I feel trapped in my marriage

Dear BellaI am a young lady from another island and a former secondary school teacher.

I am presently living in Dominica with my Dominican husband. I migrated to Dominica recently with my husband and we have separated because our marriage is a big joke to him.

I had children before I got married and my husband was aware of that but he insists on treating my children terribly, carrying on verbal quarrels for no reason.

Sometimes the children can be rude to him, I agree, but it is because he keeps telling them that they are in his house, and this is his house, not their fathers house and he wishes he can make them leave.

It is so hard for me because I am suppose to protect my children as a mother and also love my husband as a wife. He is always angry at us in the home and I believe that is because of the children and their presence.

We have a child together now and during my pregnancy I was treated really terribly by my husband. My husband puts off the cable, electricity, the gas on me when he believes I am rude to him, as he puts it.

He gave me a phone and takes it also when he thinks I am rude to him. He also takes the car keys to punish me when he is mad. He refuses to go to immigration to sign the documents so that I can find a job in which to help myself and children.

I feel so trapped and I have regretted ever meeting this man and marrying him. He is mean and wicked and my youngest child wishes to go back home because he is just not happy in Dominica. I too am not happy. I was living a pretty comfortable life at home and came to this island to start a life with this man and this man has brought nothing but pain in my life.

Can you please give me some advice.

Trapped

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Dear Trapped,

It is always a sad thing for me personally when there is a report of abuse in a family, because the only advise that one can give to that person is to leave.  Leaving an abusive relationship is not an option but a must.

The most difficult part of leaving is how, when, to where…and all the other questions that come with change.  In your case, this relationship produced a child and you have to think of the child’s relationship to his father after.  Do not hold your child as bait to have the father at your beck and call.

You need to get at least one person physically close to you, in whom you can confide.  That person will be the one to encourage you to keep momentum is your decision to move.  You would have to choose on which island you want to continue raising your children.  It appears that the memories of Dominica are not the happiest, and that you can better navigate your way through your country, but realistically, as you have been unemployed, you will not be able to get your passage money out of Dominica, so you will have to settle here a little longer as you organize and decide to return home.

If you are a university graduate, you do not need a work permit to start work on Dominica.  You can apply for a job and within six months of employment you will put in your application.  If you do not have a university degree, the first thing that you will need to do, is to go to immigration with a copy of all of your legal documents, especially your marriage certificate.  The Dominican Registry is an open registry and it is possible that you will also be able to get a copy of your husband’s birth certificate.  Take these to the immigration office and explain to them how long you have been living on island and how you can contribute to the economy.   Find out the procedures required and make a move towards getting a work permit on island.  Should you need a lawyer, the Legal Aide Clinic will be able to help you in providing free or very inexpensive service.  Once you get your work permit, you can exercise some more independence and get your own place to stay to have some peace of mind for yourself and your children.  Who knows, maybe you all will just see the beauty of our nature island and want to make here home.

In life, we may make mistakes, but we cannot live in regret over them.  Don’t forget the woman you were when you met your husband and don’t stop being that.  That will keep you sane for your sake and that of your children.  You are a secondary school teacher, who were raising children on your own, and surviving just fine.

Bella

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86 Comments

  1. Heavy
    August 24, 2014

    A man that loves a woman don’t treat her that way please my dear you love the Lord first and your child take that man out of your heart or your mind I am telling you they are demons they didn’t come to love but to hurt and destroy your life

  2. pinky
    November 4, 2013

    Well I have one daughter will never allow my daughter to be unhappy for a man sake.

  3. Ginger
    October 31, 2013

    All of allyou already judge the husband and crucify him without knowing the whole story
    well! well! well! smh :?:

  4. me
    October 20, 2013

    He must be from Castle Bruce

    • Strength of a Woman
      August 24, 2014

      Live your life(correction) My prayers goes out to your situation hold on strong my dear many wives are outside there suffering but still holding on to that crap saying they are in love with the wickedness happening to them

    • SUKIE
      November 7, 2014

      “ME” who the hell you think you are, my husband is from castle Bruce and he is the Most lovable man i have even know, if you are from castle bruce and you are that way check yourself.. ah me say so

  5. NAME
    October 17, 2013

    I started reading this crap and I stopped where it said my husband treating my children like crap or some junk like that. Honey I’m sure before you were married he was treating them like crap but you CHOSE to marry him. NEVER PICK A MAN OVER YOUR KIDS. LEAVE THAT MAN ALONG DEAR. IT’S NOT TOO LATE TO START OVER!!!!!

    • Know Your Role
      October 23, 2013

      I am sure even though he knew she had children from a previous relationship, he chose to marry her, and even been with her in her country things was nice. But his strength was when he return back to Dominica and thats when he started treating you the way. Men like that are cowards and they are everywhere. but remember one thing not all Dominican men are like your husband, there are a few good ones out there, this one is just being an ass.

  6. October 16, 2013

    Hello and good afternoon my people. Well you said you was a teacher but I would really like to know what subject you specialized in. Now you took the first step by separating from your husband therefore go to Family Court in Dominica and asked for child support for the child you have with him. Also do the same in your country for the other children and go back to teaching but this situation should give you a better insight when bringing other children into a relationship. I suspect that your other children was probably disrespectful to your husband and you didn’t do anything to rectify the situation.

    • Know Your Role
      October 23, 2013

      It’s alright for people that are not in your situation to make sarcastic comments when you are not the one feeling the heat. I feel you pain when your children starts to feel disrespectful to your husband and you are stuck in the middle. Your husband is a grown ass man and respect is earn not given. He have not shown you respect nor to the children. His behaviour shows a lack of respect for women but also he is a coward. You have to do what is right for you, look after yourself and your children because every woman deserves to be treated with respect, love and care. His mama obviously must see him as a disgrace to treat his family that way. Keep yourself up with your children and run. nobody deserves to be treated with humiliation and degraded like that. RUN SISTER because you can do better.

    • Heavy
      August 24, 2014

      Seems you know a lot of what is going on I only hope you are not the cause

    • Heavy
      August 24, 2014

      Tony it seems you are one sided I only hope you are not any where close between the devil and the deep blue sea

  7. keeping it real
    October 16, 2013

    Not smart at all! Never relocate to a country unless you have a job lined up, these loose ends should have been tied before you migrated to Dominica. I am sure your husband had some negativity towards your kids that you brushed off. Sometimes when women want to get married they over look a lot of stuff. Bella gave you some good advice about finding a job in Dominica. If you can return home do so.

  8. Mary Black
    October 16, 2013

    Firsdt of all before you married to him how was he treating the children. If he was treating them badly and you still ended up getting married to him you have yourself to blame. But if after you got married to him and he started to treat your children badly, you should have left him before migrating to Dominica. If you are expecting for him and he is treating you this way do youself a favour and return to your cojntry of birth.

    He has another woman for which he wants to move her into the property this is why he is treating you all so badly. You said that you are a teacher you need help to part yourself from him.
    The next thing is to divorce him and make sure that the house for which you used the majority of your saving to build make sure your get your fully share. There must be an advice centre in Dominica where to could go for help.
    Good luck.

  9. villager
    October 16, 2013

    This is just how stupid Dominican men are. They loved to be worshiped behaving like God gift to u but wicked minded. Worst if u are fully dependant on them. Make de right decision for u n ur kids n forget that husband bit of it.

  10. truth
    October 16, 2013

    I don’t get it, didn’t she say they were are separated…

  11. Mahaut
    October 16, 2013

    If a man love a woman he must accept everything that comes with her package, children habits and characteristics. I guess if he is second guessing he did not do his homework first.
    Young lady, file a couple police reports in reference to the abuse, be sure to have proof. Take your reports to the immigration department. You are entitled to citizenship based on the fact that you are married to him. Bring your marriage and child’s birth certificate, and proof that you had a job in your country and let them know he was the reason you left your job and came to this country. Also get yourself an attorney.

  12. October 16, 2013

    He is not a good man. You will not be the first to live him. The next one he will have will still live him, run. He will not change. Think of yourself. Do you love your kids and your self? Do not let him know when your are living. You know you was happy before. God can do it again for you. Do not let him take away your joy. Talk to god before you live, letting him know the reason for your living and he will surely give you the chance of happiness again.

  13. Stupesss
    October 15, 2013

    Call your family, buy a secret ticket and fly away home. When u reach call me so I can write a script and direct an amazing movie!!! I’ll call this one ” treachery behind closed doors”

  14. vieille case
    October 15, 2013

    if is vieille case your are in real troble, thats where you can find then the most ,stupid guys!!!!

  15. vieille case
    October 15, 2013

    I JUST hope is not a vieille case ma

  16. Cat
    October 15, 2013

    There’s two sides to a story this is yours and if its true its sad this man needs help children can be rude and when they are not a man’s biological kids and they are rude to him it’s difficult for most men to deal with situation like that,but I feel Ur pain

  17. 1979
    October 15, 2013

    For my part, most of these women posting here is the epitome of why a man will give a woman a child and not get married…

    I’m a man yes, and from the minute I hear some of allu talk I know whether you’re a keeper or not…

    tsk tsk tsk…

    Not many keepers on here…

  18. Reality
    October 15, 2013

    Bella no one party is fully responsible for difficulties in a marriage. Counsel cannot be given only on the basis of what one party discloses. Sometimes you may be quite surprised to hear the other spouse’s side of the story. However, abuse is not acceptable in any form and cannot be encouraged. First counsel to the lady should not be to leave her marriage without knowing the full picture. Encourage her to seek counseling along with her husband and if abuse continues then she should not remain in an abusive relationship.There are Dominican men who are serious about their family responsibilities so it is not reasonable to label them all as abusers. Just my two cent.

    • Ginger
      October 31, 2013

      I quite agree with you. There are two sides to every story and I have a few questions to ask. Why don’t you have a family meeting. You are stuck between the two situations, but your children have to learn to respect your husband. We are not getting both sides of the story. Its hard for a man to be taking care of a woman and her kids and have them be disrespectful to him it sure as hell can be frustrating. There must be something that attracted you to him to begin with, what made you love him. Sounds like your husband is frustrated with you and the children. Some of all you women’s main goal is ring at all cost no matter what. I am a Dominican woman and sorry I may sound ignorant to some but my Dominican men are some of the nicest men I’ve ever had the pleasure of knowing. We want the whole picture :-|

  19. Flo
    October 15, 2013

    My lady… my heart breaks for you ! !
    The Bible talks against divorce but my friend your case merits a DIVORCE… you CANNOT remain in such an ABUSIVE relationship….May God bless you and take care of you… Wish i knew you .

  20. sickness
    October 15, 2013

    husband if you are reading this, you are the epitome of a skunk, dirty manicou….. neg sort

  21. Not happy anymore
    October 15, 2013

    Go back to your country girl

  22. possie
    October 15, 2013

    Time to quite…… soon he will be bringing women to the house. don’t stay because of the kids, you will only regret later; the kids will not forgive you. I understand what the kid is going through I was an immigrant to the island too. Pray and get out while you still have your sanity.

  23. "O" STRESS"
    October 15, 2013

    First of all you keep referring to your husband as a man. He is not a man he is a zaman and a insecure controlling freak, Secondly, you and you family are being abused by this little boy, you should report him to the authorities forthwith. My advise to you is RUN,RUN, for your life and that of your family. If you are for real we want to hear from you in six months.

  24. Neg Mawon
    October 15, 2013

    Girl…vote workers next election…change is not an option is a must…

    • WHO VEX VEX
      October 16, 2013

      I know her and the man is a WORKERS
      and that sound like the work of a workers

      • Dominican in Saba
        October 16, 2013

        all u killing me with jokes hahah lol

  25. trolol
    October 15, 2013

    Hear them woman nuh boy… All of them big woman there cursing using big words like ‘Hell’ and ‘Damn’ when they know children visit this site. The same thing going and happen to allu probably even worst so get VEXX! A woman put her name as “MAD WOMAN” looooooooooooooool

  26. hmmmmm
    October 15, 2013

    A lot of Dominican men are just too bossy eh and want to play macho with all their stupidity.

    • 1979
      October 15, 2013

      well with the way some woman go on…I might as well marry a man?

  27. mindy
    October 15, 2013

    If you run now you will be running for the rest of your life. this woman must learn to be a wife allow the man to be the head and teach your children to do the same. Too many woman like to play the man in the relationship… Bella get help any issue happens u always saying leave leave leave.wat about the man side of the story.some woman always quick to play victim. How many relationships she have to leave for you to agree stay??? Her children jus gonna pattern on her to many broken homes in this country

    • 1979
      October 15, 2013

      My God, forgive me! you restore my faith that there are actually people, and a woman at that, who GETS IT!

      You inspire hope mindy…

      The word marriage suggests a union..

      The requirement is in the definition of the word itself..

      it have to be well consummated, like a GOOD gravy… you cannot tell the ingredients apart…

    • Prayer
      October 15, 2013

      Utter rubbish!

    • hmmmm
      October 15, 2013

      What u are nuh a man or a woman… maybe ur man beating u too or treating u bad that is why u saying what u want… the way she is being treated gives her right to leave.. she has a right to be happy.. the man has no right to treat her the way he did or to her kids…

      • 1979
        October 15, 2013

        and but the way some of u talk and act ensures that you all will be LEFT!

        most mothers teaching their sons to do everything for themselves…. so what most of allu getting to do for a man is that alone allu worth…

    • Udohreadyet
      October 15, 2013

      Mindy I’m glad you get it. You are unique.

  28. tom
    October 15, 2013

    Like in many other marriages and relationships people do make bad choices or think they were making a good decision but then realize that they may have made a mistake.
    Anyone in your shoes I would feel unloved and taken advantage of. This is sick because he feels empowered that you are in his country and may be feeling that he did you a favor.
    In no way this is love.

    Like any other relationship, be smart and work your way out in a manner that is beneficial to you and your children.
    The possibility of returning home is always there but of course, job etc comes into play especially with kids you have to feed and send to school.
    It may take time to play and get your cards right, but when the time is right leave his sorry A.

  29. open mind
    October 15, 2013

    I wonder wat is his side of the story. Better to live on a roof than with a nagging wife…

  30. MRS D
    October 15, 2013

    great advice i just hope every thing goes well for this young woman i to is a woman i that made me feel so bad to see that a dominican could treat his wife so badly smh!!!

  31. UDOHREADYET
    October 15, 2013

    I’m going to write this out in simple terms. Ask yourself what you truly deserver versus what you’re giving and what you’re getting? This sounds like a man living in a house with a woman and kids not his own disrespecting him. Sometimes it’s difficult to play your current position if you’re used to playing a stronger part in the past. You have two children with someone else and found someone to marry you taking you and 2 children to his country. Play your position… be a good wife tell your husband you expect the same from him besides financial support. It doesn’t sound like he is beating you or the kids just that he’s not getting the respect as the man of the house. This guy is doing all those crazy things because he is trying to control you and the children by forcing you to respect him. This stems from the fact that you don’t respect him so the children see that and in turn don’t respect your husband. When/if you leave you will have 3 children with 2 different men both failed relationships. Get your children in check, then check yourself, appreciate what you have and make it better however you can. The man provides most of the time but the woman runs the house, you should be able to dictate how you want your house to run… that is why you’re children and your husband act the way they do. Respect is mutual if you treat the man like a papishow him and the kids will treat you/each other the same… set the tone.

    • Jimi Hendrix
      October 15, 2013

      UDOH….a lot of it has to do with how the man relates to the step-children. I have a friend who broke up with a very nice woman because he could not get along with the child.

      I have a step daughter, who for all intents and purposes is my daughter. When she was a teenager, she wanted to put a wedge between myself and her mother. I told her in no uncertain terms that I loved her mother and we were not going to allow her to break up our marriage.

      Fast forward to today: whenever she needs something or wants to talk about her problems, she calls me. I was the adult in the house and I needed to foster a good loving and caring tempo in my home. I set the tone and she followed. I was firm but loving to her and she undertood my that authority in the house that was never in question and my wife supported me 100%. Now we are very close.

      Most times, I blame adults for the outcomes of their children. If you do a decent job of raising kids, 90% of the time, you will have a good outcome.

      • Udohreadyet
        October 15, 2013

        I agree… In short, the adults set the tone. Working together. The man probably feels like a minority in his home because the lady want to be a boss without boss credentials. She has to teach them respect, show respect herself and I guarantee the man will be a man in his home all do all he can to make them happy. It’s clear since he’s made the huge invest pimento on her and taken on her burden on his shoulders. Give to get. Set the tone. Bless

    • 1979
      October 15, 2013

      Women today come from the rib of a saul fish…they know nothing about introspection…. they sit and design their own problems…

      YES!! Women are independent and should be free to, as they so love to say, “DO/CHOOSE WHAT THEY WANT” but they are FUNDAMENTALLY OBLIVIOUS that The FREEDOM that they talk about does not FREE them from the COST and CONSEQUENCE of their CHOICES to DO whatever..

      They do not understand the compromise is a “TWO WAY STREET” to quote another poster. No one is indebted to the other..

      but if you want a relationship with any living being…..cyat, dog, fish, monkey, turtle, Man or Woman… you have to be able to compromise… In addition to the other fundamentals of a good relationship…. but let me not waste my breath.. can’t argue with a woman.. GIRL whatever you say. You right!

      • under the radar
        October 16, 2013

        best comment here… responsibility! women here love to play victim and invent their own misery just to roll in their self pity.

    • say it loud
      October 15, 2013

      Typical stupid advice .I wonder if this is coming from a man. It’s better to be sane than going through mental abuse. It doesn’t matter if you have ten children sanity comes first,

      • Udohreadyet
        October 15, 2013

        Women tend to create their own problems because they seldom look in the mirror to see what theyre doing and how the other person feels. Men don’t need or ask for much. Ask yourself when was the last time a man asked you for something besides sex. Play your position… You are not a man!

    • forreal
      October 15, 2013

      wait wait wait a bit,you are talking about somebody who is a total stranger here,who is easy to take advantage of,no mother,father,brother,or sister here,no familly,to say well she can papyshow herself,just like dominican women living in the french islands,it use to sicken me,when i hear about abuse dominican women suffer under french men,this woman does not have anybody here,she like a fish out of water,so there is no way,that she going step out a line, for all you no,is some jackass dominican woman he have secretly,putting pressure on him,for having a foreign woman,(jallousy)i do not think this woman is making up this story,with all that details, he can read that story to, and no is he that is being reffered to,and confront her,so is a big risk she taking,some (DA) man have a lot of ignorance and stupidity inside a them,i to have step children,and i love them a lot,when they get out a hand,i do straighten out,and they do listen,and my wife does back me up,and they does wheel and come again,and realise,is good i want for them,even if they do not tell me in words,them does show me in actions,no had feelings

  32. Concern citizen
    October 15, 2013

    I would like to sat that Bella has given you sound advice, follow thus and you will be free soon. Your husband seems to have another woman and is treating you that way so you will ask him for a divorce. I was in a similar situation I got out so do you, be strong a organised yourself you will get out sooner.

  33. karma
    October 15, 2013

    smh…that is dominican man for you! leave him run away while you can it will not get better. these men in Dominica are wicked

    • truth
      October 15, 2013

      Lie dat!! My the dominican men I know not like that.

    • Heavy
      August 24, 2014

      It’s a shame

  34. Jimi Hendrix
    October 15, 2013

    Bella, good advice re legal help for getting her status in Dominica sorted out. Most importantly, she will also need legal assistance to sort out her separation and arrangte for financial support for both herself and her child. She must be aware of her rights after leaving this mess of a marriage.

    I have seen too many of our men walk out of relationships as if nothing existed before the break-up, including not making child support payments.

  35. Anonymous
    October 15, 2013

    Your children must respect your husband in his house. After all he provides for them so the least they can do is show some respect.

    Dominican men do not tolerate rudeness and lack of manners from minors under their roof. If you are from a small Caribbean island you should know that. So ask your children to respect your husband or else they should leave his house.

    • Anonymous
      October 15, 2013

      it doesn’t matter how the kids react to the man but that doesn’t lead him to be abusive to his wife or go on the way he is, its not that the mother don’t go looking for job the man do not want to go to the immigration to sign the papers because he feel like he should be in charge….wrong is wrong this man doesn’t know how to treat a wife and his kids

      • Dominican in Saba
        October 15, 2013

        I love yr response. this man is a real example of a big. Women never follow no man let them stay in yr country where u have family. This is the not the first time I am hearing of this. wicked man.

        I am a Dominican man married to a woman in Saba thank God 9 years no problem. I am in her country and we love each other to death. 3 kids

      • UDOHREADYET
        October 15, 2013

        Ummn he is in charge!!! The woman and her karwat children needs to respect the man period the end. next level of discipline slaps slaps slaps!!! even the dog getting slaps!!!!

    • Anonymous
      October 15, 2013

      And he should respect her ,its a two way street.

      • trolol
        October 15, 2013

        UDOHREADYET! You have it my brotha, everything getting slap. Next level is physical discipline.

      • Marcus Hill
        October 16, 2013

        So why all you not seeing that the cause of this man’s frustration is the rudeness he gets from children living under his roof? just ask the children to be respectful to the husband and you will see the change in this man’s behaviour!

  36. trolol
    October 15, 2013

    Women always complain about dumb stuff like this and you all are to stubborn, take your blows, yall never learn. Always a ridiculous man story. Women lacking something man??!!

    • Me too
      October 15, 2013

      amazing who stupid you are!!! JACK

      • trolol
        October 15, 2013

        All those dislikes are from women and feminist, I’m cool with that! All I telling woman to do is stay and take their blows when they go and look for their bowdelle. We tired of hearing that sh*t!

  37. Anonymous
    October 15, 2013

    Woman just get the hell out and go back where u com from. let him get a woman like me and he will know wat day it is ,monkey know wat tree to climb trust me .

    • trolol
      October 15, 2013

      Talk alone allu have! You would let him eat all the bananas on the TREE!!!!!!!!

      • Mahaut
        October 18, 2013

        Be quiet! The more your open your mouth the more dumb you sound.

  38. Domerican
    October 15, 2013

    Take your children and go home my dear your husband is an idiotic overgrown boy..save yourself and your kids from this idiot..you can do better by yourself :oops:

  39. Mad woman
    October 15, 2013

    Lady pack your damn bag, and hit the road. When his a comes back home, let him find you gone! Go back to your country and make a better life for yourself and your children! You deserve much better!!!

  40. Tote
    October 15, 2013

    My dear if you’re happy it makes no sense to stay in the relationship. You should never change who you are to please anyone. Your children are going to resent you. It seems like you were doing fine taking care of your children alone. For your own sanity and children sake find your a job or go back home.

  41. sindy
    October 15, 2013

    i meant he treated her Badly in Martinque. A french man. wicked man used to beat my sister all on her head

    • Anonymous
      October 15, 2013

      Some men from Martinique are very wicked, I was engaged to one that wanted to ruin my life with jealousy, telling me that he would pour acide on my face, i showed him the real Dominican that was in me, and he was the one who became afraid of me, i broke up with him, and right now i’m happly married,

  42. sindy
    October 15, 2013

    never leave yr country and follow no man. This happened to my sister now she is at a mental home in Martinqiue. The man took my sister from DA and treated her like a dog in DA. He had a another woman and my siser did not know. Now my poor sister suffers from nerves and shakes in Martinique Hospital. Women be careful

  43. T mama
    October 15, 2013

    Go back…take your children and RUN……

  44. lang mama
    October 15, 2013

    My dear change is not an option chsnge is a must

  45. niceness
    October 15, 2013

    Pack up and go back to your country my lady.. whether he knows or not.. u and ur children happiness is not worth the pain

  46. Anonymous
    October 15, 2013

    o my lady i feel ur pain leave him no one should take abuse from an one you a in a serious abbusive relationship try to find a job settle in with the laws of the land and u and ur children will be happy again and make dominca your home life goes on and alway remember to pray ask and u shall god answer prays.

  47. Hmmm
    October 15, 2013

    Bella, I don’t often read these posts but today I somehow clicked and read and your response is mind blowingly helpful and I do hope that this person takes it on cause that’s precisely the way to go. And in Dominica there’s always some one willing to assist even in a small way. If perhaps we could establish a proper link centre where people can go and get psychological advice counseling that would be fantastic. There are all kinds of institutions but never heard of one where persons can simply walk in and ask for help and advice from a professional. You don’t have to be Dominican to go there. IS there a place like this in Dominica?

    I applaud you on such good advice

    • open mind
      October 15, 2013

      Yes there is a place
      its called APU at the princess magaret hospital

  48. Anonymous
    October 15, 2013

    You can do it my girl. Get off the relationship if it’s not working.

  49. sorry
    October 15, 2013

    I feel so sad reading this some people a better left in your heart and not in your life this man is wicked this is so much abuse u need to free ur self and ur children my heart goes out tou

  50. papa met!
    October 15, 2013

    very good advice bella. well done!

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