Dear Bella,
I am stuck in the middle of two friends who happen to both be my coworkers.
They both happen to have an intimate relationship with the same guy who also works with us at the same company.
They have both shared their intimate experiences with me but not each other and based on my observations, neither of the ladies know that they are intimate with the same guy.
They both seem to be so in love with this guy and I am just angry and hateful towards the guy for playing them and putting me in this situation.
One of my friends hase decided to get serious with him and the other is still figuring it out. What should I do?
Sincerely,
Stuck in the Middle.
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Dear Stuck in the Middle,
You seem to be really stuck in the middle. The situation can end up with you being without either of them as your friend if you tell them what you know.
And on the flipside, your silence could also cost you the same.
I would probably speak to the guy in question. You say that he is your co-worker. He must be really playing his game well by juggling two women who work under the same roof.
You need to speak to him. Let him know he needs to come clean about his double life else you will.
You have to also prepare yourself for what will happen next. You could be blamed by both women about hiding the truth or protecting the other.
You can also speak to both of your friends together and let them know what you know. In that way, it wouldn’t appear that you have a bias towards any of them.
I hope it all works out well.
Best,
Bella
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If you say anything to either of them, you will look like the bad guy. Trust me you will be the one to
get the bad name and you surely will be the scapegoat. Have you heard of the term “shoot the messenger”? This is how Bring go and carry come does start.
This got to be d padna from possie working Ross. He got 2 women at his work M&M…hehe
And you think they don’t know. Sometimes they well know but nobody want to let him go for the other one to get him.
That company must be clear harbor
Join them and get it in the middle too. You jealous.
My girl mind your business. Leave them people alone. Stay out
How is she supposed to mind her business when she was dragged into it smh
Just join the fun and make it a foursome
Bella?? That’s a risky situation. Some people can get violent if confronted like that. I would not advise the girl to say anything to the guy. I would more ask my coworkers to stop telling me their private business as I am not comfortable with the situation. Case closed.
but wait! how many companies in da would be big enough for this drama? hope it is not in my company !!
Just Mind your business and play stupid… Da self have shortage of good man, so woman have to love one man
My girl record de man voice when you talking to him and then call them two women together and let them know de truth. If them woman wont to have up them selfs, then play de video because you your self dont want that to happen to you in yout love life.
you need to mind you funky business
Mind your business. Just listen, has nothing to do with you
man u can make money out of this you could collect hush money monthly x 3 add that and boom another salary for you
Tell that to them before it’s to late if they are really your friends
Unless you are friends with this guy I don’t see why you should approach him. Whether you speak or stay silent, you are not the one playing anybody so there should be no backlask. If you can leave big people check their sceen. If it bothers you speak to both friends and let them check their own sceen. Let them know that you are not the one playing them but you realize that they are being played. If they get angry with you, show them that you are not the one they should be angry with. If they stop being friends with you, then they were never friends in the first place and are not worth your friendship.
I myself will just keep my mouth shut. Why? Because you see those woman in a Dominica when you talk to them they going back to tell the man what you said! Then, the man playing with their head and they turning on you. Leave well alone and mind your business. Whatever happens, happens. Everybody big, let them make their mistakes and learn from it.