No privacy from boyfriend’s “dawg”
Dominica News Online - Tuesday, May 22nd, 2012 at 12:37 PM
I have been with my boyfriend for quite a while now. We have loved each other beyond all odds, no matter what the circumstance may be.
Like a normal couple we have our ups and downs, our break ups and makeups but lately I have been quite frustrated with the lack of privacy and personal time that I receive with him due to the fact that his so called “Dawg” is always over.
We never get time to ourselves, he’s always hovering around, most times I want to get intimate or just have some alone time but I cannot because of this always appearing ‘dawg’.
I have no problems with that friend whatsoever all I need is just a little space and privacy with my boyfriend.
I have spoken to my boyfriend about that problem numerous times, but all he keeps saying he will talk to him. I think my boyfriend is afraid that he will lose his friend if he asks for some privacy.
But this situation is driving me MAD!!! I just cant take it anymore.
FRUSTRATED
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Dear FRUSTRATED,
If your boyfriend is afraid to talk to his ‘dawg’ it appears that you will have to take the bull by the horns. Have a chat with the ‘dawg’ and tell him how you feel and that should be able to take care of things. Being straightforward is the only way you can solve this problem
On the other hand you need to also have a chat with your boyfriend. You need to know what are his priorities and where you stand in a long term relationship with him. While friends are important, the relationship also needs time to grow and develop. It certainly won’t grow if a ‘dawg’ is hanging around all the time.
On a side note, this whole thing about men calling each other ‘dawg’ sounds so childish and immature to me. Probably something your boyfriend needs to look into.
Bella
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73 Comments
Whose house is it?
Ever thought that ur boyfriend and his ‘dawg’ in d business n his ‘dawg’ jus jealous so he’ll interrupt y’all alone time wenever he get da chance?…cuz if ur boyfriend was straight he’d tell mr to free me up long time! not sayin dat he isn’t but dats wat a man/I would do…any ‘dawg’ would understand dat n cope
dear girlfriend
if for some reason you think that you are treated like the option, help him narrow his choices by removing yourself from the equation. have a nice life.
my girl get red of all the food in the house hide it.. and see how fast “DWAG” will dig out!! 1 thing’s for sure a man doesnt put no man before his stomach no matter how inlove they are lol
the guy is a far git
I cant immagine you acting in that way, girl, you have the whole night for you and your boyfriend to get intimate, why worry about his dawg coming over and spend a few hours, he dont overnite at your place
sounds a little fishy to me that your man ‘dawg’ taking up all your time and he seems to have no problem with it.even when you try to get intimate?hmmmmmmmm girl these days you gots to keep your eyes open cause nowadays ‘dawgs’ can turn out to be low down dirty dogs in disguise.if u know what i mean
u sure he is just a dawg or a down-low boyfriend? i’m just asking
so when bedtime reach Dawg still there then? lol..
well all i can say is doe come and cry to people bout ur problems we come and look for news not ur beff soo take it who ever u need to and stop stalling
your boyfriend have something with dawg…..u know what my girl he just use in you to hide is fault move befor it to later and live mister with his baby dawg or better is honeyboo or his love of his life
Guess your boyfriend’s ‘dawg’ has gotten so used to being around you as well, it’s going to be difficult to drive him away. Give your boyfriend a serious chat about this situation and show the ‘dawg’ a different side of you when he comes over ….don’t talk to him , slam the doors in his face, make sure he is not fed. He is benefiting somewhere, somehow. He is a parasite and only parasites don’t leave that easily.
Similar situation with a relative of mine. Had a few unemployed ‘dawgs’ who would come over whenever he was home and he would constantly feed and give them his clothes. Now that he is unemployed they are nowhere to be seen
bella dawg is just a little slang nothing childish or immature about that. is just like saying my padner. U don’t sound like a person worthy of giving relationship advice making a comment like that.
From what you said it does’nt sound like the padna love you much. Maybe he’s taking you for granted and the relationship running on automatic pilot and you dont like where things heading. It’s either time to move on or take your blows.
wellllllllllllllll DAWG the most i can tell u is MASH!!!!!!
EL OH EL
Very funny situation…and I am certain this ‘Dwag’ is eating good meat.
So u stupid them….u not seeing dem man bulling…
which man would not put his woman first and tell the man, ‘yo bro, it’s time to leave, u doh seeing my woman there.’
u doh seeing de man already break some water with his Dwag and doesn’t need u to do so again again.
SOMETHING TO THINK ABOUT: The man living with you, that means he is around you all the time, so he might be a lil tired of you. He probably gets his ‘space’ from you when his friend comes around and hangs out with him. You should get a life of your own,go hang out with your friends and give him some space. Either that is the issue or them man loving.
is you to set your man straight eh… and if he does not consider how you feel about this situation then you are not his first priority this Dawg is!!!!!
Bella i think you used the wrong term there, instead of ‘taking the bull by the horn’ it should read’ taking the dog by its tail’ and throwing the damn thing out of the house.
LOL! Watch out! That Dawg maybe your man’s boyfriend.
Hi, Friend take that dawg very sereous because that is no ordinery friend, The same happen to me with my boy friend, they are always watching naked men having sex on B/B and even have some police officer in the gang. Just pass up cork street and see for yourself.
SMH
like you said,you and boy your boyfriend have had you all up’s and down’s,here’s my take,first of all you need a manfriend not a boyfriend,secondly you must a skank de man so much,that he had to rely on his dawg for strength and courage,i mean a coin have two sides,you telling us one,thirdly maybe de dawg really want to get doggy with you,that’s why he roaster blocking.
broes before hoes my dear!!! hustling and business before pleasure, you just got to cope with it.
Nonesense. take matters into your hands my girl
“Dogs” hang out with “Dogs”. So if u are a cat find a cat to hang out with.
If your boyfriend doesn’t want to train his ‘dawg’ then YOU do it! Teach him about respect and privacy, but do it in a friendly way!
ur boi fren and the dawg might be intimate
It’s very clear that the DAWG has no one to spend his time with…hook him up girl
dam strait! forever alone!
great answer wi
dat dawg loving it master lol
gyal u dnt hve nothing to do than going on dear bella nd waste ur time boys love friends being around 2 a certain extent.probably ur man loving him i hve seen movies like this nd he says its his best friend
Quality men are rare. Especially when their Mothers won’t let them grow up and become MEN instead of little boys who need their Mommy to take care of them. There’s a lot of Mommy’s boys out there and they never really mature. Your boyfriend and his Dawg are good examples!
hahahaha, your boy needs to learn to tell his dawg time to bounce my dawg..
My dawg!!
ur man is probably in love with the Dawg…. watch it girl
Bella you wrong for this!!! Your level headed advice/reply really begins in your second paragraph and ends right there. This chick has no business talking to the “dawg”.
Thank you very much! I thought the same thing when I read Bella’s response. This lady has no business talking to the “dawg”. You’re not in a relationship with the “dawg”. You’re in a relationship with your boyfriend so talk to him and him only!
Just as a woman should never deal with the other woman if her man’s cheating, cause beleive you me, if that woman just wants to be malicious like I know we can be, then she’ll take you through a whirlwind and laugh in your face; so too should you never have to deal with the “dawg”. Your boyfriend should man up and make a decision!
The next time you meet the ‘dawg’ in the house, catch it, put a rope around its neck and tie it in the dawg-house outside. Problem solve.
I love that one ! you made me laugh
They say who don’t hear will feel,when his dawg do that next time just pull out his boy and start stroking it,if he just laugh and sit there run cause thats nothing new to him.
whosssssssssssss bella your character watching too much BET and MTV and Hood shows to be refering to ones friend as a dawg papa DA pa tay mew. whossssssss.
Well you know i have a story bella about a puss of mines whosssssssss listen
I have been with my dawg for quite a while now. We have loved each other beyond all odds, no matter what the circumstance may be.
Like a normal couple we have our ups and downs, our break ups and makeups but lately I have been quite frustrated with the lack of privacy and personal time that I receive with him due to the fact that his so called “Puss” is always over.
We never get time to ourselves, he’s always hovering around, most times I want to get intimate or just have some alone time but I cannot because of this always appearing ‘dawg’.
I have no problems with that Puss whatsoever all I need is just a little space and privacy with my MAN.
I have spoken to my MAN about that problem numerous times, but all he keeps saying he will talk to him. I think my MAN is afraid that he will lose his PUSS if he asks for some privacy.
But this situation is driving me MAD!!! I just cant take it anymore.
FRUSTRATED PUSS.. HELP ME BELLA WHOSSSSSSSSSSS
well my girl that man of your not ready yet. i chill with my boyfriend and his “dawgs” all the time but wen he says its time to skip you have no choice. i think your boyfriend is using his friend as a scapegoat to avoid spending quality time with you. something wrong somewhere.
well is either that or girl ur boyfriend is gay!!
I don’t think this is a love issue, or even maturity. Most men hang out with their friends and some just don’t know how and when to lie low or disappear. Give the Dwag a hobby, put it to guard the house while all you go out, not that people keeping dogs for nah! If the Dog like to eat feed it some laxatives.
Bella Listen and learn from my advise – Woman stop trying to change man – sometimes men have to do those things so the woman can understand the perimeter. Most times this has nothing to do with whether or not the man is serious or not . This is about marking your territory. When a woman want to control a man she will go as far as to give the man “ stay Home soup” or what use to call “ Cacoe him”. Once he drink that soup the man become the woman’s bouncing ball – he become TEBERRE, he abandon his friends and family , the woman might have sex with him only when she want a child and he may not even realize that. My advise to men – In the mean time guys hold your ground cause you never know when they will feed you with that stay soup.
Put chicken bones outside so the Dawg will stay out. Obviously Dawg doesn’t have a woman so In other words hook up that Dawgy with somebody you know maybe grand ma, auntie suzie , what about ma etel whose husband Mr etelson died long time ago.
If the above advise does not work try walking past Dawg and your boy friend with just your thong and a bra on a couple of times and you will see how fast that boyfriend will ask Dawg to scram .
I do not think a couple of time is necessary…..just pass them one time…and make sure when you pass, “you strut your stuff sista”
He must do what you say.
Get a close friend and the both of you go out and take part in certain activities all the time, let me see if he is happy.Sometimes if his friend is their ,tell him you going out, see if he don’t feel bothered.You just their, probably let all your friends go because of him.Get a life you are not even married yet.
sometimes its not the fella fault..sometimes these so called ‘dawgs’ are just parasites and have no respect…at least wen he sees u come over he should know its time to leave..choops
so tru
so true.. my friends come over to my house all the time, but when my man get there..they bounce. same goes when i at their home and there man come around i leave give them their space.. this dawg have nothing to do..
I totally agree some people just don’t have a conscience and have no respect for people’s privacy. The “dawg” needs to give the people’s home a break and find a job or some hobby. Geez
Your boyfriend and his dawg are on the DOWNLOW, girl.
my sentiments exactly! Seems he wants to spend all his time with his “dawg” well tell mister is either you or his “dawg”.
that aint no friend he afraid of losing. He acts as if he afraid of him? wonder if it is something that his “dawg” hiding for him. dig deeper
girl this is the first thing which comes to my mind after reading this story that dawg seems to have a crush on your man or they are already an item and he using you as a cover up.which real man would encourage this bull,and not deal with it if he really loves you.
Why don’t you women get quality men in your lives instead of coming here complaining about a bunch of immature boys? Perhaps you ladies should wait a bit longer until you get a good quality man. You will be happier for it.
Mr and his dawg are Poofters
I ride for my n!!!!gg@@@@@zzzzzzzzzzzz DAWWWWWWWWGGGGGGGGG !! #STAYSCHEMING
Your boyfriends dawg might be more than a dawg! He might be a bitch! And girl you need more that Aunty B for that! YOU NEED A SOS!!!!!
Ahhh you funny
You love the man and he dont love you, is it hard to see he prefers his friend over you.
Men dont love women and hurt time like that, you must be someone hoping that you get nice answers but the fact is a woman like u already knows that he illtreats you and disregard ur feelings but yet u choose to stay in it and expect the public to feel sorry for you.
I say to the guy keep doing what u do, she is gonna stay there no matter what u do
That is soo true…..
you must be the dawg.
sound like u just like this dawg..like her or not give them their privacy..stupes. she is his woman..dawg find something to do with ur life..
You are so correct. This bloody woman is dogging him too much. They also have too many ups and downs. We need to know the reasons. Something does not add up; and it has much to do with her. What is this deep dark secret.
Hahaha that story is funny lol. The ‘dawg’ is giving u some serious competition it seems. I know the feeling. We don’t like competition from females and its even worst from males. Lmao.
All u gotta do is tell him like it is. Don’t come around my man wen I’m home
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