I am attracted to both men and women

Dear BellaI am an 18-year-old young girl. I discovered that I have a liking for both men and women.

Actually I could just look at a girl’s body figure and get very exciting.

I think I am attracted more to girls than to boys but I still love the two.

I think that something is wrong with me. I have been like this from primary school at the age of 9 while I was in grade 5 and now I am attending college.

I actually had intimate encounters with girls during break and also. I do not know but I have this serious problem cause I am actually writing this and i am shivering.

I would like you to help me with this situation.

Concerned

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Dear Concerned,

Determining your sexuality can be highly confusing. Teenagers often feel a lot of pressure to choose to define themselves as being heterosexual or homosexual. You might feel that you do not fit either of these categories, and you may notice that you are ‘turned on’ and have sexual feelings about people of your own gender and another gender.

Coming to terms with your own sexuality can be very difficult. In fact, the hardest person you may ever have to tell is yourself! Only tell others when you feel you are ready. It’s not always easy. Some people might be very receptive, while others might not be able to handle the information as well as you had hoped they would.
Sometimes it might be easier to talk about your sexuality with someone you know will understand, such as a friend, sibling, parent, guidance counselor or other trusted adult. You may also find someone to talk with through the Internet or at youth groups.

Reaching out can help ensure you have support as you talk about your sexuality. You might be surprised at the relief you will feel when you know others understand you.

This is a time of a lot of changes in your entire life, so don’t jump to conclusions. Take your time and you will eventually discover the true nature of your sexuality.

Bella

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71 Comments

  1. misdeamenor
    July 8, 2013

    glorify god in ur body,cause is adam and eve,not adam and steve.

  2. January 18, 2013

    Dear Roseau Valley: Your comments are interesting and carefuly written. Some people in Dominica have feelings they hesitate to display openly because of the laws in your beautiful country. Thank God for those laws! They keep the air a little fresher than it is in my country, Canada. People should not brag about the fact that they are so broad minded they don’t know the difference between right and wrong. There is a God who created us and He does have the sovereign right to tell us how to live. We his creatures do not have ANY right to decide the direction our sexual desires will go. The Bible forbids homosexuality. It says they will NOT inherit the kingdom of God. Please read 1 Corinthians 6:9-10. It also tells us that homosexual behaviour leads to a reprobate mind. Read Romans 1:24-28. And it says “…they that commit such things are worthy of death” in Romans 1:32. The good news is this. God will forgive homosexuals just as He will forgive people who commit any of the other sins. He loves us as we are. But He loves us too much to leave us that way! When we believe that Jesus Christ, His Son, died on the cross for our sins and rose again, and we ask Him to come into our hearts and save us, He blots out our sins. He then begins an inner healing process that changes us, and makes us an entirely new creation! Read 2 Corinthians 5:17. I invite you to visit my website http://www.livinghopeministries.ca Click on to the EAGLE COURSE. You can read this 12 Lesson Workbook Manual from the screen or copy it absolutely free. Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist.

  3. UDOHREADYET
    January 9, 2013

    U Sweif! Stop your nastiness! stay away from my child. Make school/education your priority not tole and coucoulous. UDOHREADYET

  4. December 17, 2012

    You are a young woman at the crossroads of life. Inside feelings are coming alive that you didn’t know existed a few years ago. One of these feelings is sexuality. It is rather scarey, right? Not to fear! It is the way God made us. Here is the problem. The society around us today wants us to believe we have options such as (1) seek a partner of the opposite gender, (2) seek a partner of the same gender, or(3)seek partners of both gender. So when we experience a sexual feeling for someone of the same gender we think it is “normal” and chances are we will move in that direction. This is not normal. It is what the Bible called an “inordinate affection”. It does not mean you are “gay”. You are a normal young woman unfolding into adulthood. What you should do is wait. This is a time to get an education and make career choices, and to make good and true friends of both genders. Wait until you meet a young man who has high ideals and goals in life who shows an interest in you – not just any one – but the one who is right for you – and you will have a wonderful future. Wishing you well, sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill Director of Living Hope Ministries at http://www.livinghopeministries.ca

  5. nubian
    December 10, 2012

    BEING BI- IS NOT A CRIME… my advice do wat makes you happy sweetie.. do you.. and dont force yourself to please society.. pray hard for clarity of thoughts.. and remember make yourself happy..

  6. diamond girl
    December 5, 2012

    but is that for me ner?! girl, i would give you one amount of blows eh! go and hide yourself somewhere eh! :mrgreen:

    • December 11, 2012

      what i mean thats the girl feeling

  7. December 3, 2012

    It is normal as a teenager to be attracted to both sexes. So your feelings are entirely normal.

    • January 31, 2013

      I don’t recall any studies that show it is normal for a teenager to be attracted to both sexes. If this is true then most of the teens I know are abnormal! What you have said will please some people but Prettygirl there is no science behind it. Some teens go through a stage when they experience sexual feelings for the same gender or both genders. This does not mean they are “gay”. It is a passing phase in that no-man’s land between childhood and adulthood. It is not normal but it’s not the only abnormalty they may encounter on their journey to maturity. Parents, teachers, and church leaders have a responsibiliy to guide our youth in the right direction during these years. When young people have positive role models and right teaching they have no reason to become involved in same sex relationships and very few do. For those who would like to learn the truth about homosexuality and be better able to help those who have a problem I recommend that you read the book HOMOSEXUALITY AND THE POLITICS OF TRUTH by Dr. Jeffery Satinover, M.D. Dr. Satinover practiced psychiatry for over twenty years. He taught at both Harvard University and Yale University. This book can be ordered from AMAZON, the world`s largest online book seller. Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist.

      • Freedom
        April 10, 2013

        Reverend it seems you are more concerned with preaching condemnation and selling literature than addressing the young lady’s issue.
        She has already acknowledge she is uncomfortable with the feeling.
        That’s the problem with our country, we are quick to condemn and fix people without figuring out exactly what is wrong

  8. Justice and Truth
    November 30, 2012

    First of all, God created you a woman. You were created to love a man not a woman. Know that you are a female and not a ‘male’.
    There is a tendency in this age to approve of such a relationship between same sex partners. It is absolutely wrong. It leads to the path of perdition.
    Would it be that since this type of relationship is all over the Internet, airwaves – Radio and TV and newspapers, that you have been hearing and reading about them and are obsessed by them?
    Your nurturing may have something to do with this. What occurred then and at such a young age to cause you to have feelings for women?
    I do believe that you are in need of psychiatric assessment and counseling. You are mortally (morally) and spiritually sick. Most importantly, you need the blessing and grace of God. You cannot obtain them unless you practice the faith and are sincere about it. God knows the heart and He cannot be deceived.
    Since you have such a feeling towards the female gender, it may be that either you ceased practicing the faith you were baptized in, if you were baptized and brought up in it or that you were never brought up in a faith. You are lacking godliness. Keep in mind, the sins of the father follow the children.
    Turn to God and give him his dues by worshipping him, praying to him and performing works of love in Jesus Name. He will lead you in the path of righteousness for His Name’s sake.
    The only help for the world, for you is Our Lord Jesus Christ. May He assist you to turn from your feelings towards the same sex and change for this will never make you happy, the type of happiness which Our Lord expects of you and wants for you.
    Only Jesus heals! Life in Jesus! Live in Jesus and with him. He will change, make you a happy and peaceful person and able to enjoy life to the fullest.
    Our Lord Jesus Christ said: John 10:10 – “I have come that they may have life and have it to the full.”

    • Anonymous
      November 30, 2012

      Way pappa Justice and Truth..you late on that one….but you should not try to make others as naieve as you are..a damme big man like you you a a bit to hypocrite, and please don’t do spell check for me I don’t care…it is time for DNO to bring back the T..up…T..down, you are a little bit to holy and not practicing what you preach..don’t serve two masters…..sot….you and your documentaries…

    • nubian
      December 10, 2012

      omg.. truth and justice!!! ur responses are TOO LONG!! EVERY ARTICLE UR RESPONSE LONGER THAN THE ATRICLE ITSELF! CHUPES!

  9. Red Pen
    November 28, 2012

    this advice column is horrible…ok sure…it isn’t for professional help…but this basically said…go ask someone else not me.

  10. Anonymous
    November 28, 2012

    Honestly speaking… these days sex is a little bit too over rated…soon the act of sex will be nothing more than a hand shake….We seem to turn Sex into something dirty….the ones having it, say it is sooooo good, the ones not having it, say it is so wrong….thank God that the next generation is a bit more knowledgeable than those of us from the yester years…who kept every thing in silence…thank God for the World Wide Web….now we can put our little roro out there and allow the critics to give their opinion may it be bias or other wise…..what can I say I tried a girl and it was not BAD ONE BIT…I LIKED IT…girl do you…..you’ll be fine…they say try every thing in life one….

  11. brack
    November 28, 2012

    you should pray on that and got will help you out ,
    at the end of the day it all come right back to you

  12. mr mayo
    November 28, 2012

    In all of Gods Creation, the only creatures that want same sex relations is man. LOok at how far we have fallen. Even Dogs, Chickens, and fish doing it right.. and we so depraved.. Young lady, focus on your school work.. Focus on God.. and stop paying attention to this highly sexualised world cultures..

    dont let the filth going on in this world corrupt you. Do whats right.. (I am sure you know what the right is but u trying to rationalise it.

  13. ja
    November 28, 2012

    Bella best advice! Keep up the good work.

  14. Rooster or Hen
    November 27, 2012

    suggestion. Try an anaconda you’ll either turn or stay where you are heading lol!

    • James
      December 4, 2012

      lol

  15. Pat
    November 27, 2012

    If you are happy as a bi-sexual, then your problem is solved! Nothing is Abnormal with being bi-sexual!

    Enjoy both sexes and call it George…and Jane!

  16. November 27, 2012

    You shall not lie with a man as with a woman; it is an abomination. Liviticus 18-22

    • Rev. Donald Hill
      February 11, 2013

      It is impossible to improve upon the Word of God. Those who have decided they are going to live as they please regardless of what God says mock this scripture by pointing out that the Old Testament law also says not to eat any animal that does not chew the cud and divide the hoof and not to eat any fish that does not have fins and scales. Their arguments shows the ignorance in which they live. When the Apostle Paul was addressing the issue of homosexuality he wrote “… their foolish heart was darkened. … … And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind,…” (Romans 1:21-28) The fact is the Old Testament law contained many rules that applied only to the Nation of Israel such as the thoseforbidding cetai meats and types of dress. This law ended at the cross. Anybody with even a basic knowledge of the New Testament knows this. However, the commandments that reflected the character and holiness of God – sometimes referred to as the “moral law” – were carried over into the New Testament and are – as they have always been – binding on the entire human race. The scripture you have quoted from Leviticus is one of these. The New Testament cleary forbids homosexuality. People only need to read Romans 1:21-32, and 1Corinthians 6:9-10) The New Testament clearly shows what the destiny will be of those who areguilty of this sin if they do not repent in Jude vs. 7. So, friend of God, a signifcant number of people agree with you! Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist. http://www.livinghopeministries.a

  17. Anonymous
    November 27, 2012

    Girl nothing is wrong with that…..do your thing and let those IN hiding keep on hiding, the guys want to join in, the girls want to be JUST like you…. JALOX THEY JALOX……….HMMMMMM………

    • avery
      December 6, 2012

      lololololol

  18. November 27, 2012

    its ur life my girl n do wt mkz u happy dont let no one brin ur down on ur decision

  19. UDOHREADYET
    November 27, 2012

    You’re a woman and you like other women. If you like men too then date a man that will allow you to bring other women into allu relationship or vice versa. The only other option is to lie to and deceive yourself and others about your true feelings. Be real, YOUDOHREADYET

    • August 19, 2014

      You are like a traveller with no map and a sailor with no compass. Somebody with no knowledge of right and wrong, and no understanding of the difference between he two. I hope you are not raising children.

      There are others like you out there. Most of them are too ashamed to let people know how ignorant and confused they are so they keep quiet. But you have a REAL problem.

      Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. International Evangelist.

  20. Francis Chicago
    November 27, 2012

    My advice to you flee from sexual immorality you need to repent you got Jezebel spirit for you were bought at a price:therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God.those who live according to the flesh set their mind on things of the flesh.To be carnally minded is death, but to be spiritually minded is life and peace.

  21. Anonymous
    November 27, 2012

    sorry but i read that letter on bella already is bella trying to tell us she is bi………….pls DNO bring back the ghost stories cause when is not i fell for kfc is i love both male and female

    • G
      November 27, 2012

      When did you read it? Why, someone have the same problem?

    • November 27, 2012

      @Anonymous

      You have partly spoken my sentiment. This column is nothing but boredom–we continue to have the same kinds of stories and the same kinds of people like Francis Chicago and myself saying the same things over again. That is why most of the time I do not even open the page to read the complete story.

      I mean since she was 9. What is a girl, of 9 years old, doing with sexual desire in her mind and body? How can we not believe that the younger our generation, the further away they are from the perfection Jesus died that we might have—and yet we are all over the place claiming to be Christians. But that too is in prophecy.

      That is why Jesus tells us that His return will be just like the people in the Days of Noah. Those people were so sinful and wicked, God even said that He sorry He had created man. Right after He said that He sent a flood that destroyed every form of Life, except that gang which entered the Ark.

      The human mind is just appalling–in all stages of Life today—God alone can put that mind into control or to allow its possessor to be destroyed—but no one is concerned or afraid—so help us Lord!

      Anyway, I do not care too much about the ghost stories either; I may have read one or two of them, I did not go past that–it is the same 6 here and half a dozen there. But that also, is what they audience want. Anything to do with God, who is Life in them, they either keep silent, or those who speak only speak two or three words, if not words of blasphemy—Good heavens!

    • Junjay
      November 28, 2012

      I agree with you. I love and enjoy the ghost stories. Bring them back. By now the writers should have quite a number available since last published last year. HURRY UP PLEASE!

      • Ghost story writer
        January 12, 2013

        Ha Ha decided to take a break from it to allow the people who said they sucked to come up with something better…but since it has been a whole year and nothing yet..I will come up with something soon

  22. Anonymous
    November 27, 2012

    There is a serious conflict of the young lady’s sexual preference and societal beliefs. The struggle is about acceptance of society. At the end of the day the young lady has herself to contend with. She needs reassurance that its all about her comfortableness of her preferred sexual preference. No one can impose this on another person. I can guarantee her that if she was in Europe, this would be a matter of non consequence. Love yourself first and be happy about your choices.

  23. Anonymous
    November 27, 2012

    the matter has already been dealt with sodom and gomorra is a testament to all who wishes to adopt them tendancies

  24. bandic00t
    November 27, 2012

    I think that everyone should just do as they please and do not talk about it. I mean even if you get the correct advice you would still take care of business.. Tired of hearing people saying they are attracted to the same gender, please keep it to yourself and have a nice day.
    -trol

  25. Canadian
    November 27, 2012

    Dear Concerned,

    I say do not worry so much about that right now…you’ll find out who you are eventually; whether that be straight, bi or gay. Do not limit yourself to what society expects and wants of you. Do not frustrate yourself into thinking that who you are is not normal or what you like is abnormal.

    I say let you belief in your God or higher power guide you. Just remember that God created you, he, she..all of us. In the end, whatever you choose to be – you are created in his own image and likeness.

    Do not be confined to any labels which some ppl here may throw at you – just bear in mind that at the end of the day – all sin is sin..and we are all God’s people: GAY, BI, STRAIGHT, TRANSGENEDERED TRANSEXUAL…we are all HUMANS AND PEOPLE

    • mr mayo
      November 28, 2012

      yea so u call it sin… and all sin is sin ??…. so let the sinners sin??
      let the thief steal
      let the liars lie
      let the girl be bi
      geez what is wrong with you
      Honey we are all Gods creation… but Gods people live to please Him.. chew on that for a little

      • avery
        December 6, 2012

        well said !!!!!!!!

      • December 7, 2015

        What you are saying is that it is O.K. for people to remain the way they are: fallen, broken, and degraded!

        Why does the Bible tell us to repent :?: Jesus said ”Except ye repent ye shall all likewise perish.”

        Sinners who do not repent (change their mind and turn around) face the following problems.

        (1) Their behavior becomes worse so their guilt multiplies.

        (2) The bad effect their sins have upon them mentally, physically, and socially becomes worse.
        They continue to hurt themselves until they are at a place from which they may not be able to return: a place of complete ruin.

        (3) By their bad example they lead others astray. Others pick up their sinful habits, and take on their lifestyle. Unfortunately, weaker people who are easily influenced may follow them to the pit.

        None of this is necessary. There is a Savior waiting to forgive, cleanse, and deliver them. All they have to do repent, and receive Him by faith.

        Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill…

  26. Think About It
    November 27, 2012

    Woman please leave us alone, your little furry magnet is yours do what the hell you want to do with it for when it get damage you alone will suffer the consequences go away already.

    • Rooster or Hen
      November 27, 2012

      The little furry magnet,don’t know what charge it has, negative or positive.I suspect it is neutral anything will do.
      Maybe the spring broke! lol up bulb lights ,down light on hahahahaaha.

  27. ku ku loose soo soon
    November 27, 2012

    I have been following the writings of ROSEAU VALLEY for soe tie now. Such a writer has confused me alot. Clearly your skill in writing reduces Shakespeare into rubblic dusty entrails. I am very happy that you have confessed so boldly about your sexuality. Sir/Miss ( I suspect which one nuh ?) that you are who you say you are. I have just made some calls to the VALLEY and we are zeroing on identity issues. The be-spectacled factor and obvious intelligence and contractual huntings maybe a useful starting point of discovery and off course some loving for the political.
    I am also BISEXUAL. I AM PROUD OF IT. If I decide to go to bed with RONALDIA that will be my choice and hers. My sojourn in Bardados did opened my mind alot and so did my English experiences.

    LOVE DOES NOT DISCRIIMINATE

    YOUR RESPECTFULLY
    HUGE
    FAN
    OF
    THE
    SIAMESE TWINNED ROSEAU VALLEY

    • Tut-Tut
      November 27, 2012

      Why is it important to know the identity of Roseau Valley? what is this zeroing on the person about esp where his/her political slant is? Does that mean they will be firebombed, raped, murdered? You people are so sick, shallow and downright low!

      • August 6, 2014

        You are addressing a person who has a need to feel in control. This is why thy want you to know they are already investigating Roseau Valley’s identity, and will soon be on top of it.

        What kind of person needs to feel in control? Somebody who is insecure!

        Who is insecure? A person who is struggling with a sin issue but wants people to think he or she is O.K. with it. (Obviously, they are not.)

        Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. International Evangelist.

  28. mouth of the south
    November 27, 2012

    hhhhmmmm first you must stop listening to Nicki Minaj and Rihanna… get some Sade music in your ipod or b.b….

    Then u need to go to a priest for some instructions…

    u must say 5 hail mary’s in the morning… then go outside.. take some sand in ur left hand then blow it… pass to your right hand and do the sign of the cross…

    then 2 hours after pray to the saints…

    i think it works but the priest have the full remedy…

    • bigmack
      November 27, 2012

      stupes

    • Anonymous
      November 27, 2012

      What in gods name are you asking the young child to do. Your insane beyond highest levels

    • August 6, 2013

      ki dyab priest …. priest that commiting more sin u comin n talk about priest tell them live those lil boys alone

  29. ROSEAU VALLEY
    November 27, 2012

    I dont normally write on such SEXY ISSUES but I think its my duty to do so.
    I believe that Dominica is rightfully becoming ore sexually mature and persons do recognise the need to respect and accept others who seem different. Me for my part have absolutely no problem socialising privately or othetwise with BISEXUALs.

    I am also not HOMOPHOBIC.These persons are the creation of God and we must not be bias or prejudicial against them. WE all have that right to LOVE whosoever we wish and be loved by whosoever wants or needs us !

    I know after this article persons will begin to ascribe quite a lot of labels at me. However I am what or who I am. I hold no apologies for the way that I feel. My heart is fearless and loving. Why must I be apologetic above the LOVE that I feel ?

    Its time DOMINICANS wake up. I was taken to task for congratulating Ramond Lawrence and I find this to be objectionable and thoroghly distasteful indeed. What is WAITUKUBULI coming to ? Apres bondieu nous say Dominicain !
    Its my hope that we as a nation come together and do what jesus did. He didnt discrimminate against anyone. I do have feeling for ALL persons irrespective of their gender,sexual or otherwise. WE must not escape from this reality. The world must not be allowed to leave DA behind. Some of us are hiding behind women and or men to mask our sexual truism but not me. I wish that I could be a little more open as is the case in Barbados , England and throughout most of Europe and America.

    My be-spectacled imagery wont hide the fact that I do have very deep and profound feelings for many persons and never will I be blinded by this biological fact.

    Yours Faithfully
    The only original ROSEAU VALLEY

    • Rooster or Hen
      November 27, 2012

      socializing in Private! Valley give us a break.
      This statement nails it you are living on the other side of the globe/world meeaning you are too.It’s clear to all and sundry. No ifs buts(Butts too hahaaha!)nor maybes.

    • mr mayo
      November 28, 2012

      Jesus never discriminated against anyone… true…
      after he met every sinner.. he said now Go and sin no more.

      Humanity is getting more sick by the day. and here we are saving whales and trees… when we are really the ones that need saving and we dont even see it. smh

  30. suki suki
    November 27, 2012

    I don’t see nothing wrong with that, She is young and she will grow out of it,I did…Seriously, I was like that when I was young and then I met this guy, he did not know I love both men and women, but after a few months into a year I changed. I did tell him. he did not label me or leave me, But I changed and Now we are married with kids… so give the young lady a break… maybe she grew up with only boys, that is how I started.. She will grow out of it..

  31. Anonymous
    November 27, 2012

    I have always thought that, Ignorance is a desease, and by your comments, about this individual, confirms your state of mind. This individual is looking for help, and has openly expressed and presented herself, not only to Dominicans, but to the rest of the World, since her concerns was shared over the Internet. At least she is asking for help, but I suppose even help is being descriminated in the great Nature, Nature! Island, like most of us hypocritically, and ignorantly expresses it. She needs help, and I hope she finds it! Your ignorant thoughts are of no value to her, and by the way, I am happily married, with two children. I wonder about how ignorant my people are most times, the nature Island seems to have more sense than the people itself! God please help this individual in need! through your son Jesus Christ,I pray! Amen.

    • Think About It
      November 27, 2012

      Can I correct you for a minute the word is “disease” not being malice in any way. Good day buddy.

      • Ebeh
        December 22, 2012

        “malicious” :lol: :-D

    • Tut-Tut
      November 28, 2012

      ALl that ranting about others ignorance yet in your blind ignorance you are yet to give her a worthy piece of advice. Maybe you should take your coffee with less cream i.e think with more clarity.

  32. (.) (.)
    November 27, 2012

    You are just bisexual young lady and that’s it. And, if you think you are liking girls more, maybe later on in life you might just end up becoming a lesbian

  33. suga & spice
    November 27, 2012

    Looool ii doh want to laugh yu kno but lol my girl jus take it easy n relax if yu say yu are more attractive to women more than men go n put yourself with a woman n give up on men or leave them alone don’t be bi-sexual but remember homosexuality is a sin you’re a woman yu were made for a man! But eventually its all up to yu. We’re the same age I’m 18 as well n when ii was younger ii used to do the same thing yu used to do because ii was a child back then but now I’m matured n now ii know what ii really want in my life positively..but like ii said it all up to yu sweedy!!

  34. Real Dominican Diva
    November 27, 2012

    I cannot tell whether Bella making up these stories or the country really come like that. Either way Stop being nasty!

    • AcraSpeed
      November 27, 2012

      you may be right, but i think the internet is just a safe place to be bisexual or homosexual without being identified and ridiculed in the real world. probably a small percentage of dominicans are bi or homosexual, but within that percentage a lot of people express themselves online. ..cuz you cannot keep those things inside its stressful i would imagine

    • G
      November 27, 2012

      This happens world wide, why you shock. Come on people, get with the times.

  35. Riddim Up !!!
    November 27, 2012

    nasty business….

  36. Yesa!!
    November 27, 2012

    allu young girls doe easy dem days there papa!!!

  37. Annonymoustoyou
    November 27, 2012

    ADMIN DNO: That looking like a recycled letter wi pal. I sure if I had time to go in the archives I would get an almost identical letter…..NEXT!!!

  38. Anonymous
    November 27, 2012

    u need a good whipping to make ur mind up for you

    • Too hard too long
      November 27, 2012

      Why? Are you into S&M? She didn’t say she wants a beating. She said she likes both men and women. Address that!

    • August 6, 2014

      A good whipping? Good grief!

      This is not how we treat somebody with an orientation disorder.

      What is wrong with you people that you are not able to enter into a normal discussion? Does logic mean nothing to you? Do you not know how to be objective?

      A young man or young woman who is experiencing an attraction to the same gender should seek counseling as soon as possible before the feelings become too deeply entrenched and are harder to work with. Each time a feeling, impulse, or temptation is acted upon the deeper it is entrenched in the brain (mind). The older the individual is and the longer he or she has been practicing the vice the longer it takes to work through it.

      Not every social worker or psychologist can be trusted with sexual orientation cases. Some have issues of their own. Some take the position that same sex attraction even bi attraction is normal. Instead of beginning with the assumption that it is a sin they work on relieving the guilty feelings and try to help the client live with it. If you are using a secular counselor find one who is recommended by a hospital administrator, a nurse, or a pastor.

      Some evangelical pastors are trained in counseling and make it part of their ministry. Large churches sometimes have a counselor on staff. Usually they are not self employed. They are answerable to church authorities. This is called pastoral counseling. It is Bible based. Pastoral counseling is most effective when the client is attending the church on a regular basis because this way they have the added benefit of hearing the Sunday preaching from the pulpit. It is the total exposure to the Word of God that reaches into the subconscious mind and brings inner healing.

      Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. International Evangelist. Executive Director of Living Hope Ministries at http://www.livinghopeministries.ca

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