DEAR BELLA: My ex-boyfriend will not leave me alone

Dear BellaI am currently tangled up in a love affair which I have no desire to be in because my ex-boyfriend refuses to get out of my life.

This may sound typical but I am of the firm belief that my ex-boyfriend is not only a pathological liar but he is indeed a psychopath.

On my birthday, I found out that this creature was cheating on me and that he was in a full-blown relationship with this other woman.

Needless to say, the relationship ended that very day however it has been over a year and I cannot get this man out of my life.

It got to the point whereby his current girlfriend relayed to me that she was aware of his continuous efforts in contacting me and that she was not pleased with it.

Although he is aware of girlfriend’s concerns he has refused to leave me alone to the point where he has shown up to my friend’s house in the early hours of the morning, came to my house unannounced, he has sent friend request to my friends on Facebook, and had his friends call my phone.

All my efforts to get this man out of my life have failed and I am at my breaking point.

What do I do? He is saying to me on a daily basis that he will never leave me alone that he is still in love with me and that he will go out of his way to ensure I remain in his life.

Help me

At My wits end

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Dear At My Wits End

If you feel that your life could be or is being affected by this ex’s efforts, then don’t take it lightly and get the law involved. I am not trying to scare you in any way but take these approaches and advances very seriously.

Many situations that have become deadly in love affairs started off with simple stalking incidents like these. It is clear that this ex is not interested in leaving you alone.

Speak to the police. Have them talk to him. Get a restraining order if you have too. Be prepared to defend yourself at all times in case your report gets him more aggressive than he already is.

You know I cannot give advice without asking to have some sort of intervention by God because of course there is nothing impossible for him to do. Pray and ask God to allow this man to leave you alone. After all is there anything too hard for the Lord to do?

Best

Bella

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27 Comments

  1. Mac
    February 2, 2017

    Girl that’s called stalking go to the police, and of the police wont help you do him before he get you like .what crazy man do to my cousin in lubiere last month

  2. February 2, 2017

    girl go to the police unless you want to end up like the couple in la clery castries st lucia a couple days ago . just look at st lucianewsonline.

  3. The Truth Be Told (Original)
    February 1, 2017

    Bella, I could not improve on your comment. It is to a “T”.
    She definitely needs to pray to God to help her in this situation. She definitely must get a police restraining order. We hope he will not violate it and harm her in anyway.
    Another matter, if he knocks at her door, she should not open it.

  4. AnnieJ
    February 1, 2017

    :mrgreen: :mrgreen: :mrgreen: :lol: :lol: :lol: just got to try that. Girl, no ex like to leave the woman alone unless they consider her dirty. So go on and do what you have to do.

  5. my views
    February 1, 2017

    Lol the way some well not men but boys act in public an they doing that, as for his current love lol I must say u aware of Wats going on an u haven’t put a stop to his actions of even whatever relationship ya’ll have bruh how stupid can one girl be but to the girl who wrote this an I must say it’s a masterpiece bigger an better things are coming ur way hun #taptap

  6. Dominican Passports
    February 1, 2017

    Shouldn’t have dealt with him in the first place, prevention is better than solution.

    • Me
      February 1, 2017

      @Dominica Passports…..Well, if she had psychic abilities she would have prevented herself from such situation. Put on your thinking cap for a minute.

    • The Truth Be Told (Original)
      February 1, 2017

      Are you human? How did she know he would turn out to be what he is; what she has found out about the type of person he is?

  7. No Police help
    February 1, 2017

    Speak to the police. Bella, what are you saying? Those police take advantage when you are in these situations They will offer you protection( personal) then they are the ones in ur house uninvited and unannounced. Be for you know it they forcing themselves on U. Even get U pregnant(rape) Have them talk to him lol tickle me There is/ was a Comish who told a young lady( one of 100’s) who visited him for help to have one of his men who failed to support his child pay- he ended up telling her she had beautiful eyes hence would love to see them under candlelight over a crayfish dinner. Guess who -old now but enjoyed his stint exploiting. So gettung a restraining order if you have too is no way out. Be prepared to defend yourself at all times in case your report gets him more aggressive than he already is. lol it will plus the police’s.

  8. dee
    February 1, 2017

    Girl leave island , i know you are able to .
    he’ll soon get over you , All’s well that ends well.

  9. Anonymous
    February 1, 2017

    Girl best get the police involved! Do not play around with this man. He needs help! Side note: what his girlfriend doing with him if she knows he’s cray? Smh

  10. annoyed
    February 1, 2017

    Well…isn’t this an interesting scenario….If I were you I would definitely go to the police for a very strict restraining order whereby if he ventures six feet to me he would be arrested and charged. No woman should have to go through this kind of stress.

    • February 1, 2017

      At my wits end:

      Your boyfriend may have mental issues and be dangerous. Situations like this often get worse and end in
      violence and even death.

      Pray that God will bind the evil spirit that is driving this man. Ask the Lord to move him OUT of your life. But remember you must do your part :!:

      I encourage you to go to the police ASAP. Give them the whole story. Make sure they get his name and address. If you go missing or are harmed they will know where to start.

      You should definitely ask for a restraining order. Others also think you should you should get a restraining order. We are serious about this. Nobody wants you hurt.

      Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill.

  11. February 1, 2017

    You are not ready either to leave your “creature”.If you think that he is a psychopath it also means that your life is in danger.You should go to the police and let them know that you don’t want to be in a relationship with him any more and would like him to leave you alone definitely . By refusing to take further actions to get this “creature ” out of your life ;I honestly think that you are also playing a game of ” I don’t want you but I want you” which is a bad game..Stop don’t play games ;you should know what is best for you and move on.

    • DOH LET THEM FOOL u
      February 1, 2017

      Creatures can be sweet and have equipment they/girls love but pretend to care less. They tell us things like Kill me with it. Don’t stop leave it in. She becomes a creature too. But force when she thinks another women is sharing what she is getting. They greedy want it all. Whatever happened to share sister share.

  12. Positive
    February 1, 2017

    Girl dont stay there and be playing a** with yourself. If you like entertainment you can do nothing. If you serious get a retaining order before matters get worse.

  13. try this
    February 1, 2017

    A girl had the same problem with an ex lover who threatened to kill her.When her next menstrual cycle came around she took a tiny bit of sardine,flour and alkali then apply it to her pad.When the ex returned she showed him the smelly bloody pad mixed with the stuff and said she had an infection and needed to take medication for a good while and is very contagious.The ex left her alone for good.

    • Dominican
      February 1, 2017

      Hahahahaah awah we :mrgreen:

    • BEN
      February 1, 2017

      it seems you have something which has such a messy discharge…. or have had an experience of such discharge of std to even call that on yourself….
      100% nastiness thought

    • SADIST
      February 1, 2017

      :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D

    • dee
      February 2, 2017

      Try this
      you are giving silly advice .
      would you want to be labeled as infectious and smelly? , In Da once you’re labeled it becomes a nickname and stigma you probably have to live with for life .
      As children one of the girls we played skip with peed on her self when caught with the rope.
      to this day 55 years later ,her close friends , still call her P P ( for pee panty ).
      can you imagine that young lady being called ”infectious” or ”smelly” and guys know why .
      Dominicans have a way of calling you your nickname very loudly and at the most inconveniencing
      times . I once heard a friend call his friend T cock on an aeroplane and a young lady who understood what that meant asked him, How small is his then 2 inches ?

  14. zandoli
    February 1, 2017

    Bella, not everyone believes in God, so don’t try to foist your religious beliefs on others. Please respect other people’s beliefs.

    • Gyaldem
      February 1, 2017

      While what you’re saying is not necessarily untrue, I think you can ease up on Bella a bit, because the majority of us grew up in some sort of Christian faith. And the young lady indeed should pray about her situation. Who knows, she may find the answer through prayer, instead of putting her business on Dear Bella.

    • February 1, 2017

      Actually it is hard to help somebody if they have already rejected the most powerful tool available. When God is allowed to guide your life you do not get into a mess like this. It is not too late to open your heart and let the Lord in!

      Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill.

    • Me
      February 1, 2017

      @zandoli…. Don’t get offended by what Bella said. At least she gave some good advise and by suggesting that the young lady pray, should not be taken as disrespecting someone’s belief. It’s just a suggestion

    • The Truth Be Told (Original)
      February 1, 2017

      Does that mean you? Are you a D/can and reside in D/ca?
      No genuine practicing Christian would make such a comment. It would be spiritual ignorance of them if they did. Were you not a baptized Christian and a practicing one or once was?
      What do you know about what is contained in Holy Scripture?
      One of the Christian obligation is to tell people about God. If you don’t, you can kiss Heaven goodbye. God took note of your words.
      Hebrews 12:15 – Penalties of Disobedience – See to it that no one be deprived of the grace of God.
      Mother Angelica who founded ETWN Global Catholic TV and Radio said: “The essence of evangelization is to tell everybody Jesus loves you!” And, “We are all called to be great saints. Do not miss the opportunity.”
      At the age of 92, the Lord called her home on Easter Sunday 2016 at 6:00 pm. God bless her soul!
      God bless you and inspire you!
      My wish for you is that you read/study Holy Bible. There is much perfection of life in it.

    • Sayitsnotso
      February 2, 2017

      So because you don’t believe in God doesn’t mean that others don’t. If she doesn’t then she’ll omit that opart of the advice. Bella does so she could include it in her column when giving advice. Smdh at how you going tell one to give advice.

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