Dear Bella: I was recently in a relationship with a guy who lives in a different state. We usually see each other on some weekends and on holidays. Last Christmas I decided to visit him, where he is living. Everything was normal until a few days when I felt that he was acting different to me and I discovered that he has another woman.
I confronted him about it and he denied it. At the ending of my vacation with him, we did not speak to one another and I have not spoken to him since then. Some weeks ago, I found out that I am pregnant. My question to you is should I tell him or not?
Thanks,
Very confused.
Dear Very Confused,
If the child is your lover’s own, by all means you should tell him. If he is serious about you and you approach him in the right way this could be the meaning of a new beginning for your relationship. I would also want to think he is the one who impregnated you since you have not said otherwise. If you no longer want to have anything to do with him because of your discoveries of the alleged other woman then still tell him. Many men have cheating ways, but it just takes some rude awakening at times to make them come to their senses. Nonetheless, a man will always say despite his cheating ways he will never leave his “main woman,” once she is the ideal. While that is not an excuse, you may have to overcome this relationship problem and start planning for your newborn.
If however he is a dead beat, you may have to seriously decide if you want to get back with him, and arrange a child support fee with him.
Nevertheless, children bring happiness into a relationship, and you may even see a transition in your partner once he is genuine. No child should miss the opportunity by not being raised by both parents – that is a real joy. Meanwhile, try not to stress yourself or let anyone aggravate you. It is time to prepare for motherhood.
Bella.
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u should tell him that he is the father just make sure your sure.if he decides that e dont want the baby u try ur best and take care of your baby because they are gifts from God
are u dumb throw away the damn baby……mister have his woman and dem and is me he want so throw way the damn baby
My friend everyone makes mistakes no one is perfect . But if u r sure he is d onlyone u had unprotected sex wit then u should tell him u r pregnant as soon as possible. But don’t be foolish like other don’t throw away yr child plzzzzzzz every disapointment is a blessin . This child might be the next P.M. or doctor think not all kids has a father in our life so be strong for your child please. make this man know u will still love yr child no mater wat d case may be love and care for yr bondle of joy babes ok almighty above knows best .
Well well my girl it took me exactly four(4)months to tell my man I was pregnant and y do u think he had another woman preganant also so I was scared at his reaction after tellin him and u know wat he said” if is mine u have to throw it because u know how it goin to look de other woman already pregnant and blah blah” today my son is 2yrs old healthy and strong and his daddy is maintainin and lovin him in his own way. Right now he got one boy one girl both same age by two diffrent women,so it doesn’t matter how long it takes once ur are sure he is the dad tell him
My girl ,please let him know that you are carying his child, as boney commented what he does with that info is he- but let him know please. You know who your babys father is so dont take on any negative talk. IF I
u should have tell him since u found out and if he aint want nuttin to do wit u and the baby well to hell with him and that oda woman he have
tsk wth r u talking about Mary, I’m in a long distance relationship for years right now, and I’ve never cheated on my girl, not once. Its not hard if you’re in love no matter how many girls try to get wit.
girl your child is your child once u can take care of your child 2 hell with d man
Everyone is not the same, Sweetie Pie. Some people know right away and some don’t. Some people still have periods while pregnant. Some people don’t get sick or have symptoms at all. All we know is very confused is very confused. Whatever her reason for confusion is she shouldn’t be discouraged. The worse thing for a pregnant person to be going through is more confusion.
Cheating or not, tell the guy that he’s going to be a father. Don’t listen to the people that ask why did you wait so long to tell him. I realize that you’re angry about his cheating but you are pregnant. I have to assume that this person will accept his responsibility. All men know when a woman is pregnant. By cheating they may not know which woman is pregnant; therefore, he should know that you are the one. Also, regardless to what other people think you know best. What if the other woman is pregnant, you’ll lose by not telling him. Good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Overseas relationships are the most difficult to maintain But it can be done. it all comes down to trust, the most important element, and how mature (mentally)you and ur partner are.
U only knowin now from since xmas is bull. Symptoms appear as early as two weeks after u conceived. U were probably in denial. Tell him. Nothn can be done about it now.
Is there a reason why abortion was not mentioned as an option to the young lady? Does the world need another single mother and unwanted child?
Well dear, if he is the father of you baby, weather he have another woman or not tell him, what he do after that is is problem,. remember after you tell him, the other woman is going to say you got yourself pregnant to get him . even if you dont tell him they are going to say its not his child, thats why you did not tell him. Since christmas to now? you should have tell him in January
What do you expect with overseas relationship, girl get real, you expect the man not to have another woman. They do it right under our noses.
this is a very stupid question what reason do you have not to tell him ?
It is a long time since Christmas to call a man tell him you are pregnant. Nonetheless, if he is a caring man he will do the right thing and assume his responsibilities thought he may have conditions like DNA etc. You and his issues have nothing to do with the little one you are about to bring in this world. It was nice doing the hookey pookey so it should be nice taking responsibility. Just what the Doctor ordered.
from since christmas now u realize u plug? loll lolll that story sounds familiar, wat u have a boy or girl????
but from christmas to now is a long time how is now u find out u pregnant
hm, tell him congrats on ure pregnancy
What u think u got a Teddy bear or a doll.u must be super rich.wanna be your next baby daddy..
hi this is very wonderful to know that you are pregnant. i really think that you should tell him. anywaysdo the rite think.its ur life