“Hopeless” 22-year-old contemplating murder

Dear Bella: This is hard for me to write but I do not know where to turn. I am a 22-year-old who is feeling out of it. I have been seeing a 34-year-old married man for months now and he and I have a great relationship.

His wife is an awful person, she doesn’t cook she doesn’t clean and she does not even do her wifely duties. All of those things happened prior to him and me meeting each other. Now that she has finally found out about us he has changed and it’s as though he is always frustrated because she knows he doesn’t love her anymore and blackmailing him is all she can do. Her mission lately is to tear us apart but I’m not letting go because I love him and I’m starting to have thoughts about doing her something terrible because I have never had love like this.

He has made me into a woman and I’m a much better person. Lately he is holding back and he told me its killing him not being able to love me the way I deserve since she is “acting up” he says he have to “hold it down”. My life revolves around him; this is the way he made it. He gives me everything I need and more and without any malice. He makes it his business to see that I am happy and I love him dearly. He explores my mind and gives me feelings and lately she is taking that away from me and I feel like I want to hurt or kill her and I cannot get it out of my head. I do not know what to do anymore. She follows me everywhere I go, she calls my job, she has been harassing the only two friends I truly have. She has been stalking him and following him so as of Monday she now knows my address and last night she slept in her ride outside of my house.

I can’t see myself without him because he has me where I want to be- sheltered, protected, comforted and most of all well taken care of. He is my joy, I cook and clean for him and he loves that because he has never received those things from her. It sucks but it’s true. She just likes the money and now that he refuses to give and she knows about me she is tearing my life apart. I’ve been ignoring her but I can’t take it anymore .I love him and the feelings he gave me came from him as a result of his love for me, he made me fell for him and now I feel like there is no recuperation from this. I’m going overboard and all I want to do is Kill her or react but I don’t need the troubles.

Hopeless and ready for whatever.

Dear Hopeless and ready for whatever,

Don’t you justify the man’s wife attempting to breakup your relationship with him? Didn’t you contribute to the decline of a marriage? Despite whatever excuses you give to exonerate yourself this is a marriage you’re messing with. You would be well advised to let this go before the wife harms you before you get to her.

You have brought this drama upon yourself- the harassment, heartache, frustration, anger- you and him both have brought it upon yourselves. While people can’t help who they fall in love a line should have definitely been drawn when both of you realized you were getting emotionally attached. Now your friends have been dragged into this mess.

Also if you feel threatened by the wife you should alert person or even the police, but do not complain about to them that she is trying to break up your relationship with her husband because really it would be embarrassing for you. Women these days should try to uplift themselves and hold close their pride. I do not condemn you for we all make mistakes; however your arrogance about the situation knowing that you are wrong is what is mind-blowing.

I hope too that you are not in pursuit of this man for his money, as you claim his wife is only concerned about that. If things are so bad then he should divorce his wife to be with you, and if you have mentioned it to him and he has not responded to that then his love may not be genuine. Never allow your life to revolve around a man. This is not worth it to take a life; you have your plans to fulfill.

Bella.

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67 Comments

  1. February 4, 2013

    Hopeless: I expect your situation has changed since your letter was posted but for whatever help you may still receive from my comments I want to offer a few thoughts. (1) What proof do you have that this man’s wofe does not cook, or clean, or do her wifely duties? (2) Do you not know that this is the lie that men use most when they are trying to get another woman to have a sexual relationship with them? The more a man uses this lie the better he tells it and the more convincing he becomes. (3) Even if these charges are true (most likely they are not) don’t you understand that such problems can be solved one at a time? This is what marriage counselors are for. Many pastors are trained in counseling and would be happy to sit down with any couple who are sincere about saving their marriage help them work things out. (4) Can’t you see the proof that this man is a liar? He lied to his wife when he took his marriage vows. By breaking those vows he has made them lies. (5) How could you feel secure with a man who had already left a previous wife? This is proof he does not consider marriage sacred. He did not have the love and patience to stay in the marriage and work things out. He obviously has a thing for younger women. When a man has left his first wife it becomes easier for him to leave the next one. You cannot be sure he will not leave you if (a) he has a change of heart towards his first wife, or (b) he meets somebody he likes better, or (c) you get on his nerves, or (d) you become ill. Remember, this is a man who cares only for himself and what he thinks is best for him. By being with you he has already demonstrated that he has absolutely no interest in the difference between right and wrong, honour and dishonour. He WILL do – I repeat – WILL do – whatever he thinks is best for him at the time and he has no problem making major changes to get to his next level. (6) The thing that has me – and many others – puzzled is that you actually BLAME his wife for fighting to save her marriage! Her actions show she loves her husband, understands that marriage is for life, and would probably be willing to sit down with a counselor and work things out. She may not be going about things in the best way but in her circumstances it is understandable that she would not be thinking as clearly as she should. (7) You have told us this man gives you everything you need and you have indicated that he makes you feel secure. He is also 12 years older. He may be filling a need for a father figure in your life. If so this could be one reason you feel drawn to him. You have also said you only have two real friends. It is easy to understand why you might respond to an older man who shows an interest in you. Even if the man was not married these are not the best reasons for entering into a relationship with him. You would be best to work at overcoming your insecurity and making a few more real friends before committing your future to a suitable man. (8) Nobody is hopeless unless they chose to be! You can make definate decisions to do what is right and then do it! Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist.

  2. Gee
    January 15, 2011

    Once a cheater , always a cheater !……….you will be cheated upon by him also, you silly woman !

  3. Gangsta gyal
    January 7, 2011

    No No No… U have a PROBLEM!!!!!!!!

  4. sweet pum pum
    December 28, 2010

    eh bien eh bien ka mem papa girl you moddy so you want to kill the man wife so you could get
    the toelee all for yourself ?

  5. private
    November 8, 2010

    oh god, this girl sounds like shes not playing with a full deck. i mean seriously u want to kill d man wife? y not kill yr self? those men doesnt leave their wife ffor nobody…stupid girl

  6. babygirl-tica
    October 26, 2010
  7. October 8, 2010

    wow well this comment is late but i am a man and let me tell you that i dont think men in dominica marry woman they been with for 8mnths and a year so i know that man been with this woman forever and as a man we dont leave wifey FOR NOTHING …WIFEY WILL ALWAYS BE WIFEY im not married or anything but there is this girl i love and i have lile flings on the side (yeh i know its wrong) but guess what anytime when it comzz down to leaving my girl i been with for like 3 yrz now it wont ever happen IN D END THEY WILL GET RID OF YOUR DUMB$&^%$ SORRY

  8. September 20, 2010

    people like u dat does break up families and turn them upside down. the woman hav every right to save her marriage even if it means harassing ur a**

  9. quan
    August 25, 2010

    If you were married,would you like someone to be banging your man?
    What goes around comes around so if you want to have a happy marriage in the future,you better leave this married man alone.cause what you sow is that you will reap

  10. Please
    August 25, 2010

    Everyone in the featured article is stupid. Girl, i realize it may hurt you, but, you need to move on hopefully to someone unmarried. The husband is nasty and evil, if he really loved you he would have left (divorced). The wife is retarded, nobody is forcing her husband, so why is she stalking the young lady. The girl in her bed sleeping, she in a car sleeping outside the girls house PLEASE.

    Why should I as a wife go after my husband girlfriend? (This was obviously not a one night stand, he is having an affair). I would get a good lawyer and take every thing.

    Don’t get mad get even.!!!!!!

  11. TOMIAN
    August 24, 2010

    Darling you sound so foolish saying that u are going to kill someone else. All i can tell u is God joined these two together and you are interfering with that. If the man really wanted to be with you he would have left his wife already. If he said that he doesn’t love her anymore then why is he still with her? I am sure you can use your head or has love made u blind. Leave the man and his wife alone and if things are meant to be then it will be

  12. shana
    August 21, 2010

    @Karkabeff: u must be wit a married man yurself 4 u to b condoning such nastiness

  13. PITY !
    August 16, 2010

    Somepeople writing some kind of long comments i myself aint got time to read it..
    But all jokes aside this girl here needs Prayes and Dr. Benjamin. And still bold on the seen

  14. HA HA HA
    August 16, 2010

    they geting bolder and bolder she want to kill the woman for her husband.it should be the other way around this woman is a saint ,i mean the wife.

  15. HA HA HA
    August 16, 2010

    you nasty girls know who man you all going after.you have they woman husband and you saying the woman harrasing you.she should mash you up.girl get a life.

  16. j
    August 13, 2010

    girl behave yourself and leave de man and his wife battle out their difficulties.First of all they tie a knot and de man must have known his wife ways before they got married.Think about our God and you will behave yourself, but if you contiune to play love then you go get real rough and high waters. Girl leave de man and his wife alone.

  17. Karkabeff
    August 13, 2010

    LMAO on most of the comments here. When are you women who re holier than thou making statements about sin going to stop the hypocracy? The bible never said one sin was bigger than the other and this only matters if you are a christian. I can assyre you that most if not all of you on here tearing down the young lady for sexing the married man are either fornicating, have cheated or is sleeping / have slept with a married man. This is nothing new to our society especially in places like Rosea and environs. 90% of the married men I know and about 60% of the women screwing around on their partner in Dominica. Some of you may be in denial but remember what happened on you last vacation? Remember what happened when your old firestick came home on vacation?

    I know at least three people who are screaming at the young lady on here and they all have a side man. How pitiful! To the young lady, you are having evil thoughts that will get you in trouble. This is not working for you so walk away and if needed get some help. If the man and his wife are trying to work things out then be the bigger person and step out. I am sure the wifey is hurting wants her husband back thats why she is trying so hard. Please step aside and let this be a lesson for you. Sexual and loving relationships are two different things. Next time clarify your relationship status before you step in.

  18. being balance
    August 12, 2010

    let’s be real, the girl is in love! we all was there and a there and will be there “in love” no nice filling like that, remember the saying: love can kill,love can cure, love can make a rich -man poor.
    there a so many examples as that one. how would explain i being the 7th child of my parents in a marrided home and my brother the 8th child is my father child in a other maridded family?

    you see circumstancies those alowed man to do things, and the girl is right!

    girl pursu your goal get your happy-nest in the man, who say you might not be the blessing in the community the only one to foster your co-boss when she go crazy and her children if she have for him then they become yours anyway.

    to many times woman do want to do there duty and when anorther woman take there man it become a problem. we look at house work as a servant work and not a responsiblity think of it eighter man or woman come home after a hold day out (at work,from a trip) you in a starte not a well come home not a kiss not a how was your day do you think man or woman when he or she gets that out side of the home will not grab it?

    girl the only thing i can tell you not to kill the woman or your self lift your heard hey and walk tall it has never being against GOD’S plan for a man or woman not to be in love married or not love. comes before mariage.

    if the woman love the man let her prove it as you do,let her walk with him in public let her appreciate him in public let her pronounce this is my husband which alot of women don’t do not even go and watch a game of football or go on the rock to fish with there husband but when they was in love they buy a ice-cream for both of them now they do want to even eat nothing from him.

    girl love your man he will love you back

  19. HMMMM(1)psychic
    August 12, 2010

    The wife should not only stalk you. She should come right to your bedroom and beat the hell out of you for messing with her husband. You too damn stupid and bold believing the man will leave his wife for you.
    Think about it, if the man claims that his wife is not doing her wifely duties etc and he is so much in love with you why isn’t he divorcing her to marry you? Where is your brain? I bet he has a good job and so does his wife and you just a lazy, gold digger waiting on hands and knees for money and other materialistic stuff. WAIT STILL SEE IF HE WILL MARRY YOU. And, don’t think of murdering his wife nuh, he ain’t gonna want you after that cuz you will be a cold blooded murderer.

  20. hippssy
    August 12, 2010

    Young lady,i am not judging you because we all make mistakes in life.I really think that you should move on with your life,because if the man did not leave his wife for you before she found out about you two,then he will never leave her for you.

  21. hmm
    August 12, 2010

    @June: not herself she want 2 kill na…is d wife wi… papa gawd!

  22. BLUE PRINTS
    August 12, 2010

    LMAO.. NOW THIS YOUNG LADY CANNOT BE SERIOUS..NOT EVEN GONNA WASTE MY TIME AND GIVE ANY ADVICE IT’S CLEAR SHE NEEDS TO BE HOSPITALIZED NOT FOR HER LOVE BUT HER MENTAL DISORDER… THIS IS CRAZY..

  23. Watcher
    August 12, 2010

    @Sin is sin: yes that is true all sin is sin. Ok remember and don’t be to quick to judge.

  24. Watcher
    August 12, 2010

    Hello everyone previous comment I meant “I am not condoning ……

  25. Watcher
    August 12, 2010

    @magz: The Lady’s word is objective and wise. When one put their trust in the Heavenly Father, she/he does not have to worry about man/woman (worldly). If we as young persons would wait on the Lord for our spouse and not look for love on our own, most of us would not be in some of the predicament that we find ourself in. Elizabeth spoke objectively. The young lady may be looking for Fatherly love which a lot of us craved for since our own father did not give us that love. Glory but we have a Father who has given us all the love by sending his son to die on the cross for our sin. The thing is that not all of us know how to develop this relationship with that Father. We need to find persons who will help us in that quest.
    Even as I have said that this young lady has made a mistake, we still need to respect her and not call her names. We need to give her constructive criticism with love. Point out what is wrong with her actions but if we do have to help her to move on and pick up the pieces then we have to do so. Our Heavenly Father is merciful and just to forgive us no matter what we have done. Remember all sin is sin.
    Hey I am condoning her action but we need to look at the underlying cause and assist her to get out of this mess she has placed herself in and find refuge in the Father’s love.

    • February 4, 2013

      Dear Watcher: Your comments along with the comments of a few others stand out and shine in the darkness of the mayority that are contributed. I am appalled at the nonsense that gets posted. At the risk of having my own comments being now eliminated and rejected ever after I am going to say this. I cannot understand a great paper like DOMINICA NEWS ONLINE posting some of the absolutely vile content I see on the screen. It seems the comments to the BELLA column fall into three catagories. (1) Those who judge, condemn, and call names. Any good advice they offer is negated by the fact that they show no evidence of truly caring. (2) Those who use the opportunity to post comments to verbaly expose themselves by – not only by excusing bad behaviour – but by endorsing the viles of lfestyles. (3) Those who show love by not condoning sinful behaviour but by offering solid solutions based on the Holy Scriptures. Watcher, thank you for your comments! I appreciate the fact that you mentioned the importance of looking for the underlying cause. If only we knew what some people have suffered – the misfortune and abuse – that has made them what they are. I especially appreciate the fact that you have lifted up Christ and the cross where the penalty of sin was paid. Personally, I believe this is the answer – and the only answer – to the many sin problems that are causing such a social upheaval in our world today. The gospel (1 Corinthians 15:3-4 and Romans 1:16) is the ONLY healing balm for lost, fallen, broken men and women. Once again THANK YOU for sharing the truth. I invite you to visit my website http://www.livinghopeministries.ca Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist.

  26. Hmm
    August 12, 2010

    Girl get a life and stop talkin madness! you r 22 years old! dam it you have yur whole life ahaead of you

  27. Watcher
    August 12, 2010

    @elizabeth xavier: Nice objective article Elizabeth. Young lady please read what Elizabeth says besides what I said. Words of wisdom there.

  28. Watcher
    August 12, 2010

    Get a life and move on deary. You have made a mistake. Admit it an move on. You won’t die. That is the enemy at work to kil steal and destroy. Making you believe that you cannot do without committing sin – too good to be true this man. You are only destroying yourself. Get out. You aare obsessed . Even giving you thoughts of killing the man’s wife . The one he married – until death do us part. Seek help and counselling since you have been made to depend on this man for everything that he is giving. Even thinking o fkilling yourself… That is not good. I am sure that you are goodlooking and loving person. Love the Father first for creating a beautiful creature like you. Then love yourself – I am sure you are a beautiful young 22 year old woman with everything going for you. The Heavenly Father loves you and so do I and I am sure your family (some). Some persons may not like the relationship that you are in but trust me they love so much tht they do not want ot see you in that distateful relationship. Those who tell you about this bad relationship is very interested in you and not the other way around as you think. Get up move on get all the spiritual help you can ang get this man out of your life. Send him back to his wife. It is she he married until death do they part.

  29. Jane
    August 12, 2010

    Hopless 22-yr old I have a target for you if you want to practice…find the police that beat up my friend and terminate him but make sure he suffers…he’s got to feel the pain she’s feeling right not.

  30. Sin is sin
    August 12, 2010

    All sin is sin. This 22 year old is no worst than the fornicators, the homosexuals, the thieves, the witches, the liers…..and the list goes on. Who on earth do u all think you are to give judgment? Everyone one make mistakes. Clean under your bed before you comment. Your sins are no better than hers. Might be a different type of sin, but it’s all the same in God’s eye. She wrote for advice…..not to be belittled.

    • January 31, 2013

      You are right on target with these comments. To encourage you I add the following. (1) All these other deeds you have listed are certainly sins. The problem today is that society tends to ignore these things OR downplay them by calling them weaknesses or shortcomings instead of calling them sins. There are reasons for this. If they are sins this brings God into the picture and people would rather ignore Him. If they are sins this calls for repentance (a change of mind and direction) and many people are not keen on this idea. If they are sins our religious leaders need to accept their responibility to tell the public so and the churches from Sunday School and up should be teaching and explaining that these various practices are wrong and why! (2) It is true we have all sinned and need to clean up. Sin often looks worse in somebody else. Sometimes we need to see it in somebody else to realze how bad it really is! The truth is only Christ can save us according to Acts 4:12. We need to receive Him as our Saviour as it says in St. John 1:12. When we do this we are promised that His BLOOD will wash our all our sin away in 1 John 1:7. (3) You are right about many who posted their comments to this column. Some who judged HOPELESS not only spoke like they are perfect human beings but they used crude language that is totally uncalled for. Many who launched a verbal attack on this lady breathing out hate and condemnation had absolutely no genuine help to offer. This is not the way our Lord Jesus responded to the needs of lost, guilty, broken people in His day! He offered forgiveness, healing, and deliverance to the very worst of them. HE STILL DOES! That is why I am an evangelist! Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist.

  31. wow
    August 12, 2010

    Have U tried Jesus? He’s the best friend to have. U deserve better

    • February 6, 2013

      Lift Jesus higher, lift Jesus higher. Lift HIM up for the world to see. For He said, “If I be lifted up from the earth I’ll draw all men unto me.” WOW, the profound truth of your short statement made me shout! Jesus, the Lord Jesus, was not only a good man, a wonderful teacher, and a great prophet. He is the only begotton (unique one-of-a-kind) Son of God, and God Himself manifest in the flesh! Because of His shed blood and death on the cross – because of His resurrection – He is able to save unto the uttermost all those who come unto God by Him! He said he was the only way to heaven. He really does change lives today. He does not merely forgive or save in a vague spiritual sense but He actually comes into the heart of those you believe in Him and receive Him as their Saviour. He BREAKS the BONDAGES of sin, heals, and sets the captives free! He will do what no therapy or twelve step program could ever do. The Bible says, “…whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Acts 2:21) Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist.

  32. Homeboy
    August 12, 2010

    @June: She thinking of killing the woman not herself! How ridiculous is that? I am going to comment without reading this to the end.. You are absurd, because regardless of what he tells you he and his wife are still married! You love him so much yet he still has ties with her! How can you want to kill the woman for loving her husband? You need psychiatric evaluation..Find your own man!

  33. @
    August 12, 2010

    do what u think but there is no side room in prison for man and woman so he will not be there with u. he will find anyother woman as soon u go up prison .have u think of that.

  34. Head Over Heels
    August 12, 2010

    OMG!!!! Are u that clueless sweetie? You are head over heels with the man and that’s fine. We can’t really help who we fall in love with but darlin if he feels the same way about u he wudnt be goin back home! Even if he didnt legally divorce his wifey u and him wuda be livin together, wifey wuda be outta the picture. And that bit about killin his wife? When u do that and get convicted he’s jus gonna get him anoda u. Set the man straight girlie………… tis u or wifey. And wen he chooses her (cuz he will, if u was the choice she’d be history) walk away gracefully.

  35. Island Queen
    August 12, 2010

    Girl this man is lying to you – flat out. Everything you ‘know’ about this woman is from what he is telling you – and he has motive.

    Obviously he is going to lie tell you his wife is an awful person who doesn’t cook or clean for him. Because that gives you something to justify your wrong-doing.

    You think he is going to tell you “well actually my wife is a wonderful, loving and supportive woman but I just want a piece of front”? He would have NEVER gotten through with you if he told you the truth so he tell you a lie and now you feel she is the enemy and you are a better woman than her.

    Girl, stop. You are not a better woman than her, just another woman.

    Moreover, if his wife is so awful and he loves you so much, why is he staying with her? And allowing her to make you so unhappy and crazy that you talking about doing her something? A man that loves you does not allow any other person to make you unhappy – not even his mother. Trust me. When me and my fiance first started, his mother tried to start some mess with me. He told her she cannot speak to me in that way and that she must respect me. And ever since then it has been smooth sailing between me and her. That is how a man who loves you treats you. Your happiness should be the most important thing to him.

    But as you can CLEARLY see, it is his WIFE’s happiness that is more important to him – THAT is why he has “to hold it down” – so as to not make HER unhappy.

    I’m sorry to say, he does not care about you – he is manipulating your youth, neediness and emotions. He is the enemy, not her.

  36. ??????
    August 12, 2010

    Whatever, happened to ‘PAMELA’ – LOL

  37. Jesus
    August 12, 2010

    What’s wrong with these young sl**s. The man just using you, can’t you realise that you’re like one of the house slaves. After you cook, you are being roasted – LMAO

  38. Wow
    August 12, 2010

    Well, well, well – If I go to the bank for a loan i will tell them all what they want to hear – that’s why they asking for all kind of documents now – yes we may fabricate some but we can’t fabricate all.

    The man’s wife is a lady that’s why she slept in her vehicle outside your house – a woman, maybe one like you, since you’re now thinking of hurting the lady – would knock your and demand her husband leaves your house, or by daybreak you would be at maximum or maxroy buying new windows.

    You should be ashamed of yourself – instead you have enough guts to write to BELLA – Yesa

  39. Life has its ups and downs
    August 12, 2010

    Listen, no man is worth fighting over, he is not your husband. Leave de man alone and go find your very own. The wages of sin is death.

  40. The Truth
    August 12, 2010

    The same way you got him, is how you will lose him. You are young, go be with an unattached man. I have a brother in the states that you will like.;)

  41. Reality
    August 12, 2010

    Well shame to say but you are a woman and not a lady, because ladies got each other back no matter what. There is no excuse for being with a married man. And from what I am reading the man is not crippled, so if his wife doesnot cook or clean for him then why can’t he do it for himself or get a maid in their home? Stop letting these men lie to you all just to get their sex-cravings satisfied. Girl stop playing with Gods work “marriage”. Humble thy self, pray and ask God for forgiveness and then if you cannot ask the wife to forgive you in person write her a letter, and then go start a life as a child of God.

  42. Di
    August 12, 2010

    everything these days is married man. i honestly fed up.

  43. magz
    August 12, 2010

    @elizabeth xavier: YES DR PHIL KNOW IT ALL Y WRITE SUCH LONG COMMENT GIRL WATCH UR MAN EH , OUR WHERE HE LIKE TO GO DERE U WILL FIND OUT

  44. MAbel
    August 12, 2010

    heffa i wish i knew you personally i,d turn you over and get some black polish yes for shoes and paint you vajayjay BLACK.A MARRIED IS ALWAYS LEAVING HIS WIFE -BIG LIE. I JUST WISH I KNEW YOU TO KNOCK SOME SENSE INTO YOU HEFFA.LEAVE DE WOMAN HUSBAND ALONE FIND YOUR OWN YOU WASTING UR TIME HUSSIE

  45. August 12, 2010

    You are 22 years old and he is 34. That makes him 12 years older than you. All he need is about four or five more years to be your father. It is possible that you are searching for the love you never received from your father, through the human affection this man is offering you?

    And mark my word, it is simply human affection that he is sharing with you, not Love. Because you are not speaking like a person with the wisdom of Love, neither is he acting like a person with the wisdom of Love, as he continues to influence you to cling to him, the way you are saying it.

    You said that he has made you into a woman, In what way? Because you feel that you must cook and clean for him? You are sounding more like a maidservant, than a young woman with a man who adores her.

    If he loved you as you think he does, he would treat you with great pride, taking you out to dinner every night. After all, you said that he gives you everything didn’t you? And then he accepts you as a floor moper and a cook? Come on young lady, where is your self-esteem?

    My dad used to come home from his hard day’s work and start the fire for supper, cooking us a hearty meal, as my mom sat at her sewing machine or simply doing nothing at all. He did that every day, except on weekends, which he took for himself.

    This man is rubbing you off your youth, as he stands in the way of you and your relationship with a younger man. Perhaps he gets his kick out of manipulating you because you are so much younger than him, the same way you might be all consumed in looking up to him as a father that you love, but you never had.

    Young lady, I am old enough to be your mother, and I am telling you that this man has set you in a trap, where all you want to feed on is the human affection that he satisfies you with. And be careful, that instead of wanting to hurt or kill his wife, as your childish mind is advising you to speak about, that is it is not you, who will desire to take your own life, when you discover that that man has no more human affection to feed to you. For human affection is limited in all of us.

    You said that you do not know where to turn to, well how about turning to God’s Love, in the Person of Jesus Christ. You said that man is your joy, big mistake! Joy comes from the Love of Jesus Christ by faith.

    That is the way I know that you have no idea what you are getting into with this man, as you say that you love him and he loves you. Lord have mercy and compassion on us, because of our ignorance of You.

  46. Anonymous
    August 12, 2010

    i agree with u bella!

  47. dominican
    August 11, 2010

    long i doe c bella say it how it should be. my girl repent en and stop dt nonsense u doing with urself…..

  48. Leah
    August 11, 2010

    Gosh! These letters are getting out of hand! Chile, get a damn life you lil bitch! (and that is only if the letter is real eh..hehe)

  49. alepie
    August 11, 2010

    Lady, the best thing to do is to leave the woman husband for her, not kill your self. No matter how bad the man’s relationship is with his wife you have no right to tear them apart. “What God join together let no man pull asunder” as simple as that. Sorry.

  50. Typical Dominican
    August 11, 2010

    WTH?? didnt you see Mr. Nice Guy article of August 6??::NICE GUY: Single woman + married man = salop..
    And you even getting vex saying bout she trying to break all u relationship HELLO!!!.. she is married to him she has the right to break all u apart.
    There are many single guys out there. Leave the married men alone!
    You are also helping this man to commit adultery.. And that is a “!SIN!”
    Your life does not revolve around this man.. Your life revolves around God!
    Woman get a hold on your self!… Get some sense!
    pssssssssssshhhhhckkk
    God bless you and your life all the journey!

  51. drlove
    August 11, 2010

    ok young lady get a hold of yourself what relationship you can posible have with a married man and the man himself is a big child discusing his wife with you aldo men say anything to get to panties but that man never thought you would have fall in love and you being stupid and materialistic make you think you in love but you only a gold digger and a big one too you a thinking of killing the man wife so you caan have all the material things in the world but you will not have it cause is jail you will be spending time for the rest of your life . think about it and leave the married man alone to be with his wife and find a man there a plenty single out there that will love you vanity is a sin and as i see is all the things you a getting from that man that is making you think you love him so much where as is the things you love and you no dame well if you do no have the man the things will stop so the job you have try living within the means of it and stop thinking stupid though

  52. June
    August 11, 2010

    Are you serious, girl go in your bed and leave the man alone, but what is that i reading there nah, mostly every day a woman talking bout a married man and how they in love. Weh papa and u even thinking of killing yourself? Girl go get work to do eh and behave yourself.

  53. Just Watching
    August 11, 2010

    See a Therapist,,,you are crazy

  54. married man
    August 11, 2010

    this is so rediculous readin these letters from young ladies …. do u expect the man to tell u any thing goood about his wife when he wants to get between your legs… come on be realistic here this is a man … if he loves u so much y isnt he divorced ?dont u realise he is puttin the ones that matter most first?u r no more than his spare tire (talkin about u cookin and washin for him )he payin u to do it and for the sex too!!!!….where is your self respect .. do u hav sisters/u are puttin this woman through hell when she should be in bed with her husband she has to be out lookin for him girl please!!!! dat is y crime doesnt stop u no its ppl like u who cause children to go astray ( the children are the broken pieces wen a home falls apart ) and u still want to be wrong and strong .. girl go clean up your act and ask GOD to cleanse u from your wicked ways … women like u give me the creeps….DISGUSTING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  55. boy oh boy
    August 11, 2010

    What you go and put your self a married man for What God put together letb Noooooo man put asunder. You need a life of your own

  56. cHEEZEEEEE
    August 11, 2010

    Well well well…….. Why dont some of us women try to get some dignity? Young lady get on with yur life .Yu may murder the wife yu get arrested ,go to jail. Do yu think the man will want yu then? As a murderer? And when yu in prison he may jolly well get another woman( not yu) .Shocks girl…. Sistar take it easy. Alasssssssssssssss oy

  57. tyrell
    August 11, 2010

    Is this for real?! There we go again!….messing wit a married man/woman. When will they ever learn?!!

  58. Pnuts
    August 11, 2010

    Hopeless 22 yr old? No U are a bold 22 yr old. U want to kill the woman for her own husband? Wow, now this is mind blowing.
    U claim “His wife is an awful person, she doesn’t cook she doesn’t clean and she does not even do her wifely duties. All of those things happened prior to him and me meeting each other.” U should ask yourself why does he keep going back home to her?
    U said, “Her mission lately is to tear us apart” girl the woman trying to save her marriage.
    U said, “He has made me into a woman and I’m a much better person.” Miss 22 reconsider those words, I think U have some typing error there.
    Miss 22 and bold, your decission to date this married man is yours, your body is yours your heart is yours, but the man is the woman’s, he made a committment to her. If he wanted to leave her he would have. Do not throw your life away, U kill her U will go to jail, and I can gauranty U he will date another 22 yr old and not wait for U. Be carefull.

  59. Eh-Eh
    August 11, 2010

    That is boldness on your part. You broke up the person’s marriage and now you complaining about her trying to break up your relationship. It is none of your business what happens at the couple’s home. The man is using you as a maid to clean and wash for him just for some change and sex. You are woman and should not have to treat another woman like that. Usually when people like you eventually get a man to marry, the same thing befalls you. What goes around comes around.

  60. Pussy Whipped
    August 11, 2010

    Hey Chile, you no what Go GEt What iZ urs… Leave D Dam Man Wife Alone….. HE may give u money but he iz Married to d woman doh matter what.

  61. SMALLEE
    August 11, 2010

    Girl u r just a damn retarded. You are crazy and needs professional help. What u want to kill the man wife for. you dont think if he had so love you and was so unhappy he would have gotten a divorce already. Leave the people and them marriage alone. Its not the wife that tearing up your life its you that tearing up the woman life and her marriage. Chuupssss

  62. ANOTHER ONE
    August 11, 2010

    Here comes another one with a married man again….Somebody please help me and tell me if the Bella thing is real…Are these women Dominican? OH MY GOD!!! I WELL THIS COUNTRY IS SINFUL !!!!

  63. strawberry
    August 11, 2010

    SWEEETY HE WAS NEVER YOURS & WILL NEVER BE YOURS GET REAL!!!!

  64. dominican
    August 11, 2010

    i no de man an trust me mister an his wife love strong so just give up. doh go an kill any body for no married man same ting he doin her is de same ting he will do u in time to come. so just get a life. an move on.

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