My boyfriend never compliments me

I have been in a relationship with a guy for three years and eight months.

I can’t remember three compliments that he has given me in these years we have been together. To me, it wasn’t a problem, until I went through his face book profile and saw the number of compliments he is giving to this particular girl.

Since he wasn’t anywhere near me when I saw these, I wrote a message to his inbox telling him how I felt about his compliments to this girl. I was hoping he would at least talk about it, but he completely ignored it. When I mentioned it to him, he told me that he ignored it because I only want to cause a fight, and is taking a little thing and making it a big thing. He told me that I am just being jealous because he compliments his friend, that the girl is just his friend and he see no reason why he can’t compliment her.

Bella, I sure don’t mind him complimenting his friend, but what is hurting and is being a bother to me is the fact that he never compliments me, his girl friend. I am wondering if I am asking for too much of him.

I look forward to your response.

Concerned

Dear Concerned

Compliments are important because they strenghten a relationship. You feel on top of the world when the person you love tell you are a beautiful, sexy, intelligent and so on. They make you feel you loved and admired.

He knows it would make you happy, yet he makes no effort. Hmm. Giving a compliment isn’t hard. It doesn’t cost money or require sacrifice. I wonder how he would respond to you needing something that did require a bit of effort on his part?

You’re not asking him to lie. If he really loves you, why can’t he vocalise that?

You are not asking to much of him. All you want to know is how he feels about you; your looks, your intelligence and so on. If your boyfriend doesn’t compliment you, he is not really into you.

You need to seriously rethink your relationship with that guy.

Bella

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80 Comments

  1. Anonymous
    November 5, 2013

    Whatever if he was a good boyfriend he should have consider your feelings

  2. Fed Up
    March 21, 2012

    I am married for 25 years, and my husband still tells me ‘I love you sweetheart’, and depends on what I’m wearing the says “I feel like making a break”

  3. Fed Up
    March 21, 2012

    He’s just not that into you.

  4. September 6, 2011

    What is the big deal if a dog back when a thief is at the door you give it a treat for doing a good job,When a man go with a woman at the begining of the relationship the woman compliment her man every time he gave her some thing nice,things are so nice there is no need to complain,she constantly make herself attractive for her man to keep him sweet.
    Suddenly she take her man for granted and stop looking attractive for her man thinking he cant do without her,The trouble start when some young high performance chick who like to do her nails,go to do her hair, wear nice clothes with painted lip stick looking for a man that can keep her in stile and sleep all day while the wife wash his underpants and complain he dont complement her anymore.
    Whose fault it is if the wife dont make herself attractive an have compitition as nothing last for ever,My addvice take nothing for granted in this life you are as good as your performance when it come to men that have eyes for something new.
    So be content with what you got or split,that is why their is divorce to shear whatyou had together,and let him pay for his stupidness,his emails has made you wise,good luck :) :lol: :cry: :-x :oops: :twisted:

    • Ugghhhhh
      January 13, 2014

      Please stop talking this jibberish. You make no sense.

  5. Same here
    April 9, 2011

    I love my boyfriend. He is amazing. We have been together a year and the nicest thing he has ever said to me is your not bad looking. It breaks my heart that not once ever he cant just say hey you look nice or you look pretty. I can buy new lingerie get all decked out and nothing. And I am young and fit and have had a couple of boyfriends. Heck I even modeled when i was younger. I am a waitress and get compliments from people and I of course dont think im pretty i think im average. But at the same point. I would hope the person I love would think i was pretty. He may think it but its important for me to here it. Mainly because he knows how much it would make my day. Yet i take it as he just doesnt care. It makes me so sad. I think he is gorgeous and a couple of times ive said hun why cant you just say something nice or i feel really ugly and down today. I could use a pick me up and i get nothing. He knows it means something to me yet nothing. Im at a lost. I dont want to leave him but crying and feeling ugly and living in the gym might take a toll on me. I feel you. I like to think he cares but who knows. Maybe hes just waiting for something better. I can be his “poor mans mary” (If you have seen the wedding planner)

    • Anonymous
      March 12, 2012

      To same here… When I read your comment I felt like I was reading my own story. I couldn’t have said it better myself. I wish I could say something to fix it but I’m exactly the same and I’ve been with mine for 6 years. All I can offer is I feel your pain. Remember that you’re worth it regardless and you are good enough! Hang in there xx

  6. live ur life
    March 25, 2011

    try new looks and if u still doe getting compliments its a waste of time 2 stay in a tie up relationship so,u deserve better……dont waste ur time,make urself happy grl life 2 short

  7. Simple
    March 15, 2011

    Sister leave him..he is not interested in you anymore..mister have a flex outside……

  8. black Queen
    March 14, 2011

    I am sure you are a beautiful intelligent young woman, have some confidence in yourself.
    Keeping your integrity is the most wonderful gift you could give to yourself. Do something nice for yourself and move on if you are not happy in your relationship. Only you can make that decision.

    We can all give our opinion but you have to make up your mind if this is what you want. Talk to your boyfriend about how you feel maybe he doesnt even realize that he is hurting your feelings.

    Love who you are be strong, keep your integrity. When was the last time you complemented your boyfrind. it works both ways also. Love who you are.

  9. concerned
    March 5, 2011

    ppl thanks 4 all d opinions..i read every single one..some ppl mis understood what i said..especially the fact that i said i never had a problem wit it b4 goin through his profile..it became a problem when i saw all that he was giving to this other girl..and the “i love u” comes, but via text message..chances are, to him i am not attractive..but how can u spend these yrs with someone that u r not attracted to?!!and if he isnt a complimentin person..how can he do it to others n not me?.and if he didnt mean to hurt me in this way, y couldnt he just talk it over and get me to understand him?..

  10. the one
    March 5, 2011

    really i dont think he loves u becaz if he did he will always b giving u compliments letting u no u look good and letting u feel good at the same time. a relationship wit out compliments is not base on love becaz there is no way no way i tell u u can love someone and not b tellin them baby u look beautiful or u look stunning ect

  11. 15yr old
    March 4, 2011

    What you need to do is find a really cute guy…then tell him you have a boyfriend and when you guys become friends because you obviously cannot be lovers *cheating is wrong* and when you add him on facebook COMPLIMenTS SHOULD RUN LIKE WATER!!!! and give him compliments your boyfriend would want….plus whenever your boyfriend asks how he looks call him Fat :-P :-P :-P :-P :-P :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :-D :-D :-D :-D :mrgreen: :mrgreen: :mrgreen: :mrgreen:

    • brrrr
      March 7, 2011

      so immature

  12. love me
    March 4, 2011

    if he is not complimenting you, a simple lil thing like saying ur beautiful or babes u look nice how often does he tell u he love u….hmmmmmm…..i wonder and that word is even much harder to say….to hear ur love one complimenting u n saying nice stuff to u make u feel so special to him….n am so fed up of women saying about learn to leave without men…spear me… u guys know we cant leave without men cus what other species are their besides us but men……..and am so fed up of women saying about women to like to depend on men to make us happy..i know we have 2 make ourselves happy n love ourselves b4 we love somebody else but one of d reason we love men are bcus dey make us happy n at one point in time we must have boyfriends or husbands…..so stop being so hypocritical and saying things like we dont need men……..oh please

    • sweet pum pum
      March 7, 2011

      Maybe they are on the other side of the fence :) if you get my drift

  13. Just giving my Two Cents
    March 4, 2011

    what’s the big deal about compliments anyway? Do they make you really feel better about yourself, or do they cement what you feel about yourself?

    If it takes someone else to make you feel good about yourself – then you have an issue!!!!!!! It’s not anyone else’s role, but your own, to ensure your happiness and your well being. If you feel great about yourself, no matter what – you’ll always be happy with what you have. Everyone is human and suffers once in a while from this thing called insecurity, but it is when we make insecurity rule our lives that we become desperate and dependent on others for our happiness.

    I truly understand where you are coming from… but I can tell you that – DO NOT LISTEN TO BELLA when she says that ” If your boyfriend doesn’t compliment you, he is not really into you” that just makes no damn sense to me.

    LOVE IS NOT ABOUT ONLY COMLIMENTS!!!!!! to say that is like dismissing the 3.5 yrs you have together. Concerned, I think that you are just going through your moment on insecurity. You seemed to be satisfied with everything else but the lack of compliments to you. You never said that he doesn’t tell you that he loves you – that’s a compliment in itself, to tell someone you love them. LOVE – that’s the most important thing, and if he loves you and doesn’t complain about your looks, clothes, what not, then perhaps by not saying, he is telling you that he appreciates and loves everything about you.

    There are worse things than not receiving compliments- receiving false compliments, for example. Perhaps, this man is just like most other men – they get comfortable and take things for granted. It could be that like everyone else on facebook… he’s just being nice and posting picture comments.

    I am sure that you are known as his girlfriend – he is not hiding you, he is not beating you, he is not degrading you. He just doesn’t boost your ego. Do you need your ego to be boosted that badly? Isn’t him being in LOVE with you the biggest ego boost?

    Would you have believed right then and there if he had given you a compliment? Would that have satisfied you or would it have made you think that he’s just saying it because I asked? Do you want to go through the relationship thinking is he only telling me because I begged for it?

    I say to you do not let jealousy over petty things ruin your relationship or make you dissatisfied. I say… start paying him compliments – eventually he’ll catch up. It may just be that he thinks you are so “perfect” that you do not need any reminders. Also … you should know his personality after all that time to know that perhaps he is just not like that. Paying a compliment on facebook is easy – all puss and dog do it. Don’t devalue your relationship or love because of that.

    Some women would trade what you have and give up the compliments. So if that is all that’s wrong – then you’re one lucky woman.

    If on the other hand- you need compliments that badly and would give up or even question your apparently intact relationship…then you go find your confidence and perhaps a smooth talker to give you the ego boost you are looking for.

    • sweet pum pum
      March 4, 2011

      very well said :)

    • concerned
      March 5, 2011

      mayb i should have mensioned the fact that the ”i love u” is sure comin but only via tex messages..

    • black velvet
      March 17, 2011

      u should take Bellas place goog advice i maveled at ur advice to concern.

      • black velvet
        March 17, 2011

        sorry the word is good not goog :)

    • Anonymous
      November 5, 2013

      Yea but the problem is he complimented his female friend than his own girlfriend. And if if he was good boyfriend he should have consider her feelings

  14. lover boy
    March 4, 2011

    lol lol lol alas well if he dont compliment u then he dont look at u tht y or maybe u dont dress 4 compliments …. :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

  15. ?????
    March 4, 2011

    LOVING and giving COMPLIMENTS ARE noT EQUAL…… I HAVE GIVEN LADIES COMPLIMENTS AND I DO NOT LOVE THEM…. Different strokes for different folks.. If that is the man’s only fault he is almost a perfect lover…!!!!

  16. eh sa!!
    March 4, 2011

    hey, its true u dont need his compliments to survive and all that.. U dont need him as a matter of fact to survive.. But peeps, shes the one in the situation and three yrs is alot.. if ive been with a guy for three yrs and he never complimented me and i see his fb profile complimenting a certain girl, then im sure gonna feel funny.. ill be wondering whats going on… seems like he’s not that into u..

  17. sweet pea
    March 4, 2011

    Concerned, i think you have the right to be jealous. He is complimenting her and not you for crying out loud! whose boyfriend is he? yours or hers? ask him that. everything that he told you sounded to me like a man on the verge of cheating. listen to bella…you need to seriously rethink your relationship with this guy. You shouldnt be taken for granted.

  18. Muslim_Always
    March 3, 2011

    @ Concerned: Firstly, all divinely revealed scriptures teaches to have an unmarried relationship is forbidden and sinful. Secondly, a man who doesn’t fear Allah will use and abuse you. He will not compliment you but will compliment other women because you worth no value in his eyes. Due to the fact that this relationship lack Allah in it, it is spiritually void; the man only sees you as a piece of flesh.

    The idea that this man will give someone else compliments instead of you shows that he is an unjust man. Secondly, he has to care in the world about repenting or mending his conduct. How can you be with such an animal? This man did not even apologise? ‘Sweets I apologise.’ ‘I’ll work on it.’ Nothing! He places the guilt trip on you, talking about you jealous.

    My advice, first, it’s either you guys plan to marry or else you wasting your time and you are sinning. Second, it’s either this man mend his conduct or give him some ultimatum.

    • sweet pum pum
      March 4, 2011

      whoawwww muslim_always whoaaaaw there. You know you are wrong there please don’t do this
      please don’t, and you are judging the man already waww muslim I always thought you were better than this smh :twisted:

  19. and???
    March 3, 2011

    My girl and so what??? Wait on men to compliment you and do things for you still…. We women must learn to be independent and learn to live without those “men”…… Just so you know…He won’t compliment you deary…He will compliment everyone else though FYI…

    • Lie
      March 3, 2011

      Do you realize how poor your writing is, what kind of advice is this? women should be treated like queens don’t you know? someone like you should not be giving advice. go back to school then you can start bloging ok.

    • for real
      March 3, 2011

      i agree with you. u cannot let your happiness depend on a man, you have to big up yourself. too many of us women sit down and wait for men to make us happy. ladies, we need to treat ourselves first as queen, we need to do things that fulfil us and make us happy. DO NOT wait for somebody else to that for you otherwise you will be disappointed.
      apparently, this young man does not want to compliment you, he has issues with himself, there is nothing wrong with you except you need to fill up your life with happiness by yourself. whatever makes you happy, do it. forget about the man. if he wants to fit into your happy life, accomodate him, but if he is not ready later for him. and you will still be happy. live your life girlfriend.

  20. HMMMMMM(the psychic)
    March 3, 2011

    Your boyfriend maybe wants a piece of that fool he has on facebook and the best way he can get her is by complimenting her. If he was not into you, he would have left you a long time ago. And, who knows? that woman can be pushing herself into him too .What can a guy do in times like that? Eve tricked Adam into eaten the forbidden fruit

  21. dominican
    March 3, 2011

    girl u sure dont need his compliments to survive. when u are about to leave your house, look in the mirror and tell yourself that u are beautiful, u are hot and sexy.cause its mostly what u think about yourself that really counts. and guess what, im sure u get compliments from men on the side of the road, at work and in social gatherings. he trying to get some p**sy so he complimenting the girl on facebook but guess what, as soon as he get some, all compliments will stop. so my dear dont woryy your head. just make it all about u.

    • concerned
      March 5, 2011

      i sure get a lot of compliments from other ppl..i really dont need his compliments but at the same time..i am wondering y he compliments her and never me..is it that other ppl see me as wonderful & he doesnt?..and by the way..i sure dont want my man cheatin..so shouldnt dat whole complimentin her thing become a problem?

  22. fancy face
    March 3, 2011

    Don’t worry about compliments,sure that he’s proving his love in many other ways and that compliment to the girl on facebook may be just a fake, especially if he’s looking to have a taste,like most men do. Cuz you dont catch fly with vinegar.lol

  23. starr
    March 3, 2011

    as the lady said,it neva bothered her until she saw he gave dis woman nuff compliments on fb.now which woman wont feel away about dat?matter fact even men would feel away knowing their wife/gf dont ever compliment them but always complimenting sum other guy! Dont matter how confident a person is,experiencing something so when there is feelings invloved can be a bit hard.if he is complimenting next girl he shud do to his own girl without a hindrance.so in my view he’s not doin it possibly bcuz he dont find anything to compliment her for(and that should leave her to some thinking..(is he really in love with me?,does he find me attractive?…)i agree with bella advice,for there cud be no way a man who is in love with a woman and be with her for 3yrs and NEVER compliment her….not even when they just met and started dating :?: hhhmmm.
    time some men learn to treat our women good.make dem feel nice and special inside.its a natural thing for women to want to feel good and told nice things by their man.when men do dat sort of thing it turns on the woman and adds spice to the love life.
    But my girl,take time to analyze the situation deeply,if u need to do your hair differently or get yourself some new outfits or sumthing and see if he notices enuff to give compliment.observe.if after u did so u get nothing time to reconsider having a lifetime relationship with dis guy.but set your priorities right.but remember a bird in the hand is worth 2in the bush.If you have 80%,dont make sense trading it out for 20%,remember some men have extra sweet mouth and thats all they have…talk.

  24. antigua nice
    March 3, 2011

    maybe u dont look gooooood maybe what you can do is bleach your skin,were short clothes .

  25. not in da!!!!!!!!
    March 3, 2011

    bella just can’t give good advice…i doe know why is she they have givin advice…some men show they love there woman in different ways….some will buy flowers..some will give money…others will compliment…but some jus don’t compliment…its not their fault…….once he shows u he love u then u should know…but DO NOT take his trash.

    • HMMMMMM(the psychic)
      March 3, 2011

      :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: HAHAHAHAHA!!!!! @ bella just can’t give good advice. Don’t you all see Bella a nun trying to be regular? :-D :-D :-D

    • sweet pea
      March 4, 2011

      lol…ok…i understand your point. Some men really dont compliment, but then that isnt an excuse anymore when he can clearly give them is it?

      • oh my my my
        March 4, 2011

        THAT YOU SAYING BELLA CANT GIVE GOOD ADVICE ITS A MIRACLE DNO POSTED YOUR COMMENT.

        Admin: We appreciate all opinions as long as they are not degrading. Bella’s opinion is one of many opinions on the matter.

  26. Anonymous
    March 3, 2011

    so if u doe deserve compliment then?

    Do you compliment him yourself?

    maybe u jus his fourchette buddy

    • hail
      March 3, 2011

      aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah fooloooooooooooooolish people.

  27. sweet pum pum
    March 3, 2011

    @ Gaza well if there is nothing good about her then what is he doing with her ? Who is the stupid one now ? If there is nothing good about her leave her the hell alone and go and meet the one on facebook. So wait a minute , you have a girlfriend there is nothing good about her but you stay with her for 3 years 8 months and then women stupid smh :lol: :lol: boy you have kicks :lol:

  28. Piper
    March 3, 2011

    Confident people don’t need people to tell them how good they are doing. They do their thing knowing deep down that they are good at it. Having said that, there is nothing wrong in complimenting someone IF IT IS GENUINE.

    • hail
      March 3, 2011

      what the hell are you talking about? did you read the article?

      • HMMMMMM(the psychic)
        March 3, 2011

        8-O 8-O ……. :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

  29. Esc
    March 3, 2011

    My dear friend. Life is really funny. I understand what you are going thru. I think the bottom line is if he really wasn’t a romantic/complimenting person then he wouldn’t be complimenting the other girl. We as men give compliments as “flirts”. Testing the “prey” as you may call it to see if they biting. Honestly, I catch myself “flirting” sometimes even as a married man not because i don’t love my wife but i am human and i see other attractive women and I would be a D/A if I think men doesn’t compliment my wife (or try to flirt with her). It all boils down to what we do about it. Honestly if he isn’t complimenting you and he’s complimenting other women then you have a problem on your hand especially if he’s getting defensive about it.

    You guys need to constructively talk about it. If it is bothering you this much as a man, he should be able to talk to you and not brush you off. If that isn’t working then I’m sure you can get a friend to compliment you to make him jealous. Then let’s see if he wouldn’t want to please you. (I wish the biggest problem my wife had with me was not complimenting her…it would be easy to work with that…”bb u look hottt!” …and I set.)

    Relationships are give and take so respect your peeps and learn to love and understand them for who they are.

    • storm
      March 3, 2011

      Very good advice.

    • AmazingFace
      March 4, 2011

      For real. My man is not really a man who gives compliments verbally. But when we’re going out and i know i’m looking xtra hot I can see that look in his eyes. He’ll pull me close for a kiss( mess up my lipstick lol) sniff at me to get a smell of that sexy perfume am wearing…so he may be won’t say it out loud because he wasn’t raised that way, but his body language is a compliment by itself.

      • Yazmine mb
        December 8, 2013

        On fb the guy I’m dating does not compliment me on any of my pictures,but he will press like on them. I have already seen 3 women on fb who he does make compliments, like their gorgeous,they have natural beauty and body, that thry look like model material. I get jelouse. When he comes I’ll greet him with a peck on his lips. Then I will seat pack on my own space. He will move close to me,smell my perfume I have on, he will kiss my neck, kiss my hands,play with my hair, lick my dimples, hold me and rolls his eyes back when I kiss him ect… So body language is there just not compliments me- so I rather care of action then words.

  30. hail
    March 3, 2011

    @ concerned

    there are guys that are just not semtimental just like some women. whoever decideds to be in a relationsip with that kind of person should learn to live with it. i don’t give a crap about valentines day and all that mess, i am not expecting any flowers, persent. etc and don’t expect them form me either

    but don’t tell me it wont’ hurt you if you constantly see you boyfreind complimenting others and not you

    • stupessss
      March 3, 2011

      if you could spell better i would respond on behalf of concerned!.. ME’ OU PASSA SPELL!! lol

      • hail
        March 3, 2011

        hey concerned i know it’s you. you didn’t respond because you can’t. who cares abut typos. i type very fast and post. then i seeall lmy errors.

        • Concerned
          March 3, 2011

          @ hail im not the person above. ok my love. im not sure if it would bother me if my boyfriend compliments other women and not me. ive learnt to stop looking at what he does not do and focus on what he does that makes us happy and makes the relationship work. i work at doing the right things and keeping things natural for us.
          Just to mention i dont come hard on people who make errors on DNo or on fb. it is not an english competition. I believe persons should communicate on these networks so that all can understand. all my best my love.

        • concerned
          March 5, 2011

          dont hav me mistaken..it wasnt me..i often spot my errors after i post d comments too..is not u alone..so plz do not have me mistaken

  31. MONDAY
    March 3, 2011

    SO MUCH PROBLEM OTHER PEOPLE HAVE THAT IS NOT IMPORTANT , JUST LEAVE HIS ARSE NAH , WHAT IF YOU DON,T DESERVE COMPLIMENT HAVE YOU EVER THOUGHT ABOUT THAT?MAYBE HE IS JUST NOT INTO YOU ACCORDING TO BELLA

  32. Concerned
    March 3, 2011

    i dont agree with Bella. my boyfriend is into me. he doesnt give complimnets to ,e one bit. in fact he would say if im wearing a nice summer dress * baby why all this cleavage, or its too short, or something always bother him with what im wearing. but he would always call my sis or my best friend and even my mom to say how nice i look. and i darn well know i look good. im about to go do my doctorate and i was astonshed to hear him say he is so proud of me. BTW he supports me financially and everthing else but the compliments is a no no. i got over it.

    • Bella's sub
      March 3, 2011

      concern you make me laugh without tickling me. You sort girl.You said ur boyfriend was into you.
      he no longer compliments you cause he need not any more to get into you.You give him without compliments.The face book chick is new so she needs the compliments so he can get into her lol! you really dotish concerned.I am concerned of how much of a simpleton you are.
      You still don’t understand how the game is played?
      Almost forgot to mention.Everyone is saying Bella is giving silly advice.Look likeBella is a poor and maybe fired very soon. teacher.

    • sweet pea
      March 4, 2011

      Your situation is different, much better than hers. Yours you cant complain but she can. Your boyfriend doesnt compliment u directly but he makes u kno u look good. telling it to your sister, mother and best friend,…of course he knows it will get back to you. and the little signs of jealousy he shows all women like that, because he knows u look good he wants to keep all the goodness to himself, every woman likes that their man is selfish when it comes to them. how would u feel if he wasnt complimenting u (which he doesnt) BUT he wasnt calling yur mom, or sis or best friend, instead he is on facebook telling this girl how sexi she looks, how pretty she is?

    • concerned
      March 5, 2011

      ur bf tells ur sis etc n he knows d message comes back to u..so u will kno anyway..our situation is totally different..and i realize there r 2 concerns now..

  33. sweet pum pum
    March 3, 2011

    You are in a relationship with him for the past 3 years and 8months and I know whatever you are going through this hurts because you feel unappreciated a compliment is like food for your ego and self confidence but at the same time you want sincere and not fake compliments from your man
    the young lady that he is giving the compliments to on facebook he is complimenting her photo most people taking a photo puts out their best, you on the other hand are his girlfriend, his baby, his darling, don’t let that spoil your relationship with him especially if that is the only issue you have with him. Take a good look at the girl’s photo in your opinion do you honestly think she is better looking than you ? has a better figure ? remember too beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, don’t worry about it, keep your chin up and take good care of yourself if you are not already doing so or do something to spruce up your appearance… :)

  34. hail
    March 3, 2011

    @sueQ

    you are a pathetic soul …choosing someone to be your wife is a compliment? is that’s what you would say to your daughter? no wonder men abuse women like you. most men would love to get married to a person like you that is if you are woman. you are the kind that get taken advantage off. he marry you so you have to treat hom like a king……………do all the work at home even if the both of you work. wash his clothes cook his food food, pick up after him, bring him his towel when his in the shower, clear the dishes after he eats cause he got married to you and you should be greatful for such a compliment……i hope you dont have kids cause you setting a bad example for your girls and also your boys.

    she should dump him before he becomes her husband cause it will only get worst

    • NatureBoy
      March 4, 2011

      You COMPLETELY missed SueQ’s point. Read the comment she replied to, then re-read her reply. Then you might want to re-state your reply to her.

    • Roz
      March 4, 2011

      I tend to agree with you. We women have men like is a favor they doing us when they marry us. And that stems from way back when fathers paid men to marry their daughters; had to give them gifts to entice them to marry their daughters. Boss, take note…is not a favor u doing me to marry me…and i not doing you a favor to marry you neither. If we are in this together, we should both try to treat each other how we want to be treated.

  35. Me again
    March 3, 2011

    In a former post, a woman was complaing about her husband not eating her food but devouring that of a church sister. Now this one vex because her Boyfriend complimenting woman on face book.
    he has a little friend on face book.find a little friend too on facebook and compliment him.
    No biggie. he eating your 3 square meals in a round plate right? What about the fourth meal he eatingthat well too? if so why worry? if and when he stop eat your 4 meals then something is wrong like the lady in the ealier post. That’s all i have to say.
    carnival is here find a little friend to jump up with because all those compliments you read on face book is for his carnival plans with the face book friend carnival Monday & Tuesday night behind good will school, Peebles park or gardens.

    • concerned
      March 5, 2011

      lol..i dont understand dat eatin ting

  36. hail
    March 3, 2011

    my father never cheated, my mother never ever had to wrorry about that , but on the other hand he just wasn’t a sentimental person. he never showed any public affection he was an animal ( showed no love what ever, he was verbally and physically abusive) but he was good provider however. i wonder why she stayed in that relationship, whether it was difficilt to find the entire package.

    i’ve later realize hey its’ not hard, you don’t have to choose between lesser evils. she deserved much better than that and so do you.

    the guy is complimenting other women why but not you. why should take that. leave him alone.

  37. *Jay*
    March 3, 2011

    sweetheart men give compliments in the strangest of ways. i feel you when you say he is complimenting another girl when you feel you are not getting compliments yourself but no biggie. my fiancee and i had the same issue, and honestly they do compliment us but just not in the way we expect to hear it. for example we will tell our girlfriends ‘ girl you look hot’ or i love your dress etc men will just say ‘i’ve never seen that top before’ etc. however though when you dont look good they are sure to tell you. sometimes they will say if you dont look good i will tell you so the other times you look acceptable. don’t sweat it too much hun and bella talking nonsense i really dont agree with her. its not because he doesnt compliment you means he’s not into you.

  38. Gaza
    March 3, 2011

    if there is nothing good about her what you going to tell her…some woman to stupid eh.

    • SWEETNESS
      March 3, 2011

      well if u say theres nothing good about then i dont see y he is with her for almost 4 yrs……..STUPID COMMENT I SURE U DOE HAVE WOMAN!!!!

      • Ziontech
        March 3, 2011

        lol more than u think a pimp wi

      • Gaza
        March 4, 2011

        sweetness…. i maybe all ting you already you talking crap

  39. DAV time
    March 3, 2011

    Bella….tht is pure nonsense the advice you give…everybody has a different love language…so giving compliments may not be his thing…but tht doesn’t mean he doesnt care about her…he should however find different ways to show his appreciation…

    • ah ha
      March 3, 2011

      But how giving compliments not his thing but he giving to other women? Maybe he does care for her… but sure as the sun will shine her cares about the other girl too…. maybe more than his girlfriend knows

    • Anonymous
      March 5, 2011

      grow up and learn to deal and learn about woman,,,,and know what woman like and want to hear

  40. Piper
    March 3, 2011

    Bella, how you can tell the lady if her man is not complimenting her, he isn’t into her?

    I compliment my wife if she cooks something that is delicious, if she looks good when we are going out etc. She on the othe hand is very stingy givng compliments. But that does not bother me. But I will tell you something, she is very much into me. She is my strongest supporter and defender.

    • SueQ
      March 3, 2011

      I guess she gives you off and on but the POINT is that she doesnt get compliments. Making it worst she is a girl friend and not a wife. Choosing some one to be your wife is already a big compliment that cant be measured.

    • sweet pea
      March 4, 2011

      ok…your wife is being stingy with compliments, but if you re-read the article you will realize that “concerned” wasnt so concerned before she started seeing those facebook compliments to someone else. If your wife is stingy with compliments, thats ok…thats the way she is… BUT if u find out that she is openly complimenting others, then u would worry too. Its not a matter of not being complimented, its finding out that someone else is being lavishly showered with compliments while you “gwayaying” for one.

      bella has a point.

    • eh sa!!
      March 4, 2011

      piper! if you found out that your wife is complimenting others , im sure you mind would be working over time wondering whats going on. So i agree with bellas advice..

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