My boyfriend and I have been together for about four years now. We do love each other very much and have even think of getting married.

However, there is one problem. He refuses flatly to give me his Facebook password. I have begged, asked, supplicated but to no avail.

What is burning me is the fact that I give him the passwords for everything I have: Facebook, email, MSN Messenger, SKype, you name it.

But whenever it comes to his Facebook password, it is another story. He turns and twists me around. He said he is not doing anything bad and I should trust him.

I have tried on many occassions to hack into his Facebook using common password which I think he might use, but none has been successful so far.

I am getting very frustrated at this.

My question is, is it wrong to ask for his Facebook password?

Angry and Mad


Dear Angry and Mad,

I don’t see the reason why you should be giving yourself such a headache over a Facebook password. No matter how intimate people might get they still do need some privacy, some personal space. There is a certain limit to your together-ness. You two can be together in many aspects but you must also realize that the two of you are entitled to your own person life.

You should not feel compelled to give him any of your password either because you also need your personal space.

Now, I do sense an issue of trust and in insecurity here and for the sake of the relationship you need to take a look at that. What is the source of your insecurity? Has he done anything to you in the past? Has he cheated?

If not, there is no reason to be losing sleep over a Facebook password.


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