I am pregnant for a married man who doesn’t care

Dear BellaI was in a relationship with a man for over three and a half years until I found out that he was married and has two kids.

Well I always knew he had kids but the wife part, I did not know.

What hurts me the most other than finding out about his marriage is finding out that I am pregnant with his child. Now he is saying I want to rule his life because I’m pregnant, he said he does not want me to have a baby with me and I’m only going to make his marriage fall apart.

I’m confused, hurt and lost all at the same time. I’m employed full time with a good paying job and I have no other responsibility but my self. Presently I’m furnishing my own apartment, all by myself.

Do you think it would be wrong if I pretend like he never happened to me in my life and just move on? This is my first child and I’m not going to have an abortion for his sake even if he goes as far as saying I never loved him and I don’t want him to be happy .

He is making me feel like I’m the worst person in the world, he does not ask me anything about my pregnancy nor do I tell him because he does not want me to have this baby. I don’t ask him for anything nor do I talk to him on my own. The only way we communicate is if he text or call me, which is not very often as before where it use to be six to four phone calls a day plus text in between.

Now its like one or no phone call per week but I just might get one or two texts.

What is your advice? What do you think I should do? Where do I go from here?

Stuck in the middle

 

Dear Stuck in the middle,

The answer to your questions was written by yourself in your email. You asked, “Do you think it would be wrong if I pretend like he never happened to me in my life and just move on?”

The answer is yes. Obviously you were taken for a ride by this man and now that you have gotten pregnant and he probably cannot get what he wants anymore he is bailing out.

We all make mistakes at one point in our lives and it is up to us to pick up ourselves, brush the dust off, learn from these mistakes and move on.

Don’t even think about having an abortion because you have a good job and you will be able to take care of yourself and your child.

Forget that guy and move on.

Bella

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166 Comments

  1. RUDEBOY
    April 13, 2012

    u are not innocent. you know wat u were gettng yourself into. stop selling your self like cheap pig meat. nasty. u had like d toly now u crying. y u do take it in your ears. repent girl and live right. slut. i suspect u are a prostitute. RAT

  2. Anonymous
    March 30, 2012

    get an abortion and move on

  3. stuck in the middle
    March 21, 2012

    Let he that is without sin cast the first stone . Some of us doing like we are not human and like we don’t make any mistakes in our life. Well I’m not perfect I make mistakes but I learn from them so go ahead and call me nasty say I knew . I leave all my worries and burdens in the almighty father arms.

    • fada
      March 22, 2012

      you do not have to listen to all these people, weda u knew or not the man still has to be blamed as equally as you.

      love yourself and stop stressing over these people so of them has been through worst.

      • STUCK IN THE MIDDLE
        June 11, 2012

        THANK YOU :-| I AGREE WITH YOU…

    • taffo
      April 1, 2012

      dont worry. we all make mistaked an dont listen to those who call u names. u may just be suprised that they do things way worse than you did. if u are able to do this on ut own my advice is to do it. but he as a man wether he took u for a ride or not have to understand an innocent body is now involved, if he doesnt want to be part of ur life fine but he should at least be part of what is his.

    • Dominion
      July 6, 2022

      Darling you don’t need to listen to some dump a.s maggots, you are a strong woman and trust me you will be fine. Men are never to be trusted….
      All of them are the same
      Keep your heads high and take care of the angel growing inside of you
      Peace and light

  4. paul
    March 21, 2012

    Paula James, Just look of how you intend to do harm, where in the message did you see anything about E.R or Jimmit. You know by doing this you are trying to make readers pinpoint a particular individual.

    So tell us what crimes he has been convicted of. tell us what influences he has in the force, tell us why the police cant touch him, tell us what he can do to make his marriage better, tell us the women he have, tell us what he blaming his wife about.

    The thing is if you were really Paula James, you would not have said all that because you would know that the police officer accuses his wife of being a nasty and running a dirty life, being involved with her coworker, you would know that the police officer had a 15 year old living on his porch, you would know that the police officer is telling my friend’s wife that the last baby is not his own and is buba own.

    You would know that the reason the the police force dosen take on the police officer is because he is the one who went by ma dyer and told her that the reason why they do not torch my friend is because when he himself was a police senior police used to kill people and bury them and he my friend knows all about it.

    And you see, the only person who continually makes that statement about cannot touch and influence is your friend the police officer. My friend knows what he is saying about the police officer and if you have a problem there is the courts, so when you talking about who putting shit on line check your facts.

    I think you need to tell you friend to try and make his marriage work and stop running woman on his wife head and leave my friend wife alone and stop making woman embarrass my friend wife in town.

    tell him stop spending his little police salary on my friends wife stop giving her his nbd card, tell him that he has 3 small kids to look after and tell him stop hiding behind paula james

  5. Anonymous
    March 20, 2012

    i will be you baby daddy if u let me. i will love you and always be there

  6. america
    March 19, 2012

    i wonder do guys know that other people who are not dominicans read this too!!think through what u guys are writing .some of u sound so stupid it’s a shame.bella poor job u allow anything on your page who gave u this space to promote such crap!!! common men do something about such bullshit it’s not a good look for the nature isle.

  7. Anonymous
    March 17, 2012

    For those of u who are syaing that she had to know some way are being very ignorant……men and women alike cheat and will do everything to cover up their tracks.

  8. Anonymous
    March 17, 2012

    saturday

  9. March 16, 2012

    I don’t believe a word of this. All you know who’s married and who isn’t, and you don’t care until you get pregnant. You shouldn’t be getting pregnant by someone you don’t know about … that’s immoral and just wrong. Sex is not a sport to be played with any and everybody. If you don’t want to get pregnant, do something else besides “sexing” until you are sure about who you are with. The married man is nothing but a bag of dirt to be doing this behind his wife’s back. Both of you are wrong. He, for committing adultery and you for not caring.

  10. paul
    March 14, 2012

    i just read through this story and some of the comments. it reminds me of a very true story about a police officer who is a serious con man and womanizer, he is married and has three children one is a baby and he tells women he is not married and he has no kids, then he tells them he is married and he has two kids and when they get to know about the baby he tells them that he told them he has a baby also.

    Now, the women can’t go in his phone because he is a police officer, he tell his wife he is working when he wants to go and sleep somewhere else and he also tell the other women the same.

    The wife is not a very sociable person and has just a few friends, so the news wont get to the wife as fast. The other women are just getting to find out because he is messing around the wife of another man, and that man is on his tail and is exposing him.

    The police and the man had some serious problems even of threats to fly out neck and to shoot, the police even entered the man house behind him for his own wife.

    so really and truly some women don’t know at all. some men are just worthless and playing brave so please stop blaming the poor woman.

    • Paula James
      March 17, 2012

      well paul looks like you know alot about the police and the other guy from Jimmit. from what you are saying the guy from Jimmit is your friend and it is very clear that he is. But remember the guy from Jimmit is a criminal and he has been saying all kind of things about the police. we both know that he said he has influences in the police force and he cant be touch. but you have to get both sides of the story before you can make put those shit on line. I know both parties and the one from Jimmit is no saint and the world knows that. E.R. you need to stop that shit you are doing think of how you can make your marriage better. You have all kind of woman on your wife’s head and blaming her for everything.

      • fada
        March 19, 2012

        well you seem to know alot about E.R seems that all of them are your friend.

  11. ace
    March 13, 2012

    these women do anything to hold on to peoples husbands. They caco man, use whitcraft to hold them, and pretend to be on contraceptive and end up pregnant. That woman knew the man was married. The only victim here would be the child.

    • back to d soil
      June 11, 2012

      SHUT UR DAM MOUTH I HOPE U BETTER DAN D PERSON WHO WROTE TO BELLA …….

  12. BEA
    March 13, 2012

    lolol i think most of you here are venting on this lady because you all have been in this situation before either the victim or even the dirty bastard ! You all cannot tell her she is lying because she choose not to go though his phone whille he sleeps ! Most of dominican men are two timers (ignorant ppl please notice i said most and not all ) yes everyone know your business out there but i know of a few cases where it went on for yrs ..eventually it come out ….like now…..she is on DNO writing about it DUHHHH!!! she may have seen a few sign but when a woman is in love most of them tend to see something else !She is asking for advise so all of u men and ladies who come on here venting and calling her names , I hope you all take your advise for yourselves too and make sure you talk to your daughter so they dont become the same thing you are calling this lady !!!

    • DNO sucks
      March 16, 2012

      I accidently click dislike on your comment because I was rushing but I totally agree with you.

    • good girl sxm
      April 9, 2012

      i agree with u she is a thief and a slut home wrecker . let her train her bastard she said she has a job so thats more job for her.hope the child grow and beat the shit out of her eyes .SAKWE SALOP < SAKWE VOLE , HOME CRUSHERS

  13. blackants
    March 12, 2012

    3yrs U nvr knew he was Married?what crap!!like U said U all worked seperate Area lived dif.communities U lying little what U are if you were comfortable which I guess it was for all those yrs it simple means that he was just one of your other men and he was your only ur little convinient wallet untill u couldn’t controll him anymore I feel sry for this Child cuz I really would nvr pick your Ass up for Sure.take ur Wood in peace to many worthless women destroying there Good relationship for Married Men and Now you’ll Pay I only hope them other Home wreckers learn.I don’t even believe he is your baby daddy cuz U must’ve been having other guys To I only hope they never had My X woman to. Dam Ass+++.!!

    • good girl sxm
      April 9, 2012

      dont mind her, i agree with u she is a thief and a slut home wrecker . let her train her bastard she said she has a job so thats more job for her.hope the child grow and beat the shit out of her eyes .SAKWE SALOP < SAKWE VOLE , HOME CRUSHERS

  14. March 12, 2012

    You not really telling us the the full facts, are you? You live in Dominica and dont know that the man is married, a place where before you do a poopoo, everyone knows,you not fooling me you maybe got pregnant to try to get him to leave his wife good luck

  15. Marlpardee
    March 11, 2012

    Stuck in the middle kneel down ask god to forgive u because u didn’t know. A guy did the same thing to a friend of mine. Say he was not married and he and girl is not on terms. He was sleeping at my friend’s house everynite. Lies, lies, he told her for almost a year. How are u supose to know if a man has a wife and he sleeps at yur house every nite.no indication at all. Well she found out on the street and that was it for him. So i feel yur pain. Just turn to jesus for forgiveness. There is no question in moving on. God don’t like adultery.

  16. lovemetender
    March 11, 2012

    so many negatif people no one is not there 2 c what u all are do so stop critizing other’s, and if u all have children tell them 2 open up there eyes because know young girls run behind married men so if u all have glass windows don’t send stone

  17. lovemetender
    March 11, 2012

    The best person and best friend u should have is the most high put down you knees and ask him 2 guide help and protect u it’s agood thing 2 keep your child and love that child 2 the fulliest may-be when he or she gets older u just have 2 explain 2 this child because this man come back after a cerrain time 2 c this child put your trust in god

  18. stuck in the middle
    March 11, 2012

    its rather amazing to read some of the comments from some ppl . Both me and the man live in different communites we work in different communities as well. Everybody says I should have done my research true I agree . However I did ask questions an the answers where always negatives. Dispite the fact of us working in very distance communities 99./. Of the time he is with me when we are not at work . Yes I did have lil involvement with is family but who told me he was married nobody! Once upon a time we use to live with each other off and on. So don’t just point fingers at me because all together all the blame is not mines alone. I did ask about his children’s mothers he said they were not together I ask him when we first meet if he was married his words to me was no I am not but when I do find the right person in the future I will. All this time he was lying to me . Some of us act like something like this can never happen to us but that’s not true because we are all human , if I knew he was married I would have done the same thing I did when I found out he was which was leave him so ppl don’t Think I knew he was married and I stayed with him it was never so because I was raised better than that. Life is all.about learning from our mistakes . I’m nt perfect but I’m learning from my mistakes.

    • lovelies
      July 18, 2012

      Ohio is where this is? Why not talk to his wife…

  19. labella
    March 10, 2012

    What a bunch of crap!! I believe you knew that this man was married and you looked the other way. If you reside in Dominica, there is no way you did not know that the “walking sexually transmitted disease” was not married. I call him that because guess what, you are pregnant, how many others like you has he slept with? I feel sorry for his wife, and the unborn child, but not for you. I am in the medical field and have come across too many people who believe that they can entrap a man by becoming pregnant, knowing fully well of the consequences of their actions. You can’t get him that way baby. Now that you are pregnant, instead of writing to Bella, you should do the right thing and immediately discontinue the relationship with this man (he does not want to be with you anyway), have your child, ensure that your child knows the father and drive on, teaching your child about life so that your mistakes are not repeated. Stop your lies and hypocrisy and get a life!!

    • Marlpardee
      March 11, 2012

      Excuse me. It appears u know the lady. How dear u call d girl hypocrite. She needs help. I don,t think she would have come on here and ask for help when she know the man was married . U all must be positive and sensitive to people.

    • Rich
      March 12, 2012

      You’re in the medical field??? I sure hope you aren’t in any part of it other than the janitorial end, as you don’t have the compassion and understanding to deal with patients at all! What a self-righteous, miserable little person you must be that you feel it is appropriate to jump all over this poor woman in her time of trouble. Remember, what goes around, comes around. Someday you’ll fall and I’m sure the line will be long to see you in the dirt.

      Stuck in the Middle:

      Forget the dude – unless you think there’s a chance of getting him to contribute some financial support for the child he stuck you with. In the future, use birth control until you are sure you’re in a good position to have a child you *both* want. In the meantime, I wish you the best – ignore those phonies like Labella who just want to trample you down further.

      • labella
        April 18, 2012

        Sorry I took so long to respond, have been quite busy. Yes I am in the medical field. Sorry to disappoint you but I am not a janitor. Your point? Are you saying that janitors lack compassion? This is what makes my homeland of Dominica and the United States great – it is called Freedom of speech. Oh I am sorry – you must be too busy counting “self-righteous miserable little people” at your home, to understand the meaning of those words. Rich – I am not a phony – I tell it like i see it. He did not stick her with anything that she did not forsee. I am sorry that there are still gullible idiots like you out there. Get a damn life!!

    • Fair and Balance
      March 13, 2012

      Labella you sound angry and bitter. Are you one of the many women he `s been with? Or are you just aangry she`s having his baby and you`re not.
      Young lady we have all sin and fall short of God`s glory,take care of yourself,seek prenatal care for your unborn child,and I wish you all the best on your journey to raising your son/daughter. One more thing ,you didnt create this baby alone make sure he pays child support.

      • labella
        April 18, 2012

        I am far from angry and bitter – No maam or sir whatever you are. I have 4 children and quite happy – you actually think that one would be angry at another woman for having a baby fathered by this jackass – I think it would be more like a relief – you are indeed an idiot!!

    • Dorothy
      January 7, 2018

      Some people are just born to be negative, you also have a lot of crap happening in your life, so stop talking as if you’re doing everything right and perfect. And learn to listen to yourself while talking.

  20. Frenchy
    March 10, 2012

    I all that she has to think about the child growing up and living without a dad!!!!

  21. Envar
    March 10, 2012

    hey peeps go easy on the lady, i believe that if the woman knew the guy was married she would have said that. There are alot of guys who are married and they do not tell other women that. they say they have two kids when they know is three, they have kids that cannot even walk and they even fail to mention that to the women they go after. i think that the young lady is getting too much pressure, i could be our sister it could be our ex-girlfriend or future girlfriend, when things happen we are to quick to give bad remarks, i think the guy should be exposed so he cannot get to do another woman the same too… i have done alot of shit and i can imagine how that woman feeling, give her a break. I do not know her so i do not want readers to think is because i know her..

  22. Envar
    March 10, 2012

    Nuff respect bella i love that.. Now i know how it feels for a woman to be lied to. I am a married man who have had lots of relationships but i always put the married part first. not that i am turning wrong into right but it is always good to say everything up front..

    I do not blame you but alot of times women do not investigate their men, there most be signs of his preoccupation and you can imagin now that all the stories he gave you never add up.

    you seem to be a very ambitious woman, independent at that, but if i were to add just a piece of bad advice, find the wife ask her to forgive you, by doing this you may be throwing some fire in his camp but you will be moving on with a free mind frame. Ask God to forgive you also, when the baby born register the surname as Sanchez Ravalliere i will sign the papers.

  23. delores
    March 10, 2012

    over three years and you dont know he is married?
    mind you some men can hide things and manipulate you into believing what they want you to believe, but trust me if your eyes were open you would have seen signs, for 3 1/2 years he would at least slip……
    *stop being naive young women,
    *you found out he had kids? that means he never told you in teh first place; right then and there you start doing your own thorough investigation.find out about the kids, hie previous life, somebody must say something, there must be clues……
    *while you are doing that PROTECT yourself
    *set ur standards high
    *dont believe everything a man tells you ,

  24. neddia
    March 9, 2012

    Woman it took u three years to found out the guys is married???in that space of time, did u ask yourself y he has never brought u to his home? smh….women nowadays need to do their research. Find out about the man u about to give urself too.I do not want to deal with no married man. man nowadays just bad mind…Move on girlfriend, continue being independent. u’ll find someone who will love u and ur baby.

  25. Anonymous
    March 9, 2012

    old salop. girl u to stupid in ur moda ass.

    • yes i
      March 9, 2012

      you have no sympathy.u have to b a woman to make dat kind of remark.but i dont blame you, you know your kind.

    • meemee
      March 10, 2012

      u need an education moron! if u cant say something positive; then SHUT UP!!!!

    • SAD
      March 13, 2012

      WOW THATS IGNORANCE AT ITS BEST !!! YOU SEEM VERY UNEDUCATED AND A VICTIM TO SOMETHING OF THAT SORT !
      how old are you seriously? she is asking for advise …urgh! you dont have to be positive cause its freedom of speech but thats way below any class ! says alot about you !

    • Labor
      April 18, 2012

      When you ghetto and ignorant it really shows…even in the cyber world…see salop calling another salop. Where you come out? You dat “old” fing. She’s asking for advice you fool. A comment like that only makes me think that you are one to take another person’s man. Nonsense!

  26. LR
    March 9, 2012

    thing about some people is the lack of respect and the constant need to be in a competition….now compete with his wife and kids smdh…three years im certain somehow you would have found out even before a year …dca too small for that …everybody know somebody… like someone said you got comfortable ….and a grown working i suppose young woman like you in this day and age …buy your condoms use some sort of contraceptives ….chupes ..some of you really dumb!! maybe you were technically trying and trap the man!!!!not in this day and age missy….

  27. TRUTH
    March 8, 2012

    Focus on your child future not the fella. You used the words ‘me, myself and I’ 36 times during that short letter.

  28. UDOHREADYET
    March 8, 2012

    3 1/2 years together on a small Island like Dominica and you didn’t know he was married with 2 children (you never asked who their mother is)?! You are lying or in denial. If neither of you intended on having a child why did you have unprotected sex? As stated you have a good job, I’m certain you could afford condoms or birth control pills. The fact is you and the fella nasty, he was cheating on his wife and you were cheating with him. It’s unfortunate that he’s treating you this way but you’re getting what you deserve. Your only choice at this point is to do the best you can for your child. The common theme in your letter which is the real reason you’re in that situation is selfishness, everything that you’ve spoken of pertaining to the fella and you is a selfish matter. Bella is right grow up stop your nastiness and focus on your child!UDOHREADYET

  29. Anonymous
    March 8, 2012

    3 1/2 years together on a small Island like Dominica and you didn’t know he was married with 2 children (you never asked who their mother is)?! You are lying or in denial. If neither of you intended on having a child why did you have unprotected sex? As stated you have a good job, I’m certain you could afford condoms or birth control pills. The fact is you and the fella nasty, he was cheating on his wife and you were cheating with him. It’s unfortunate that he’s treating you this way but you’re getting what you deserve. Your only choice at this point is to do the best you can for your child. The common theme in your letter which is the real reason you’re in that situation is selfishness, everything that you’ve spoken of pertaining to the fella and you is a selfish matter. Bella is right grow up stop your nastiness and focus on your child!

  30. THINK ABOUT IT
    March 8, 2012

    young lady I do not know you but I think that you are a head strong woman. Do not about your child. He or she is there already. Continue to do what you are doing and God will see you through. You made a mistake like everyone of us. D o not worry you are a strong person, continue being strong and move on. Who knows what this child you are carrying may become in the next 20 to 25 years from now.

  31. Anonymous
    March 8, 2012

    Girlfriend i am in same situation, but I am loving my child to death, he,she is my life

  32. kay5222
    March 8, 2012

    i wuud kick him doe >>>>>>i wud tell his wife that >>>>im so sorry ]

  33. MIA
    March 8, 2012

    MEN WILL ALWAYS BE DOGS. GO ON WITH YOUR LIFE. HE WILL RETURN ONE DAY. PLEASE DO NOT ACCEPT HIM

  34. LR
    March 8, 2012

    i dont care if you breed ten times…..you wrong wrong wrong wrong….having unprotected sex with a married man….what you thought was going to happen? did you think he would leave his wife for you? and his kids? too many times yal fall for this foolish trick man play….chupessss……i just dont feel sorry for you….hope you learn….i might sound harsh because some of you just foolish…..and i’m certain you knew he was married stop your lies!! you just didnt expect him to dog you because it seem good all along!!

  35. Anonymous
    March 8, 2012

    hello my girl next time do some real detective work when he sleep search the phone call him in the middle of the night ask to visit ask people about him ………………my dear i was with a man he told me he had two children he was married but it ended before it even started he only marry her because the were in church and she got with child a flag went up in my head then things started happening he would come over by me and leave early morning but remember he work for 8am he would lie and say he working in the night when icall the station he is not on duty ………………….i started asking questions in a smart way and u would be supprise to know what i found out my man was married for years had 3 boys with his wife not even sure is they divorce or just separated he told me the two other boys were adoptered when ever i would go over by him i would search the place i would leave thing behind he would hide them i gave him a good sex a night got him really tired and i search that phone and i got a # the girl was leaving a stone throw away from me and she never knew he told her his child leave there i dump that so my girl hold strong he is not worth it don’t go to the wife take care of your baby and your self keep your head up God would not put his angle in your care if he knew u were not capable to care for him or her.

    • Oh Puh Lease
      March 9, 2012

      Your point? you still nasty!

  36. Awrong
    March 7, 2012

    Is now you find like doing your buzzing. Too late for your home work. On another note, the wife will have to console herself that he did not go with another man. But who knows. Did the doctor mention anything to you about bugging.

  37. anonymous
    March 7, 2012

    Mam, if you are interested in the baby, you should get tested for all the sexually transmitted dideases. Suppose you transmitted something to the man or vice versa.

  38. Think About It
    March 7, 2012

    Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh…Stupid you’ve been played big time.Leave other people husband alone,find your own looser.

  39. pimpin
    March 7, 2012

    u too sot good for u….

    • MIA
      March 8, 2012

      Pimpim you are just an idiot. Wait till it happens to you or your child/children

  40. humph
    March 7, 2012

    My dear, my heart HURTS reading your story. Strait to the point. You “going” to make his marriage fall appart?? WTF, That RAT of a man marriage already fell apart when he LEFT his house, going after another woman. Leave mister in the dirt he kicked up. *You are employeed, have a place of your own, and are expecting YOUR child.* The dirt was soon to go in somebody eyes, so either way drama was going to emerge. Sadly that is nothing new in D.A. People learn to live with whatever happens in life, and single parenting is nothing new. Continue on in life because there is a positive.

  41. Anonymous
    March 7, 2012

    My dear, my heart HURTS reading your story. Strait to the point. You “going” to make his marriage fall appart?? WTF, That RAT of a man marriage already fell apart when he LEFT his house, LOOKIN for another woman. Leave mister in the dirt he kicked up. You are employeed, have a place of your own, and are expecting YOUR child. H

  42. d
    March 7, 2012

    Dominica so small… how can one be with someone for three years and not know that the person is married…. I am guessing that it was a one way relationship….. whenever the man wanted to see the lady he would call or text… this in many terms was not a relationship but a long term botty call…. on the note of the child…
    please cherish the gift that God has given you… This is your child and If you know that you are capable of caring for this child then do so. God will provide a way. But…. in the future do your homework before getting with a guy… after 6 months meet the family….. Best of luck…. things will get better…

  43. loving cric.2 d bone
    March 7, 2012

    girl take care of your child. DONT ABORT YOUR BABY. Tomorrow he or she will be the one to take care of you.Let his conscience beat him.Do not face the wife.Do the best you can with your child.

  44. hmmm
    March 7, 2012

    girlfriend one thing i will tell you is do not abort your child!!!!! i have a friend who was in the same situation, having an affair with a married man and it happened that she got pregnant with his child. off course she aborted it and years after she met a wonderful man and they are now married and you know wht happen????she is trying her best to give her husband a child and she cant, because the method of abortion she used damaged her ovaries!!!….and her husband is a sweet and understanding person but he loves children and would like to have one of his own!

  45. ME
    March 7, 2012

    :twisted:
    Enough with your hypocrisy already about not knowing he was married, and being together for 3 and a half years!
    Secondly, nobody’s perfect and we all make mistakes, so as for the pregnancy- just do what you have to with your child. I’m not gonna condemn you for getting pregnant for a married man because there are so many women in that situation, yet most times they are better off without the man. If you are independent and have a good job – you are already doing good for yourself, so just continue to do your thing!
    I honestly don’t even see why you ask Bella for advice when you can make up your mind for yourself. :-D
    My dear young lady, just pray, put your trust in God- he won’t give you more than you can handle, and move on from there. Later on in life this man will surely regret he didn’t want anything with your child, but don’t let that have any serious effect on you. Life goes on.

  46. 123
    March 7, 2012

    you not the first, you not the last…all this talk will come to pass, just be happy you are in reciept of a blessing :-D and it will be worth it

  47. Shans
    March 7, 2012

    Obviously you were not in a relationship..you guys just had a sex thing. Because you saying you didnt know this man was married means you were together for 3 1/2 years and never met one member of his family?? it seems too that you guys never went anywhere publicly knowing how people can talk. Guess it was just a him come over by you at certain times of the night…. we as women need to have standards, there is no way i would be with a man for so long and not be invoilved in some sort of his family life.

  48. I feel you
    March 7, 2012

    People really say and don’t believe that “anything can happen to anyone” :roll:

  49. I feel you
    March 7, 2012

    If the man was getting what he wanted at home he wouldnt have gone out…typical man*rolls-eyes* My girl keep your baby and leave the man in his unhappy marriage…this may be the only child who might do something for him in life…just be strong…you never know what you’ve being missing til it arrives…you’re gonna love it!!!

    • Sa pou feh?
      March 7, 2012

      So ‘I feel you” you really think that men cheat because they don’t get what they want at home? get real, some men have a beautiful relationship at home with their wife and kids. They have sex very regular at home, all sorts of positions and they still cheat because they want too, while I love to respect people’s opinion yours make no sense.
      And to you confused young lady, you basically have the idea as to what u really want.
      Go long and keep your baby, you said its ur first and it could also be ur last.
      Always remember that God has a plan for all of us and I hope u learn from ur mistakes.
      I am very happy that u have ended the relationship because u learnt that he is married, I’m sorry that u didn’t know before. Ask God to forgive you and to protect u and ur baby. I still pray that the married father will look after this innocent child and if he doesn’t that’s ok too one day he will learn to appreciate this child. God Bless you my dear.

      • Oh Ho!!
        March 7, 2012

        Sa pou feh: I support you fully!!!

    • Anonymous
      December 10, 2013

      I agree with u too good comment
      Things will get better . Am going through
      The same thing and its not easy
      I feel your pain. These men are liers
      They come on to you so strong
      And In my case say he wanted to
      Get me pregnant but is just sex they
      Want nothing more r less
      We all make mistake and no woman
      Would choose to be in a bad situation
      With a child the dad don’t want.

  50. Anonymous
    March 7, 2012

    who cares

  51. Anonymous
    March 7, 2012

    Believe you me most of those women know those men are married or have their family. I was in that same situation, the woman even send her child who was in the same class as mine to ask me where my house number and where I leaving, see us going out as a family and still texting him telling him she want sex. Now she have child and he ignoring her but she still sending him text telling him I know you ignoring me because you don’t want to give me money for your child but I want sex. Now what kind of woman is that. You cannot tell me you in a ‘relationship with a man for 3 years and you don’t know he have a wife, you mean to tell me that all this time you never visit his house or meet his family and you say is a relationship. Some of you all women need to wake up, I don’t feel sorry for any of you because most of you know what you all are doing and what you all don’t know is the stress and hardship those wifes have to go through.

    • Reality
      March 7, 2012

      Your plight is sad but why is the woman you mad at and not your husband? Clearly he was the one UNHAPPY with YOU and YOUR marriage why he stepped out. His happiness may be an excuse to cheat but he cheated anyways. You should take the same advice and leave him, it means clearly he doesn’t value you, love you as you believe and holds your marriage in high esteem. He will do it again! Aren’t you concerned that this man may just bring you some disease. You don’t have to feel sorry for the woman in the situation, but you need to feel sorry for yourself to be in such an unhealthy marriage and still pretending you have the model family and marriage. It must truly be hard on you to live in such pretense and blame the other woman. Your husband is a dog and cheat and you are a sad woman. You need a divorce and a shrink! you are stressed but your anger is misplaced the other woman owes you NO LOYALTY, morally what she is doing is wrong, but your gripe is with the low life you still call husband

      PS: how do I know? was married for 6 years, husband cheated, maybe he did it before once I found out, it was a WRAP! Too many women stay beating themselves up and blaming the other party, they owe us nothing, it’s the person we’re married to who owes us respect and decency.

      • married
        March 7, 2012

        girlfriend that comment having jumping and clapping loudly in my office…coworkers wondering if am on drugs…lol..but trust me you could NOT have said this better,,,i am married just for about one year now and that has always been my sentiments exactly!! the mistresses owe us no loyalty…i have been on both sides and trust me you are sooo right!! the day my husband decides to have an affair and i find out, i have nothing against the other woman, cause she aint the one who cheated, HE is…!!!

      • hmmm
        March 7, 2012

        amen too that comment reality your sooooooooooooooo true!!!

    • sweet
      March 7, 2012

      imargine how low deh can step shame on her he need to give her 10 more and doh mind them foolish useless thing

  52. Weh papa
    March 7, 2012

    He who is without sin cast the first stone. No one is perfect. Don’t listen to the people who act like they are not doing worst than u in secret. Do not abort your child. You may never have another one. God is going to give you the strength to cope. Place all your problems in God’s hands and he will see you through. I will say a prayer for you and your unborn child.

  53. country girl..
    March 7, 2012

    Girl just cut off mista…..is that how u spell it? not sure but just CUT IT…

    • potterville
      March 7, 2012

      yes mr is a old dog he will do it again be strong girl and kick mr memory goodbye he is the on who never loved u then again u higher than him why stoop to be low with a lier and a cheat he want to sex inside and still outside i sorry for his wife eh buhjay!!!!!!! fire on mr boy Protect u and your child he will get his

  54. March 6, 2012

    Woman not no better than man and all of u woman giving her advice some of u mayb cheating on u all man and he dont no. All u saying man smart but not mister because if he was that smart de dam ass should have use condom to hide his track. So my advice to u my lady for his mistake make de wife no. 99 % of men and women cheat married or not. Pastors politicians and even priest to the cheating on god when they molesting people children. Hold on to your child because he or she is innocent. Who vex wit wat i say thats u all business but all of u no is truth i speaking.

    • anonymous
      March 7, 2012

      You are so right. And the many married women take advantage of the good christian men big time. Their clauset is full of serpents. These same women go on voice of life, like all is well.

  55. March 6, 2012

    Your situation is a complex one and you created that. Da is small and under populated; everybody knows one another;even a month would have been a long time for you to know that he is married, far less three and a half years. You should not have premarital sex in the first place. Then why didnt you use a condom? You are pregnant now, but you should also get tested for HIV.
    You should take him to court for child support.He has crooked you and also his wife. Soon the wife wll find out. She wil talk in tongues for a while and then get over it.
    You married men and women out there, messing around is anti-christ and the truth always come out. These type of heartless immoral behavour can lead to insanity, suicide and murder if one can’t take.
    As to you young lady; please repent and ask God for forgivenes and sin more. Read the Holy Book and strengthen your faith. Amen.

  56. Muslim_Always
    March 6, 2012

    Exodus 21:10 reads:

    10 If he take him another wife, her food, her raiment, and her conjugal rights, shall he not diminish.

    Deuteronomy 21:15-17
    New International Version (NIV)

    15 If a man has two wives, and he loves one but not the other, and both bear him sons but the firstborn is the son of the wife he does not love, 16 when he wills his property to his sons, he must not give the rights of the firstborn to the son of the wife he loves in preference to his actual firstborn, the son of the wife he does not love. 17 He must acknowledge the son of his unloved wife as the firstborn by giving him a double share of all he has. That son is the first sign of his father’s strength. The right of the firstborn belongs to him.

    If we continue to suppress polygyny (allowance for a man to marry plural wives) then this stories will always continue. The people of Dominica need to be informed and open their mind. Polygyny increases longevity in men. :-D

    http://www.newscientist.com/article/dn14564

  57. peeping
    March 6, 2012

    Girl move on! The only reason the kid needs to know his family is for him not to make kids with one of them. single parenting is challenging but it is done as long as you are dedicated. Its a great thing that you are employed though so you dont need the SOB. Court? that turns our more embarassing for you as a woman, men dont shame.

    Now we hear these stories so often but women continue to have careless relationships. I am sure there were signs that something was not right. am sure you could not call him at any time, he was not alwayws available to you etc etc but you accepted it. Women stop accepting mediocre relationship, women are queens not slaves. Some women always think they can put out the wife but if the man doesnt want the wife he would leave her for you pronto! check the story of the school teacher who resigned, left wife and kids for a schoolgirl (pervert). Stop accepting men who are have other women, you cannot always win even if you think you more sexy or younger, men take certain responsibilities seriously. And why is it that independent women take so much shit? The dependent women turn men into ATM machines while the working woman sit and take shit and even support those blokes, sheesh!

  58. ME R
    March 6, 2012

    SWEETHEART, CHOOSE LIFE FOR YOUR BABY AND YOU WILL HAVE NOTHING TO REGRET FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES AND ALLOW GOD TO LEAD AND DIRECT YOUR PATH. ENJOY MOTHERHOOD. IT IS THE MOST BEAUTIFUL AND SATISFYING PROFESSION IN THE WHOLE WIDE WORLD, ENJOY YOUR BABY AND GOD WILL DO THE REST.THIS MAY BE YOUR ONLY CHILD, ONLY GOD KNOWS `CAUSE ONLY HE GIVES LIFE. I WILL KEEP YOU IN MY PRAYERS.

  59. child
    March 6, 2012

    girl i dont think u from dominica ,because in a small country like dominica where every body knows almost every body no body tell you this man was married?or what happen u never visited his village for somebody to tell you that you treading on somebodys ground ?you must be from some other country where people dont visit their inlaws .dominica too small for that

  60. Anonymous
    March 6, 2012

    If u say the man have kids u sould not go to bed with he so take what u get ?

    • pimpin
      March 7, 2012

      i agree

  61. move on
    March 6, 2012

    you a pregant that is a good thing this is your frist child that child is in u fora very special reson keep it and move on

  62. Anonymous
    March 6, 2012

    There is a woman in my church who got pregnant for a married man. she has been denying it for a very long time until she got pregnant. now she has a beautiful baby; the father loves his child. the baby carries the mother’s surname. the end result – the wife found out and they are not together again. your situation is a bit different in that the man does not want the child. i suggest you talk to GOD; find a pastor you can trust, don’t do this by yourself, do it together with God.

  63. March 6, 2012

    Girl he must be policeman,that,s how we police do it, full the girls and get away with it.

  64. bestadviceever
    March 6, 2012

    all that in life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  65. Trouble Intended
    March 6, 2012

    This is the worse advice I ever her from Bella. you telling the lady to pretend like the man does not exist? What about the child? Should she pretend like an angel got her pregnant?
    Lady, the man’s wife will find out you have his child. you and him can try to hide it but it will come out. And the longer you take to bring it out, the worse it will get. You should go see the man and his wife and explain the situation to her (make sure she col down first, OK), then work things out in a way that all will benefit. I understand that you have a job now, but who knows when that job will be gone? What happens to your child then? The man needs to accept his responsibility. If you have to go to court, then do that, but don’t let him off easy and cause your child to suffer.

    • March 6, 2012

      Well she thinks the child is an object and that there is no law, no constitution for objects. Poor unborn.
      Karessa I need you: ‘Who caring for me?’

    • Ahaa
      March 6, 2012

      The man dont want the child why force it on him

      • 1979 eTErNAL
        March 7, 2012

        ou say un bet man???

    • worker
      March 7, 2012

      go court without birth paper? The way the man acting,i doe think he going to put his name on birth paper

      • 1979 eTErNAL
        March 7, 2012

        When I hear about BOYS like that, Poor as I am it makes me proud to be the MAN that I am……..Shame on a man to send his own flesh and blood out into the world without his guidance and protection…lets hope that if this child is the seed to be abundant in wealth and fruitful in life, the ANIMAL will not want to be “DADDY” then!!!!!!

    • Mahaut
      March 7, 2012

      You sound like your name. That would be chaos, “go see the wife and the man” are you crazy? You not even asking if the wife is crazy, next thing you hear the wife kill the girl for being pregnant for her husband.

  66. Francis Chicago
    March 6, 2012

    Pregnant for a married man.Because of your disobedience your back is against the wrong fence your life seems to make no sense.you should not have sex before you married.The solution;JESUS CHRIST;If you are ready to repent of your sins and beliveve in Jesus Christ so that you can receive his forgiveness take a moment to pray.We are made right in God sight when we trust in Jesus Christ to take away our sins.And we can all be saved same way, no matter who we are or what we have done.

  67. advice
    March 6, 2012

    Sweetie..Men can be very deceptive..everyone keeps saying how DA small and how you didnot know..but let me tell you..if a man doesnot want you to find out his business he will go to the ends of the earth to cover his behind…My advice to you is to focus on you and your child and forget about the guy..your baby is not a mistake but a blessing..maybe one day he will need a kidney and is your child will try and offer it..I’ve been there and I know it is not an easy road but make up your mind that you are gonna be the best parent for your child..Ensure that he pays child support and if possible do it thorugh the court..If in the future he wants to have relationship with his kid let him..drama free..you’re doing it for the well being of your child…well my dear that is my advice to you..really hope that you take it into consideration….Best of luck and stay strong you are not on this ship alone..

  68. Queen Bitch
    March 6, 2012

    My Dear,

    I don’t beleive you when you said you had no idea he was married. I am not saying that you knew in the begining that he was married but at some point in the relationship you found out. INSTEAD YOU CHOOSE TO STAY AND COMPETE WITH THE POOR INOCENT WIFE thinking he was going to abandon his family for you. Pay back is always a bitch see how it came back to hunt you God is not a police.

    Don’t mind all who come saying to keep your child because it’s your future. Before you make this decision saying you have good job and you can take care of you and your child you have to weigh it and don’t only look at the near furture. Think of the effect it will have on your child girl or boy all children want to see their parents together and when it don’t happen they does rebell most times when it happen people always saying is obia (black magic) somebody do to the child.

    My advise to you is to sit and do some deep soul searching and thinking and don’t only think about now think about the distant future. I was in a situation where my husband had a baby by a next woman before we got married and now she trying all her best for us to take her child to live with us and trust me he rebells problems in school, home, fighting and all this but this is what happens when a woman wilfully try to take a man from his children for her own selfishness. Now we are happily married and she is the one with the stress of the child.

    My advice to you is to think long and hard before you go through with this. it is not to late to correct a wrong. Think about the unborn child and the hurt you and this man going to cause to his wife. Remember is not everybody that’s strong enough to deal with these type of problems.

    • shit
      March 6, 2012

      dats no advice to give to a woman u got kids u dont want her to have kids too everybody makes mistake and correct it dont go telling de woman go for abortion am against dat baby girl am telling u don’t abort this child like someone said above its a blessing and do go to him he got to be part of his child life. the sex was sweet why cant the child be sweet men take care of your babies cause later is he or she dat go make you proud. i take care of mine i talk to mine everyday the sex was sweet for me now am gonna make this child my sweetness also

    • Hmm
      March 6, 2012

      Well said. Some of us females to modie. There is no way that you are with a man for three and a half years and not know he is married or at least seeing someone else. UNLESS and BIG UNLESS here, he was just hitting it and quitting (i.e) unless the relationship was sex based- he would come over- have sex and leave. There is no way that in three and a half years, someone would not have said to you I see mister over there, or mister have woman in house with his children.
      Is females like you who allow men to think that it’s okay to cheat and lie. It’s up to you whether or not you want to keep your child and Queen B’ said it right- do some soul searching. But don’t try to up a happy home.

    • good girl sxm
      March 7, 2012

      Dont mind the bnig fat liars home wreckers that all they do . face it its your cross carry it ., shame on u

  69. DANZIGER
    March 6, 2012

    My dear girl be strong, these bastards not easy the other day one came on a break sin saying he love me cuz am clean. So I asked him why he said his woman has a strong smell so I told him thats none of my busniess talk to her. I ask him how long is it since u meet her he said 16 years thats about 6 years ago. I told him , do u sleep seprate? he said no and he said she wont use the shower at all is a wet wash rag she pass on her skin thats how she bathe. I curse him I told him his a liar leave me alone….I tell u up to now he is still with the woman so u see how they are liars. I tell them already dont mess with me cuz I will bang them hard I dont want them. MY NAME IS FEMME CREOLE I DEPEND ON ME. So my dear god arms are strong keep yr baby and move on his lying tongue will pay one day.

  70. worker
    March 6, 2012

    They well know the man married.!!!!! Sleeping around with people man. One day you will married too,and somebody will it for him behind your back

  71. Original-Eagle-Eye
    March 6, 2012

    You all forget that Bella gets mail from all over so this may not necessarily be a Dominican, and even then there are Dominican men & women with spouses abroad especially in the US, UK, Canada…often these people are non-Dominican so they have no way of knowing about the other party. We are always quick to bash people but understand there are decietful people the world over and Dominica small or big has it’s fair share of such personalities.

    To the woman I’d say keep the child, see this as another life lesson, and since it’s likely you would have kept the baby had he stayed with you without the accusations, then continue to heal and raise your child. Be the best mother you can be and a stronger woman. If you knew he was married and still continued then this is still a matter for you. I have heard of Dominican men having one steady girlfriend in one state, planning marriage full steam ahead with one woman,while they are busy engaged and breeding another woman in another state.Non of these women knew of each other nor were they Dominican so who do we blame? the women or the man? sheer coincidence broke the story, some of you here may know about this huge scandal. Some people are twisted and will try to go the distance with no regards for others feelings.

  72. CRESETTE
    March 6, 2012

    i totally agree with Zor an i wont even bother read the other comments. WOMEN NEED TO DO THIER HOMEWORK PROPERLY ON THE MEN THEY WITH. none the less THAT CHILD MAY BE THE ONLY PICKING HIS ASS UP FROM THE GUTTER OR HANDING HIM A 100.00 WHEN HE BEGGING FOR BREAD. HOLD ON TO YOUR BABY AN LIVE YOUR LIFE TO THE FULL.teach your child not to make the mistakes you did in your life…

  73. Anonymous
    March 6, 2012

    Da Men are like that, they like to have three and four women, yet they don’t take care of they responsibly,there was one in the north that was going around the woman and when she got pregnant, he say it was not his, now the woman raise the child on her own and finish school , he wants to be a part of that child,but its too late, the woman went through hell with him and his family now they all want the child now.

  74. sandy
    March 6, 2012

    Dominica is small. We always know each other business. It is the responsibility of any man or woman to kniw who they are sleeping around with. You were not in New york and the man was in Califonia. Common, I believe you knew he was a married man.

    • hmmmmm
      March 6, 2012

      yes i believe she knew self

    • Anonymous
      March 6, 2012

      Married men are playing all kinds of games. There are times ti can be difficult to know immediately if someone is married especially if you are not an outgoing person. They usually look for timid and in house women to prey on. They figure out once you do not talk much and not all over the place their secret will remain. Most times when these men are married they do not want anyone knowing what they are up to. Their buddies may know but who will they tell. Just a piece of info

  75. .....
    March 6, 2012

    that’s a lesson for alot of other young persons in situations like these…take HEED young girls..and to this young lady, learn from your mistake and pray..Lean on the Almighty Father he wont give up on u even if u went on the wrong path..this baby is gonna give u back ur smile..be strong darling

  76. Anonymous
    March 6, 2012

    I am so disgusted with these crazy stories of women not knowing a man is married, and getting pregnant! Sex usually leads to pregnancy eventually!! you should at least know that beforte you get involved sexually, and determine what will happen to ypu and the child, and where you will stand should this become the end result! This is rediculous! another unwanted child in the world! this is no way for a person to begin life. Come on Women, we have to be more responsible than this!

    • ROSEAU!
      March 6, 2012

      YA! RIGHT! easier said than done. If the world could speak the world would loose its voice by talking to about 75% of the usual suspects. Thank goodness we cannot fool God. Good job D.N.O i always keep it clean and fit to be posted.

  77. Abii
    March 6, 2012

    Hun God Never gives us more than we can handle i am proud that you are working and not looking for his help. keep your child for it may just well be the only one you have…as for him his marriage it has already fallen apart….keep your head up and move on. i fell in the same situation and all i do is let him be a father to his child and his wife and i are now best friends.

  78. Shameless
    March 6, 2012

    U damn lie! U knew damn well he was married so doh try that. Anyway, water under the bridge so keep your child and forget the man. Eventually he will have to care for his child by the hook or by the crook regardless of what wifey say. That will be his real blood while wifey is borrowed blood.

  79. .........
    March 6, 2012

    But how bella know the woman have a good job???? D email didn’t say that…hmmmm

    ADMIN: Fourth paragraph, “I’m employed full time with a good paying job and I have no other responsibility but my self.” It is right there in the email.

    • BiGmE
      March 6, 2012

      guess you didn’t read the email lol

    • ROSEAU!
      March 6, 2012

      Thank You, D.N.O as thou you do not have enough on your plate already, why some of those people simply set up their own website and experience what it is first hand.

    • ForReal
      March 6, 2012

      You can’t red man. Read Bella again… you will see the woman say she have a good paying Job.
      She well know the man was married, how is it she never went to his house. Where she think the children he had was staying, or at lease she know he had another woman. I am so sorry for the Child.

  80. shatta
    March 6, 2012

    My dear I sorry to hear about your situation.
    According to the dictum you all both to take the accusation anyway consign about the guy and leave your life with your kid. God is not policeman he definitely give you a proper life. All those who see this situation this young elegant woman is face will learn. Thanks.

    From the trustworthly and care person A.Phillip

    • DPM
      March 6, 2012

      Ale up shatta, wah go. Long time no hear.

  81. a wife
    March 6, 2012

    had to beleive you did not know for 3 and a 1/2 years. he has two children, they have no mom? women never know, men is just my friend but your friend getting pregnant any ways. don’t abort your child for man girl. the mistake is done already, so pick up your bag and move on. take care of your child, he doesn’t want the child because he was hiding the relationship from his wife, but she must know or already know. you can’t commit two sins girl, adultry and abortion.

    • Anonymous
      March 6, 2012

      DUH…….Having a mum does not mean that mummy is married to daddy

  82. Pusina
    March 6, 2012

    Girl i warn u all girl.Use protection. If the man can’t tell u all about him then there are things that are missing to complete the puzzel. How did u and that man meet? thats my question and i can finish giving u my advise

    • ROSEAU!
      March 6, 2012

      Win or draw call MR Anorld you are not the first and surely wont be the last.

  83. +
    March 6, 2012

    Let us not pretend that we don’t know how sly some men can be…they’re worst than foxes some of them. I support all your comments. My dear “Stuck in the Middle” you aren’t stuck anywhere except in your mind. Forgive yourself for what has happened to you and for the hurt that this information will cause the wife of this man by the time she finds out about it, which she will eventually…by then your pain may be gone but hers…dear Lord, it hurts when men deceive us women. Nonetheless, keep your head up, seems like you have your head on, and no matter what, keep pressing forward. Nothing lasts forever and one day you will look back and be very thankful for all this. God bless you and be strong!

  84. jane
    March 6, 2012

    i hope you are not in dominica cause there is no way you in da and going with a married man and you would not no somebody must to have said something even a pheon when u and him together so is still your fault but he should take his responsibility cause he play the game too so go after him and let the wife no about you being pregnant for him what ever the outcome of it just be prepear to deal with it and stay away from mr man

  85. Christ is the Answer
    March 6, 2012

    All I can say you make a mistake in your life but please dont Abort the child you may never have another one Let the married man guilt Haunt him

  86. Family Guy!
    March 6, 2012

    Move on my dear, mister is a bastard! you sound like someone in your mid thirty, one of my biggest desire is to be with a Thirty plus year old, i only 24 so link up with me, you won’t be taken for a ride, i have a good stable paying job, plus a small business on the side, so me depending on you its none of that, i just want a grown person in my life, young ladies too stressful and doesn’t know what they want until they pass through the worse experiences…

    • dude
      March 6, 2012

      Family guy lookin woman on D.N.O. BOY WHAT A HARD LAUGH I GETTIN TODAY.HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA,WAY PAPA.HEY I FROM COLIHAUT LIVING IN ST. CROIX.

    • good girl sxm
      March 7, 2012

      MOVE ON MR ISA BASTARD . SHE IS THE HOME WRECKER TELL HER HER IS GRASS SHE LOOKED FOR IT SO SHE GET IT

  87. over seas
    March 6, 2012

    Well said Bella. Lady bring forward your baby. try you best to put him at your back. Make yourself happy so you can bring a healthy and happy baby into this world. Let him see that you will survive on your own. (That good for nothing man)

    • ROSEAU!
      March 6, 2012

      The height of ?????? the pot calling the kettle black. No one is condoning such behavior but lets not come here and act holier than God. It`s laughable I thought other countries were bad but, believe me My Dominica is worst. Say it not so.

  88. Babyphat
    March 6, 2012

    Waaaayyy papa! Bel beff!
    Datz y its always good to do lil research or background. Checks before committing to a steady relationship!

    After all diz times u hv never met his family nor baby momma?? Dis should hv raised a red flag!

  89. ???
    March 6, 2012

    I agree with bella, move on….but this child WILL be the one who will wipe his a** for him tomorrow! Don’t you worry girlfriend, God will see you through……..

  90. mr.no
    March 6, 2012

    hey little pregnant girl,when you all was having a good time and having sex in his car and de country he never was saying that you want to mess up his life,but now you are pregnant he will say all those thing, little pregnant girl don’t throw your child, it like that just take care of you. you will not be the 1st to raise a baby by your self. so thanx God for the little blessing.

  91. wow
    March 6, 2012

    I do not understand how you were with him for 3.5 years and did not know he was married.

    • LN
      March 6, 2012

      This is so common … Men are lying and blinding sincere loving and naive women with all kind of crap.

    • Truth be told
      March 6, 2012

      remember these men lie, he maybe told her he wasn’t with his children mother

    • wallhouse
      March 6, 2012

      Dat is wat I cannot understand myself.da is so small? Wow very confusing.

      • Tenderloin
        March 7, 2012

        8-O Wow! At what point did you ever get the impression that this story took place in D’ca???? You maybe picked up some context clues I didn’t.

    • Anonymous
      March 6, 2012

      Some of these dirty men cover things up so nicely that u don’t c it commin

    • Ahh
      March 6, 2012

      Maybe she was sheltered and believed his every word. These men can be very smart.. especially if he gave her so much of himself that she never got close to people who knew him.. she felt contented. It happens.

    • massive
      March 6, 2012

      dats jus to show u how sneaky and secretive men can be!!! its not impossible she was clueless of the marriage

      • wife
        March 6, 2012

        well if a man tell me he have kids i want to know where the mother and why ur not with her and make sure i get to it …and if u read she did not say how often she see the man it was text and call so she know another woman was in the picture…for so long why u and him the share a house something is missing i say my girl if i was in your shoes i would say the same thing since the man don’t want me anymore i would even say it was rape to take out shame in my eyes

  92. zor
    March 6, 2012

    My girl u were not doing your homework man? 3 & 1/2 yrs allu together and you didn’t know he was married?! Also you dere giving de man all de time and u have to be furnishing ur spot all by yourself! Awa my girl dat cannot move!
    But u sound like positive woman who was taken advantage of. Keep your child and continue to do all you can for your child. That child will be comfort to you. As for the baby daddy, I hope he knows that scripture verse: the stone the builder rejected shall become the chief cornerstone.

    • wife
      March 6, 2012

      its strange most of us woman always think we will win over the wife so married our not deh doh worry did she ever ask him what about the kids mother she not telling all truth her

    • Abii
      March 6, 2012

      these things do happen i was with a married man for 6 years our daughter is now 2 and i never got a clue that he was spent most of his time at my house met my family and i met some of his but the sucker got married in court and away so no one knew he was till one day the wife came on my job and i was pregnant all i did was call him and there all the story came out

      • Reader
        March 6, 2012

        Whoa! That’s messed up. I hope you and your baby are happy and healthy regardless of the lying S.O.B. actions. Good luck to you both!

  93. TeteMorne I from...
    March 6, 2012

    What? Do you really expect a married man to care now that you are pregnant? He never cared in the first place; why do you think he was playing games with you? Take what you get. karma is a little bitch!! You should consider taking him to court for child support. take care of the baby…this can be done. Good luck.

    • empress DA
      March 6, 2012

      is not all married man that does turn their backs on woman when they get them pregnant. mr. is just a male bitch. alot of married men dos step up and take care of their child even doh they catching hells with their wife.

    • ROSEAU!
      March 6, 2012

      My police friend worked in Grandbay for 12years had his wife and family in viecase for almost the same amount of time mr foxie had two family about 25 kids none of the family knew about the other finally! when it all came to light my friend had an army of kids who learn to live happy that is not new. The moral of this story is “Those who live in glass house do not throw stone.

  94. Dominica abroad
    March 6, 2012

    Hello young lady.
    I will not judge you but I really believe there were signs that pointed out he was in another relationship or married. Well you say you did not know, we know love can blind some of us.

    First, keep your baby. There are many women out there who are not able to have kids after abortion.
    Do all you can to take care of your baby, but let the man know he has to provide. He had a part to play in this and he should not get off easy. Please do not get involved with the baby mama, wife drama it is not worth it.
    And let him know that his kids need to know of their brother or sister. So later in life they will not hate each other or start dating each other (no knowing that is).
    Best of luck.

  95. RDD
    March 6, 2012

    Well I’m not hating but, you well wrong to begin with…Pregnant! Married Man! are the first things wrong with your statement. However, You can’t bear all the blame, he’s just as mush to be blamed as you are. but you all are grown, despite the nature of the circumstances the most important thing hear is the well being of the child which the both of you will have to parent. Y’all don’t have to be together to raise a child. Just do it to the best of both your abilities.

  96. yow
    March 6, 2012

    first of all how could you not know that he was married and you all spent 3 years and a half together? you never got any signs? hard to believe.
    well i think you should just forget about the guy for real and move on,if you have a good paying job you should be able to maintaine a child financially. just pray for strength and wisdom so you can get through it….best of luck to you

  97. Phenomenal Woman
    March 6, 2012

    It’s obvious that he doesn’t about u or the baby, move on with your life and be the best mother u can be to your child :)

  98. Anonymous
    March 6, 2012

    Good words Bella….for once :roll:

    • dude
      March 6, 2012

      i likeyour raps annonymous.I amy our dude baby

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