Dear Bella: Let me ask you. I have this friend who is involved with a married man; he explained to her that he and the wife are not together for a while now, but he still lives at the house.

He is never at the home and he and that friend spends a lot of time together and he said he want to spend the rest of his life with her. He sleeps out etc. Do you think that this guy is for real.

Concerned friend

Dear Miss:

I am not sure why you choose to be concerned about your friend. There are some questions I would have hoped you would have answered in your request for advice: has the friend expressed any concern about the relationship? Does she love this man? Does she trust him?

From first impressions, having an affair with a married man is wrong. If he is doing that to his wife he can do it to your friend as well. It would be interesting to know why he and his wife are not seeing eye to eye. Makes no sense get involved now and regret later.

I think your friend should allow this man to fix his business at home first before sharing bed. Is he separated? Does his wife know about the affair? These are some of the things I would like to know.


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