I am 18 years old now and lately I got entangled into  some affair with a married woman. It happened rather simply  enough: we met at a party, she invited me to her home and before we knew it we were having sex. And it is really good sex, I have to admit.

She is 49, has three kids and has been married for 25 years. She said her husband is not satisfying her anymore and they are just basically “living together”.

I know this is wrong but I don’t want to get out. The sex is just too good. But I know I must get out because eventually this whole thing will come crashing down.

What should I do?


Dear Confused,

Like all teenagers you are thinking with the wrong head. You are in this just because of the sex, nothing else. For a young man your age this is a very unhealthy relationship to be in because there is nothing ‘long term.’ Eventually, as you fear, this whole thing is going to come crashing down and you will be left ‘hanging.’

I suggest you cut contact with this married woman, who by the way could be your mother. Stay away from her at all cost. Don’t call, don’t text. Stick to someone your age, someone that has the potential for a long-term relationship. Enjoy your young life while it lasts but not in the way that you are doing it now.


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