Dear Bella: I am a 22-year-old young man who is deeply in love with a 16-year-old young lady.
We have been together for almost three years now and haven’t been sexually active because she said to me that she wants to wait until the time is right. Trying to be a Christian, I think that was the best thing for me to do is wait.
So I put aside all my sexual desires and decided to wait for her because I truly, truly love her. But lately we have been getting into arguments because I realize she spends tons, loads of time on the PC talking to this guy. I know for a fact that she loves me but I also know for a fact that she has love for this other guy, and it hurts me a lot knowing that I give her all my heart and she is sharing hers.
I don’t know if is because of her youngness in age or if she is literally doing this to hurt me. I am really confused because I have really put my all into this relationship. I don’t want to end it like this. I need your advice.
Dear Confused: Who told you to get involved with a 13-year-old – sex or no sex? What does a 13-year-old, or even a 16-year-old, knows about love and relationship? I think both of you are immature.
You’re an adult and she is still a child. She is not mature. And girls her age do not know what or who they really want at that age. You were putting yourself at risk of being arrested when you began dating her at 13 years, whether you had sex or not – allegations of indecent assault could have been slapped on you.
Sir, please end this relationship. She is so immature that she makes it obvious she is checking another guy. If she was in love with you, she wouldn’t be distracted. She is flirty and experimental at this age.
I suggest you find someone your age and leave miss forced-ripe.
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