Well I always knew he had kids but the wife part, I did not know.
What hurts me the most other than finding out about his marriage is finding out that I am pregnant with his child. Now he is saying I want to rule his life because I’m pregnant, he said he does not want me to have a baby with me and I’m only going to make his marriage fall apart.
I’m confused, hurt and lost all at the same time. I’m employed full time with a good paying job and I have no other responsibility but my self. Presently I’m furnishing my own apartment, all by myself.
Do you think it would be wrong if I pretend like he never happened to me in my life and just move on? This is my first child and I’m not going to have an abortion for his sake even if he goes as far as saying I never loved him and I don’t want him to be happy .
He is making me feel like I’m the worst person in the world, he does not ask me anything about my pregnancy nor do I tell him because he does not want me to have this baby. I don’t ask him for anything nor do I talk to him on my own. The only way we communicate is if he text or call me, which is not very often as before where it use to be six to four phone calls a day plus text in between.
Now its like one or no phone call per week but I just might get one or two texts.
What is your advice? What do you think I should do? Where do I go from here?
Stuck in the middle
Dear Stuck in the middle,
The answer to your questions was written by yourself in your email. You asked, “Do you think it would be wrong if I pretend like he never happened to me in my life and just move on?”
The answer is yes. Obviously you were taken for a ride by this man and now that you have gotten pregnant and he probably cannot get what he wants anymore he is bailing out.
We all make mistakes at one point in our lives and it is up to us to pick up ourselves, brush the dust off, learn from these mistakes and move on.
Don’t even think about having an abortion because you have a good job and you will be able to take care of yourself and your child.
Forget that guy and move on.
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