Dear Bella: A wife saw a text on her husband’s phone with a younger woman asking ‘do you still love me? do you really love me?” He was confronted by his wife and he said that he has nothing with the young woman. She believes that her husband is being untruthful. Should she believe him? Do you think she will be able to trust him again?
She is such a wonderful person. Since then I feel she has died emotionally because our friendship has not been the same since that day. She tells me that she feels betrayed.
Dear Concerned Friend:
It is possible her husband has not had sexual or intimate relations with this girl – as yet. He probably was caught before it blossomed into something more intense. However, it is unacceptable as a married man to be having those kind of texts on his phone. And first of all how did he get this young lady’s number? It got there some way somehow. He probably likes the young lady or is interested in getting intimate with her.
Now anything like this can betray trust so you totally have to understand her situation. What is heartbreaking is that she is not sure if he is telling the truth because there might be more to this text – or not.
She needs to get the truth out of him. I think a husband-wife discussion – not argument is needed to mend the offences. Or a marriage counsellor needs to intervene. Either way, he needs to get rid of this communication, starting with the girl’s number or else the marriage is sure to go down the drain.
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