Dear BellaDear Bella,

My wife and I have been married for the past 7 years, we are happy and things are going great.

I have a fantasy of trying a threesome with her. We spoke about it a while back but she said only if we find someone that doesn’t live on the same island as us.

Since then I never mention it to her but it’s always on my mind. I want to mention it to her again see what her response is.

What do u think I should do?

Fantasy

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Dear Fantasy,

I think you should let sleeping dogs lie where this is concerned. Fantasies played out, are never as good as we imagine them! Nothing goes the way you expect it to and that might just compromise the “happy” relationship you currently share with you wife.

You see, I’ve learnt that it takes certain kinds of people to have a successful threesome…people who are secure in who they are and who they are dealing with.

The sense of jealousy or even the feeling of being “left out” can also be a factor. Before you do something, you may regret, think about all the repercussions.

If your wife never brings it up, then don’t. And if she ever does bring up the subject, both of you, must think this through very carefully before acting on it.

Good Luck!

Bella

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