I am tired of being called a ‘minuteman’

I am a 22-year-old young man and I have a serious problem with my sex life.

I have been suffering from premature ejaculation for a few years and its driving me crazy. I have tried pills and it doesn’t work. My future do not look bright with women and a relationship. I don’t know where to turn anymore and I am tired of being called a ‘minuteman.’

Please help

Young man

Dear Young Man,

It takes a lot of courage to mention your condition as most men would be embarrased to talk about it. This despite the fact that research has shown that premature ejaculation affects 25%-40% of men and most men experience premature ejaculation at least once in their lives.

Hence you are not unique and you should not feel abnormal or feel that something is wrong with you. Quite the contrary, you are not alone in this affliction.

My best bet is to pay a visit to a sex therapist. Additionally there are many way in controlling this affliction. You can try the Masters and Johnson Method (Google it. Space restrictions doesn’t allow me to go in details) or you  could try drugs such as Dapoxetine (not sure if it available in Dominica)

Bottom line, this is not the end of your sex life. Your condition is treatable. All that is needed is some hard work and a little patience.

Bella

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102 Comments

  1. Eat It First
    September 7, 2011

    I can think of a good reason why you cum so quick. Your girl may be too tight in which case you should finger her a lot during foreplay until she cums. That will open the pussy a bit. And now the most important thing you can do after she cums is to eat the sweet tight pussy while it is nice and wet with her delicious juices. You must eat her very nice and slow, no hurry whatsoever. The pussy is there for you, no need to rush. Be very gentle while you have the pussy in your mouth. A pussy is a very delicate and delicious sexual organ. Take your time and suck it really sweet. Eat it until she cums in your mouth and swallow her juice. This should be so sweet that you may want to eat her all night. Go on eating for as long as you want and make her cum in your mouth over and over again.

    Two good things will happen as a result of that intense lovemaking. (1) She will be fully satisfied having cum numerous times in your mouth, and (2) You will have maintained your cockstand for a very long time. That will boost your confidence knowing that you can stay hard for long periods.

    Now with the sweet meat naked and bare before you, you are now ready to enter her with a nice hard prick that has been kept hard for a good long time. The pussy will be nicely lubricated at this point in time having cum numerous times and now is the time to penetrate her.

    By this time, when you put your cock inside her, you will be in seventh heaven, and she will love you forever

  2. J0jo
    August 20, 2011

    Padna u must learn to change possitions every now and then…dont be scared just turn her around ..she will love it …and when its getting to sweet, turn her again…pull out ur dick and squeez the head hard …always works for me …quit looking at ur dick go in and out ..that makes u cum faster ..dont always jam hard all the damn time….pust it deep and wine slowly REMEMBER dont do this for to long ..just keep changing and ceating ur own moves…if the puss gets too wet ..wipe it dry or just pull out ur dick and lick ..man if i keep writing people gonna say i sick ..lol ..i should stop now

  3. sigh
    August 8, 2011

    i recall a few yrs ago as d guy entered he cum..i thought the guy was fixing the condom, but he was really taking it off because he cum..honestly i was disappointed eh because unlike him, i didnt cum..sigh

  4. dont worry
    August 7, 2011

    Man Don’t worry about the woman as long as you break your water you are Good,that’s why you are having sex in the first place. To Cum..

  5. Straight Wood
    August 5, 2011

    well my partner just practice not to cum soon try to gain control of yourself…. get a good spanish friend explain to her and she can help you any way she can.

  6. Richard
    August 4, 2011

    your not alone

  7. SWOOH
    August 3, 2011

    I THINK YOU SHOULD TRY TO SEEK MEDICAL ATTENTION

  8. Glasses and all
    August 2, 2011

    Honestly, Practice. Though it may be a conflict with some religions but masturbate till you have extended episodes. when that phase is overcome, you will know based on how long your masturbation episode is. whenever you know that you are about to have sex, in your case, masturbate before to eliminate all “pre ejaculation”. Then try one time without doing so to see the results. Gradual process

  9. Juicy Fruit
    July 29, 2011

    My boi you mus kool out….Drink a hot bread and cocoa tea…then give them what coming for them..or put a plaster on your tolee you wudnt ejaculate…it’s scientifically proven

    • TeteMorne I From...
      July 31, 2011

      :lol:

    • Glasses and all
      August 2, 2011

      WTMA LOLLL!

  10. Paradoxx
    July 29, 2011

    WOW

  11. N!X
    July 29, 2011

    You 2 young; Stop weezaying your tolee.

  12. Truth,Love,Peace
    July 29, 2011

    There are reasons for his problems. Yes, he needs to see a sex therapist. He may also need to see a psychiatrist; not that he is mad but that he may have a nervous tendency including eagerness. The latter may have stemmed from youth and also when he commenced having relationships with women. You know, getting it over and done with as fast as possible. This could have dominated his mind. Think about that.
    The psychiatrist of all may quiz him about his childhood years and the growing-up stage and what transpired previously in his life.
    As Bella stated, it is curable. Therefore he should see those doctors. Pills may not help. Be careful about taking pills.
    Young man, as Bella also said you are not the only one in the world to suffer from this. Calm your fears and anxiety. Relax! Examine your overall demeanor. Ever thought about what you eat as well? What is your nutrition like? This could play a part as well. Ever thought of it? A nutritionist could assist you accordingly.
    The thought has crossed my mind. I hope you do not take illegal drugs. This could cause your problem one way or the other.
    Do not waste your time with any and every woman and all sorts of them. Find yourself a nice lady/woman, someone whom you could fall in love with and she with you whom you could marry sometime in the future. I wish you well.

  13. Anonymous
    July 29, 2011

    My boy u havent try China Brush…. IT WORKS
    U GET IT IN US

  14. havess
    July 29, 2011

    bella, I just want to say that for a counselor your skills are impaired. In a situation like this alternative medical solution would be the preferred approach since we are all cognizant of the horrors attributed to taking pills especially for stimulating the male libido. I’m not a counselor or therapist but traditional medical practices like acupuncture can help, shen jen qui wan can also prolong intercourse. It is a Chinese medical herb, aids in concentration and increases serotonin level. Serotonin is actively involved in intercourse. You can find useful information online however in Dominica just go see Dr. Tony at the Chinese medical center, explain your situation and he’ll help you out.

  15. Mad
    July 29, 2011

    But Bella u crazy or what. how u can suggest pills to the young man, do you pre mature ejaculation can be caused by a heart condition.

    • TeteMorne I From...
      July 31, 2011

      Nothing is wrong with the fella. He is just an immature, unprepared little boy who needs to MATURE a lttle. He is just to eager, too nervous, too excited, too unprepared.

      • Straight Wood
        August 5, 2011

        true

  16. amoy
    July 29, 2011

    Boy, is not the size of the ship, is the motion of the ocean.

    Just take some hot dogs, band dem around your peewee and you’ll have size. Errr. This one is for the woman who say de man small fing killing her.

  17. Dr. Finger
    July 29, 2011

    Garson take your time and stop behaving like every sexual encounter is running. Take your time, make love to the woman (if you are straight) and hit it when you are ready. Slow the paste. Everytime you feel “it” cuming stop and take a break then stat again. Some positions will make you come faster than others. Refrain from those positions. Finally, train your mind to think of something else like cooking food. That will break the cum cycle and give the woman more time to enjoy the rod of moses you are allowing her to have.

    Please give me an update in three weeks, four days, 5 hrs and two minutes of how my advise working.

    • Jean Dominique
      July 29, 2011

      Lmao lol lol……yes i….

    • Truth,Love,Peace
      July 29, 2011

      @ Dr. Finger

      “Slow the pace!” “Your advice.” Doctor?
      Not bad advice anyway.

    • Empress D-vine
      July 29, 2011

      i like that one!!

    • TeteMorne I From...
      July 31, 2011

      Or just use his FINGER. Pun intended. LOL

  18. Mane
    July 29, 2011

    Bella is crazy, and i think she is doing more harm than good. How can you tell the man to go and try drugs such as Dapoxetine. These are prescription drugs. you nuts Bella!

  19. Anonymous
    July 29, 2011

    Papamet…Dominique ne docteur……

    We all know that this is not a laughing matter…but some of the responses we have to laugh……guess we should learn to take the good with the bad…..

    • Ice
      July 29, 2011

      Yes wi and you notice all the expert advice
      minute man getting

  20. Dee
    July 29, 2011

    look up kama sutra and study the art of love making…. its more than just a physical act. im sure once you learn your bodies rhythm with the help of kama sutra you will no longer be a minute .

  21. anonymous
    July 28, 2011

    SHOW PUSINA’S COMMENTS D.N.O.

    • pusina
      August 2, 2011

      I know..Thanks Puss. Thanks for your support.. keep the support coming. Pussina is what is keeping this medium Hot and interesting. Love u Anonymous..

  22. namich2008
    July 28, 2011

    Bella and DNO

    I need you all to clarify a few things to me in regards to your stories.

    I am aware that your columns are targeting members of the Caribbean community and even further abroad, and that these stories are not necessarily from Dominicans… why are these columns copied from one website to another. This exact column is on bvinews.com as we speak.
    http://bvinews.com/bvi/i-am-tired-of-being-called-a-minuteman/

    Many people on DNO offer advice under the assumption that a fellow Dominican needs that advice. And though I am certain that many fellow D/can do not mind imparting advice to their fellow neighbors on other islands, many of us would prefer if you hinted just that.

    Finding the exact column on another partner’s website with a totally different set of responses than what is posted by posters of DNO tells me that these stories are there to evoke traffic on you all site and not there to genuinely help whomever may have posted it…if it was posted at all by these 22yr old individual.

    ADMIN: Bvinews.com and DNO are part of the same company and we email from other Caribbean countries. Believe it or not, DNO is widely read throughout the Caribbean.

    • Truth,Love,Peace
      July 29, 2011

      @ Namich 2008

      Whether this problem did not originate from a Dominican, it is a universal column which some men can identify with. People have one impediment or the other.
      If you are well-read and listen to some stories, there are some women who also have a similar problem.

      • Sweet pum pum
        July 31, 2011

        And all that time people are busy criticizing Dominicans. Dominican men this and Dominican women that wow just plain wow smdh All that time we getting blame for other people and being labelled :mrgreen:

    • Sweet pum pum
      July 31, 2011

      Thanks namich2008 for throwing light on this not that we Dominicans are perfect, but (sarcasm) what a relief knowing that the rest of the world and/or caribbean islands ISN’T PERFECT

    • pusina
      August 2, 2011

      Puss so long I call DNO and the ADMIN out for that plagiarism of BELLA column.. ADMIN recourse is to delete my messages with no proper justification as to the removal of my messages knowing that PUSINA shining the light on de bawbalism they are putting forth on the Minds of DA people. Puss if you all don’t want to get caught in the act of lying just make the site accessible to folk in DA along so it can continue along its communist reign. Whossss my lawyer on standby if I need to serve a few people with lawyer paper or sue whosssssssss…

      It’s ok to lie and fake the masses but come on ADMIN you all may fool those folks in Dominica so they can think what is being disseminated by you all so call experts is the gospel truth. No one taking away from your contributions etc but its time to allow freedom of speech or realism of things/matters brought forth by the dissemination forum that you all host. When put in the public eye as it relates to dissemination of information or just being a public figure one should be open to criticism weather its constructive or not as a means of each ones thoughts

  23. dreadlocks
    July 28, 2011

    have u heard of HERBALIFE products dats d company dat sponsors d L A GALAXY football club for which BECKAM plays their products r very healthy no drugs check out their website

  24. MercyMe
    July 28, 2011

    Dude, from a purely animal behavior standpoint, you are doing what comes naturally…a fast hump followed by a rapid fire. However, you are a civilized male member of the human species so much more is expected of you during your love making experience with your partner. Dropping a quick load may be perfectly fine for a sheep, cow or rabbit but is a potential relationship breaker for you. Do some research about concepts such as intimacy, passion, foreplay and most important of all, communication. You obviously have no problem with your level of passion. However you definitely need to balance all areas of your love making. If you really want to overcome your problem you will have to work at it diligently. Results will come but not overnight…..All the best to you and your lady.

  25. Brain Damage
    July 28, 2011

    Eat your oats regularly, my brother…the old-fashioned type, the one granny does soak before she cook it. Trust me, I know what I’m saying to you. Lunch time, eat some white fish broth and chase that with some anisette every now and then. enough of the rice and pasta, u killing your system. Herbal tea, no sugar to cleanse your blood. And never, NEVER forget your cod liver oil, one tablespoon every morning…take my advice as a man, natural vibes is de best! Long life, brethren!

  26. KEEPING IT REAL
    July 28, 2011

    People, try to be Honest with the young man. If you all do not have proper experience in that area don’t feel that you must comment. Those who have good serious advice should give it.

    Just a few questions to begin with.
    1. If a manufacturer makes something and gives a use manual, don’t you u think it is in the user’s best interest to follow the instructions to the t in order to get the best use and longevity of the product?

    2. If for some reason due to wrong use the product starts to malfunction, don’t u think that the best course of action is to stop the misuse rather than continuing to misuse it and hope that the malfunction will be reverse?

    I think only someone with a hidden agenda will go against commonsense and not answer YES to both questions.

    Young man you may well be experiencing both a “hardware and software” challenge.

    Improper exposure to sex and all the misinformation that is around on sex could well be the cause of what you are experiencing.

    You CAN NOT IMPROVE SOMETHING THAT IS PERFECT. Go to your owner’s manual. Start with the basic.

    For human beings intercourse is not just for reproduction, or self satisfaction, but is designed most of all to be the highest expression of demonstrating true “unconditional” love to someone on the opposite gender in a lifelong commitment of a covenant (namely “marriage”) By the way marriage is not to be a contract but a covenant.

    For starters: As some people have rightly commented, one of the reason for your challenge is over excitement (meaning: Self-centeredness/selfishness focusing on yourself more that on your spouse)

    You need to get to the basics consult the owner’s manual.

    If it makes sense to you that: if you design something and know all that is to know about it including how it will respond in any situation in the present or future then you are the best authority on it and you would knows how best to get the most of it. It only makes sense to me then to check in with your Designer to get His take on the principles that should govern your life (not anyone’s opinions which does not lineup with your designer) not just on that issue but on everything in and about your life then and only then you can truly live and ENJOY life.

    Get to the

    Basics
    Instructions
    Before
    Leaving
    Earth

    Yap going you the owners manual the BIBLE you cannot go wrong you will only get your life better.

    someone may reply to my comment to you on the subject maybe encouraging you not to pay attention to it, let me just ask “do it make sense to you?” If “they” whoever advise you follow are your designer then follow them. but my advice to you is to follow your designer’s plans for you.

    You might get some tips and tricks to deal with the “hardware” challenge but if that’s all you get I can guarantee you that you will still have an unsatisfied life.

    The choice is yours when it is all said, written, read, and done. I pray you choose wisely.

    And that applies to you who are reading this comment as well. Choose wisely and

    Keep it Real

    • KEEPING IT REAL
      July 28, 2011

      typo correction
      I meant “Yap go in your Owner’s Manual (the BIBLE)”

  27. .
    July 28, 2011

    @ I’mwondering; the op said “called a ‘minuteman,. Do u say 2 boys when u hear a boy. Don’t want to b on ur train. Sorry.

  28. star
    July 28, 2011

    sex is overated bro…22, think about doing you right now….sex is always there…. Trust me, with time, it always gets better….Look at it this way…you can have multiple orgasms in a short period of time. It’s all how you look at it. You’re fine man!!!

  29. caribbeangenius
    July 28, 2011

    First of all you should realise that sex is 25% physical and 75% mental. So you cumming early is part of lack of mental control and anxiety. To reduce that anxiety i suggest that you do foreplay before sex, that could help to reduce your desire and keep the lady occupied. That will also get her ready and she will cum quicker and hopefully before you.
    Also take it easy during sex, when u feel like you going to cum, change position to help prolong your sex…..

    • cum too fast
      July 28, 2011

      it doesnt work< he still cumming to soon

  30. Twisted Minds
    July 28, 2011

    Dr. Emmanuel should take note for his next article.

  31. positive
    July 28, 2011

    Try thorough exercise gym or running, and try mind control it works am talkin from ezperience

  32. love to give
    July 28, 2011

    my brother ,it is your state of mind,just get ur mind off that piece of flesh and sex and justget on with it and you will get satisfying results i think you are being to anxious for sex.this limits ur performance.

    • July 28, 2011

      @love to give and to Young Man

      As soon as I read this article, the advice of “love to give” was the idea in my mind to pass on to you, “Young Man”.

      Now I hope you will notice that the same idea comes from two people who do not know each other, and to believe that it is a true idea, to accept and thrive in.

      Just to add, if you have heard the saying of “Mind over Matter” well that saying is not empty.

      Your mind must always be over matter, for matter is fleshly control which is dead. If you feed on the things of death you will continue to reproduce death–just as your present condition is at a dead end in your mind, for example.

      In other words, with your fleshly feedings your mind is processing carnal products–in terms of your thoughts, words, and strength or vitality–you are functioning with a mind of total weakness or lifelessness.

      You state of mind must be firm under the control of Love, which is the essence of Life in you–peace and joy will be the strength that controls your every move; you cannot fail.

      Without that state of mind, you are simply accepting, processing, and producing the fruit of a deceptive lie, which tells you that you are going to perform sexually for only a minute–the reason you think of yourself as a “minuteman” for example.

      Young Man, Life comes by faith, and faith nurtures hope, by which we press on to the fulness of Life–the Life of Abundance in Spirit, Truth, good health, contentment, harmony, joy and peace of mind with God Almighty through His Person of Love–Jesus Christ.

      You can know this state of existence in this world. But you have to allow faith to teach you how to enter this existence.

      Words are the master of your existence. You call for what you want through either positively or negatively and it will happen. So, just tell God you are willing to receive His promises of Life for you.

      By His Holy Spirit, the influence of His of flesh and bones–Jesus Christ, God will begin His work in your conscience, into your mind, and into your heart–the complete form of your soul.

      As God renews your mind, you will learn how to speak “the words” against the lies that comes to destroy your comfort, your joy, and your peace of existence, by your wisdom of faith. You are sure to see things turning around for you.

      One of the things you lack right now is self-confidence. You are only 22 and if you continue like that you are heading into a lonely future–you do not want that.

      Take my advise, Young Man, let our God of Love give you deliverance by your faith and trust in His ability to do so. You will be glad you did.

  33. Interesting
    July 28, 2011

    it seems to me you have been in that business a long time. You are only 22 and you have gone through this for years. Maybe you have over worked Charlie and now he is not cooperating.if you do not know where to turn I recommend Doctor Jesus but you must do it right this time. Exercise helps alot so try to get physical My boy if you are for real i sympathize with your lady.

  34. Real Dominican Diva
    July 28, 2011

    Like serious, DNO? I find that all Dear Bella is them days der is a sex column. I have a strong feeling is allu self that sit down and writing up them so-called problems pretending to be ppl. Dear Bella real sickening them days there, is always about some man, woman, sex, gay, or some bs problem! jah man, enough. if allu going to pretend to be ppl write about a real problem that the advice will help someone like a child facing a lot of pressure at home or something where allu can give more positive.

    • pusina
      July 28, 2011

      I KNOW DIVA AND ADMIN KEEP DELETING MY POST BUT IS LAWYER PAPER I GOING TO SEND FOR THE HIM-SHE…MINE ME U KNOW

      • Empress D-vine
        July 29, 2011

        lol…

  35. nectar
    July 28, 2011

    U not jocking enough boy………..just because u have a girl dosent mean u cannot do that….jocking does increase ur sexual stamina and ur length….wise up

  36. pussina
    July 28, 2011

    ADMIN i think you are the real reason dear. Cause i saw nothing offensive in my Post on here. Continue to delete..

    • Eve
      July 28, 2011

      What trouble you causing Pussina :lol: I miss your comment

      • pusina
        August 2, 2011

        Eve you looking for ADMIN to send lawyer paper for me puss..i just using my mouth as a means of commentry and Admin have a issue with my advise..whats up nah puss.. but is wait i waiting for admin..whosssssss :mrgreen:

  37. Doctor Kool Pipe
    July 28, 2011

    Garcon go on the beach drill holes in the sand and practice. Practice makes for perfection.If that does not work ask one of the Chines merchant to import Chinese brush or order a plastic imitation kookoolox for additional training. Oh by the way drink some serious Balaw Braff with white yam.

    • July 28, 2011

      HHAHAHAHAHAH
      LOLOLOLLOLOL
      THAT SHOULD WORK!

    • Jean Dominique
      July 29, 2011

      Lmao!!!!!! u not easy nuh dr kool pipe lol

  38. a nice guy
    July 28, 2011

    go on youtube and google “JELKING” its an ancient ritual to improve sex longevity and also used by pornstars. also try penile exercises while ur peeing, try stoping in the middle of peeing on and off.. will help u control premature ejacultions

  39. Anonymous
    July 28, 2011

    Do You have access to the internet? If so, you need to google Brian “B Pumper” Pumper. He gives good tips in lasting long and throuhh his movies one can learn numerous techniques. Every young man in da knows him and they all tell u he helps.

    • Ice
      July 29, 2011

      I think he does anonymous that’s why he wrote to Bella smdh :)

  40. Real
    July 28, 2011

    if u know u have tha prob start with ur tongue n then ur fingers..n then wen she cum twice u enter..lol..REAL!!!

  41. Real
    July 28, 2011

    sensitive issue…hmm be thankful ur girl stayed..or maybe she is too tight..smh..cant think of any more excuses for u..thats all ive got!!

  42. dhestini
    July 28, 2011

    hmmmm..my boy that is a tight one. ummm…dat happened to my boyfrnd once but its only because i teased him and let him wait too long. guess he got too anxious so as soon as i opened, well, that was it. umm..i dont know if u get too excited before sex, or if maybe u think about it too much. i mean u’re young, not sure how long ago u started having sex, or how often u do it, or how experienced u r. sex is something that shld not be pressured. so just go easy. foreplay cld also get u a little over excited, so if u do that maybe u cld try skipping that – i’m sure ur girlfrnd will understand. hmmm..ok. good luck to u

  43. alex
    July 28, 2011

    young man,
    u mentioned that it has been happening for a number of years, and for u to write in i’ll assume u have tried numerous self techniques.
    the best advice is to see a doctor.
    very often such problems are deeply rooted and may have absolutely nothing to do with sex.
    remember that drs make an oath of confidentiality and as such u should not feel ashame to discuss ur problem with them.
    good luck

  44. Anonymous
    July 28, 2011

    A WORD OF ADVISE TO YOU YOUNG MAN, AT THE YOUNG AGE OF TWENTY TWO….DON’T START CONSUMING PILLS, CAUSE YOU MIGHT GET ADDICTED, AND WHEN YOU TURN THIRTY, YOUR BRAIN/BODY YOU WILL HAVE NO CONTROL OF…AND BY THE AGE OF FORTY, THE DESIRE WILL BE THERE, BUT THE ABILITY MIGHT NOT….

    SEX IS ABOUT CONTROL, AND ATTRACTION, EJACULATION IN A MATTER OF THE MIND, AND MAYBE YOUR YOUNG MIND IS NOT DEVELOPED TO THAT LEVEL AS YET. THAT IS WHERE YOU TRAIN YOURSELF, AND THAT TRAINING YOU SHOULD INVOLVE YOUR PARTNER, A COMMITMENT BETWEEN YOU TWO, IN THAT CASE! IT SHOULD BE MORE TO YOUR ADVANTAGE IF YOUR PARTNER HAS A BIT MORE EXPERIENCE THAN YOU, AND THAT IS NOT BAD EITHER, YOU NEED TO HEAL YOUR MIND….TRY TO PLEASURE YOURSELF AND YOUR LADY…YOU CHOOSE YOUR OWN WAY, MAYBE WATCH EDUCATIONAL PROGRAMS TWO OF YOU..(NOT PORN) CAUSE THAT WILL ONLY GIVE YOU A HIGH…AND A HEAD RUSH…

    YOUR TRAINING SHOULD START WITH LOVING YOUR PARTNER, LEARN TO CUDDLE HUG FEEL HER, TRY NOT TO BE WITH HER BECAUSE YOU BOTH WANT SEX, AND YOU HAVE SOMETHING TO PROVE…ALLOW LOVE MAKING TO COME NATURALLY, GET USE TO THE FACT THAT SHE IS YOURS, AND YOU WANT TO KEEP HER….YOU DON’T NEED TO HAVE SEX FOR THE SAKE OF EJACULATION EVEN IF IT A BIG PART…MAKE LOVE STOP AND RELAX, TALK EAT SOME ICE SCREAM, YOU FEED HER SHE DO THE SAME…FORGET ABOUT SEX IT’S GONNA COME, REMEMBER CONTROL, CONTROL THE WAY YOU LOVE…DIFFERENT STOKES FOR DIFFERENT FOLKS….

    AND REMEMBER YOU’RE NOT THE ONLY ONE OUT THERE…

    IF YOU BOTH UNDERSTAND EACH OTHERS BODY!!!2 MIN, CAN BE JUST AS GOOD AS 2 HOURS…

    AND MIND YOU AM NO MAN, AM WOMAN…I WILL STAND BY MY TRUE LOVE…..FOR BEHIND EVERY GOOD MAN.. THERE IS A GOOD WOMAN..FIND YOURS…WHEN A WOMAN KNOW WHO/WHAT SHE WANTS NOTHING CAN STOP HER….

    YOU’LL BE OK…YOU’RE A YOUNG MAN TRY TO FIND YOURSELF….

  45. Alas
    July 28, 2011

    you looking for the wrong women…there are some women who actually loves you and doesn’t care when you Jack off because they releaze it’s a part of you!

  46. natural dominican
    July 28, 2011

    its all mental…train ur man…every man out there have had at least one moment when he gets overexcited…one technique is breathing (deep breaths) it calms the mind

  47. just come
    July 28, 2011

    GARCON , O KNOW WHAT U MAY BE TOO EXCITED ABOUT THE WHOLE SEX VIBES.Relax,!!!! is like u already don having the sex in ur mind ,so what is happenning too u is when the time come for u to penetrate, is when u about to finish the balance of the whole sex vibes in ur mind.Ur problem can be easily solved,by just behaving the natural way.

  48. Anonymous
    July 28, 2011

    who give you the licence to be having sex?sex is only for married people.Also you train and educate yourself instead of looking pretty in the bedroom.that will benefit you more in the future.sex is just a small part of life.

    • Chantel notanonymous
      July 28, 2011

      You should real stop talking foolishness the man is old enough to deiced if he wants to have sex or not!!! DONT put your beliefs onto other people…that’s a sin too!

    • .
      July 28, 2011

      I take it that u r celebate or a virgin when u got married; hypocrite.

  49. Piper
    July 28, 2011

    Take heart my friend, it could be worse. Your woman could make you the second man.

    • dhestini
      July 28, 2011

      yah well with that issue, pretty soon he may just become the second man. or worse…single

  50. July 28, 2011

    young man u really are not alone i had this boyfriend he is a cop in dominica and he would just touch my virgina he would ejaculate and i was left horney and the worst part about it he would not even try again co`s to my understanding a second time around make u last longer.

  51. July 28, 2011

    WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH THESE PEOPLE.
    MAN DO TO A DAMN DOCTOR AND CHECK YOURSELF.
    THIS IS JUST SENSATIONALISM.
    IF IS NOT GAY IS SMALL PENIS,OR ITCHY VAGINA, OR INCEST, LESBIAN

    GET A LIFE PEOPLE!

    • Eve
      July 28, 2011

      Reggie have a heart dear, these are people with real issues and these just happens to be their issues which they would like to share with the rest of us Gay, Small Penis, Incest, Lesbian I never saw any with Itchy Vagina, but I’m sure there are some with this issue, sorry their lives are not perfect like yours, but we all sympathise with those people who have the courage and are opened enough to discuss their issues on a forum. If its bothering you that much then click on a different column, some of you all behave as though somebody hold a gun to y’all’s head and forcing y’all to read Dear Bella..Damn man YOU GET A LIFE :mrgreen:

  52. Anonymous
    July 28, 2011

    Minuteman u r22 & just 2 excited b4 penetration. U need to control your thoughts and emotions and u will b fine. Mayb u just start in the business so just relax.

  53. Dominican
    July 28, 2011

    Courage? where is the courage? he did not mention his name…

    • Lois
      July 28, 2011

      Why you don’t mention yours?

  54. Jack
    July 28, 2011

    I had a smiliar situation as you and it was all a “mental problem”. I went to the doctor and he could not help me. My solution was to masterbate before having sex.
    This has helped me and now I can last for 2 hours or more. I don’t have to masterbate anymore. You have to develop some techniques on your own and eventually you will get there.

    • Gill
      July 28, 2011

      Jack ejaculates through masterbation. Nice rythm toit right peeps?

  55. fire
    July 28, 2011

    U are not alone, the nasty love making is the reason. Woman want man to suck off on man wood naturaly he will come fast. My advise is skip the nasty foreplay,don’t use no lubricant let everything work naturally and u will never come because she will put on her drase and run. Don’t worry she will keep comming back every two days to see if u still have the stamina to last an hour or more. When she come back give her the same style.Or she will come to me.

    • TeteMorne I From...
      July 31, 2011

      :-P

  56. eye la
    July 28, 2011

    Big man no need for that. Just drink spice and honey goat weed. U will b ok

    • mouth of the south
      July 28, 2011

      who fooling allu nah

      • way mots come back
        July 28, 2011

        but mots u was mia man?? lol

  57. I'mWondering
    July 28, 2011

    Ratid….honestly…Dear Bella makes my day when i need a good laugh.

    But on the real… have more fore play…let your woman come a few times and when she is satisfied…your 2 minutes wont matter that much to her cause she’d have already been fulfilled and would be too drained to notice.

    So try other things before the actual penetration – get her drained and satisfied, then like magic, your 2 minutes will be non existent in her mind

    good luck

    • Dominican
      July 28, 2011

      How is she gonna come twice in 2 minutes? GOSH…r u forgetting he is a 2 MINUTE MAN?

      • .
        July 28, 2011

        I am sure minuteman will b gratefull 4 the extra minute; but he said 1 minute in his story, not 2. So rumors does start there, d/cans never saying exactly what they hear or read.

      • Sout Man
        July 28, 2011

        Did you read the part about fore play? Or do you know what it is?

      • JustGivingMyTwoCents
        July 28, 2011

        English is not your strong suit apparently!

      • I'mWondering
        July 28, 2011

        I see comprehension passed you by also. He DID NOT say “a” MINUTE he said he’s called minuteman!

        Some of you are so dumb that there’s really no point in explaining even the basics… keep taking things literally then I’d just have to think of you as “.” literally (hope u don’t miss the train on this 1)

    • Sout Man
      July 28, 2011

      Good points. Focus less on your excitement and do not rush to penetrate. Young men like to “score”. Focus more on pleasuring your woman. Take her to a state of ecstacy. The female body has several erogenous zones (areas that arouse sexual pleasure), like tits, clit, tongue, neck, navel, etc. Find out what stimulates your partner. When she is approaching her orgasm, she will ask you to penetrate. By that time you will be so erect,a double ejaculation will be possible and she will be on cloud nine bawling. So you have not broken a sweat yet bro? Talking about the “G” spot is beyond you for now. Use your fingers to find it.Several trials may be needed. Some women do not even know they have it. Even short dicks can reach it but position is important. Stay off manufactured drugs.

      • ANTICOME 2
        July 28, 2011

        WOW!!!THAT is an EXPERIENCE MAN,u’ve got us well covered!!!!
        :lol:

    • 2mins won't do
      July 28, 2011

      Ya right! what about the coshon girls?More you give more tehy want.Foreplay is not part of their vocbaulary.Ever meet a real greedy one? boy you doh know nothing.

  58. foreplay
    July 28, 2011

    The problem with pre- mature ejaculation is mostly likely you’re extremely excited. Try masturbating before you have sex, or have your partner do it for you and you for her. Sometimes all you need to do, is release that excitement, then try having intercourse. If that doesn’t work, try meditation. Look up tantra sex.

  59. mouth of the south
    July 28, 2011

    once again my dear friend… MOST pills are just money making… so just taking pills ur friends advice or u see on jolly’s shelf won’t help either….. but here’s to ur rescue…. made from the highest pharmaceutical grade… http://www.longinexx.com check it out my boy n most likely ur problem will be solved…. extenze n the rest if fakers lol

    • Anointed Prophetess
      July 28, 2011

      My Dear friend there is only one man who knows your body and can help you in this situation. And that is my lord and Savior Jesus Christ.seek him today to heal your situation. Jesus loves you.

      • ?????????????
        July 28, 2011

        That is true – Our Father is the greatest physician of all time. Don’t you think he knows all your problem including this one. Seek him first and his righteousness and “ALL” other things will be added unto you. He is the greatest healer. Man cannot do anything for you instead will give all kinds of ugly advice. Go the Lord in prayer. Seek his face . Remember his promises and claim them. By his stripes you are healed! Cleanse yourself of all transgression. Walk in his ways and obey and trust him. God Bless you as you seek his face.

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