He cheated so I cheated, now I want to tell the truth

I need your assistance. My boy friend and I have been together for six years. Our relationship has been based on love and trust. I loved him dearly, until I caught him cheating on me on my own bed with some girl. I was hurt terribly.

But since this happened, I have opened up myself for other men. I have slept with twelve other men many, many times since I caught my boyfriend having sex with another girl. My trust was broken but I went the wrong way.

I need to tell my boyfriend the truth about me. But I see it as his fault. What should I do? If I tell me I know he might wanna leave me, but I love him too much to let him go. But I need to tell him the truth. How can I tell him the truth and ask him to stay? I now acknowledge my wrong.

I am such a whore.

Anonymous

Dear Anonymous,

You are not a whore but you brought your standards to the gutter-quite the same as your guy did. Any man who is worth some salt wouldn’t cheat on his girlfriend “on her own bed”. He is not only disgraceful but I am even surprised he’s still part of your life.

Telling him what you did will give him more leeway to continue his cheating ways and have something over your head. This man is not God and you don’t need to confess anything to him.

Chances are he may leave you and use that information against you. You cheated with “12” men in an attempt to forget what you partner did and I am sure you realized that it didn’t work. If you had unprotected sex with any of these guys you should take an HIV test.

Experience is the greatest teacher so I hope you have learnt from your mistake and realize that spreading your legs apart just because you’re hurt isn’t the way to go. If for some strange reason you decide to continue your relationship you may have to confess your “dozen” sin but you need to be sure you can face the music.

Bella

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139 Comments

  1. truth
    August 26, 2011

    12? garcon 12 man she take many, many times over?! There’s nothing left to say. They will never have trust in that relationship.

  2. real
    August 2, 2011

    what??? u mean u catch de man once, u doe stroke on de man head once na, numerous times with 12 different fellas..shit!!! looks like u wanted to cheat all along. i smell a rat.

  3. sly
    July 29, 2011

    eh bien you not easy i in that for 6 years now and i am not even on 4 yet

  4. ce-ce
    July 17, 2011

    this does not define you entirely , seek Gods forgiveness and decide if you think continuing a relationship which foundation of trust has demolished. We all deserve true happiness.

  5. Toin toin
    June 14, 2011

    Boy boy boy….look if he hasnt asked u if u hav ever cheated then no need to tell him. That way u havent lied nor broken the trust between u, unless u took an oath to always be faithful….anyway u must hav been proper hurt…not 1 or 2 or 3 or 4 or 5 or 6 or 7 or 8 or 9 or 10 or even 11 lol but 12

  6. big dog
    June 12, 2011

    u must be a dig like me

  7. June 11, 2011

    she couldnt find love from any of those men dwn she realy a whore to just sex them,,,if she wanted to spite d man she should make him catch her in d act she was enjoying d fuuck mabe she was doing it all d time she a whore,,d man dont know so it wont hurt him she hurting herself

    • diamondbitch
      June 12, 2011

      thats crap she did it because she felt hurt…. its wrong but at the time she didnt think of it… women who read this post u should give advice to young women like us…an dont critisise bcus if u come home and find ur husband having sex with my bigg ass u would do the same an have sex tooo… BE REAL!!!!!!!!!!!

  8. real
    June 8, 2011

    dat is pure lie, she wanted to do all of it and am sue she enjoyed it too. if he cheated did you ask your self why huh? then u turn around and do more, you repay fire with lava. then wat do you expect. tell him or not he is going to leave you, cuz one way or another he is going to find out. you as a woman should still no better even if he cheated you should not sank to his level and even lower so da guilt is killing you. take wat u get.

  9. orange blue
    June 6, 2011

    lesson learnt…fellas…keep ya dutty business on di road..dont bring it into the home

  10. scientist
    June 3, 2011

    Let us look at the picture those who have mask as well as those who dont have. and you ananimus i understand is a matter of concience. We have many times to enter in some one shoe but we just can’t. We think we share there pain but some times we add more. we try to compromise that to dont work. The matter is fulfiling a desire one of hurt for peace. of course the more we go the more we want to go especially wher sex is concern. my friend be man or woman when you make the mix and ir matches heaven come down. so to if it dosent match you also tell yourself u have to go find the right one. the action my friend is judge by what society teaches us not what our human nature call for It is true isint it?

    the mainthing is now that you have tell the world about it you feel a little relieve those who shared also got a good opportunity to bring to mind thier own unique situation.

    so let all agree that nature (u no wat i mean) is part of our every day thoght phsical or otherwise . And within the 4 wall of our heart we no wat goes in there . Guilt always come to play even if we dont no that the same for the other partner.. Remind yourself how ever the kids if there have any in the relationship one of them will be the giver or reciever of the same act . Just get it right with your conscience and also prtect your tomorrow for while the days are numbered we do not no how many are let. The grat men we read about of of the said “there are 4 things that come not back, spoken words spead arrow past life and neglected opportunity. MAKE THE BEST OF WHAT IS LEFT. Bella i felt the emotion coming from you think we all need conselling

  11. db
    June 3, 2011

    lol some people make me laugh
    you are not a whore, u suffer from the tiger woods disease thats all
    my number is 1 800 why slut?
    u need to just charge a fee, im single and havent slept with 12 people in 6 years(or less).
    when u find the next boyfriend, dont tell him shit.
    a woman is judged by her assests, what man wants a woman that slept with alot of men?
    you have no value of self worth, seek a dildo next time

  12. HEARTLESS PEOPLE
    June 3, 2011

    :twisted: YOU ARE NOT ANY BETTER THAN HIM MY SISTER YOU ARE WORST THAN HIM HE DESEVER BETTER YOU NOT GOOD :( : :cry: :wink: :(

  13. Sweetest taste of sin
    June 3, 2011

    Long she wanted to do that, and he cheating on him was the excuse,ha ha
    boy i would take a frying pan eh..in my bed he would pay, the girl would have to run out sans clothes hee hee

  14. one
    June 3, 2011

    girl DO NOT tell the man….six years in a relationship with a man without commitment? you still want to be with him…..run rnn run my girl you will get over him

  15. NO Sense
    June 3, 2011

    I was going to comment on this but why bother. This makes no sense. she making excuses and bella u self more bias than anything. Sleep with 12 guys to justify u meeting ur man sleeping with one and that’s ur excuse. You ask me she was just doing what she always wanted to. Just got the perfect excuse now.

  16. hmmmmm
    June 3, 2011

    he deserve it. what goes around comes around.

  17. getalife
    June 3, 2011

    if any of you are without sin go find where she is and stone her to death. all those criticizing, can any of you say how many partners you’ve had? and will it really be the truth? what, is five or four or three partners better than twelve? it’s the same fornication. all of you just need to get a life and really grow up. my girl all those criticizing you may have done way worst than you. accept Jesus in your life he’s already forgiven you. be baptized in water and all your sins will be washed away in Jesus name. one love my girl. you’ve taken this step to because you want to change your life, the thing is, are any of those criticizing you willing to take half of the step that you’ve taken? everybody knows your sin my girl but you would not believe what some of them are hiding.

  18. KING SHATOO
    June 3, 2011

    BELLA I SUSPECT YOU NOT A SMART LADY U WAS UNDER THE WEATHER U STUPID TOO GIVE AN ANSWER LIKE THAT CRAZY STUPID U SHOULD BE TELLING DE GIRL WAY AND MEANS TOO HELP HERSELF NOT TAKE IT OUT ON DE MAN AND HE ONLY CARL ONCE AND SHE CARL 12 TIMES WORK THAT OUT 12 TO 1 RATIO .. WICKED FREAK BELLA I BELEIVE U ARE A MAND ACTING AS A GIRL NAME BELL WICKED STUPID CLOSE DOWN SHOP BELLEAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

    • YAH
      June 12, 2011

      SHE DOE CARL 12 TIMES SHE CAL 12 DIFFRENT MAN THAT COULB BE WELL OVER 24 TIMES MAN DOSENT PASS ONCE

  19. KING SHATOO
    June 3, 2011

    BELLA FIRST OF ALL YOUR RESPONSE WAS BIAS NOT GOOD ANSWER ATAL. NOW MY GIRL YOU MAKING A FOOL OF UR SELF U JUST BECOME THE SLUT U SAW ON YOUR BED WITH UR BOY FRIEND FOR THE 12 MEN U TAKE.. GIRL THEIRS KNOW LOVE ING FOR OUTSIDE TINGS …..UR BOY FRIEND DID NOT CARE ABOUT HHER HE GOT A CHANCE HE TAKE IT RIGHT THEIR ON UR BED NOT HIS FAUL WHEN IT COMES DOWN TOO SEXY AND WE CONNECT HUMAN BEINGS HAS NO CONTROL.. GIRL DOE MATTER EVEN DOE U DID NOT CATCH HIM HAVING SEX U WILL HAD STILL HAVE SEX WITH THE 12 MEN BECAUSE ITS IN UR NATURE FROM YOUNG , U WAS JUST DENYING UR SELF FROM IT.. I REALLY BEALIEVE HE LOVES U STOP UR NASTY DOING DOO NOT CHEAP. IF HE DOESENT SUSPECT DONT TELL HIM , U MIGHT JUST BLOW HIS MIND BECAUSE IS U THAT WRONG NOT HIM…. BUT IF HE GETS IT OFF THE STREET AND SUSPECT JUST COME CLEAN ONNCE HE OBSERVE U. BUT THEM 12 MAN LAUGHTING AT U NOT ONE OF THEM ASK U TOO LOVE AND MARRY U FOR LIFE BUT UR GUY IS STILL THEIR WITH U FOR 6 YEARS .. U SHOULD BE ASHAME WHEN U WALK THE ROAD

  20. YES I...
    June 3, 2011

    Girl you are a marjore….and have a lot of guts…..now…… if you feel bad, get over it….because those giving you advise or calling you names! maybe did the same shit…….or wish they could…..

    maybe you are feeling shameful knowing you’ve degraded yourself to such level!….but honestly….you should not have expose yourself to be judged by man….for a guilty conscience does not need an accusers, you gave away your strongest sword!!!!!and now the weak has gotten your strength….

    but on that note…. you should do what’s best for you….and remember you don’t always need a man to be happy……

  21. Truth, Justice, Love, Peace and Unity
    June 2, 2011

    Bella is right on! Good advice!
    You caught him cheating in your bed. I do not know why you continued to be with him under the circumstances. There are some women who possess pride and would not put up this. They would also not cheat on their boyfriend. They would realize that this is the end of the relationship no matter how much they are hurt.
    You decided to cheat on him with 12 men. I do not know why how you could give yourself to twelve men. I do think you are trying to take revenge on him. You thought by cheating you could get back at him and get over him and it would satisfy you to keep seeing him. This is a wrong approach.
    You must never divulge to him what you did. Why should you? Furthermore he may never forgive you, giving him a reason to cheat and also to sever your relationship. He does not deserve this honor and satisfaction. Keep this to yourself.
    You caught him cheating on your bed. How many times did he cheat on you? You may never know. I bet it was not the first time that he cheated and not only in your bed but elsewhere. The person he cheated with on your bed probably did not have another private place to go to bed with him. Therefore he chose your home.
    Do not expect him to inform you if he cheated more than once or how many times he cheated on you.
    Pertaining to finding him with a woman in your bed, did you discuss his indiscretion?
    Will you ever be able to forgive him? Your happiness and peace of mind are important. In the end you may have to sever ties with him. Personally, you should leave him. In time you will find someone who is worthy of your love.
    Please do not demean yourself. God does not look at you like you. He may look with pity on you and note the mistakes you made. He will forgive you if you call on Him and ask Him to forgive you.
    There are many who comment as on this column and call you all sorts of names when they are no better. If only we knew what they do behind closed doors.
    Keep in mind you do not know what they do behind closed doors. The world is filled with some hypocritical people, wearing masks during the day but in the night they are something else.
    Everyone deserves the best. You do. I hope in time you will meet Mr. Right who does not cheat. Good luck!
    Please do not demean yourself. God does not call His children derogatory names. He does not look at you like that. We are all made in the image and likeness of God. Should we fall, it does not make us less loving of a child in His eyes. No one is an exception.
    He may look with pity on you and note the mistakes you made. He will say: “My poor pitiful child,” always looking down with pity. He will forgive you if you call on Him and ask Him to forgive you.
    His blessing, grace and peace be to you!
    Our Lord Jesus Christ is waiting with His hands wide open to those who will turn to Him. Jesus is the Answer. He is the Way, the Truth and the Light. Go to Him in prayer and worship and lay your burdens at His feet. He will take them and console you also to do better.
    As the words of the song…”Lay your heavy burdens down by the riverside…” The Lord will take care of the rest. May this offer you some consolation to split with this boyfriend who does not deserve you.

  22. Family Guy!!
    June 2, 2011

    12 Men!!!! not even 5,my God!! you must be from Grand Bay!! trust me!!!!!

    • gracias.
      June 3, 2011

      the grandbay people are not worst than u,touch your nose,your foolish old goat maybe the girl is one of your relative’s

    • babes
      June 7, 2011

      :?: what has grand bay ever done to you? why are you so against us? there are good and bad women every where. grand bayrians bark is worse than its bite. trust me, if you get to know the good folks there you would hold on
      am good

  23. bush tea party
    June 2, 2011

    you really a whore from inches to footlong

    • Truth, Justice, Love, Peace and Unity
      June 3, 2011

      @ bush tea party

      What about yourself? Do you think that you are perfect so as not to commit a sin and many?

  24. da real hmmmmm
    June 2, 2011

    bella….hmmm not a wat!!! not 3 not 4 not 5 an u not a whore … wat!!!! bella u mad..da hav b a worst advice i eva seen u give ..girl break up wit d man yh … he chck his seen u chk yours .. wat .. 12!!! no girl…u pass levels of whore ..atleast whores get paid..girl hmm if u eva tell da man da n he doe doe u someting well hmm .. best tint i tell u is jus break up cyan stay wit d man afta da

  25. OK
    June 2, 2011

    Some things can push someone to drink, take drugs but this woman just took a different approach. While I would like to join in and call you all the names which you deserve, I believe you need help and Bella is not helping you. there is so much missing from your statement that I am lead to believe that you were not new to your that life and using that incident to justify the means. I do not believe that you love the guy as you say you do.

  26. mac
    June 2, 2011

    well i coming to Dominica plenty of sex all i have to do is tell women their boyfriend cheated. And to thunk mr doing things with you and he dont know. i would know the first man that go near you .twelve men girl you must be a real dog . poor man thats what you get when you cant keep your meat and two veg in your pants

  27. lol
    June 2, 2011

    free yourself…my gurl…let go…quit running around…u will only create a rep as bad as ur boyfriend’s for yourself. most of all go to god in prayer

  28. natty dread
    June 2, 2011

    dats mouth opening

    • mac
      June 3, 2011

      did sj
      he take it in the mouth too

  29. wellbell
    June 2, 2011

    i did the same thing….im still doing it…i cant stop

    • mr.lonely
      June 12, 2011

      CHECK ME!

  30. live ur life
    June 2, 2011

    if u didnot see 4 urself u would never knw,he’d never tell u so u dont owe him a confession leave d confessing 2 god…but seriously how could u stoop lower dan d man if u had jus leave right den and dre it would b more dan d right move..u could jus keep 2 urself u cant try 2 hurt or do wat man do by sleeping with how many dat not right 4 u and when d man find out 1 way or another he wouldnt want dat p**sy again..hmm woman now a dayz boy

  31. Carib Diva 1
    June 2, 2011

    Girl u was longing to cheat for real…..12 times??? in de likkle minute…u looking for a good dose of STD or HIV. Fellas beware of booty girl!

  32. queenie
    June 2, 2011

    woman
    your boyfriend does not love you. if after six years there is no committment then this relationship is going nowhere…………..and thats not the only girl he cheated with…….you just happened to catch him, dats all.
    i dont think you are a whore…………its just that you reacted wrongly for the hurt he caused you……….
    do not make decisions when u are angry……
    you dont need to tell him shit……..he did not tell u he waz cheating anyway……………
    just remember………sleeping around is no way to get back at someone……just leave them……..
    you will get over it………….everyone does…………..
    good luck

  33. kk
    June 2, 2011

    confess to God. Not to man. Some men are liar. L-I-A-R’s. Enough said. A wise man keeps his secret. Amen!!!
    :)

    • fire
      June 2, 2011

      Secret between 12 men plus their friends.

  34. Muslim_always
    June 2, 2011

    @ Anonymous – writer to Bella.

    1. Firstly, as long as one has life the doors of repentance is always open. Firstly, I’d like to know if you acknowledge the creator of the heavens and the earth? If so, I suggest you repent to him earnestly and sincerely that you were in an illegitimate relationship. Fornication is terribly wrong in His sight. Thus whether you have been in one illegitimate relationship or 12 it really doesn’t make a difference as far as morals are concerned. The only difference physically is that you expose yourself as a high risk group to STD’s.

    2. Secondly, you approached his cheating problem immaturely. You placed yourself and others at risk thus your actions were very irresponsible. With that said, I suggest you get a hold of yourself. The only person you are hurting and punishing is yourself, not your boyfriend because he was busy fulfilling his private parts even before you caught him.

    3. Thirdly, you do not owe your “boyfriend” jack sh*t explanation. You are not married to him, as well as he is not a moral authority. Secondly, he may use this against you in the argument or dispute. Do not fall for that “being honest sh*t.” What you can do is build up the courage to terminate this relationship. The basis of your “relationship” you claim was on love and trust. Trust for sure has been eroded when you caught him with another woman in your bed. Also, you cannot love someone you cannot trust. You may have emotional feelings but for a surety there is no love.

    In short anonymous, I strongly suggest you dissolve this relationship both in word and writing, repent from these sins and seek the All Mighty Allah. I urge you look for a new beginning for purity is the best thing for the human soul.

    http://www.whatsislam.com
    http://www.islam101.net
    http://www.whyislam.org

    • dominican
      June 2, 2011

      you always der not tru? write a book na

      • Muslim_always
        June 4, 2011

        Thanks, actually I’m working on one now :-D

  35. just a suggestion
    June 2, 2011

    Whether you tell him or not, it must be hard to get the image of him and the girl in your bed, out of your head. I dont think sleeping with even 112 men will erase that memory!!!!!. Bringing a girl into your home is the utmost disrespect. I always think when guys do that they really want you to find out. If you do tell him, he will probably use it to beat you down at every opportunity while he continues to do what he likes. I think your fears about him leaving you are real – I dont think most men are good at handling that kind of confession. If you do plan on telling him don’t be crying and leeching over him, dont give him the power cos he also did wrong. Say your piece calmly as possible, tell him how you felt about his betrayal and listen to what he has to say. If he decides he cant handle it, well you tried. You know it was always going to be the beginning of the end.

  36. Miss Marigot
    June 2, 2011

    Men do it all the time, sleep with as much women as they want. When a woman does it she is called names. Well men sorry you all are not the only one that have game. We women are just trying to keep up.

    • fire
      June 2, 2011

      What she did is game??hope she got the prize money because she will need it.

    • Crazy she crazy-Ahfouahshe
      June 2, 2011

      You are out of the thought process here.I am surprised You are really a Ahfouahwee? I thought you guys always boast of how intelligent your district is you all even have a hall of fame lol What are you talking about?

      • fire
        June 3, 2011

        YA,hall of shame,fo de loosein game.

  37. Trouble intended
    June 2, 2011

    You are an addict. Not only twelve men, but multiple times with them makes you an addict. Even if you tell your boyfriend and he forgives you, you will still be having sex with these 12 men and even some more? As soon as you see one of these men and your boyfriend not around, you ready to give it up. That is big trouble waiting to happen and for all you know, it may have already happened.

    Leave your boyfriend out of this because he cannot help you. Is he a sex addict therapist. That’s what you need; a therapist. You also need to go to the doctor and have yourself checked out for all kinds of things. Unless you intend to get a job at a brothel, you really need major help.

    Whatever you do, make sure you leave your boyfriend and don’t tell why you leaving. Just pack up and go.

    If he finds out what you’ve done, (how you have endangered his life) while you still sleeping with him, he might hurt you real bad.

    Leave and go get help.

    • FED UP!!!!!!!!
      June 2, 2011

      Are you serious???? Oh my goodness, I have never read such nonsense. Having sex with 12 men makes you an addict??? Are you serious. Laughing so hard…

  38. nervous Rex
    June 2, 2011

    :wink: itink that u should charge each man u cokay with to be considered a whore..
    In de meantime u just a vieux salopette..swamp coocoon

    • wow
      June 2, 2011

      omg….lol

  39. That's some serious shit!!!
    June 2, 2011

    Ever heard this line in a duet love song that is usually played often over the air (dont remember the name of the song) …but the song says “when you love someone you got to learn to let them go” …my dear if you love this guy, dont degrade yourself because of what he did, instead let him go… And stop confusing love with infatuation, lust, emotional stress etc. Now you know that love wont try to get even. No need to tell him anything, you’re so hurt because of what he did plus what you did equals disaster so here’s what to do — give yourself time to heal, maybe a month or months or even a year or so, then start anew, wish you luck my dear! * IT * HURTS * BUT * HUSH *

  40. SMH!!!
    June 2, 2011

    Boy DA have a bunch of hypocrites…if a man cheat its ok but when a woman does it she’s a whore….some of all u pretend like all u man is god…like they say “what in dark must come to light”. Girl don’t tell mister shit…forgive yourself and move on..and to all dem judge, jury and mordara’s in DA…remember that good old saying..”clean up your backyard first”.

    • fire
      June 2, 2011

      man is god.strait.

  41. sweet pum pum
    June 2, 2011

    You found him in your bed with another woman that was disrespect to the fullest ! O.k. so it called for a proper kickass to the both of them but let’s face it, Tell the truth you wanted to free up the pum pum long time and you used that as an excuse to go on an all out war on your self esteem and yoan Sweetheart you are only hurting yourself, hold your head up and move on up to better things instead of making yourself into a “door knob” everyone takes a turn or a buffet style “every man come and eat all you can” I’m not judging you I know you are hurt and bitter but conquer that shit in style and don’t make yourself into a laughing stock. Don’t give them that kind of power over you, in the end you have to face yourself in the mirror and you want to do that with pride :-|

  42. Nonsense
    June 2, 2011

    BELLA IS A DAMN A$$…

  43. Science is King
    June 2, 2011

    Yea..she is a whore…12 men, Your vagina like a Revolving door

  44. SAD
    June 2, 2011

    This guy does not deserve you. He created on you should have left is ass, but instead, you brought down your standards.

    This guy might be the only one you know about. There might be others, who is to say that he never had sex wtih other girls?

    Do not tell him any thing, leave him!

  45. forkit
    June 2, 2011

    from you response you were cheating before your boyfriend did PLEASE STOP LYING

  46. Twisted Minds
    June 2, 2011

    Please tell me that you cheated with someone else 12 times. Not that you cheated with 12 guys.

    Something’s utterly wrong with that.

    Besides, I think it’s time to call it quits. He at your home with another woman… zero respect…now you with this… nahhh. Time to end it. Cut your losses.

    • Daily Observer
      June 2, 2011

      12 diff men, many times, dont you see it for yourself?

  47. hard
    June 2, 2011

    tell him so he could thump u in your face! 12, dammmmmmmmmmmm!!!

    • SS
      June 2, 2011

      cant believe you wrote this and people even condoning violence towards women and liking it.. awah wi.. thats just wrong!!!!

  48. Higas
    June 2, 2011

    what bella??! she not a whore the first step is admiting yr wrong she do that and u want to tel her otherwise….and i dont see how is her bf fault she sleep w/ twelve men .. smdh…she was jus looking for a reason to do it and she use the man for that

  49. SourSour
    June 2, 2011

    that sounding like something my woman do yeah… Casnana i hope is not you that der eno!!
    :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D

    • dominican
      June 2, 2011

      lmao!

  50. Anonymous
    June 2, 2011

    my girl am a woman to andi know what you went through ,but all u had to do was tell him you thru,TAKE YOUR GO PWELL GO BY J.R AND DRINK 1 2 MAYBE3 4 5 6 78910 TOO .THEN GO AT YOUR HOME GO IN YOUR BED NEXT DAY AFTER YOUR HANG OVER U BRAND NEW. BUT PUTTIN UR SELF ON THE INTERNET HAVE WHOLE ROSEAU TALKING ON YOU CALLING U WHORE,SLUT,SALOP AND NASTY MY GIRL I DONT WANNA BE YOU

    • charmed
      June 3, 2011

      we don’t know who she is , she didn’t put her name so no one can pin point fingers .

  51. fire
    June 2, 2011

    Hope u save the money u made,in one month u made $70,000. He should be a happy man to have a good woman like u.

    • Crazy she crazy-Ahfouahshe
      June 2, 2011

      $70,000.00 /12= $5833.33each man spent.No you said 12 times each so one screw cost $486.11 your screw rate high so that makes you a high price whore according to earlier comments.

      • fire
        June 3, 2011

        she was fresh on the track.

  52. go
    June 2, 2011

    was the 12 in a week,months or years ? if u people know that then u can give ur hash comments .Stop judging u people that judging doing worst

  53. Anonymous
    June 2, 2011

    she wrong for saying she forgive and really n truly she bitter on the inside but men should learn once they get caught cheating never stay with the woman even if she says she forgive…1 in every trilion woman accepts dat…and he may not leave cuz he feel he wrong but im sure she used to keep remindin him of what he did causin arguments whilst knowin she aint str8 n dats not fair…in d end she labeled a whore (which aint really true), other man laughing d man, dey get pumpum, she feel used and now she double heart broken so she really a loser especially if d man leaves…

  54. Not Vex
    June 2, 2011

    Bella you need help before you help others, because i read your response and you are not helping.

    • A
      June 2, 2011

      LMAO

      • gator
        June 2, 2011

        Like you not a whore but you brought your standards down to gutter level same difference “WHORE” a whore by any other name is still a whore :mrgreen:

      • clueless
        June 2, 2011

        what is LMAO?

    • Woman can be sort
      June 2, 2011

      Is bella Charmed or the reverse? LMAO six of one half a dozen of the other lol!But charmed you nasty wee! virgin in front & behind lol! what about underarm? hahahahaa

    • queenie
      June 2, 2011

      if bella not helping, offer some advice nuh a**hole

      a young lady needs help and u bashing bella……….sort you sort nuh

      if u doh have nothing to say, stay off the dam website; and leave the space for somebody else
      chupes
      :mrgreen: :twisted: :-x

  55. charmed
    June 2, 2011

    this is for anonymous

    anonymous on the comment you need to find work to do with youself before someone make you a house wife. if you are an abused adult get some conselling and stop thorwiing negativity at people u seem to be a roro person as they say it waiting for some article to tell people how nasty they are not even nuns and priests down to pastor are innocent. stop behaving like you are are saint the only saints are those that are pure to the flesh never been touched. are you a virgin in both vergina and bottom… i wonder? make sure you reply i am waiting.

    • Anonymous
      June 2, 2011

      ha ha you sell your self out hot crotch :lol: take me to court :-D :-D :-D :-D

    • Anonymous
      June 2, 2011

      charmed 1st am a man am not in dominica am in the usa and,am self employd but even if i was what
      u thaught in da with no work doe’s that change the fact that u gave it up on the 1st date my post name is real possie ask mouth of the south he will tell u cause he got some blows from me to on here.ok charmed one AKA hot crotch.

      • charmed
        June 3, 2011

        my hot crotch will certainly not go into your mouth then if you’re a man you must be GAY because before letting down on a woman remember that your mama a woman and if not you can’t get women because you dam mouth dirty . you are self employed my ass all you seeing more misery in the states than me in D/ca for you info i am a banker and you need to go ack to school and learn how to write Slangs not even English Slangs.!!!!!

        DAM HUNGRY FOOL in America
        what you really believe America is the land of ever lasting peace..
        you all does be hungry up there!!!!!
        and i know who you are but you are a dam ass as i thought!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

        • sweet pum pum
          June 3, 2011

          Charmed you killing me :lol: :lol: :lol: but very well said please don’t let them get to you :lol:

  56. grand pa
    June 2, 2011

    Whoever said an eye for an eye was fair play. That was 12 for 1 and no innings. Poor dude may never catch up with the numbers.

    • haha!
      June 2, 2011

      LMAO…. Cricket lmao

  57. hart
    June 2, 2011

    The woman acknowledge that she is a ” such a whore” what advise can you give her. You can’t tell her she is a whore she already know that; call her salop is like calling a politician a liar; tell her she making more bomb than Russia is like telling Bin Landen he is a terrorist; tell her she taking more wood than a bakery is like calling Tony the mad liar.

    • sadist
      June 2, 2011

      tell her i am waiting to be NUMBER 13

      • GP
        June 2, 2011

        Thats an unlucky number… I’ll go after …number 14!

        • Just saying GP nasty
          June 2, 2011

          you just as bad as she is you even skipping turn you nasty GP my wood not going there. man so much STD in DA today the latins, in the whore houses in posse spread enough stuff.Married men use to flock p/mouth when the girls first arrived on our shores then came the haitians and chinese .I read there is a kind of gonhorrea that cannot cure the dicks just drop off. lol! so GP you have to be checked out for STDs.

  58. FROM A GUY
    June 2, 2011

    YOU ARE NOT AN WHORE. DO YOU THINK YOU ADDICTION TO SEX NOW, THAT YOU USEING YOUR BOYFRIEND CHEATING AS AN EXCUSE.

    THE LOVE ALREADY RAN IT COURSE IT MAY BE TIME TO MOVE ON OR SPEND TIME BY YOURSELF.

    AS A GUY TELLING HIM THAT IS GOING TO CAUSE PROBLEMS. IT MIGHT TURN OUT VIOLENT.

  59. buhow
    June 2, 2011

    12…….12 is a dozen we…. no boy!! adoobay adoobay you gave di pussy ayway!

  60. lol
    June 2, 2011

    i think you guys should go on the jerry springer show,sounds like a good episode.
    btw 12 guys…omg…you are a whore :-P

    • haha!
      June 2, 2011

      Don’t forget Maury! lmao

  61. Kb lyric
    June 2, 2011

    My My My such harsh comments here hmmmm we are all sinners i not judging anybody here both of them was wrong but society always makes it seem like the woman is the whore . 2 salop that dere .lol

    • Anonymous
      June 2, 2011

      kb u is one clown ahaha…when woman hurt bruh dats d worst poisen i wont be surprise one of dem people is his family lolol

    • SMH!
      June 2, 2011

      Yu talking about we are all sinners and yu not judgin no one but yu saying is 2 salop tht dre? SMDH!

  62. BMI
    June 2, 2011

    Seems like you want to hurt him emotionally the way he hurt you…12 guys, really?
    You really think by confessing he is going to love you with open arms?
    You definitely did not forgive him; instead you ended up degrading yourself in the process.
    Don’t act surprised if he turns his back on you.

  63. she just like wood
    June 2, 2011

    girl u wanted to take your man long time 12 men????? you are a real whore i will not make number 13 for sure…..

    • DOMINICAN
      June 2, 2011

      How you know you will not make 13. You could be 13 all now so and doe even know. Stupes

      • Carib Diva 1
        June 2, 2011

        @ dominican u right he could be the 13 or the 1 for all he doe know…..lmao ha ha

  64. shame on You!!!
    June 2, 2011

    12 men, may times, WOW!!! Girl that punani really took some blows, just because you saw the dude in bed with one girl. You should have just left the dude. But to just go around giving it up like that, now that aint cool, no, no. Bringing some STDs or HIV to yourself and the dude. Shame on you nasty gal!!!!

  65. Ohhh so proud
    June 2, 2011

    Do not tell him shit!! If you had not caught him you would never know he was cheating

  66. AmazingFace
    June 2, 2011

    Do for do: arite, you “ketch” him with 1, you do him back with 12…well ease up nuh, you get your revenge 11 times over…So what you want to tell him that for??? You just want to rub it in his face.

    • GP
      June 2, 2011

      i don’t think he wants anything of hers rubbing in his face again nuh… lol

      • gator
        June 3, 2011

        That’s the problem I would not tell him anything just for revenge I would make him eat the
        pussy fresh from one of the attacks :mrgreen:

  67. Short people movements
    June 2, 2011

    me as a man i come to understand that women are cunnin very very cunning but the man in this case is wrong he start that shit so i cant give the woman wrong cause wrong a wrong, right a wright but im telling you a woman vagina is her own and i think if a woman plans to cheat and give it away she going to do it whether the man like it or not even when you catch her or not she will still do it after same thing as a man if he going to cheat on his woman he gonna cheat whether you like it or not so the best thing to do is come out of that relationship cause you are the one that gonna keep getting hurt he could even make a child with another woman so its up to you and what you wanna do

  68. nectar
    June 2, 2011

    Damn……………….A I D S……………………because I know for sure she wasn’t thinking about PROTECTION under that Massive GOPWEL she get there………….lol

  69. SS
    June 2, 2011

    I can understand how you feel.. betrayed hurt etc.. you chose to do back.. but then realized you were hurting yourself in the process. Should have just left him and i still think u should. U deserve better than that.. you need time to heal, so stay away from men…12 was a lil bit over the top but hey im not here to judge you….Best of luck be strong

  70. Curious
    June 2, 2011

    Is this really true??? I mean can some women of today be that dumb…Ur man cheat on you in ur own bed, all u do is leave his cheating ass! Case closed! U dont go whoring around with 12 men…Thats some serious drama issues u got there…My advice, if u love the guy, tell him the truth…it doesnt matter if he wouldnt have told u wen he did it but i think your 12 more than makes up for his one!!! But after hearing a confession like that, any self respecting guy would turn his back…and u dont love the guy! if u did u wouldnt have cheated…

    I think if this story is really true, then this chick need to lock her damn vagina with a chastity belt for a few years cuz them 12 guys pretty much covered a few years of sex for her!!! Slow down my child…

    Its women like that give women a bad name!!! If u were in the middle east, u would be stoned!!! Just think about that!

    Love, Peace and Chicken Grease!

    • 100 & cheating
      June 2, 2011

      That’s like using a bazzoca instead of a swatter to kill a fly. 12 : 1 that must be some kind of hurt How dumb if I knew the story and was the 13th guy ,I mean the next one after the haitus suggested by Curious I would change my mind and lose my erection. lol

  71. Reader
    June 2, 2011

    Bella, great advise!

    Anonymous, I really think you did what you did out of hurt. You chose to handle the situation the wrong way. The truth of the matter is, as much as you claim to love this guy, you will never be able to trust him. From the way you write, it is clear that you are still not over your hurt. The best thing you can do is to end the relationship. Like Bella said, no need to give him the sordid details of your indiscretions. No need to bring up his own wrong doing. Just let him know that it is not working out and that you should split. Take an HIV test, tap your brakes, spend some time without a man. And then, when the time is right, develop a loving relationship with someone you can trust!

  72. aye
    June 2, 2011

    yes u are a whore!!!111

  73. Anonymous
    June 2, 2011

    oh please stop coming on bella to tell lies n live allu fantasy nonsense. ARE YOU NOT AFRAID OF GETTING AIDS OR SPREADING IT ? GIRL GET A LIFE GET REAL. LIFE IS PRECIOUS. TALLIE N PAMPAM WILL ALWAYS BE THEIR.

  74. Sweet Pea
    June 2, 2011

    WOW…12? ok…we all make mistakes so non of us should judge. You dealt with your hurt the way you saw fit. It may not have been the best way but u have figured that out yourself haven’t you? i mean u could have cursed him out, set his clothes on fire, slash his tires, put plenty sennay in his food or u could have simply left him and moved on uno…the normal stuff… but u chose to sleep with 12 men.The words that you choose to call yourself reflect on how u feel about what u did. Now…about this confession thing…he wasnt exacly a saint, he didnt tell u no truth…u walked in it…so u dont owe this man no kinda confession…the only one u owe something too in this situation is yourself. you are the only one who is going to get hurt. you call yourself a whore but just wait and see what he calls u once u have told him what u did. you need to end it with him, tell him that he has broken u, he has broken the trust that the relationship was based on because he cheated. just put everything on him, thats what they do anyway…and go and work on yourself and dont u EVER let a man send you down that road again, respect yourself, elivate yurself, LOVE yourself.

    PS: Never ever again become a pssuy donner, that never solves anything, i hope u have learnt from your mistake.

    • 100 & cheating
      June 2, 2011

      Pois douce, Very good begining then you ended and have us hanging .Are you sugesting she go Lesbo or become a pimpess as ur P.S indicated pu… donner.Is she a card holder? Normally peepson obtaing their drivers license or registering as voters.

  75. Brian Pumper
    June 2, 2011

    do for do

    take for take

    triple kay says it best ….

    by the way you’re not a whore. don’t worry what they say – your kitty is just friendly. Ladies do you have friendly ones

    • Toujour Wed
      June 2, 2011

      B pumper is that the real you? The porno nigga? The one who makes movies with music videos? I want your autograph and to star in a movie

      • haha!
        June 2, 2011

        LMAO!… SMH!! lmao LOL

        • Anonymous
          June 3, 2011

          whats up pump. i saw your latest video – ohh n its shaved

      • dominican
        June 2, 2011

        lmao! bnj i dunno who is b pumper but i pee-peein on me der…autograph wi boi lmao

  76. Mr Sout City
    June 2, 2011

    Awa nor. So how the hell is bella going to tell this hoe that she is not a hoe. You catch the man cheating leave, SIMPLE AS THAT!!! Instead you went out and hoe yourself. Tee Salop,

    • Uncle Dildo
      June 2, 2011

      Not tee salop noh, its sackway salop. That girl is a whore three times over if you ask me. Uncle Dildo dont even want her to use him when she have a sexual desire emergency

  77. JAILBIRD
    June 2, 2011

    Ok let me get this straight….He cheated with one girl but you have been sleeping with twelve men? Umm girl i think you need to confess that you are a whore, slut, salop, poloket, what ever you may want to call yourself but not a CHEATER. What you need most is help. you know whore’s counceling. …I think that you should start charging the men you a sleeping with so that your back wont be bruised for nothing. I wonder if you will tell your boyfriend that while he slept with one woman you have been whoring around with TWELVE……..

    • juice
      June 2, 2011

      Jailbird she only caught him with one who knows how many others there were. I agree two wrongs don’t make a right and she party out the pu… good and plenty I know it well tired now, it need a proper rest now :mrgreen:

  78. HMMMMMM(the psychic)
    June 2, 2011

    Goodness girl/woman…why did you have to bring yourself that low and bring such disgrace on yourself? For a man cheating on your bed with another woman? You should have whipped his azzz at that instant and sure have a proper reason why you did it and leave. Now you have slept with 12 men haha!, what makes you think he is going to stay in any relationship with you? Men cheat but as soon as they hear their girl cheat they run.

  79. it nt all bout u
    June 2, 2011

    two wrongs dont make a right tell the man the truth and accept the desition he makes

  80. Anonymous
    June 2, 2011

    Anonymous my a!! thats charmed when u give it up on 1st date what u expect six yrs just like charmed lol its your shit u can give it to how much people u want u not a whore u just SALOP so if u
    went out with him and see him stealing u would start to stealing to, or kill would u kill too.

    • charmed
      June 2, 2011

      excuse me but if i knew ur identity i would take you to court to prove to me that is me in this article .. so because i posted i selft with my present boyfriend on the first night it is me…. girl you are a fool and yu must stop embarrasing yourself on places like this.. for you info it is not me i would have put charmed and not anonymous. let me put you straight you people in Dominica are to hypocrite fast to judge others, and the biggest embarrsement is when you are all caught, i am no hypocrite i say what i ahve to say who don’t llike it vomit iin the tolite.

      for all i know you could be taking 20 man at the same time trust me in todays time i don’t believe there is one woman who is faithful. you are such ann ass you just saw i commented on an article here you go quick to jump and say it is charmed. if i knew u i would slap you silly you sound like an empty vessel who is just waiting to get filled up. what happen to you go get work to do and i am certain that you are worst than the person who wrote this article.

      everyone has their views and their opinion and yes if my man jump i will jump to because he is my man. i wonder if your not even one of them he taking. but i certainly won’t leave him for you, cause iam the boss and where i stand i rule. ok hunny!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! thats why some of you all can’t keep a man……

      DUM FOOL

      • sweet pum pum
        June 2, 2011

        :lol: CHARMED pleased don’t let anybody on that forum work up your nerve like that you giving
        them too much power. Just my name alone would make them attack me :lol: you have to understand there are a lot of insecure women out there :lol:

  81. lol
    June 2, 2011

    girl dont confess anything, man does die with thier boots on, die with yours on cause if u didnt catch him in your bed u wud never know he cheated on u. but u still need to stop your promiscuous ways and leave that man in his business cause most likely u will never forget what he did to u.

    • I mean good
      June 2, 2011

      That is probably the most honest and if not the best comment I have seen so far on this article. If I may add, if you cannot deal with his cheating, leave the man alone, and confess your sin to God and ask Him to help you not to do this anymore.

  82. wow
    June 2, 2011

    bella….good advice…except for one thing…she IS a whore!!! 12 men??? awa…..

    • Anonymous
      June 2, 2011

      She is no whore – she thought she could hurt the boyfriend, but she was only hurting herself, that’s why she sounds so distraught. Nontheless, the only person to whom we need to confess, like Bella rightly said is the Christ. He will give you his peace that surpasses all understanding.

      • Anonymous
        June 2, 2011

        she is a hoea, simple as that. women to like to lower themselves for men. have some damn respect for yuorself, stupes, that is nonsence

  83. Get Educated
    June 2, 2011

    You cheated on him with twelve (12) different men, and now you’re saying that, “I’m such a whore.” DING! DING! DING! DING! You should have left when you found them in your bed but instead went and slept around and since it did not work out for you, you are seeking sympathy. Continue Whoring, Lady since this is your M.O.

    • 100 & cheating
      June 2, 2011

      She said it herself.She wanted to long before she met him hitting one moreso in their bed.She want to have us believe she was doing it in retaliation but this is externalization of what has been visualized inher head before then. So much for justifcation. Continue with another 12 then another 12, thwn another 12 then another 12 then another 12 then another 12then another 12 then another 12 then another 12? Are we there yet? There where? 100 lol!
      Oh almost forgot Bella giving counseling on HIV.Bella that’s a whole different topic for another article.

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