I am in 8th grade and I am 13 years old and so is my boyfriend.
We’ve been together for four months and I love him so much but the problem is he cheated on me. His friends that go to his school told me the weekend of my birthday that he was with another girl and when I was with him and he was being very ‘lovey dovey.’
We were not together at the time, we were just like friends with benefits but his friends said that he and the other girl were dating two months before school started and he and I were together during those times.
He made me cry many times because every time I try to talk to him, he doesn’t listen or he says he’ll change but never does!
And now he keeps texting me, telling me he loves me and likes me but he tells his friends he doesn’t like me anymore. So he is playing two sides of the story.
I really don’t know what to do. Should I leave him alone? And its really hard because I am very close to his dad and cousin.
Confused teen
Dear Confused teen,
At this stage of your life, you should not be concentrating on boyfriends and love and cheating. Instead you should be thinking of your school work, on how you going to build a solid educational foundation and eventually a career. Those are crucial to your future and you should start thinking of them now.
I am not saying you should not have friends but to be involved in ‘love’ and ‘friends with benefits’ and ‘cheating’ and so on is definitely not for you right now.
Bella
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wat d is dem lil’ girls problem? I min, just 13 u dey tlkin bout strong love. Wat d hell dey no bout love
Dear Bella,
You wanna know what problem you have in the palm of your hands? The fact you’re worrying about boys. They’re nothing but trouble and plus, you have your whole life to worry about them. So just wait for a while and when the time is right you’l find your true love that will always care for you and not even re/consider about cheating on you.
I dunno why allu does go into all dem drama and why bella doesnt be real with it… Little girl stop dem nasty ways u understand…”friends with benefits” ??? girl u have hair on your coco as yet na… dem little children nowadays demented man!!! awa wii, you are a sick lil girl…
Whether the child is from the US, Dominica or just another part of the world she is still a 13year old who is too young to know about love. Which one of you at 13 never had a crush on a boy/man or experienced little ‘puppy love’? at that age her hormones are raging and all over the place, she is becoming aware of herself as a young woman and she ‘thinks that she is in love’ Probably at this point her Mom needs to be the one having that ‘talk’ with her. We are so damn backward, ignorant and hypocrite we make it very hard for our kids to approach us on certain subjects and so they seek advise elsewhere. I see nothing wrong in having a friendly but respectful relationship with your kids. Some of you bury your heads in the sand and pretend to be old fashioned and strict. We are competing with peer pressure and modern technology. As far as I know there have always been 13 year old girls with their little chaleh because of again the old fashion and ignorant parenting they learnt to keep shit on the down low so kindly don’t blame TV and computer. Shit’s been around long time.
Who says “8th grade” in the west indies?
honey u are to young to have a boyfriend
Tamika concentrate on your school.
belle beff! frenz with benefits?
<3 
am 17…wen i was 13 i wasnt involved in boys as yet, the best advice i can give u is to tell this young man if he loves u so much you all shud go on a break or jus wait for wen u are ready for a boyfriend..hunny, do not rush ur life, you will regret it and dont let these foolish comments thats some pple are postin, it jus shows there high level of ignorance….God bless you hun
Education comes first.
Young lady I am not going to attack your character just tell you the truth. The young man that you consider your boyfriend is just playing you like yesterday’s fiddle. You are just an extra piece of a$$ to him and as long as you keep giving it to him he will never stop what he is doing. No lie your books and grades are your best boyfriend right now, cuz when you get your degree in the end you can pick and choose who you want to be with that will treat you proper.
If bella did not publish it we would not be able to comment, advise and mapwize’
you learn to handle cock; learn to wash your dirty panties…Mummy mind your business and put her in the basin, in the kitchen, on the ironing board. get her a sewing machine, don’t give her back-out and batti Riders for her to get tollie…hard cork
It come like bella bazodee..how bella giving advice to 13 year old? Little gurl..go and rest your head on a book. “Friend with benefits”, I all of 25 years of age, and never before used that term to describe anyone. Ebehh!!
Loool uk number lol
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these days omg whats wrong with the youths 13 and she wants wood… oh oh so sad. time she is 16 all her grip is gone..
when for you to go and put your pee pee bed in sun and study your book you talking about man?… alas! is wood your parents sending you school for?
wait a minute!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 13yrs 8th grade….um,,,,,you aint from DA?13yrs you should be in a form not a grade here.
The point is not what the class is called is it? This child has a serious issue that we as adults can assist her with.
she would be in 1st form……this is babysnatching..wappen to dem youths nuh God
duh. 8th grade is first form
@ Rusty: A 13 year old young lady is crying out for help, and you’re just concerned about where she’s from or whether its called grade or form? Are you serious? Are you a parent? Young lady, I hope you are reading these comments, especially the ones that make sense. Please, please, concentrate on your education, it is your ticket to freedom and success. Once you’re educated, no one can take it away from you. If the so called boyfriend is already cheating at 13, what do you think will happen when he gets to high school/secondary school and subsequently, college? Life at your age should be carefree and stress free. It should be about fun and games with your friends; Puppy love is normal, but friends with benefits? What type of benefits do you offer? Honey preserve your self until you are mature enough to understand what love really is. I trust that you will heed some of the advice that is given on this forum.
Rusty, if memory serves me correctly, its not form its Junior 6 or something like that. After that its 1st form.
all of you did it at some point in you all life so dont act so supprised just a bunch of hipo.
to the young lady DNO is not the place to seek advise for your problems,you should have some sort of decency about you.
The world dont have to know your stuff,just look at the comments that some people are making about you.
Dont lower your standards on DNO,this is a time for your books and believe me it will serve you better in the end and with the proper benifits.
Technically they are calling you a whore and i am sure you are not that way but you let them do so.
Seek advise from either your parents or some good person but be careful because who you might thiink is good just might want benifits too.
If she could have seeked advise from her parents,why is DNO she come asking advice?.SMH.Are you dumb or do you have lack of commonsense.lmao.And you even calling people hypocrite.Stupes I bet you fall under d same category.
@ toma
There you go generalizing again. You are oh so wrong. Ask if they were forced to do it, against their objections and pleadings to cease and desist.
You must be a man to make such a statement. Always watch what you state for it may backfire in your face and embarrass you. If a research was conducted, the result may be that you are guilty of this crime and a big-time hypocrite
well i started out with the love of my life at 14 and was with 10years& 4kids later so it can work out hun if u wanna talk 0439173494
stop setting scenarios for your column,Bella.Where in D/ca you have 8th grade?Have we Americanized our school system? If you cannot get real people to contribute to your column call it as it is…a fabricated one where you answer questions that are normal part of life.
But all you people not right in the head. I am not in Dominica and I am reading the post? The child could have parents from Dominica or went away as a child so she knows about her roots. I just dont get all you…honestly
@ Desy. Desy, this is a global phenomena. People all over the world are connected via the internet and are reading things from different countries. Maybe the young lady is of Dominican decent, and felt comfortable reaching out to someone outside of her immediate circle. What’s wrong with that?
CHILD GO IN YOUR BOOKS !!!!!!!!!
Young women, do not feel pressured to sleep with anyone. Most of these guys are not worth you or your time. Trust me, I am well over the age of consent and I meet men that can barely kiss. If you are currently sexually active, you can stop at any time. There is a concept called second virginity.
Dating is designed to get to know your future mate. Ask yourself, if you would want this person to be your husband or the father of your children. Ask yourself, would you want your future daughter to be sexually active at such a young age.
Take time to get to know someone, see if he is worth the wait. Wait a month before you allow him the pleasure of holding your hand. Wait three months before your first kiss. These things will allow you to see if this person is worth your time. Male attention can be wonderful, but make sure that it is positive attention and not just sexual attention.
Keep a purity journal and know that you are worth the wait. There are too many Dominican women that have children before age 25, do not be one of them.
Great advice. I totally agree that this young lady needs to wait and focus on chastity. The same desires that she is chasing after, without a full comprehension of the emotional and other consequences of sex, will be present when she is old enough to handle a mature relationship and at that time she will be better able to contribute to someone’s life and to have someone love her in return, instead of a young boy just using her to satisfy his wet dreams.
However HEY NOW, an adult starting a family @ 25 years is not a problem, since we have seen much research indicating that the average person “enters” into a new level of maturity at age 25 as that person is no longer looking into a career/family future, but would be living their planned futures at that time.
Personally, I wish more persons would have children in their twenties to have the patience required to tend to children. Most people who wait and build their careers are so wrapped up in their careers by the time they have children that the children are left to take care of themselves.
If you noticed, I said try not to have a child before 25. So, I do not understand your lecture about maturity at 25, etc.
2)Do you think twenty somethings, have more patience?
3) Waiting to have a child after age 25, is not solely based on career,but consider if you look at it from that angle, one usually can complete grad school by age 23, establish a career by age 33, start a family and then work from home or have enough pull to have a flexible schedule and or a nanny to take care of the children.
Children change things, they take away the focus on self. Waiting to have children allows one to grow and become a better parent.
AA friends with benifits eh?.
Hmmmmm well my girl the benifits you should be looking for right now is your High School education,what you want to major in at college and being INDEPENDENT!…#education comes first.Remember that..Man always there.Most guys now adays is sex they want and you mem fooling yourself thinking is love you inlove..My girl go n pray and ask God to deliver you from what you are going through right now.
AA friends with benefits eh..
The benefits should be getting an education and obtaining a degree so one day you can become independent and own your own home,car family etc.#education comes first.
My dear if at 13 your guy prefer another coco over yours you really need to give the coco a break and study your work.
dominica schools are forms and standards not grades,where are you written from?
You right about that.
@ forreal
Grades are either in the U.S. and Canada of all. I would think that Great Britain still have forms and standards unless if this is changed. Correct me if I err. She may have written from one of those countries. Nevertheless, she has a concern and she wrote Bella. This is what we should concern ourselves about, the issue of this article.
Obvious troll is obvious
You had better get close to your parents and not him and his dad. Shame on that dad upholding that vice for his child and someone else own
Wash her gina in scratching cane water (Khan Grate`)
lol.. alas doe kill me…
MY GIRL YOUR FOCUS SHOULD BE ON ONE THING SCHOOL AND EDUCATION THE ONLY PROBLEM U SHOULD BE HAVING IS CANNOT SOLVE A SCHOOL WORK YOUR TEACHER GAVE YOU SO MY BEST ADVICE I CAN GIVE TO U IS FORGET ABOUT THAT BOY AND GET YOUR SELD EDUCATED BECAUSE I CAN TELL U WITHOUT THAT U NOT GOING ANYWHERE IN LIFE AND TIMES A HARD.
No matter what age your child is you should educate him or her about boyfriemd / girlfriend stuff. Guide them to their future. At the age of twenty three I was a working young lady with no boyfriend, neither did I had one in the past; and i remember this friend of mine looking for man for me. One day she said to me you I should be like you! You still have your virgin and I loose mine at seven Years. And she went on confessing all her past. At first i did not believe her, but, later that night after work, i went pondering upon that story…i came to realise that i was true.
So please don’t say its not happenning in Dominica. It’s very much widespread.
What can a seven year old give to a man. Alot of times we don’t look after our children. we are afraid of talking to them. We allow them to do their own thing, leave them unsupervised, and we fail to understand that they are more advance than us parents. Set the right examples for them. They live what they see.
Young lady, set your priorities right. YOUR EDUCATION FIRST… YOUR FUTURE, NOT MAN.. when your parents are worried about what they going to give you to eat and drink, how they going to pay school fees for you, You are worrying about boyfriend. Child school days the the best days ever…enjoy your youth dont destroy it…
@ Anonymous. At seven years old it has nothing to do with sex or a boyfriend. It’s called CHILD MOLESTATION or SEXUAL ABUSE of a minor child. That person should be in JAIL all now.
When children are molested, they usually become promiscuous teens, so maybe that’s what was going on with your friend. That is why we shouldn’t judge, because we never know what type of experience or circumstance people have been through.
I don’t think Bella made up this story some
of these kids are no easy you would be
surprised. a twelve years old asking my 11
years grand niece if she has a boyfriend, her
response to my niece was I have one you acting like a child, so lets be very carefull
with these kids because we don’t know what
they are doing behind our backs. I told her
mother about it because I don’t want anything
bad to happen to her.
@ bee
The last thing that this 13-year-old girl and boy should be thinking of is a boyfriend and girlfriend sexual affair and indulging in same. They do shock us.
Today, they know more than some of us when we were their age; much more. Some of them also murder their parents, siblings and others, the likes of which we never heard of when some of us were growing up in those days.
Once when I visited DA, a teenager killed another one. I was shocked that this occurred in DA. I wonder what has happened to this generation. Too much TV, computer, etc.?
Let us pray for the youths who need guidance and primarily from their parents and blessing of God. When they do not worship or know not why they worship God and go to church as some of them also reject Him due to lack of parental nurturing, this is what happens to them. What type of adults will they become? God is watching, looking on and taking notes.
Parents will have a great price to pay if they fail to nurture their children appropriately.
If they have done their part and the children do not listen, God knows this too and will take it into account and exonerate them.
However, woe to parents as also absentees and negligent ones, if they do not nurture their children appropriately in the ways of the Lord and instruct and guide them in the path of morality at such a young age.
All those lil 13 yrs old girls/boys have BB or mobile phones with internet access, computers and they watching all kinds of porn films and pictures and stirring up all kinds of sexual emotions in them. Time changing people I really don’t know what we can do with those children honestly, because we can speak to them till be blue in the face they will do what they choose to do.
I don’t believe that story for nothing…13 yrs old…friends with benefits…cheating on me…You serious and if it so happen to be true heaven forbid but I’m not stupid I know these young kids these days have a chaleh and some just down right nasty. Well that lil girl needs a beating. Is they so that just be well excited when they get a belly liking having a child is right up there with topping their CXC Exams. Then people blame parents..those child just too dam salop…pardon my english
I am sorry but I do not believe this story. Bella only puts things in there to gt people hipye…. why don’t she put things there from other readers….. I know for sure there is a lady that wrote to Bella about a situation and she is still waiting to hear back from bella, 2 months now…
Stop this nonsense…. what Bella Writes most of the topics if not all ARE NOT TRUE…
TAKE D DAD OR DE COUSIN. AND COME BACK AND TELL US HOW HE LIKES IT
you are disgust also a disgrace
put your damn head in your books and stop comming on dno and talking nonesense.what are your grades at school?
Well Miss 13 year old,you do need help,if your parent/s or parent figure is available muster up the courage like you did with “Bella” and talk to them,this problem is way bigger than a boyfriend/girlfriend issue,bring this “relationship”to a STOP before it’s too late or you will regret it for the rest of your life,and you can trust me on that!May God help you,because you’re gonna need Him,and that’s all I’m saying.
What u are feeling is not love it’s called infatuation,you are not old enough to know this person well enough to love him,there is a huge difference,you don’t want to find out several years from now what a BIG mistake you made,experience is a great teacher,I was lucky to rise from the dust,you might not be…. just trying to save you from yourself sweetheart!!
what happen nowadays nah it seems the children possesed and tormented. all kind of nonsense does just pass in their head . but parents remember the bible says the rod of correction will drive the evils thought away.CHILD GO TO CHURCH AND PRAY AND ASK GOD TO GIVE YOU SOME COMMONSENSE AND WISDOM.
child what do you know about relationships & friend with benifits? i’m advising you, please don’t race your chilhood.take your time. as you grow older you will become more mature and you will know how handle these situations. but for now, concntrate on your education. place all your focus into your studies. besides you are too young to be experiencing relationship problems. i’m not saying that you can’t have friends but you are not ready for boy friend. bella you sure this story is true?
Dear Bella:
Please stop making up these fantastic stories cause I think they are now having a negative effect on some of the younger folks.
Sincerely
Patience
you probably dont even no how to iron your school uniform.and i bet your mother still do your laundry.
Bella’s advice is one hundred percent correct. What is a 13 year-old doing with “a boyfriend and girlfriend with benefit”? As adults we know what this benefit is all about. It is obvious that you do not have parental supervision and have your own way to do as you please. For a child your age where do you find the time to be with your boyfriend in such a manner?
Young girl, put your head in the books and also the Bible. Go to Church and ask God to help you with your studies and this type of unsuitable love situation you have found yourself in.
Where is your parent or where are your parents? Discuss this with them. They are older and smarter than you are in affairs of the heart. Listen to them and pay heed.
Considering your age, have friends; be friends with this man but this is no time for you to be involved in a love affair. Life is short and how time flies. Time lost can never be re-gained. You should have one focus in mind and this is to study. In a few years you will be 15 to 17 and will graduate from school and then on to high school. Consider after that if you graduate from high school (I hope you do) it will be on to college or university. Think ahead. You have a bright future ahead of you. Do not spoil it. At your young age, I visualize that it is impossible for you to concentrate on a love affair and this man and still study properly and excel in school. Furthermore you are too young for that.
Forget about this 13 year-old boy who says he loves you. As you, he does not know what love is. Such types of love belong to adults and not 13 year-olds.
At his young age he is already cheating and lying. This should send a strong message to you about the type of person he has already become and he does not love. He has not yet even learned to love. Give this a good thought. As you go through life, choose your friends well. I wish you well. May God bless you and assist you.
In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
Firstly to the bloggers, could you kindly try divorcing your emotions from the issues/facts please? When one is emotional it clouds his/her judgement.
Secondly, whether this article is real or fictitious it reveals that there are many young teenagers who are involved in sexual activity in Dominica. There are teenagers in Dominica who have had children as young as 12 years old in this country.
Thirdly, young lady, what on earth do you know about love? I would really like you to read my comment, click the reply button and define this term for us please.
Fourthly, how can you be in 8th grade and have such a degrading relationship, “friends with benefits?”
Another point, you have to be careful about “friends” and gossip. Not everything you “hear” may be true.
Also, if someone says he or she loves you then act continuously differently from what was said then this love is only lip service.
Lastly, young lady my suggestion to you is please focus on your school. It is understandable that you have sexual feelings but you are really dealing with this the wrong way. Also, are you having unprotected sex with this “boy” who may be having the same with other girls? Seek counseling young lady.
@ A_Y
How can you know that they are emotional? You are presuming so. As adults, they are speaking the truth and offering advice in the Name of God the Father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit. Amen!
@ Injustice and Falsehood: This is how I will call you because you do not represent justice and truth. Your polytheism (trinity concept)is a disgrace to Allah.
Many of the comments are emotional because as a former English lecturer one can recognize this by the tone of the comment.
you got that right
Ahhhh…….Mocho problemo.Hope you have enough balls for heartaches, you better focus on your education seriously.
Y she did not say she close to the boy mother .. Why is the father and cousin? Man she like
Y she did not she she close to the boy mother .. Why is the father and cousin? Man she like
Friends with benefits at age 13???
at age 13 i was wondering when the next “Nancy Drew” book is going to be out!!! Child enjoy your teenage life…Man not running!!!!
not man in this days don’t want an uneducated girlfriend,they want someone who can help them
well well tell me what is happening to our youth,I got pregant at 23 years and know what happen myfamily put me outside because they think I should have take my time now my daughter is almost 10 years every day I sit down and talk to her because I don’t want her to make the same mistake I made take time to be children because at 13 you have all your time to fine a good man go school to try to get a good education before you worried about boyfriend
what the Hell???? child go check your books.
“friends with benefits at 13” papamet!! What is wrong with these kids this days. At 13 what do you know about love …hmmm!!
wat is it with children today noh? everything for them is about a man,go to school and learn later u will think about man ok
at 13 year old u shouldnt think about boyfriend, u should be think of school
LOL.. What kind of benefits you talking about? Are you giving that boy your lunch? I hope your are a straight “A” student, because it sounds like you have too much time on your hands.
8th grade? which school in Dominica that have 8th grade, that story seems to be a make up
leave the dude alone….concentrate on school
I believe this stories are real..and u know it..the amount of school girl who have boyfriends eh..how u mean if this story is real. and how about those we do not know about.
My daughter was honest enough to ask me if she can have a boyfriend she is 13 and i had to get her let her know that this is not important at all ..at her age she can’t have a boyfriend cause it leads from one stage to another. boyfriend is a commitment and now she has to be comitted to her books. she is trying to make me understand that it’s not about sex or kissing..but guess what, when she meets this boyfriend who knows what his mind is up to and changes her mind so quickly..so pleae u 13 year old my advise to you is take your time..if that boyfriend loves u he will wait and really wait for u to acomplish at least your high school successfully okay? hope ur mind is not already made up on having ur boyfriend child. choose your books now.
at 13 yrs i was worried about failing maths and how to keep red bulbs off my report book…man will always be there take your time my child trust me it worth it!
If those little woman had their big blue french basin with all their school blouse, skirts, socks and panties to wash on a Friday afternoon or saturday morning they wouldn’t have time for all that bs. Allez apwon laver fook chillott ou. Good for nothing. You even writing Bella?? You confused?? Good for nothing. Dat’s why those man have to use all you. All you panty crutch brown, go and learn to clean and cook.
@ Cari
…And if they had the type of parents and parental supervision who would not allow them out specifically after school, they would not have time for boyfriends. They would have admirers but not the type of boyfriend, girlfriend that she is stating. This could also be the problem when parents are working and children are left alone without supervision, some, to do as they please.
That’s not the way Cari, she is only 13, don’t put her down. Encourage, suggest and advise.
They have all kind of sex education and they still not learning. Some parents doing all they can but when the child decide they ready for man there is little or nothing you can do so is gwa moon talk.
You parents afraid to give the kids licks and want to talk to them as if is girlfriends. Gimme a break.
When at 13 you sexually active you need big talk. In other words, maypwi.
If my daughter is a virgin and she’s curious we can have a heart to heart. But once they start to take their fing forget about dat. Is birth control talk, learn to wash your dirty clothes and clean house talk, AIDS test next month talk, pap smear next week talk, herpes, HPV, syphillis talk and proper condom usage talk. That’s my advice and suggestions to missy 13 yrs old and all parents. No dada gaga.
dat is thing to put up dat child need some good lash
Too much physical punishment causes low self esteem and rebelliousness. It’s not advisable.
any retard knows that this is not from dominica !!smh
So what? Why concern yourself about it?
everyone knows 8th grade is 2nd form…the person could have just said 8th grade to not make it obvious
That’s true, we do not have 8th. Grades in Dominica
IDK why the negative comments
Dominica doesn’t have an 8th grade so he/she is quite right. But seriously what a 13 year old in a relationship for four months talking about all that love and cheating and all that jazz for? My girl you not in the relationship long but my advice is cool out on the dating scene till you reach at least 16. Us men will always be here but our intentions differ between us. My girl wait a little while. I know it’s hard but take your time and when the time comes don’t have sex till you sure he’s worth it cuz most men just want sex and ask for it quite early. take at least 6 months in a relationship to figure out if a guy is genuine and listen to the rumours cuz usually there’s no smoke without fire. But for now concentrate on the books to secure your future so no man can rule you or use you
Need to worry about Ur school work and enjoying Ur child hood,nowadays these kids wanna be too grown……………..
that KFC SONG GETTING TO THEM?? 8TH GRADE? THIS ISN’T THE US!!
this website is also associated with one in the US virgin islands which has 8th grade. dear bella is also seen on that website
You 13 and confused.Well the holy bible says remember the creator in the days of the youth.The peace of God excels all thought will guard your heart and your mental power.; philippians;4;7.
This statement shows you are even more confused than the 13 year old. One has to remember the creator however, you have not addressed the 13 year old sexual appetite. What do you suggest?
GOD IS NOT A GOD OF CONFUSION,.
Your understand about God is a confused one. Your reasoning is flawed. God helps those who helps themselves. Simply telling someone about God doesn’t solve their problems. You need to provide realistic and practical solutions to problems along with spirituality. Why don’t you sit in a corner, pray for money for the entire day then it will come to you.
As a father myself I Got 3 two boys one girl all under the age of ten.I Make them fear GOD.Poverbs ;1 ;7.THE fear of the lord is the beginning of knowledge;The Lord taketh pleasure in them that fear him,in those that hope in his mercy.A-Y Isay GOD.
wanna let you people know that these things does occur right here in D/ca . We don’t have eight grade , however , we have alot of young children and I’m talking about 9-16+ who’re sexually active and yes prostituting too . To this young 13 year old it grieves me to know that you’re experiencing this already and ofcourse you have drives too and urges , you’re teenager and maybe attractive , good looking , hot and good to go , but this life aint for young people . getting into this life steals from you , your childhood and exposes you to an unwanted life of responsibilities and regrets . take advantage of your opportunities to become all you desire to become , in the future when the time is ripe enough and you’d have acquired much knowlege then with no regrets of having to miss out on teen years and pre-adolescence .
@ gorillaz
This is where communication with parents come in. This is what she should be doing, discussing it with her parents. Hopefully they are approachable, broadminded and will be able to counsel her in a loving manner. This is their duty as parents.
Well said
AY I WORK I MAKE GOOD MONEY IF YOU NEED MONEY YOU GO FAST AND PRAY,.GOD BEEN GOOD TO ME .
SEX DEM CHILDREN LIKE SO DEN!.
Awwwa wii
God is the one who created these urges, it’s just a matter of managing them. These young women need to be active, sports and other extra curricular activities.
So if they play netball in the afternoon they’ll not have sex. Nice one.
DNO, Please relate all your next stories to the Dominican culture.
U retard this happens everyday here in DA!
@ B
Explain yourself. Are you an adult or a child? News is of every nature. Surely you should be aware of that. It appears that you have much to learn.
it is a normal thing in life to be attracted to the opposite sex and as we should know as part of life teenagers will go through those stages such as peer pressure, teenage pregnancy,etc these are factors teens are affected by. its is up to us the parents and adults to play our roll by not being hypocrite, but speaking fair to this child. so i would say to this child darling you are pretty boys will come after you but baby tell them mommy said that at my age my schooling comes first, so right now i can be your friend, we can do group study. so when we graduate together you will be my boyfriend. Cause i was a teenager raised in a good home tight parents but becuz of frens i still had my little chic cuz you seeing your other frens with boyfriends honestly the only diffrence we were not thinking of sex at that time, all was on my mind if i had sex i will get pregnant and i know what my parents would do to me and trust me i was afraid. So baby girl lets do our school thing first, have your friends do school work together, but No Sex ok baby girl u dont want to get pregnant right.
8th grade i think is 2nd form. Child u need a good whipping. At your age, u want to go crazy early.Man problems. U should be enjoying your childhood days, even watching DORA. Lord what is the world coming too.
First form. After grade 7 we go to Form 1
Padna d/a have grade 7 still nah.
I thought dat gone wii.lol
Physical beatings not going to solve the problem! Thumbs down!
13 years and friends with benefits?
I really don’t want to laugh. Gotta be kidding me.
Child go and learn to wash the arm pits of your school blouse you hear.
She sure knows alot at 13. Friends with benefits. Yeah the benefit will come soon and by the time she is 18 she will be heading to retirement home. No wonder some people look very old at a young age. At 13 I was still playing with my dolls
Nowadays they getting to 16 and they don’t know how to boil an egg or make a cup of tea, but they have had how many boyfriends, some of them with their parents approval, but when they grow up and get married and their husband go to another woman because she can cook, clean, wash,iron have all her qualifications and still good in the bed, they crying.
DNO self have a GUUTS wee….
Bella you didn’t check that Boo Boo..where Dominica have 8th grade. Carmem…
Webbie i waiting for you. Cause you like to me up. Let me see if this make post
ADMIN: Obviously you think only people in Dominica read and write to DNO. Expand your horizon!
Love your response dno…but most times I don.t even bother to respond to these scholars on here..its just not worth it
Admin, you don’t have to be rude,nuh
Excellent response DNO!
are this stories even real
NO
friends with benifits?? girl all men care about is getting in your pants and you are more valuable than that it hurts now but its just puppy love focous on your studies for now and have friends taht u can grow with but the sex thing is worth the wait the wait for someone who really cares about YOU NOT JUST WHAT IN YOUR PANTS then u will understand more about love let this be a lesson its too much for u right now enjoy being a child cause it will be gone before you know it
well said
Which 8th grade it have in Dominica? Bella I starting to think you making up those stories…lol
Why should you think that, Bella is from Dominica, and its not only Dominicans read DNO
You people on here are pathetic…break the stupid cycle..I am sure you will be talking about this infront of your kids and guess what..they are sectetly laughing at you because they too have their boyfreind and girlfreind or their teenage crush…I do not think that one should get into a serious relationship so early myself..but what I hate is the tone that most of you have on here..like totally dismissing her feelings and commandiing that she end the relationship is going to solve anything…seem to me that you guys dont learn anything….no parent cana Childs relationship with that tone and attitude…wouldnt it be nice if this child had a mom or dad that she could discuss this with
And if this parent came proper then chances are that this kid would listen and obey but if you want to solve it with this tone and attitude as reflected on here then I suggest you move to Iran cause that is the only way you will be able to put an end to this relationship
Correction no parent can end a Childs realationship with such tone and attitude…and to the person on here who stated that they got into their first relationship at 17 ….so what….the other day I was listening to a pastor preaching …he said he fell in lobe with his wife at the age of 8 ..his first crush died she probably didnt reach age 9 he later met and fell in love with his wife at the age of ten….they were married in thei early 20s….both Virgins…..you know why they both had great parents….and I bet you lost your virginity before you got married…that is if you are married
I agree with u Tiny. Too many of us coming on here trying to condemn this little girl when some of us had crushes and “boyfriends” at her age. And alot of them maybe on DNO commenting say these things while their little girls are doing the same thing or even worse. It’s much too young to be sexually involved so how many of us are willin to tackle this problem..all we do is criticize and talk. Poor us Dominicans….
@ tiny
There are few exceptions but this boy and girl are too young to as much as state that they love each other. What love? Do they know what love is and true love at that? For them it is only “a word” and infatuation. Even adults make that mistake. They should concentrate on their studies.
13 years? Tonneh if I was you mother, I soaking a guava whip for you. You barely high school age and you talking about ‘boyfriend’? Eh Bien you looking for baby before you pick up one CXC at that speed you going! Ti moun la ka jik parler conte ‘Friends with Benefits’ OH LAWD Welfare would pick me up!Ti moun, ti fille, focus on your school work eh and leave boys alone!
Parents souplait exercise control over your children.
AND TO :dear bella
you must stop accepting those under age children stories ehhh
cause dear bella is for big people, is who take who husband and who gayyy ect…
i doh mind if she was asking for advise to continue her education you know But mannnnnnnnnnnn::::: bella you must have a kiddies corner
child i vex.
how can bella be sure who is sending the message, could be a 31yr old just making reading material. come on lighten up, without these some of ur comments won’t come and ppl like me won’t laugh, trust me, thats a good laugh,but these things do happen.
@ i moding (stupesssss)
Children of today act as if they are grown-ups. There is nothing wrong with accepting their stories. Furthermore, Bella is within her right to do so. Why should you object to it? Have you ever given it a thought that children read the comments on DNO?
I do think it is a good idea. Hopefully, the youths who read the stories and responses will learn something from them. Just keep your responses clean and respectable.
I WONDER IF HER PARENTS KNOW ABOUT THIS
NONSENCE. THE BEST ADVICE I CAN GIVE AS A MOTHER CHILD BEHAVE YOURSELF GO TO SCHOOL
EDUCATE YOURSELF. YOU ARE 13 YEARS WHAT ARE
YOU DOING WITH BOYFRIEND ANYWAY.
Child my mother used to say to me as a young girl “‘ife not running” Take your time. Where are your parents. Then again they may not even know about all of this. You have yoir whole life ahead of you. Think about your actions and the consequences. Now about hiis Dad and cousin. No shame. He should not be instigating and encouraging his boy child. HE should be charged with statutory rape.
Maybe the dad and cousin dont no they are intimate. It could be he viewing the girl as one of his children.
@ Dawn
My mother had a wise saying for all things: “Six months is not the end of the world.” The same meaning, “Take your time and be patient.”
SA PA EN DOMINIQUE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Dominica doh have 8th grade and child or children
GET A LIFE
STUPESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS
CHILD I WONDER IF YOU KNOW WHAT LOVE IS.
CHILD PLEASE GO TO SCHOOL CONCENTRATE ON YOUR
SCHOOL AND STUDY YOUR BOOKS GRADUATE AND
THE BOYS WILL COME NEXT.
but what is this a vex wee child go school eh
Sweetheart you are 13, why you even want to be thinking about boyfriend michless for him cheating on you and hurting you. tsk tsk tsk enjoy your childhood sweetie pie don’t rsh the brush man always there
chooops !!!!! that is even a topic for discussion girl two baccs u need for u to know what u should be concentrating on talking about boyfren… choops
8TH grade.. that alone should make us realise that this isnt a Dominican child,
but wait for true dominica do not have grades,just standards,this must be virgin islander.
why does it have to be a virgin islander…chupppss…gwan yah
Might be a Dominican child abroad,maybe in the US where everything goes,may God help us!!
First thing I thought of. A dominican child would have said second form.
Cheat back on mista girl….
@ Ras Fatha
Are you are father? What type of advice are you giving a 13 year-old? It appears that you need counseling.
Lol you r an idiot,shut up!
my girl u are too young to have man. Go to school and learn. Education is the key to success. Without that u are nothing. What u need to do is go to school and concentrate on ur books/lesson.
This poor child should be located. In Dominica it is illegal to have sexual relations with a child under the age of 16. Even if the child consents, it is still a crime (Statutory Rape). The “boyfriend” should be arrested if he is over 16. This poor girl is being exploited. A 13 year old should be playing and studying, not dealing with boyfriends and adult dilemmas. DNO has a legal and a moral obligation to find this child and report the boyfriend to the police. Its high time that we, as a community, stood up to the sexual predators and paedophiles who prey on young girls (and boys), once they reach puberty. Dominica is more progressive than many of the other Caribbean islands in that it has the laws to protect our children. What we need now, is to enforce them.
did you really read the story. the first sentence says ‘ i am 13 so is my boyfriend’
Tell them ‘typical Dominican’s run their damn mouth. Read the story and understand before you accuse. Her alleged bf is the same age as she is..
Let me give an advice to this 13yr old teen.and also her teen boyfriend as she say.Why are you all children not behaving yourselves as children.I heard Tasha said to let children be children i want to agree with her but she forgot to tell you all let children behave like children and thats what you have just proven to us.As a 13yr old I beleive that you should be thinking of where you would like to see yourself 10yrs from now.In a time where so many opportunities are avaliable for young person like you I would expect you to push yourself into getting hold on the oppotunity that suits you and move with it.Boyfriend at your age should be the last thing on your mind,you talking about cheating and confuse,you putting your family to shame.What may happen is you may just find yourself getting pregnant at such an early age and your entire life may just go down the drain.So as a father I think I can give you a little bit of advice.So please my dear just forget about this young boy concentrate on your school work think of your future carrer educate urself and at the end every thing else will come.If you want help go to God in prayer and ask him to help you,leave your life for him and he’ll direct you as to where to go,what to do and how to go about doing it.I hope I have bouught some advice to you that will benefit you.Thanks for seeking advice.
child go and get dam work to do with your nonsensical behavior!! who is dat child, somebody tell me let me go give her a spanking in her tail. AA! sa moi ca tan la nou!
Is that how you would treat your child? These comments reflects poorly on our nation. Where are the parenting skills of empathizing and given sound advise?
DNO why are you even putting this letter up? Really…at 13 years old I liked boys but not that serious. She mentioned friends with benefits…. what does that mean???? Please young lady put your focus on your school work. You do not need to be stressed out or thinking about this boy, you are too young.
“Friends with benefits”…someone to fulfill another person’s sexual desire(for instance if a woman does not have a boyfriend, she has a little friend on the side who comes over once in a while for them to have sex).
friends with benefits lol chile u have a problem 13 years wi….. wen i was dat age i liked boys but not enough to have myself in that position…. I not gonna judge u cuz u have a boyfriend but slowwwwww dowwwwnnnn u shudnt even be thinking bout cheating and all that mess girl you 13 have fun enjoy it dont throw ur childhood away and if he cheated once dat not love dats just nonsense
‘Friends with benefits’… what am i hearing……… sweetheart do you even know the repercussion of such?… Baby girl (and baby you are – only 13) please do yourself a huge favour and wake up and change your focuss to school, a sound education, so that your future is secure. And much later in life you will become an independent young lady and the choices for a mate will be an educated one!
seriously! At 13 I had crushes but not boyfriend. I know nowadays things a different but to have a boyfriend at 13 and all this cheating and friends with benefits going on you cannot be serious. Darling take a good look at life and our young generation nowadays. If you do that is not what you would want to do with your teenage years.
chooops…child go to school and learn and come out with a proper education…u talking about boyfriend…..
is this story real…
13 years with boyfriend even talking about FWB but wat zee blood
Hmm, My dear child Bella is right u should be concentrating on your school work right now. Please get all the education u need n leave the boys alone. It’s very normal to have feelings for someone but at your age u should be focusing on your school work. Trust me I’ve been there n I’ve regretted every mistake I made while being a teenager but it’s not too late for u. Keep your head up, don’t bring down yourself for any man, it’s not worth it. I wish I could talk to u in person but plz take this advice n Bella’s. God loves u and he will bless u with that special person at the right time
Girl u need to get an older man…his friends wont tell u no B.S story!
B as you call youself you should not waiste your time responding to that, cause ur advice is very poor. A 13yr old you advicing her to get an older man.Shame on you.
Lol! Smh… That’s the best thing you find to tell the young child?
And that is why most od Dominican ladies remain Virgins till they get married…..that is why we Dominicans can boast that we have focused kids….it is because we have the best parenting skills…shut up you hypocrited…I caNT say more cause im using my phone
That person put that story on, Just to test how many comments would come out of that. Good Job
child u dnt even knw the definition of cheating…stupessssss
Really? Really?
Where are your parents?
What do you know about ‘Love’?
At this age, you should be getting an education and seeing about the future. What hell boyfriend…and all that crap.
Is that the future of this generation? Eh las
girl go an do home work!!!! hadi! is dat u goin school for
ebeh vroom vraam…Sigh
smh we all had our friends which we thought we loved but this kid is way to young to have such things on her mind.. right now ur goal should be to finish school and get a job.. love will come in time
stupessssssss
my girl take ur time and experience life!
i think the email ad of this child should be scanned for on facebook and then forward that messaage to the parents… with proper advice to the parents also…. i’m all for helping children but when a 13 year old worrying about such… then it’s evident the home failed the child… say what allu want but too many parents think raising a child is simply sending them to school and providing food…. it’s more than that… i always say the school system can’t and don’t teach students about life… this is the role of parents and guardians to teach… or else the friends will teach them a very sweeter and more deadly version
you remember a cadence song,that spoke about,the mother eats grape the childs teeth is glazed,i will attempt to write in patio,i am not really good at written patio,mama mangeur wazeun dan infant glacee,you are so right,this a clear cut example of lack of strict parenting and studying your child behaviors,children do what their parents do,their older siblings do,their friends do,and the school lack of monitors also fail them,and also the societies lack of high moral fails them,it takes a village to raise a child.
Preach!!!
go & study your book girl! you there after man stupes, & see the girl age again stupes!
but what i hearing dere nuh child go school and study ur school work eh 13yrs n you studying boyfriend my girl you will get plenty boyfriend in time to come just take it easy and enjoy being a child while you can alright evrything have it place n time n you doe have time for FREINDS WITH BENEFITS EITHER….SMH
13? give me a break!! child go and study your books, if you know what is good for you, you would enjoy your youth instead of giving yourself worry about boyfriend.Trust me you will definitely have regrets and maybe never forgive yourself if you continue on this trend, time is not running out on you, take your time and wait!!
Two backs you want or what??
Picniego think get an education and not man
What I reading there nuh. I only now have my first boyfriend and I’m 17! Them horny teenagers eh smh
child please now is time for books not man
You mean “boy” right
Oh no! You cant be 13 years old but if that is the case go study your school work and leave man alone. You still have tatay milk on your breath and you in man and competition already? Your bottom too hot already and that is a sign of danger for you and your family.
…..But what i hearing there na father? Child stop it and go to school. Do you think a baby will be good for you now? What cheating and other girl story is that? The world hasnt ended as yet neither is sex abolished or gone out the door.. RELAX!!!!!!!
Bella what is this child at 13 yrs doing with a boyfriend.So serious… Where are her parents…and she is saying she is close with the boys dad… this is upsetting. The boys dad should put a stop to it too…this is not the time for 13 year old to be so serious about a relationship…you are a child and you have to ask and behave as a child… Life is too short to be taken it too seriously at your age with relationship problems..again where are her parents????
I agree with you….I’m wondering why is she close to the boy’s dad. Is she trying to say something? Is she really 13? I’m kind of confused here. That story just does not add up.
are these stories real???????????
Why are we pretending that is now little girls does have boyfriend and boyfriend cheating. Let’s be honest with the kids. Remember all the one o’clock fights after school when big people use to say is man they fighting for. Why would they fight for man if they did not think their’s cheating. apparently, this girl lives close to her”boyfriend” and his family so maybe the best thing you can say to her is concentrate on her schooling and live boyfriend alone. Sometimes your own children have boyfriend and hide it from you because they know you will call them salop. Is time for dominicans to talk to children better than that. If teenagers did not have man before how come DA had teenage pregnancy