I am falling for a man I don’t even know

Dear BellaPlease help me. I am teenager and met a guy on the internet and at first I was infatuated with him.

But then, I think I started falling in love with him, that is having real feelings for him.and I want him with me. It is scaring me with how much I need him with me.

The problem is that he 22 and doesn’t know how I feel. To make matters worst he is not single and he says he sees me as a sister so I’m too scared to say otherwise.

I really think I am falling for this man I don’t even know… This is so wrong!

I’ve had a bad experience with a few other guys online but this one has always there for me.

What should I do. I can’t get him off my mind… It hurts… It hurts so much.

I cannot begin to explain the lengths I would go to to have this man as mine.

What I’m feeling is wrong, very wrong!

But I don’t want my feelings to change.

Please help me.

Confused Teenager

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Dear Confused Teenager,

You have not gotten over your infatuation with this guy as you might think. What you are feeling is just what all teenagers feel at this time of their lives. I don’t see any “love future” between a teenager and a guy who is 22 and is not single.

My advice is simple: Get out and do stuff. Live in the “real” world, get off the internet, expand your horizon. Hang out with your friends. Continue to meet different people. Live your life.

Here are some tips for overcoming infatuation:

1. Time can help you get over an infatuation. You need to explain yourself that the crush you have is temporary and you can definitely get over it! Give time to yourself.

2. Avoid thinking about the girl or boy you like. To deal with an attraction, you need to stop thinking about him/her. Concentrate on something else you like and keep yourself engaged in work so that you don’t get time to think. Free mind makes you think more!

3. If you have to face her everyday then you have to mentally explain yourself. Always think about your ego and dignity when your crush is near you. This will stop you from thinking about him/her.

4. If you have expressed your feeling but didn’t get a positive reply, don’t get depressed. Facing rejection is a part of life which you have to get over as early as possible! After getting the answer things should not become complicated. As you know the answer, you can console yourself.

5. Look around. Finding an alternative is an easy and common remedy to get over an infatuation.

6. See what you want. Ask yourself before if you need the girl/boy you like for sometime or for whole life. Infatuation can be physical or mental. Generally, a crush is physical and temporary. Stop imagining if you want to get over an infatuation.

Use these tips to get over an infatuation and make yourself strong!

Bella

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27 Comments

  1. West Coast Fan
    August 11, 2012

    Oh Lordy Miss Claudy. Jesusssssssss lend a hand

  2. marigot dog
    August 10, 2012

    hahaahha go learn to read u fool

    • December 28, 2012

      marigot dog shut up

  3. UDOHREADYET
    August 9, 2012

    chil what you have is a disease many Dominicans suffer from called ‘Sotness’ There are 2 cures either you can consider yourself ‘Sot’ declaring the disease normal to you. Or you can close your legs and mouth while opening your mind. UDOHREADYET!

  4. wiseup
    August 9, 2012

    girl go and study your books eh with your par-wall sort u talking there…

  5. August 8, 2012

    dat story fake

    • ccd
      October 19, 2012

      i think you are right as most people lie talking face to face far less for if you cannot see the person. By the way how can you fall in love with someone that you haven’t met face to face.

  6. Tom
    August 8, 2012

    Stupes, i fed up with those stories der.

    • trolol
      August 8, 2012

      You want a story about a dragon son?

  7. EMPRESS
    August 8, 2012

    STUPES……

  8. Blessed
    August 8, 2012

    Sweetie I’m ma need you to stay away from online chat rooms and spend time with your friends/family. Watch the tv show “to catch a preditor”. Read a book educate yourself about online dating and dating in general. I could be wrong but you seem very young like in your early teens. Don’t fall for the internet loves…MOST of them end up badly.

  9. Possibilities
    August 7, 2012

    I too have been in a similar situation when I was 19 where i fell in love with someone online before i actually met them and it was quite surprising to me. Cause I never though that i could ever get to like someone so much whithout ever meeting them. But the difference he was single and though I did not know him I knew his family and we are together almost four years now. He visited me and I visited him and we made it work. However,it is a very risky thing because there are alot of scams going on. the person could be one who is very dangerous or one who is very genuine. But given that he has a girlfriend and sees you as not only a close friend but a sister then despite how you feel about this person then you should try not to interfere with the relationship that he has with his girlfriend. However, given that you’ll will continue keeping in contact with each other he surely will continue being nice too you and you will continue to want him to be yours even more. So you should tell him how you feel and what brought about such deep feelings and discuss it with each other. But the internet is a place when one needs to be very carefull and ask God for his guidance.

    • jerseydominican
      August 9, 2012

      thx that was the best comment to the young lady you gave something to think of

    • Forever Amber
      September 29, 2014

      Good advice, but it is impossible to FALL IN LOVE with someone you can only imagine. It is called INFATUATION, which can grow into real love later. So, let’s be more realistic about our feelings, please.

  10. him
    August 7, 2012

    Be ;careful! Be careful ! Be careful !
    That’s all i have to tell you! Bye!

  11. april
    August 7, 2012

    My dear friend give it up to god get down on your knees and pray god bless u and i will have u in my prays

  12. yes I
    August 7, 2012

    Lady there are alot of Scammers out there.

    I can never forget couple months ago i getting a request, but is Skype. Talking to the guy, i end up falling in love with the guy, next thing i know is some crime wii the guy wanted to do and he wanted help from someone from a foreign country.

    My pressure shoot up, i ran for my life. Please be careful in meeting people you don’t know. They may be up to something and you dead innocent!!!

  13. SXM DIVA
    August 7, 2012

    Sot ou Sot salop go read your book and get a job. he is as jobless as you are so he has time for the net to chat crap. u better go and get productive and stop wasting your time , he maight be a cripple or a serial killer looking for your brains to make stew. child go get a job. i beg u in jesus name and stopo wasting your on internet. read a book

    • trolol
      August 8, 2012

      I don’t think Jesus ever called anyone salop, quite a nasty word to use. Isn’t it? But still good point.

  14. Anonymous
    August 7, 2012

    You need to know that there are a lot of people posing on the internet as a different person to who they really are, so be careful. Also he is telling you plainly he does not have feelings for you by seeing you as a sister. So get over it!

  15. cece
    August 7, 2012

    Don’t forget my dear people hide behind the internet to do all sorts of malicious things….be careful…
    also what you think is love now could be infatuation.Give it some time and see how you feel.

  16. August 7, 2012

    Be careful who you chat with on the net. Peole are being warned daily with people that they think they meeting on the net. It is a screen that you cannot see through. How can you be in love with someone you do not know and have not met. I can say I am twenty and I maybe even fifty or more. Be careful. Get a grip and as the previous writer said get a book. Go to the park or the river and chill yourself. Be careful for there are predators on the net waiting like vouchers just waiting for the vulnerables.

  17. Another UWP Clown
    August 7, 2012

    Get off Facebook, go read a book, run, swin…take part in the olympics…

  18. ...
    August 7, 2012

    its probably a 50-year old obese alcoholic pretending to be a 22 year old anyway

    :lol:

  19. Secretary
    August 7, 2012

    How old are you, anyway?….. You said “teenager” but not your actual age…… why I’m asking is because 18, 19 versus 13, 14 makes a difference with your issue……….. If you are 13 – 17 FORGET ABOUT HIM…….. if you are 18 -19, well try and maintain your friendship, as much as it may hurt, cuz u may be able to learn from him re relationships………. and YES get out, hang with your friends and find fun things to do other than spending so much time on the internet!

  20. Straight wood
    August 7, 2012

    cackie u go get take it and run way

  21. Quasimodo
    August 7, 2012

    *rolls eyes*

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