Men who live with their mothers

It’s a recession, and I know a lot of men are returning to their parents’ homes. However, we note the ones who cannot return – because they have been there since birth!

Now, I cannot understand how can a working man, in his 20s or 30s, have kids, plenty women, a decent ride, and still living in his mother’s house.

I could understand if he is going to college and has no means of financial support, but once you hit the job market it’s time to step up and step out.

And these men have the nerve to want to run women all about the place like pimps.

I had a friend who told me he is irritated with his parents because they continue to treat him like a boy. He has a curfew (which he does not obey), he has to eat up the vegetables, he has to inform his mother when he is dating, and he cannot have sex at the house (as long as they don’t know).

Now the dude is 45 now. And still living with his mother (his father died last year). And yes he has a fair paying job.

His excuse for not renting an apartment for himself is of course the expense, and the fact that as an only child, the mother may pass the house onto him.

“I could save that money,” he once told me.

But what if his mom becomes a centenarian? She is in her late 60s.

“Well I’ll wait,” he said.

Mister is a scrub, and he is like many guys out there, who like to have the most women, but can’t afford to top up their woman’s phone or buy them some pads.

And these guys have the biggest mouth and the latest flash, but at nights you hear their mother quarrelling with them about leaving their underwear on the kitchen sink or coming in too late.

Nothing is wrong in waiting for your parents to leave a piece of land or a piece of house in their will for you. But in the meantime, practise some independence. Get a job and rent an apartment and save towards your own independence.

Sometimes these wills cause family disputes and many times end up in court. You might just lose the case because your mom left out an important document, clause or word.

Sometimes it takes years to win the case.

So my take on this is try to live as independent as you can. Staying under your own roof is the best. Well at least you won’t have to worry about who you bring and what you do.

So guys before you start criticising anyone or man-handling your woman, go find your own place.

Nice Guy is written by an A-Hole so don’t take him on. He has woman issues and would like some help (writing is his therapy). He is also seeking a Nice Girl to compliment his column. He can be reached at [email protected].

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29 Comments

  1. MissFedUP
    March 25, 2012

    I just broke off a relationship with a man who has lived with Mom for about 9 years, he doesn’t work and hasnt’ for 7. She does his laundry and cooks for him EVERY DAY. The poor thing is 86 years old. Meanwhile her son, my ex, lives in his rec-room “cave” smoking marijuana all day waiting for her to die so he can have her measly $1000-a-mont trust $$$ to live on. He recetnly told me plans to move in with his brother after Mommy dies? I think he will starve to death, cuz his brother doesn’t cook.

    I have no idea what i was doing with this man for 2 years, but he has a large penis, so that must have been it. WAIT! He was too tired to use it after smoking marijuana all day, so maybe i was desperate for company.

    Truth is, if he got a job, moved into his own place, learned something about compassion and caring he’d be a decent person.

    i’m disgusted.

    • MissFedUP
      March 25, 2012

      ….and i really DO know how to spell properly, my keyboard is shot and apparently i was too lazy to proof my comment below. sorry for the crappy read!

  2. Lori
    July 9, 2011

    :lol:
    I have been dating one for 10 years and ladies let me tell you that it is a permanent disease.
    They are permanent boyfriends..nothing more.
    Thankfully I didn’t want more.
    They are fun to hang with but don’t expect any commitment because you cannot compete with the mother whom is in the wife position.
    Mother will be leaving the house and money so you can’t compete with that either.
    The mother calls 5 to 10 times a day in order to keep control and they don’t find anything wrong with that.
    If it’s a man you want in any way resembeling a traditional male partner…Stay away from this one.
    They are nothing more then over grown little boys.
    He has worn out his welcome with me.
    I too am a woman whom was a single mom raising kids and he came into my home with only his own needs in mind and my kids suffered.
    In this case their was no financial problem and no sick mother to care for.
    Only his need to do as little as possible with a greater outcome and need to be cared for with no reponsibilty.
    Like I said they are great to spend time with or vacation or date on the weekends but that is where it ends.
    When you expect things too move forward they begin to pull excuses from everywhere to avoid commitment.RUN while you can!

  3. Duttatarayan
    June 26, 2010

    ummm living with your mum doesnt mean that u live with them just for the sake of money or property ….u guys may think of this a curtailment to your freedom but tell u something in their old age its our responsibility to take care of them and look for their comforts and well being .Let me remind u that not all parents have huge properties that give them the backing to live alone after they retire nor they have the want to part with kids whom they love the most

  4. May 13, 2010

    Where have you gone Mr Nice Guy? Long time no see……..

  5. madhead
    March 19, 2010

    your gay aint you “nice guy”

  6. cookoon satti
    March 18, 2010

    Thanks for giving good advice to those dumb men. no man getting my poompoom if he cannot bring me to a place that is his own—rent or own? where are we going to have sex? In Mommy’s house? In car? In gardens? Packed in a car on the bayfront? No way!

    I don’t care of you never own a car. Have a place to lay your head that is yours whether it’s small or big fancy or spartan.

    Thanks NiceGuy you are not such an A-Hole.

  7. March 9, 2010

    i do not find anything wrong in a guy leaving at his parents home, but at some point i assume the guy would want to get of his lazy rear, get himself a job and woman move out build a family a.k.a get a life. but i do not think all men get that opportunity, they can’t afford anything so they are forced to return to the only place they are not pressured to do much “mother’s loving home” . way of the world i guess, well at least that’s how we make it.

    • Bella
      December 5, 2010

      Okay what about when you have been with your boyfriend for almost 2 years and he still lives at home with his mom.. Never has lived on his own. Never introduces you to his mother because you are divorced with kids and she tells him she is never interested in even meeting you. What then???

      • Đαяκ๖Ληgεł
        December 6, 2010

        that is just trash :| , he isn’t ready for a commitment ….. if man is with you after 6 months to say the least she should already be looking for place to be living with you, and if he is living with his mother or not, once he has faith in the relationship then he should introduce you to his mother as a sign of reaching to the “next level”… if it man is ashamed of his woman then he does not really care about her :| nor does he really wants to have a relationship with her… when u commit yourself to someone especially this long, its expected that u accept the full package (everything they come with) if not then its rather pointless being with that person…

  8. tm
    March 2, 2010

    i agree, go find your own place for a college student that is reasonableand understandable but not for a 45 year old working man with a steady paying job ur mother have the right to quarrel with you about coming in late and leaving your stuff in inappropriate places around the house becaue you should be independent and out there leaven on your own like all grown men are suppose to. what you think you gonna stay at your mothers home untilyou 60 man.

  9. GOOD en EASY
    March 1, 2010

    A MAN IS AMAN. AND MAN WAS CREATED TO LEAD. NOT TO FOLLOW A WOMAN. SO COME ON MEN TAKE YOUR RIGHTFUL POSITION AND LEAD. GET OFF YOUR MOMMY’S HOME AND LEAD YOUR FAMILY. SO YOUR CHILDREN WILL BE AT MOMMY’S HOME TOO.

    LITTLE BOYS TALKS I GUESS MOMMY HAVE THE RIGHT TO HIGHER AND FIRE YOUR GIRLFRIENDS AND YOUR WORKERS

  10. Dr. Finger
    February 27, 2010

    Mr.Nice guy you sure hit the nail on the head this time. No complaints from me.

  11. mesay queeek
    February 27, 2010

    Thats the reason mothers shouldnt breastfeed so damn much…lol hehe They are hooked. But i think truthfully as long as you helping out with the bills there is no reason you cant stay with moms. And all that good food cooking, some men dont wanna leave dat at all!! A dat mi seh.

  12. independent women
    February 26, 2010

    @pastense nothing wrong with that as long as you helping out with the bills and not eating all their food lol. but i’m sure you take care of your own expenses seeing as you have businesses and land etc.

  13. Pas la!
    February 26, 2010

    Leaving with your parents? Only way I can support that is if the man have his self contained space in the house and his full independence to bring who he want and come and go as he please with his full privacy too…All well and good….but if you talking bout a grown ass man in a room where he have curfew eh bien!, some of them taking their women in de back seat of de car, or in cheap guest house, just so they ‘doh upset their mammy and daddy’…….if a man want to live all his life by mom and dad like a little boy, then he shouldn’t want woman …at whose home he plan to fire all his shot?

  14. Mr. X
    February 26, 2010

    man fi top up woman fone … what happen dem gyal nah work fi top up dem fone … a what d joke …. in that case dem gyal need fi get a JOB… and stop look on man fi top up dem fone … oh and yes man need fi leave dem momma home …. but gyal need fi get some work …

  15. pastense
    February 26, 2010

    LAW ABIDING CITIZEN AND BELZBOB, what can i say/? finally i am not lonely anymore, intelligent sensitive people who see things from different angles. and most importantly, don’t make fools of people who don’t know better or are just plain narrow minded and short sighted. i hope you guys comment more often and don’t give in to the common reasoning that makes us treat eachother like numbers.

    p.s. i live with my parents too and none of these details up there match me. i own two small businesses, land, two vehicles and a staff. whats wrong with that?

    • BELZBOB
      June 4, 2010

      Good for you. I hate that we’ve become a culture that needs so much independence from each other and especially our families. No wonder the youth of today is so violent and so many are falling off course, they all want to be big men and women by the time they can walk and talk, and we let them. Where are the moral and parental guidance that used to exist in the olden days? Gone I guess. I think it take a lot of love, honor and respect for one’s parents to do what you do.

  16. Dominican lover
    February 26, 2010

    There are two sides to the story. In society where the extended family is practised it is mor eeconomical and the families are more prosperous, just look at the Asians. however every member of the family have to contribute to the family wealth. So young men become independent minded to help your parents and be responsible for your children, dont sponge off your mother and woman.Grow up and be responsible.

  17. dell
    February 26, 2010

    dont forget the twenty year old women who look thirty five upwards, why are we only talling boys

  18. Young Man in Dominica
    February 26, 2010

    Point taken BELZBOB i stand corrected

  19. LAW ABIDING CITIZEN
    February 26, 2010

    I agree with BELZBOB since that is the most sensible comment on this article. All other comments are just a waste of time for real. Every situation have to be treated differently especially when you are on the outside looking in… Can’t Judge a Book by it’s cover especially when you have not read it as yet!!!

  20. Karkabeff
    February 26, 2010

    If you guys dont get it yet, ask Tasha. P to describe him and I am sure she will be quick to tell you; “he’s a boy!!”

  21. BELZBOB
    February 26, 2010

    We have to understand that each to his own. The reasons and situation stated there, I understand, however, what happens when a guy decides to stay at his parents home so that he can pay the bills so that they don’t loose the land and house? Is he a boy? What happens when this guy buys groceries, maintains the integrity of the house, his vehicle and his woman? Is he still a boy? What if this guy still manages to help out his siblings and their children? Is he still a boy? We have to learn to treat every situation for what it is, make our minds up for ourselves and concentrate on our lives and stop minding other people business and stop being the real boys and girls. I have great respect for my friend because of his sacrifice and to see him hold his head up high when people have their thing saying that he’s a boy.

  22. Young Man in Dominica
    February 26, 2010

    lololol hahaha Mr nice guy this is your best article ever lol trust me, scrubs little boys living offmammy and thinking they all dat lol boys i cant stop laughing i know persons who fit this discription too well lol

  23. C F
    February 26, 2010

    @ tm u cannot say it any better….. “HE’s A BOY”!!!!!!!!!! Plain and Simple….. no 2 ways about it.

  24. commentator
    February 26, 2010

    Do not knock the concept of the extended family. There is a move to reintroduce the concept back into society. The recession is the trigger but the idea of supporting each other is biblically sound especially as we get older. We can thenbe less of a burden to society by being supported by our children. Works if you do not have too many children.
    p.s girls stay at home too!

  25. tm
    February 26, 2010

    Mr. Nice Guy, like Tasha P puts it in her song, “He’s a Boy”. No further explanation required.

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