sees u for the wicked bitch that u are!!! If i was that man, even if I was the one who did wrong, i would leave u in a heartbeat!!! You deserve to be by your damn self :twisted: !!!
      You do not love that man at all, u can treat him that way, then u say “when ur alone u feel sorry for what u do to him”….smh you do it already, just like he cheated already, and neither of u can take any of it back after its already done.
      I understand u can’t forget it, but to treat him like that shows that u will never forgive him either so the “living happily together” will never work out. Nobody’s perfect but u dear u are just plain EVIL :twisted: !!! Hmm…… i wonder why he still there??? No man not putting me through that crap u putting the guy through.
      Leave that man alone, LET HIM GO. I’m sure he will find someone else who will appreciate & love him enough to help him start over and u too. Oh and just incase you didn’t know this about urself……. 8-O YOU ARE INSECURE and relationships where one or both partners are insecure ARE DOOMED!!!

      • Micho
        April 6, 2011

        You’re a complete moron.

      • my my
        April 6, 2011

        if i am evil it took u to c dat..and guess what! it takes 1 to know another..and people like you jump to say bad things about others cause you dont know d circomstances surrounding dat person..take a look in the mirror and find out how much you can love deeply and 4give so easliy after some1 had turn your heart into threads cause of cheating..d only way u’d do it easily is if you r a run about uncover..so you kno u are worst than d person so its easy to c pass it…d big question is y wont he leave?! he wont leave cause he realiz i am 1 of the better ladies around..

        ask yourself y ur man would cheat and dump you 4 d woman he cheated wit!!its cuz u r no good..mines didnt leav me 4 d woman he cheated wit..that says someting bigger than u!!

        • Sunny
          April 6, 2011

          Waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay mi roro :lol: Wicked girl u hit a nerve dere wi, but is true i agree with u thats y she get so vex, Sakway Maychastay!!! A woman dat making a man cry and bringing up his passed mistakes and u have the nerve to say u are one of the good ones, girl please!!! Do worry he will have enough soon and he will leave u and u better hope is not that same one he cheat with he will go after…….stupes femme!!!!!

      • Cox
        April 7, 2011

        my my you don’t love this man…I’m a woman and like I said earlier I was cheated on but to bring up the past over and over is not healthy. You don’t love this man…you enjoy torturing this man and I suggest you quit. If he’s really sorry for what he did and wants to make it right by you then you need to do the same. I understand you can’t forgive and forget and if that’s the case you need to let this man be. I’m not saying you’re a bad person but what you’re doing to this man is not right…two wrongs don’t make a right.

        • my my
          April 7, 2011

          i have heard that time is a healer..and i trust that this is true..my man knows that it wasnt always that way..and if it doesnt happen as often as once every wk, i c no threat especially when it used to happen like 2 times every week..my man has seen progress and no 1 can blame him 4 holdin on 2 his darlin(ME)..he knows what i have that he may never get else where..cant risk that at all..i am blessed!!

  19. Lizavier4Jesus
    April 5, 2011

    Scared and Loney

    Regardless of everything you have said, the thought in your mind that you are “scared and lonely” is every reason for you to simply become “STRONG” in your will, and just get out of that relationship. If you are destined to live the rest of your life with that man, my lady, so it will be!

    But right now the two of you need to seperate from each other–do not interact with each other–the only way healing will happen in you both.

    You said: “The worst part is that he has cheated on me too, and he makes me feel so bad about myself”. That is the key statement I am looking at concerning your issue with your boyfriend. He is just as wrong as you are, but somehow, he is able to isolate his wrong doings and is using your wrongs to make you feel bad. Why is he right to do that to you?

    I know a song in which a woman confronts her man with a point to defend herself–not exactly like your cheating conduct–but it is something that most of us woman will have gone through before we are able to eventually hook up with Mr. Right–some of us never find him. Because, the majority of the “hims” are like the man in that lady’s song.

    She has had no choice, so she has been with other men and that “man” in her song looks down on her for that reason. So she tells him: “My mistakes are not worse than yours, just because I am a woman” In other words he approaches her expecting her to be a virgin, but how can she be a virgin, when it is men like himself, who has caused her not be a virgin by the she meets him.

    So, because you have made some mistakes, you demonstrate a weak mentality to your boyfriend, surrendering to his dominion in your life, even if you know that your mistakes are not worse than his, just because you are woman. Show him that you are also a person like himself. Love in your heart is meant to make you glow, feeling beautiful, confident, and strong willed–not feeling “scared and lonely”; that is nonsense!

    You have acknowledged your mistakes to your boyfriend, you have asked him for forgiveness, but it is obvious that he refuses to forgive you. Regardless of how much you desire to die with him because you say you love him, it is a useless way to exist; because his inability to forgive you is evidence that he does not love you, or at least he does not know that love in his heart.

    Know that his love for you, is the first reason he would forgive you. And forgiveness is letting go of the pain. Even if a person spends their rest of their life in the company of a person who has hurt them, and even if they can remember all of the times that person hurt them, the pain was healed when they forgive that person, and that makes all the difference.

    Therefore it is a challenge that you have to face now. If you love that man you will have to set him free. If he comes back, he was destined to be your man, the one whom you love. But if he does not come back, he was not meant for you. You will get over him, and you will find your Mr. Right. But do not stay in the torment you are in right now; just because you are a woman and you claim that you love that man so much! You are demonstrating a weak mentality to him.

    He is definitely using the weakness you are demonstrating to him, against you. Bring out your self-esteem, show him that you are strong, and you can let go of him–you have nothing to lose if he does not love you, right now. But if he loves you mentality of strength, self-esteem, and self-confidence. might cause him to see you as who you are–a person, a woman, a human being, just like him, who is capable of making many mistakes.

  20. Hehehehehehee
    April 5, 2011

    You and eloquence go together like oil and water. Take some grammar classes,

    • Bodjey!!
      April 5, 2011

      HA HA LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! U TOO FUNNY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  21. Hehehehehehee
    April 5, 2011

    Girl go to the public library and read some books because you had me all over the place with that story.

    • hmm
      April 5, 2011

      hehehehehehee or watever is ur name..u r too fool of urself..watever is written is pretty clear..right now u r actin like mr/ms perfect..stupid!

      by d way, i am not d person who wrote to bella..i am 1 who jus realiz dat u r just bein a dirty b**tch.

      • Family Guy!
        April 5, 2011

        @ hmm…..lol..You Sound exactly like the one who wrote this…i think you should come see me…leave that guy..and lets start fresh…..i won’t bring up nasty things you have done in the past.. :)

        • hmm
          April 5, 2011

          dont get it twisted mr family guy!!
          i have 1 of the best..a man that i wont give up 4 d world..i am happy and not needin any help from anybody..i wont take my good head and cheat on him cuz he is a freak in bed..quite naughty..i hav no reason to cheat 4 alil sex..so know ur place nigga!..

  22. one love
    April 5, 2011

    ITS OUR TIME NOW—-NO MORE CRYING OVER U WORTHLESS 4 INCHES WE ON TO BIGGER THINGS AND THE BEST PART OF IT IS THE MEN HAVE TO WATCH US DO IT AND SHUT UP, WE WILL MAKE ALL YOU SUFFER NOW —-WOMAN TIME LOL

    • sadist
      April 5, 2011

      TRY IT WIT ME NA. AND U WILL C HOW FAST ILL BEAT THE CR*P OUT OF YOU. AND THEN YOU WILL LEARN WHAT IS WOMAN TIME.

      • hmm
        April 5, 2011

        wi papa bondier!! u not easy..well sadiest u know over which fence u jumpin eh..cuz woman like me n u beat on me..man..i comin back 4 u wen u least xpect it.

        • Family Guy!
          April 5, 2011

          Sadist you forgot your woman was cheating with me on you…she never mention about you beating her..

        • hoe hoe
          April 5, 2011

          yout to slalup you are fired live her any woman that cheats on her man is asalupe she should be fired malpoupe , legobeast., whaby , polokete , seepom ,hoe, they most go, ha ha ha h ha ha Dominica women dont know how to keep one man they want there man and still other men theywant it all they wantit now.lie ha.

      • sadist
        April 6, 2011

        @ family guy– how do u know i have a woman? u dnt even know if i am a man or a woman

  23. All out
    April 5, 2011

    Girl tell d man how much times u cheat on him and let him do d same amount of times. If he do more than u well u wrong ur fault. Wear lingerie for d sex man like tha do new things wit him mann.

  24. All out
    April 5, 2011

    All u say it makes no sense stay with someone that doesn’t trust you. what’s the point say that. You canna trust nobody these days. Even if u get someone else same way u gonna feel after time pass boring. Only way to not feel that is both of allu stay excited wit each other in all ways.

  25. Ride or Die
    April 5, 2011

    If you came clean and was honest with him about your cheating and he still brings it up every time you argue, sweety he has not forgiven you and chances are he never will. He will have the cheating thing harbouring over you for as long as you are together. This relationship as i see it is unhealthy and you need to inhale deeply and move on with your life. Makes no sense be in a relationship and you are not happy. Make yourself happy hun….you come first.

  26. MEEEEEEE
    April 5, 2011

    papa!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :-P

  27. What a thing
    April 5, 2011

    that relationship done, its time to move on. you need to find somebday else, i hope you wont cheat on the next one

  28. JC
    April 5, 2011

    What you guys should is have a threesome. That would certainly make up for cheating.. Spice things up a little. He would also have his revenge an give you guys something to talk about and look forward to. Another thing you should gain a little more confidence in yourself, if he loves u he won’t leave. Make yourself more attractive and certainly spend less time together. To much time leads to boredom. Make yourself be craved by him. Cheating is a part of life it happens everywhere…

    • dominican abroad
      April 5, 2011

      First off never change who you are for anyone. Your partner must accept your for who you are. We all like to pretend to be someone else in relationships just to please our partners and when we are settled the real us comes out. Once the trust is gone its gone, most times we try to work things out but whenever something goes wrong we think back to that same problem where the trust was broken. It’s time to move on, both of you. It may be hard but there is always a storm before the clam and things will get better. Surround yourself with people that loves you and makes you laugh it will be easier, than staying home alone and crying. a friend on mine once told me in relationships there is good, better and best and you will never know untill you let the “good” go.

      Find the courage and strength and move on.

      • Sunny
        April 5, 2011

        Dominican abroad, i’d just like to say that is some great advice u gave to this girl, i hope she takes it and moves on with her life. Many people like to stay in bad relationships hoping it will get better, but it really only gets worse. :-D

  29. Neutral - Listener
    April 5, 2011

    How old are you? If you are younger than 33, give him a choice; forgive you and stop talking about it, or move on. If you are more than 33, you might be a little more patient and scared that you getting too old to find someone else. In that case, you and him should go see counselor. If the counselor thing don’t work, leave this messy situation alone and move on. Don’t worry, you will find another man.

    • age is just a number
      April 5, 2011

      what age have to do with that peopla falls in love at any age sweetie

      • sweet pum pum
        April 6, 2011

        @ Neutral – Listener Sweetheart women over 33 don’t have to worry about getting too old ya feel me ? Age for us is just a number…. we don’t have an expiration date on us :lol: But age on a
        man???? Thank God for Viagra :lol: :lol: So much for all you machoness. The cat have more than nine lives You can give birth back to back and it gets right back into shape and it can take
        a good beating and survive the war. That cat only dies when we die !!

  30. Caribbean Lady
    April 5, 2011

    1) The two of you need counselling – it really does help. One thing you need to learn is how to ‘fight fair’ and try your best to focus on the issue at hand in the present argument. It’s harrrrd – I know because it is something I am prone to do – but it works if you both make the effort to do it.

    2) You also have to humble yourself more and stop getting in a snit every time your boyfriend brings up the past. You are the one who cheated multiple times and you know you did wrong – it takes a long time to get past betrayal and honestly, 2 years is probably about average and that is for a one-time cheating!

    You complained that ” I feel like if I am happy, he brings something up to make me miserable again.” You have no business complaining – you need to suck it up and bear it. Having been on the receiving end, I can tell you that the thought of the betrayal comes up all the time for the person hurt and makes THEM miserable – any little thing can bring it into your mind and then you’re tormented.

    So you’re not the only one feeling miserable missy and if he picks up that you are resentful or complaining when he brings it up, it will just make him feel like you are not truly sorry. And it will never end – eat more humble pie!

    That said, you did say he cheated on you too – but I strongly suspect based on all I’ve read that he did that in response to your “multiple cheatings”. You made your bed and now you have to lie in it for a while.

    • sweet pum pum
      April 5, 2011

      Very strong and intelligent advice you should have your own column :)

    • SCE
      April 5, 2011

      i totally disagree with the suck it up part. You did wrong yes and he forgave you. so why does he have to bring it up everytime? Forgive, forget and move on. By you admitting your cheating to him you gave him power over you and he is therefore using it to make you feel bad about yourself. MOVE ON start over and learn from your mistakes. Find someone who will make you feel good about yourself.

      Life is to short.

      • Sunny
        April 5, 2011

        I don’t think one can ever forget, they just have to learn to forgive and leave it in the past. But that’s some great advice :-D . This girl needs to move on.

  31. wawwwwwww
    April 5, 2011

    MY GIRL…THE MAN IS PUNISHING YOU THE ONLY WAY HE KNOWS HOW..HE HAS NOT AND WILL NOT FORGIVE YOU..MAKES NO SENSE STAY WITH SOMEONE WHO DOESN’T TRUST YOU..YOU WERE WRONG..U ADMIT IT..BUT ITS TIME TO MOVE ON..OR U WILL BE MISERABLE FOREVER

    • Hehehehehehee
      April 5, 2011

      Lol
      LOL
      LOL
      she cheated on him multiple times now she had her fill she decided that now she wants a life with him..girl you mad…yr guy sounds like a very devious person…The best revenge is served COLD!!!!!!

  32. captain duh malay
    April 5, 2011

    woman time

    • WAP
      April 5, 2011

      i telling u, woman time—we doing the cheating around here NOW

      • Brebarr
        April 5, 2011

        Such intelligence in that statement.
        /sarcasm

        • marzhie
          April 5, 2011

          such sal*pness in dat satement ….go and do all woman time sexx haha i wanna see wat man will want yo beat uppp cyattt

      • Sunny
        April 5, 2011

        Brebarr and Marzhie some females are just damn nasty and ignorant!! I agree with both ur comments, smh at these little girls, i can’t believe they’re actually calling themselves women….im disgusted!!!

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