I have always dated guys that are younger than me or the exact same age.
Like many of the women out there I have gotten hurt by a man. I said to myself that I won’t ever be able to love so deeply and trust anyone again. I guess I was wrong.
About a year and a month ago I started talking to this man who is about seven years my senior ( I am 27). We became friends and would talk to each other via Blackberry all day. Slowly but surely my feelings for this guy keep growing. For some reason I believe everything that comes from his mouth.
The thing is I live in the United States and he is back home in Dominica. I know that I love this guy and I am definitely falling in love with him. We see each other via Skype, we tell each other ‘I love you,’ we trust each other, we have told each other that we are not single.
I am planning on visiting him sometime this year. However we are totally different from each other, he loves going out with his friends and I am more the home buddy. He is reserved and I have more of a crazy side to me. I guess I write all this to get your input on things.
Do you think we should continue our relationship and see what happens? what do you think?
Dear Need Answers
This seems like two people falling in love and who can eventually work out their differences but my big concern is the fact that you mention that you two tell each other that you both are not single.
And that is where it gets sticky.
If you two are not single but are falling in love with each other, then somewhere down the line someone is going to get hurt. Either your partner or the guy’s partner is going to find about what is going on and this is where the fireworks will begin.
I encourage you to look at your present relationship and also to encourage the guy to look at his own. You two cannot just go falling in love with each other when the two of you are still involved with someone else. It is a recipe for disaster.
If things are not working in both your present relationships, then both of you can get out and then start anew. But to start a relationship when you are already in one, is not a good thing.
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