Dear Bella
I am 18 years old and I have a crush on the priest. I have been a catholic all my life but whenever I am in church I cannot concentrate. It’s like I have some kind of spirit of lust.
Whenever the priest preaches I imagine things that I am too ashamed to even mention. I hardly hear anything in church all I can visualize is him.
Bella, I seriously think some people should not be priests because they are too gorgeous. I know this might be funny and I will get a lot of criticisms for this but I don’t know where else to take it. I want to know if I should admit to him that I have feelings for him.
Maybe he can pray for me and it will help. I have also thought about not going to this church. I need the Holy Ghost help.
No Saint
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Dear No Saint
Let me start by first saying that no priest – regardless of how good looking – should allow you to quit your belief. Now having said that, it is quite normal to be attracted to someone irrespective of whether they are a priest, pastor or monk.
As a matter of fact, developing an attraction to a priest is not uncommon; it’s just taboo to admit it. A priest is a spiritual father and his life of sacrifice, faith, and servant leadership makes him a beautiful human being. If he also happens to be warm, charismatic, handsome, smart, and compassionate, well… that can be a recipe for a church full of women (and some men) with secret crushes.
Who isn’t drawn to a person like that?
On the other hand, if this is more of a full-blown attraction where you think about your priest a lot, harbor fantasies about him, desire his personal attention, go out of the way to see him, etc., then you need to treat it very seriously.
Be sure to also take a look at your personal life. Something is probably missing. Are you lonely? What needs are not being met? How is your relationships? Work on it.
By addressing the deeper issues in your life, you may find the attraction to your priest will dissipate so that you can go on being a faithful parishioner without this distraction. If it makes you feel any level of comfort, I once had a crush on a priest too.
Best of luck.
Bella
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find someone else to crush on….. he is married to the church
My dear child: My heart goes out to you. What a terrible situation to be facing. Having a crush on someone who is in authority, someone who possesses such wonderful qualities is quite natural. However, I implore you to not interfere with God’s anointed one. The priest has taken a vow of celibacy and devoted his life to ministry. Allow him to follow his vocation while you also dedicate yourself to discerning what is God’s will for your life. Surround yourself with a good group of friends: pray incessantly for direction. Pursue your studies; volunteer and serve those who are less fortunate than you are. Pursue some wholesome hobbies. You are very young, and your whole life lies ahead of you. Ask the Lord to help you channel those feelings into a more productive direction. You will find strength as you lean on God’s promises to be with us always. He has designed a plan for your life. He has written your name on the palm of His hand and called you by name. Best wishes.
god is love, the lord our heavenly father said to be fruitful and multiple ,so i strongly believe a priest should be able to marry and have a family. because he is human ,everyone have feelings.
Why can’t she be in love with a priest?
The so called holy book is already the biggest stumbling block in the way of Dominica’s progress. Prayers have never helped a suffering nation yet with the past centuries.
“Neither give place to the devil.” (Ephesians 4:27)
Another translation of this verse reads “and do not give the devil an opportunity.” (Ephesians 4:27 in The New America Standard Bible)
The thoughts you are thinking as you sit there listening to this priest preach is giving the devil a “place”
in your life because the devil is IN those thoughts. This gives the devil an opportunity. Those thoughts create sinful feelings. In other words they generate lust. The Bible says “Then when lust hath conceived,
it brings forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, brings forth death.” (James 1:15) Guard your mind. Protect your thought life. Avoid places, people, and activities that could be a temptation and cause you to stumble.
Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill.
You need to be saved.
Here in a nut shell is God’s plan for your salvation. You must act upon it. I hope you will get a Bible and read theses verses for yourself.
We are all sinners. Romans 3:23.
The penalty for sin is death. This is spiritual death which is separation from God for ever. Romans 6:23.
We cannot save ourselves. Salvation cannot be earned by doing good works. Ephesians 2:8,9.
All our sins were laid upon Jesus Christ. Isaiah 53:5,6.
He died for us. This means He took the punishment we should have borne. Romans 5:6, 8. God the Father in heaven was satisfied by with the sacrificed of Jesus’ death on the cross for you. He raised Him from the dead to show His complete satisfaction! God raised Jesus from the dead to let you know there is nothing left for you to do except believe this gospel (good news)
1 Corinthians 15:1-4, Romans 1:16. John 3:16,
John 3:36, and Acts 16:30,31!
Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill.
she needs to be saved just like everyone else! first of all it wasn’t God’s design that priests be left out of enjoying what he created!! THAT’S CATHOLIC DOCTRINE NOT THE BIBLE. Sure it can be by choice but not mandatory.
wow” you got a lust not a crush on a man wearing a dress like you??? girl I must say you got it real bad
I doh no..maybe what you seeing…it would be plenty easy to have sex with him!! you could just raise his dress and he could plug you in..
OMG this one is funny…you’all Dominicans will kill me
Go get him because he was made to love woman just like u and have a family ,don’t be afraid to make a move on him maybe that will last help him release all the stress and maybe get married to you
As a man of the cloth myself, I often suffer during numerous services as I look out upon my blessed sheeple, it is clear to me that the lesser sex is not engaged in my discussions of Ruth 12:4. Rather, these young servants are seeking to fulfill their lust for our Heavenly Father, using my loins as a vessel to receive the true word of God. To this, I simply must remind the blind sheep of the stern words of 1: Thesolonians, “…let nigh reach unto that which cannot be restrained, and let he who seeketh the salvation of might be undetermined in his path”, as well as the empowering words of Matthew 18: “dwell not on the sins of your own, but remain steadfast in capturing the sins of others, so that you may rise strong and into the heart of the Lord forever”
Blessings to all gang,
You are not a man of the cloth.
Sorry, you are as crazy as a bed bug! I hope whatever you have is not contagious.
Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill.
go ahead and check de priest. the priest well want to relieve some swef stress. better you than the underage boys that they are known to date.
I am so glade this come out in my community a catholic priest is in love with a young lady and everyone know ,why because since I know my self I have seen priest that even had children with young women and my family son is and example I used to wonder why when I was young now this priest is in st lucia to me if you want a young lady leave the priest hood I even thought of writing the bishop but to busy with work. do hope the bishop will look in to this priest around Dominica another thing I have heard from my friends that even while preaching for a funeral he love to criticize other religion and even mention and call people name so priest thing they are above the law I told my friend take him to court and even one time he said at a funeral I don’t want any Jehovah in the service I feel very insulted as a catholic how sad at a funeral we need comfort not that I do hope the bishop will look into that in my community people think that priest are god that will place on than…
NO SAINT
I believe my advice ,though it might not appear to worth much right now but will be in the long run,, and it’s by far better than Bella’s…My advice to you is to surrender your life to YESHUA ( JESUS ) and HE will take care of that and all other problems in your life.Should you turn your life over to HIM you will not be posting no saint at the end of you comments because you automatically becomes a saint upon becoming a child of GOD. And from there on I’ll leave you with some parables…not all that glitters is gold,,,and what you are now falling over,,head first for,,allow me to put it that way,,,you are only seeing the outer part of the tomb,,the inner part is a whole different story,,all the best…
Leave the priest alone “You little devil”. Begone satan …GO AWAY!!!!! By the blood of Jesus I cast you OUT!
May the rod of salvation fill you to the rim with perpetual bliss!
bella is right. you sought her counsel so be guided! Pray about it.
Father take the wheel
just do not say after he refuses you that he molested you. the spirit of seduction has full possession of you. Ask God to help you be prepared for your godly spouse.
change parish or stay home.
If your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off. So nip this in the bud. Attend church at another parish. You will find another person to crush on.
My dear you can be assured of receiving pure holy water in great abundance.Go for it!
It’s ok to have your crush and to full fill ur desire with Father who. You are 18 and I am certain he is also 18 and over. This holy commotion may result in him actually getting real and most likely leaving the priesthood and marrying you. Just don’t take holy communion after until u repent to him and be sure to say some Hail Mary after all is said and done. Grown people do grown things.
Always Assertive!
Your advice is wrong and ungodly.
No Christian would encourage a young woman to commit fornication (sex outside of marriage). The Bible says “Flee fornication.” (1 Corinthians 6:18) “… …to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and every woman have her own husband.” (1 Corinthians 7:2)
Besides this the man is a priest who has taken a vow of celibacy. Personally, I do not believe this is something God requires. It is not an essential part of the Christian ministry. Even Peter was married. (Matthew 8:14). However, it is a choice the priest has made. It would be wrong to cause him to stumble
by disrupting his vocation and career choice in such a manner.
The young lady should attend a different church. Seeing the priest in church every Sunday would make the problem worse.
She should read the New Testament for guidance. The inspired information she receives from the Word of God will help her discover the path she should follow.
Sincerely, Rev…
Come on rev, you know its right to say what you just said but truth is she needs an excessive amount of holeee water to fix her head so she is looking at the right place for it. Look, I am a beedo (very strong catholic) but I recognize the importance that good Holee Water can play in passivating her. So, again, I say go get your holeeee water, say ten hailee mayriee, ten our brother who art in deaven and all will be well.
Always Assertive!
She is not the first and she won’t be the last. They are human beings too so of course you can get attracted to one. Just don’t act on it and let the attraction fade away.