Men hate saying “I love you”

One of the things I hate telling a woman is “I love you”. Men are not emotional beings. And if we have to tell a woman that, it means that we have to be in love with them – head over heels.

Most times women tell you they love you because they want to hear it back. That’s because women love to hear when a man say “I love you”. But why force it out of us? It’s annoying. Let us say it when we really mean it. Even if you never hear it, does not mean we don’t love you.

Saying “I love you” makes us feel soft and weak, and I just cannot afford that to trip my huge male ego. Has anyone heard the Lion say “I love you”? No. He just licks her ears and head and humps away. But he’s the King of the Jungle still right? Yea, men can express love in different ways other than saying it. Furthermore, talk is cheap.

One of the things I hate is when a woman asks you if she loves you during sex, especially if it’s a one-night stand, or worst if she keeps telling you “I love you baby” during sex.

OK come on, do you expect us to speak the truth during that time of ecstasy? A guy will say anything to get in your panties and he will say anything when he is making love to you. Ok what would happen if he does not say what you want to hear? You would stop and push him off right? Of course. And we do not want that.

Let the man take the initiative and say he loves you. If he tells you he loves you during the good times, hell yes, you got yourself a genuine man. If he tells you that he loves you during sex without you asking, then that’s even better.

“I love you Nice Guy,” a girl once told me while she hugged and kissed me.

“OK then,” was my reply.

She got furious and slapped me: “OK then? That’s it? After we *** last night? Oh my God”.

“But babes,” I said. “I like you a lot but love is a different level. I know we can reach it. Give me time.”

But she had none of it, she dumped me. Since then I’ve stopped being honest with girls about being in love with them.

I know women are emotional beings and love to be told sweet things and be pampered but it’s the 21st century. Women know too well how men are to continue to pull off crap like forcing a man to say “I love you too”. Be patient. The man will open up to you.

See ya next Friday.

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41 Comments

  1. marie
    November 7, 2015

    My husband claims to hate his good friends girlfriend every time he sees her he starts calling her the worstt names in the book .she can’t hear him but he won’t stop untill I tell him to stop he gets so mad every single time when they talk he’s so nice to her . ??? :?:

  2. March 30, 2015

    Your problem is you do not know the difference between love and sex.

    The kind of men you are referring to do not want to tell you they love you. Why? Because if they loved you they would respect your womanhood and not be having sex when the two of you are not married to each other.

    They are aflame with lust but they are not feeling love. If you think they love you naturally you are going to want to get more serious. They don’t want you thinking about marriage.

    Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. international Evangelist.

  3. rab
    April 12, 2013

    Yeahh my bf dont say he loves me thats why im not giving my 100% attenyion to him ,im just looking for the right guy to come and he is out :-D

    • Anonymous
      August 28, 2014

      I feel ya on that. When u do all you can and all they do is complain or want to blame other relationships for y they can’t say it…. just wait somebody will sweep u off ur feet :lol:

  4. lara
    July 2, 2012

    ive been seeing this guy for a year on off were not in a relationship i go over a lot stay at his house wit his friends and yes we sleep together its almost been a year and last night during sex he asked me do u love me? and he asked again and i said yes he said say it say i love u anthony and i did…..but i do love him he said why dont i beleive u i told him i never lie. what does this mean???

  5. Lips
    April 26, 2012

    The guy I was seeing told me he loved me before we were together, then during the first time we had sex he said it again. I told him it was just lust and that I didn’t believe him then he got mad and stopped saying it. I asked him why and he told me it was cus I didn’t believe him. So it really depends on the guy he wasn’t very open with he’s feelings either so that says a lot.

  6. LOL HaHa
    April 22, 2011

    mr nice guy hav a point bt i tend to disagree wi pal..

  7. Krisstinna
    February 28, 2011

    My bf broke up with me beacuse i said i love you to him to much and then 2 weeks after he asked me out again saying he cant stay awayfrom me and he wants me and he loves me like wtf and then i said i love u to and he got mad and know he is saying i love you and i said really ?and he said yes (IDONT GET GUYS IT MAKES ME MAD!

  8. sweet pum pum
    January 13, 2011

    I say action speaks louder than words I know Mr Nice Guy have some serious issues but he is human and he does make sense sometimes different opinions people he cannot always say what you want to hear. Everyday a man telling you he love you and don’t mean it..what now?? you happy ? We are both having sex and I’m enjoying it too how is that using me nah ? No strings and I well like it too lmao make a noise…

  9. On the real
    November 17, 2010

    What should a women think when a man tells a women he loves her after two weeks and continues to tell her he loves her and no sex has been involved at this point.

    Right an article on the reverse: When a man tells a women he loves her what does it really mean or possible meanings?

    awaiting you input….. ” I always love to be educated about the opposite sex.

  10. Hmmm
    October 16, 2010

    This article is very realistic, most women are all to eager to fall in love wit a guy, and they figure once he says he loves them that its genuine… But its not necessarily so. Women just relax and enjoy ur man, the truth always has a way of revealing itself

  11. LMC
    June 26, 2010

    Thanks Mr. Nice Guy. I was in the throws of passion last night with a man I see off and on. I do love him and he asks me regularly during sex if I love him. I do and in that intate moment I'm not afraid to say it. Well yesterday during a mighty fabulous session, he said that he loved me. I really didn't know if it was the passion or not. He isn't open at all about his feelings and it really catch me off gaurd. I'd never ask, I feel that if he did, he would tell me. Thanks for offering a man's perspective on that, who else would know.
    LMC

  12. Yes I
    June 7, 2010

    Love is a powerful thing and should always be genuine.

  13. lol
    June 6, 2010

    At times in this article mr. nice guy sounded like an immature, inexperienced little jerk..but in essence, he does have a point. you cannot force a man to love you and say “i love you”…STOP BEGGING! when you say it expecting them to say it back(especially when there is no commitment), u begging! sometimes it pays off and if he loves you he will say it back ; or as other posters say, he will say it to get u in bed). but why try to drag it out of him?

    a lot of people bashed mr. nice guy saying “oh you doh know what u saying…i have a man/husband/boyfriend and he tells me he loves me all the time” (so to speak)…allu not seeing is not allu he refering to? the man specifically said, “If he tells you he loves you during the good times, hell yes, you got yourself a genuine man. If he tells you that he loves you during sex without you asking, then that’s even better.” You hardly find a woman who marries a man if he doesn’t say he loves her…so even if it makes u feel good that you have a man who tells u he loves you all the time, what does t his have to do with Mr. nice guy’s point that ‘single’ (meaning unmarried/unattached) men don’t want women to nag/force them to say “i Love you” and if the man doesn’t they get mad…

    I personally think Mr. Nice guy is a D**b A** most of the time and even parts of his article was uncalled for and totally irrelevant/annoying/infuriating…but he did have a point…a lot of women have to stop being so needy…if u with a guy that u feel is wasting your time, move on!!! and u usually know it when a fella is a waste…

  14. Poor thing!
    June 6, 2010

    Alas Nice guy! Who was the girl? What she do you like that? Must have hurt you really bad, eh. Poor Darling. It’s ok, dou-dou.

  15. June 6, 2010

    How about that? meet a woman she said if you love me buy me a leather jacket , pay my rent , fix my car wine and dine me till i run broke, ect, ect, now figure out who is using who food for thought. Different strokes for different folks. i thought we quit the none scense, but no i just realized earlier weonly read some nice post when one of our people turns 100 years of age. Finally to CHARMZ! you should be the last one to sound like you know what love is just ask some CASTLEBRUCE and LAUDAT people your record speaks for itself. Now eat your heart out! Gold Digger.!!!!!!!

  16. omg
    June 5, 2010

    I U DO NOT HAVE ANYTHING TO SAY Y DON’T U SHUT UP…U R DEGRADING THE REAL MEN

    • me
      January 24, 2011

      You are crazy and cannot write out words. Are you retarded?

  17. Just checking
    June 5, 2010

    So what do men say to their male lovers hehehehhehehehehe

  18. Anonymous
    June 5, 2010

    THIS MAKES NO SENSE..MEN AS WELL AS WOMEN HAS TO BE IN LOVE WITH THEIR PARTNER IN ORDER TO SAY I LOVE YOU..NOT BECUASE U ARE A MAN THIS MEANS U CAN SAY I LOVE YOU. ITS NOT CHARGED ON UR CREDIT CARD, IT NOT MAKING U ANY LESS OF A MAN, IT DOES KILL YOU ANY FASTER, IT WILL NOT GET GIVE U AN UNWANTED BABY, IT WILL NOT LET U MARRIED ANY EALIER THAN SUPPOSE..I JUST THINK THAT WHEN U IARE IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE, U SHOULD SAY IT WITH NO FORCE…

    MEN NEED TO GET OVER THEMSELVES AND STOP THIS MALE EGO THING..ITS SICKENING , SO SICKENING…
    JUST LIKE WOMEN SAY, MEN ARE MEN THATS WHY THEY CHEAT..STUPES…MEN AND WOMEN CAN BOTH CHEAT, DOESNT GIVE A MAN RIGHT TO CHEAT BECUASE HE IS A MAN….TIME MEN AND WOMEN GET HOLD OF THEMSELVES AND STOP THIS ( EGO , PRIDE THING)..MAKES NO SENSE

  19. spari
    June 5, 2010

    Mister not making no sense. Guess he has never experience real love. Just a few of us ever have that type of blessing in a life time.

    • sam
      June 6, 2010

      spari I must say the young man made perfect sense how annoying is it to ask a man if he loves you of course he will say yes because he wants the coochy when he gets it cha. NEXT! First before you go to bed with a man make sure there is something there.something of substance, he care, provides, protects and respects thats one of the way you can tell. or he takes you home to meet his family, or he does not diss you for someone else then you can tell..

  20. hmmm
    June 5, 2010

    OKKKK….SAYING I LOVE YOU DOESNT MAKE YOU ANY LESS OF A MAN. IF U SPEAK TO YOUR ELDERS TODAY AND ASK ABOUT THEIR LOVE LIFE AND WHY THEIR MARRIAGES LASTED SO LONG THEY WILL TELL YOU ITS BECAUSE OF DEDICATION AND BACK THEN I KNOOW MEN WERE NOT AFRAID TO SHOW THEIR EMOTIONS AND THESE ARE THE REEEAALL MEN! THEY USED TO WRITE LONG LETTERS TO THEIR LOVERS AND THEY WERE NOT AFRAID TO PAMPER N SHOWER THEIR WIVES. ME AND MY B/F HAVE SEX AND WE SAY IT TO EACH OTHER ALL THE TIME HE SAYS IT AND I SAY IT BACK AND IT GOES THE OTHER WAY ROUND TOO… AND TRRUUUSTT ME IT DOESNT MAKE HIM ANY LESS A MAN CUS HE STILL HAS ALL THE BODY PARTS THAT MATCHES UP TO ONE AND HE HAS THE PERSONALITY OF A REAL SERIOUS, LOVING AND NO NONESENCE MAN. I AINT TAKIN N E THING U SAY SERIOUS MR NICE DUDE

  21. DA Queen
    June 5, 2010

    piper what u say is true “men will say anything to get into a woman’s pants”…but men have to understand that if they don’t love a woman it’s best to be honest than lead them on and ruin that love & trust for the man who truly loves her….LOVE is fragile

  22. EWTN
    June 5, 2010

    That is so true. When they say it now i say it back because theys r just words and it takes nothing from me to say them.

  23. Piper
    June 4, 2010

    But how come allu women think men using allu just becuase they have sex with you without commitment? Men don’t have to be in love to have sex. That is the way we are. But I never thought I USED women with whom I had sex. We go out together, have a nice dinner, maybe go dancing. We are both in the mood after a nice night out and we conclude the night in bed. She agreed to use having sex. How is that using someone nah? So I have to tell you I love you to have sex with you, even thought I don’t love you? Or sorse yet, I am supposed to wait until I fall in loive with youy before we have sex? Then and only then I wil not have used you?

    So if a woman has a one night stand and she knows that love does not exist, is the man using her too? So long as the man does not mislead the woman, she ought to know what she is involved in. We are not talking about children here.

    Now as I said earlier, I used to tell women all kinda nice words to get into theor panty. But come on, you mean they believed all that shite? I am sure they wanted to go to bed just as badly, but they just wanted me to tell them something to make them not feel so bad to have sex so quickly.

    The same thing when when are in groups. They well want their thing, but they do not want the other women knowing what they doing because they do not want to be judged by the rest of the group.

    Stop pretending ladies.

  24. June 4, 2010

    What is love?
    Love is a feeling u feel when u r about to receive a feeling that u have never felt b 4.

  25. charmz
    June 4, 2010

    If you’re not in a relationship why say you love the person? but really u may think you sound strong and solid but the truth is you sound childish and ignorant… It’s ok if you’re not ready to fall in love but don’t go around using women… My man tells me he love me all the time and i can see he mean it but that doesnt make him week.. it shows his maturity, he also get me flowers regularly esp after an arguement.

    From what i read, either you have been heart broken before or you’re not ready for a mature relationship but don’t bring all men down with you….

  26. Bawibeff
    June 4, 2010

    Folks, lets not be too harsh on Mr. Nice Guy. He has a point. Though I don’t mind saying ILU to my lady from time to time, I think women see it as a right of passage and want to hear it “all the time”.Personally, I prefer to express my love for her in other ways than just verbalising “I love you”. I think it is better for a woman to know in her heart that she’s loved and appreicted rather than hearing ILU. No doubt women will disagree and that OK. Most times these words (ILU) are spoke without the sincerity they deserve. Mr. Nice Guy has touched on something here and women need to listen up; he’s got a point.

  27. SE
    June 4, 2010

    Because YOU don’t tell your women “I love you” that don’t mean that OTHER MEN don’t like to say it. You can’t speak on behalf of all men from your experience because some people might say “all men are dogs” and that’s not true either.

  28. 96 Degrees
    June 4, 2010

    I have news for you Mr. Nice Guy. My husband tells me he loves me all the time, calls me on the phone just to say ‘I love you.” He’s like a love bug. So men out there who love their woman will let them know. SHAME ON YOU NICE GUY!

  29. Brown Sugar
    June 4, 2010

    well Mr. Nice Guy all i can say is that my man tell me he loves me all the time not only durning our intimate times. so if u know u dont love someone why go use them and hurt their feelings. all i can say is i’ve got a genuine man because he tell me he loves me even when we are having our confrontations. so too my baby i love u toooooo.

    • Piper
      June 4, 2010

      BrownSugar doh lie dere. Your man does tell you he loves you even when allu quarelling? You think you talking to likkle children here?

      Nice Guy, you talking about telling a women “I love you” when allu in a relationship right? Boy I used to even tell them I ready to marry dem to get sex. Woman like to hear that kinda talk, so if she playing hard to get I used to tell them anything to get in their panty.

      But now that I have my wife, I does tell her I love her and she can take that to the bank…..

      • stupz
        June 4, 2010

        LOL PIPER YOU HAVE KIXX HHAHAHAHA

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      • Jokes
        June 5, 2010

        You really made me laugh.

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      • Roz
        June 7, 2010

        people have to be realistic too eh..you canna just meet a guy in a jam and all of a sudden he love you…dude dont even know you like that…he likes what he sees…surely…and will say all type of silly things…but offense is the best defense…

        I does be straight up…you want to take me home? not happening.
        you love me darling? aw…so sweet…still not happening

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  30. Observer
    June 4, 2010

    Nice Guy, you sound like a jerk. Either you love a woman or you don’t. If you don’t then you should not try making love to her, that is called ”using’. How would you like it if someone ‘used’ you just because they could, especially if it came from your pocket or better yet, if you did love them and they were just having fun. I am sure you would be crushed. Honesty is always the best policy. Don’t have sex if you are not in love, never fake it then nothing will be expected of you, especially not those three words.

  31. jennifer
    June 4, 2010

    positiveeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

  32. hmmmm.....
    June 4, 2010

    I wonder if a man has a woman who never tells hims she loves him how would he feel. I have already heard men complain and say, my woman never tells me she loves me. i hope nice guy knows that there are women just as men who dont like to say i love you.

    i think that it should be expressed Genuinely on both sides

  33. love
    June 4, 2010

    understand

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