DEAR BELLA: I have a threesome fantasy

Dear BellaDear Bella,

My wife and I have been married for the past 7 years, we are happy and things are going great.

I have a fantasy of trying a threesome with her. We spoke about it a while back but she said only if we find someone that doesn’t live on the same island as us.

Since then I never mention it to her but it’s always on my mind. I want to mention it to her again see what her response is.

What do u think I should do?

Fantasy

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Dear Fantasy,

I think you should let sleeping dogs lie where this is concerned. Fantasies played out, are never as good as we imagine them! Nothing goes the way you expect it to and that might just compromise the “happy” relationship you currently share with you wife.

You see, I’ve learnt that it takes certain kinds of people to have a successful threesome…people who are secure in who they are and who they are dealing with.

The sense of jealousy or even the feeling of being “left out” can also be a factor. Before you do something, you may regret, think about all the repercussions.

If your wife never brings it up, then don’t. And if she ever does bring up the subject, both of you, must think this through very carefully before acting on it.

Good Luck!

Bella

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48 Comments

  1. February 9, 2017

    The only reason a husband would suggest something of this sort to his wife is because he is already screwing the third party he wants to bring in to have the threesome.

  2. pydana
    November 24, 2016

    after he do it with his wife and another woman His wife must ask him for them to do it with him and another man. this is a sick idea. the woman might take his wife from him after the encounter..idiot call on the holy spirit to re direct your thoughts. why would you want to do this with your wife and not before you were married. do you believe this will be just a onetime affair and its all done. you have just uncover a can of worms. its too late now for you, you are a married man now. stop it sir.

  3. anon
    November 24, 2016

    i think this guy really loves his wife and wants to be with her doesn’t want to lose her by cheating on her because d.a small she will always find out..they might even have kids and he loves them and his family .he just wants to have his cake and eat it also.his wife might not be a very pretty lady but she dresses well takes care of herself and is a good mom and he has a good thing going so he doesn’t want to ruin it.so why a threesome .yea u enjoy sex with your wife but u want more .so many beautiful d.a girls and u just want more. i think ur wife doesnt want to thats why she suggested someone out of d.a which makes it so much harder to accomplish .dont press her any further she will never bring it up again ul see

  4. Iamanidiot
    November 24, 2016

    Hey different people have different needs/wants from their sex life. It might not be your thing but it could be theres. Same way you may like your eggs prepared one way and someone else like their eggs another way. Different strokes for different folks.

  5. Delbert Harry
    November 23, 2016

    Sa ki mal an tèt moun. Threesome?? Ou mayé epi pa kontan toujou. Sou vlé kouche avè yonn lòt fenm. Divòsé fanm ou genyen épi chèché une aûtre femme. Sé konsa ou fè’y. bref.

  6. Jeremiah Bluefellow
    November 23, 2016

    As a man of the cloth myself, I too am often forced to question the benefits of a threesome. I hiwever am happily married in spirit to Our Heavenly Father and Savior, Jesus the Christ.

    So I beg you young fellow, when the sinful notions creep into your mind: put down the porno mag, and turn instead to Leviticus 13:9, where you will find “and let though he choose the and take the, he must walk the line of the least scorned of the righteous”

    Return to Christ and be one with us in salvation.

    • November 25, 2016

      You are not a man of the cloth.

      You should be charged with impersonating a clergy person. Your comment brings reproach upon the ministerial profession. Leviticus 13:9 doers not say what you tell us it says. I knew at a glance without even opening my Bible that your statement was fabricated. Not only that but it makes no sense. Any Christian would find this offensive. We are not allowed to mess with the word of God.

      Please read:

      Proverbs 30:6
      Revelation 22:18,19

      Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill.

  7. Danziger
    November 23, 2016

    Well,well look jokes on Bella, ou pa ni RESPAIX POUR MADAME LA.

  8. Julius Junkere
    November 23, 2016

    Shame on you fools. You guys are homosecuals.

    • November 24, 2016

      Right or wrong, I’m pretty sure that a man who wants a threesome with two women is not a boga man!

  9. Matapang
    November 23, 2016

    Bro i share your sentiments, but you must be specific because you did not specify if it was a man or woman. And there is a saying that goes like, “if something is not broken don’t fix it” for you to mention that to your wife you must have been extremely comfortable with her. And she must be extremely tolerable to entertain the thought even as going as far as to giving you a favorable response..

    • LoveDA
      November 24, 2016

      Oh that language! DNO, I am offended and appalled at the explicit and inappropriate nature of this persons language. How could you allow this comment to be published? The public deserves so much better.

  10. lol
    November 23, 2016

    You might end up filing for divorce

  11. spiteful
    November 23, 2016

    I would like to know if it was the order way around where you wife wanted a threesome with you and another man what would be you take.

  12. UDOHREADYET
    November 23, 2016

    He never said if his threesome idea is with another man or woman :lol:
    The wife probably not mentioning it because she embawasay
    Portsmouth is a foreign country in Dominica, for you to find a Spanish :lol:

    • ....
      November 23, 2016

      She should have asked whether is man ir woman for real lol

  13. They say
    November 23, 2016

    If ur open minded an ur wife is not then dat wont work bro close dat chapter.but if she is open as you then than wont xhange nothing in u all marriage

  14. Shameless
    November 23, 2016

    Ohhhhhh yeah baby! Go for it bro as long as the other person is female. Believe me there aint nothing like it. You don’t have to go to another island for a willing participant since there are many underneath the cover in Dca. There must be a lady in your wife’s circle of friends you have fantasized over and they may have done the same over you. Hey just have your wife pick the lady and any go for it. Drink two MUST COVER run by the partner in Stock Farm and you are good to go! DONT bring no other man in your marriage but a second lady is fantastic 8) 8) 8) 8)

    Always Assertive! :-P :-P

  15. Dominica We Love
    November 23, 2016

    You really need to think about what is pleading in the eyes of God before making such decisions.

    • November 24, 2016

      Dominica We Love:

      This is absolutely true.

      And there is only one way to know what is right in the eyes of God.

      We must go to the Bible – the word of God – to see what God says about the matter.

      Three thousand years ago King David said in a prayer “Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path.” (Psalms 119:105)

      The Bible says “To the law and to the testimony: if they speak not according to this word, it is because there is no light in them.” (Isaiah 8:20)

      Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill.

  16. November 23, 2016

    One day your wife might want a threesome with a man also ;I hope you are also ready to get an overseas man to give her a little bit more than what you can give to her…..zor en bon kai mauvais kai ka kiyai zor…

  17. Jae Milz
    November 23, 2016

    All you watching too much porno.

  18. Setup
    November 23, 2016

    I cannot understand how a man can be so bold, and disrespectful, to suggest such a thing to his wife. Why didn’t he remain single and have all his freesomes. When a woman experiences something sweet, no matter how much money you give her, she will always go back and look for it. FREESOME? You sick ……. You watching blue movies, and just because it looks great you want to cause division in your home just to try it. Those things have their people. You may want a woman, but she may want a man. What then? The Reverend is quite correct in his advice to you, and so is Bella. Seven years of marriage, and this is the result. Would you be happy to see a man having sex with your wife in your presence in ways that you never had sex with her….Hm? You do know that men have unique ways of making love. Or you just want to disgrace her by showing her what you can do to a woman in her presence. Shame, shame, shame…..
    Ask God to forgive you for those nasty thoughts man.

  19. african queen
    November 23, 2016

    mr behave your self,do all the threesome with your wife and you better yet the statue for sale.

  20. viewsexpressed
    November 23, 2016

    Man, behave yourself and enjoy your wife everyday and every night. Three is a crowd and it is debar, big time trouble.
    behave yourself, work hard and go home hard to you wife, Stay focus on matters that are at home. Be eager to get home,

  21. Don't Do It
    November 23, 2016

    Just remember that after the threesome one of you WILL want more than was initially intended. Someone will catch feelings; someone will get hurt; someone will want to continue in a twosome. I’m advising you that life will never be the same again after that. Therefore, please do NOT cross that line if the both of you are not yet prepared to face and deal with the undesirable consequences which comes with it. Marriage by it self is a lot of hard work. So why do you want to look for unwanted stress to add to it?

  22. troof be told
    November 23, 2016

    Really is this news worthy? even if it is meant for entertainment? i mean really DNO? do you consider that impressionable minors read your online news articles? This peice is classless, and has no place in the public eye. There is a line to be drawn on some things and this in no way helps the youth, nor does it help adults.

  23. Out of the box
    November 23, 2016

    Why are you all so small minded.. enjoy ur marriage and share ur experiences together.. I wish I knew who you were I would enjoy helping you fulfill your fantasy.. This agreement will bond u both on knew levels of trust.

    • 100% DA
      November 24, 2016

      Hi how are u? Am the person, contact me

      • Iamanidiot
        November 24, 2016

        I agree with you my padna lol

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    • 100% DA
      November 24, 2016

      We are ready if are willing to be the 3rd person, send ur contact

  24. Dixie Normas
    November 23, 2016

    Padner talk to your wife again, is one of two things one she don’t wanna do it so she checking if you have to get a foreigner it may be tight or she interested but know them woman here will tell people the seen. But remember don’t force the vibz if she ain’t comfortable.

  25. papa
    November 23, 2016

    Me that is your wife I would take u to the cleaner

  26. November 23, 2016

    There are reasons you should never consider such a thing.

    (1) “Thou shalt not commit adultery.” (Exodus 20:14) Who do you think Bella is to encourage you to break one of God’s commandments? What kind of woman do you imagine her to be?

    (2) You are only seven years into your marriage and already your love for your wife has worn so thin you are willing to share her with somebody else. Obviously your marriage is in trouble. You need to both see a professional marriage counselor. The usual procedure is for the counselor to see you each separately (you first in this case), and then together.

    (3) You do not love your wife as you ought. No man who loves his wife properly would expose her to this kind of filth. This is something you seriously need to work on. Remember, just knowing that she does not mean any more to you than this will (if she loves you) hurt her deeply. It will cause her great anguish.

    • Dixie Normas
      November 23, 2016

      smh you religious heads like to come in people personal life and your closet deeper and darker than any of them.

      • November 25, 2016

        Dixie:

        Noted that you did not get a very high LIKE rating :!: 4 thumbs up compared to my 22 :!:

        Obviously you do not have much credibility.

        Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill.

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    • November 23, 2016

      continued:

      (4) You are failing to be your wife’s guardian. This is a man’s role in the marriage. You should shelter your wife against any evil that might invade the marriage relationship. It is time for you to man up and banish any intruder that might rob you of the tender love you once knew.

      (5) Do you have children? This kind of behavior would not be an example to them. It is not something you would want them to hear about. In fact it is something that creates a generational curse. It is carried forward.

      A desire like this is unnatural. It is something a man brings upon himself. My guess is that you are involved with porn. This intensifies illicit sexual desires of every kind. Many men who cross the legal line and end up in court for sexual crimes blame the influence of pornography in their lives.

      But if you receive Christ as your Savior He will not only forgive your sins. He will deliver you and set you free :!:

      Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill.

      • Dixie Normas
        November 25, 2016

        guess if you making dat comment you are no Rev. just a petty old man.

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    • anon
      November 24, 2016

      so true rev just 7 yrs in . didnt think about that way .he thinks he loves her so much but he doesnt. he loves their home and their kids and doesnt want to lose that but d true love not there.he hides under the guise of ‘fantasy’ but its not a fantasy that will just be the begining of things to come.i beg the wife please say nooo u will regret it .after its done he will feel like doing it with more people without you and what can you say .u said yes.

  27. Brown Eyed Girl
    November 23, 2016

    If you really want a threesome and you are not gay it would be interesting to know if you would like the third person to be a man. Would you really like to share your wife with another man? If you say yes then go ahead have your threesome with a woman then have one with a man for your wife’s sake. See how quickly your wife will forget you for that man. Go ahead. Take your chances you FOOL!

    • Dixie Normas
      November 23, 2016

      one thing Dominicans close minded let the man do his do is not your life. and if you will forget you man after one encounter you never love him. sex is sex love is love the two can be separate for some people.

    • zandoli
      November 23, 2016

      BEG – You are too funny :) :-D

      Fantasies are to remain just that. Act upon it and you may open a box that is better off to be closed.

      • Yep
        November 23, 2016

        TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU…………..It is called Pandora’s box.

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  28. kisses
    November 23, 2016

    hmm just know after the threesome your marriage is no longer the same…

  29. Sakway Gwo Boudeh
    November 23, 2016

    Wait a while my boy… your wife done agree and you sleeping on you??? What I hearing dere ner boy?

    Boy go and take out di money and send for di woman where she be for all you to do all you ting! Hurry up before wife change her mind!

    • is dat self
      November 23, 2016

      and who say the thresome have to be with another woman?

    • Dominican
      November 23, 2016

      Too funny

    • Positive mind
      November 23, 2016

      But how do you know if is another woman or another man they want to have 3 some with?

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