My husband is showing no interest in me

Dear BellaMy husband and I have been married for six years. At first we had a very healthy sex life and we have two children.

However, within the past year and a half he has been showing no interest in me. At first I thought maybe it is due to the fact we have been together for a while now and maybe the spark is not as bright as it used to be.

So I took it on myself to add some spice to the bedroom, to no avail. Even the things he used to like doing with me no longer turns him on. He always complains that he is tired or he always have an excuse.

Then the other day I realized that no matter what I did, he could not attain an erection. This is very frustrating and I have gone out and have sex elsewhere couple of time (I am human, OK. We have had no sex for over a year now). But this makes me feel enormously guilty.

I am wondering, is my husband cheating and is getting his fulfillment somewhere else or is he suffering from erectile dysfunction? He swears that he is fine health-wise and is not cheating.

Frustrated

 

Dear Frustrated,

Although you might be in a difficult situation, finding pleasure somewhere else won’t really solve the problem. As a matter of fact it might make things worst.

Now concerning the cheating aspect of you email, partners can detect when the other is cheating (although some makes it hard to detect). Have you noticed any changes in his behavior lately: staying out late, secret phone calls and texts, lots of time on the internet and so on? Changes in behavior and routines can (not always) show that something is not right. So look into this and don’t jump to conclusions as yet.

Concerning erectile dysfunction, a large majority of men suffer from this condition and although they don’t want to admit it, there is nothing to be ashamed of.

I encourage you and your husband to talk to someone; a friend, a counselor, a pastor or priest. Whatever is the root of your husband’s disinterest in you needs to be sought out and rectified.

Bella

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83 Comments

  1. blasphemy
    October 1, 2011

    Do the honerable thing and tell him what you’ve done if he doesnt already know. It could be that he has a health problem or maybe he has genuinly lost interest in you; if this is the case then seek divorce cause when a man has lost interest in a vagina, he’ll only keep loosing interest

    • show me
      October 2, 2011

      one of three things he never love you. he have some one that he truly love. or the thing just cannot make the grade

      • show me
        October 2, 2011

        but that still did not give you the right to cheat so if he is cheating and he find out you did it too that is the green light he been waiting for

  2. Anonymous
    October 1, 2011

    Is obvious that is de man penis eh interested in you. You say you try everything and nuttin eh wok. WAT is he doin to help mattahs in dis department. Chile eef he an he prick eh do nuttin but lay pon dem back, roll back on yuhs and GO tuh sleep, you hav nuttin to feel bad ’bout! De lord helps those who help deyself, an eef de man cah put ah han doung dey and arise, den let them both REST in piece.

  3. peace n much love
    September 29, 2011

    CHEAT MY FINGER..MAN JUST ENJOY LIFE AND EVERYTHING WILL BE ALRIGHT..CHEAT IS PART OF THE GAME..LIFE GOES ON.WE TOO LIKE TO GOD DAMN CRY..ALL OF US DO IT ONCE IN A WHILE..SOME OF US LIKE IS FIRST TIME WE HEARING ABOUT CHEAT,HYPOCRITES.STOP BLAMING YOUR MEN OR WOMEN FOR CHEATING,THAT’S Y MARRIAGE IS NOT ON MY LIST..

  4. September 29, 2011

    Think twice about cheating on your husband. There are children involved. And bringing a third person into your situation isn’t helping. In fact, you’re only complicating your problem. If your husband is having ED, he’s not likely to readily admit to it. Keep probing him on the matter. And seek medical help for him.

  5. GAZA THUG
    September 22, 2011

    OR TINKING OF IT SMH I DOE TINK NO STRAIGHT MAN WOULD ACT LIKE DIS, ASK UR SELF A QUESTION

  6. Concerned
    September 21, 2011

    Have you tried ORAL SEX ?? Sucking a mans dick will definitely spice things up… If that doesn’t work, its time to move on….

    • pusina
      September 21, 2011

      Papa puss you song like you does suck lots of di**** i hope you does use those same skills to spice things up.. Maybe you should put those stills to work on Admin..whossssssss

      • pusina
        September 22, 2011

        Admin you are peice of work.. you so foolish you keep editing carmem moom domink know exactly what i saying

    • no party politics
      October 1, 2011

      Most people in a realationship always talk about the healthy sex life at the beginning of the realationship,that what fatuation does.Great sex is no love!! sex is not love!!love makes sex better and not the other way around. It does look like your husband had some medical problen, and is in denial like most men.they do feel ashame talking about ther manhood.He needs to check himself,rememner it’s all about blood flow that’s how an erection comes around.He might also be in love with someone else and doesn”t desire you anymore he brings someone else in the bedroom mentally.Remember the most important sex organ is the Brain, not the penis. good luck

  7. Bull Crap
    September 21, 2011

    Jesus Christ lady you have guts.
    you come on here and admit to cheating on your husband cause as u put it your human. while at the same time you complaining that he not showing interest in you. not once did i see u say u tried talking to him or tried seeing a specialist.

    Take about wanting your cake and eating it to.
    It sound me to me you just looking for a way to justify your action. and if this is the best thing u can come up with. Try again

    • peace n much love
      September 29, 2011

      i totally agree she wanna cheat and talking about he don’t have an erection.lie you lie..cheaters u all be..go and ….outside like you always do and leave the man alone.shame on you.stop looking for sympathy..

  8. BILL
    September 21, 2011

    I DONT THINK WHAT YOU DID WAS RIGHT HAVING
    SEX WITH SOME ELSE. YOU SHOULD SEE THE MARRI-
    AGE COUNSELLOR TO FIND OUT WHAT IS THE PRO-
    BLEM. IF IN CASE YOU THINK HIS CHEATING, YOU
    SHOULD NEVER DO THE SAME BECAUSE TWO WRONGS
    DONT MAKE A RIGHT.

    • XXXXXXXX
      September 29, 2011

      she was forced to do it since some ppl marry for their sexual benefits and she is getting none SHE HAD TO CHEAT…….

  9. Anonymous
    September 21, 2011

    Only a jackass would do wrong, then ask for advise later.

    are you a baboon?
    They say fish is good for the brain…but you need to eat a whole whale….keep eating…cause when you find out the reason why he is not interested in you!!!! you might not like it…and you are not even guaranteed of a relationship with your other squeeze..bet you he too is married and cheating with you..

    If we have something of good quality, and take good care of it, we will have it forever..

    Also remember, that problem shared is half solved, communication is the key…

    • 767
      September 26, 2011

      eating fish may be good for the brain…. but a whale isnt a fish, its a mamal lol

      • anonymous
        September 26, 2011

        how about some shark instead- it is a fish. LOL

      • aheeee..
        September 26, 2011

        @ 767 You are right on that, but I bet you if you go by the bordlamer.and some fisher man catch a BIG whale give you a few pounds when you cook that. there is no way you gonna say am eating mammal..be honest for real..

  10. Mane
    September 20, 2011

    You go out and cheat on your Husband, because you human? you cannot stay a year without sex? Well well you condemned yourself already.Maybe he knows you ‘re a cheater that is why he cannot maintian an erection on you. I just hope you did not sleep with one of his friends, or catch some disease.

  11. forreal
    September 20, 2011

    i notice the moderator did not inquire,how your body shape look physically,because trust me darlene if you have to much tete and belly you aint gone turn me on,me en know for de next man,but if ah so start excercise sweethart to look like a spring chicken,or ortherwhise you stay in de pastures and graze.

    • Kate
      September 21, 2011

      By de way, some men lurvvvvvv meat ok. So tete ad belle may just be a turn on, while bones or mustle a turn off….lol

  12. caribbean genius
    September 20, 2011

    lol… she cheating but wondering if the man cheating?
    Maybe the man protecting himself from something by staying away from the p***Y

  13. may
    September 20, 2011

    TRY TO SEE A MARRIAGE COUNSELLOR TO SEE WHAT
    IS THE PROBLEM FORM THIS YOU MIGHT FIND OUT
    WHAT IS GOING ON. GOOD LUCK

  14. Truth
    September 20, 2011

    Most men gain weight during the first few years of marriage and keep it on. When a man gains weight the fat is like added estrogen. This lowers sex drive significantly as opposed to women. Try a new diet wit your Hus and start physical activities together other than sex (walking on the beach, hiking, playful wrestle), this will help boost his drive and spark interest again. A huge problem that most men and women overlook is that their partner may lose interest not because of looks or cheating but because of attitude. You could be the most beautiful and sexy woman in the world but if you keep doing something you man hates like nagging or bitching too much, he will be turned off completely (I speak from personal experience), he will just distance himself. It’s like distancing yourself from a friend with a bad attitude.
    Also, you cheated on your husband and you have guts to asking whether he’s cheating on you? Just a thought but he might already know, he’s just going about his business and letting you salopte yourself. Like Chapelle said it’s easy to make a man happy “gimme a blow job, f me fix me a sandwich and shut the f up.”

  15. chattagurl
    September 20, 2011

    my lady i think ur husband has some fresh meat leave him
    dnt feel guilty

  16. DA4real
    September 20, 2011

    Give him an ultimatum. If he really loves you he will stay. If it is lack of interest in you he may leave. If it is a health issue he will keep on trying even if it hurts when he cannot last or get an erection or then he may want to talk about it.

  17. shy
    September 20, 2011

    Woman, when you cheat you don’t harm the man, you harm yourself because it’s your pooky that will weezey. :-D

    • Dominican Girl
      September 21, 2011

      There are many things one can do so that does not happen!

    • Anonymous
      August 10, 2014

      What does Weezey mean

  18. SPOON
    September 20, 2011

    Girl mr.GAY so he have no feeling for woman.he mabe turn into a woman and taking the thing by behind so he get dead.

  19. Jane Doe
    September 20, 2011

    Please stay away from BJ and the Rod

  20. amwaay
    September 20, 2011

    he not showing interest in u….then show some interest in yo’self an gwan

    • O_O
      September 20, 2011

      I have energizer and duracel rechargeables lmao batteries! lmaooooooo :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

  21. Woodfordhill girl
    September 20, 2011

    I dare say sex is not all that a marriage consists of although it’s an important part,which is f most importance to you ,is it sex or your husband?why seek help after you have desecrated the marriage vows?you are more concerned about your own selfish desires than your marriage rflationship,you should have first discussed the problem with your husband,encouraged him to seek help accompany him stand by him,establish the fact that erectile dysfunction is the problem and if not explore other possibilities,but jumping into another man’s arms or bed is definitely not the answer,you are human we are all human,if you loved your husband you would not have done that,I hope you tell him what you’ve done “thou shalt not commit adultry” that’s all I’m saying!!

    • Morne Daniel Child
      September 20, 2011

      Amen Sister Preach I agree with you

  22. AmazingFace
    September 20, 2011

    Did he check his blood sugar for Diabetes?…but then again de problem could be you too…Did you gain too much weight? Is your “coochie” smelling good? Dat is not “extra fishy?” Does your breath smell?…When last you had a check-up with your dentist?

    I have noticed that most men will do anything not to hurt a woman’s feelings…so if he says he’s fine, ask him if it’s you…You might be surprised at his response.

  23. dhestini
    September 20, 2011

    i dont think he’s cheatin. cuz most men who cheat try their best to cover it. if dat was d case he’d at least be making an attempt to show interest in u. even if is outta guilt.

    i dont think he observes u’re cheatin either. if he did one way or the other he wld have mentioned that. (men and their egos). i think bottom line is that he is just not attracted to u anymore. or he has simply fallen outta love with u. it happens. i think u need to wrk on that aspect before u can wrk on ur sex life.

    regardless of what pple say bout men, im putting my foot in their shoes n i cld never have sex with somebody im not attracted to. so i think his lack of erection is due to the fact that he is not attracted, nor does he have any feelings for u. so he just cant get an erection where u r concerned. im sorry.

    • DA4real
      September 20, 2011

      Men have sex with anyone attracted to or not. Please men and sex.. you should know better than that. Did you not hear that she tried to bring back the spark but nothing worked.
      I believe it’s erectile disfunction.

  24. True talk
    September 20, 2011

    Most women don’t realize that when they f**ked up their man sociologically it has a great impact on them. That’s doesnt mean that the man is cheating on u. U might b the biggest problem.

    • O_O
      September 20, 2011

      Sociologically stands for many different things lolz! if one is screwed up sociologically then just screwed up tOTAlly lmao

  25. dubies
    September 20, 2011

    you probably let your self go (maybe put on a couple pounds) so the man not too interested in you. Mr maybe jammin some young girl lol you expire

    • Dominican Girl
      September 21, 2011

      No matter if she gains weight or not they are married. If that is the case, he should help her lose the weight. That’s what for better or worse means!

  26. Sunshine
    September 20, 2011

    Before u went out n cheat, u should have sit down with ur husband n talk to him. Nowadays, marriage is like a game to some people. U made a commitment to him six years ago that u will love him, be faithful to him in the good n bad times. Sorry to say, but u don’t love ur husband, if u did, then u would not have gone down that road. Going out n cheat was the biggest mistake, wat if he’s not cheating n he finds out that ur cheating on him, then u salt. And I think during those six years of marriage u got too relaxed n too comfortable, try doing the things that u did before that attracted him. Don’t just sit there n say that ur husband has no interest in u, wen u might be the problem!

    • TrueWord
      September 20, 2011

      You have said it well… Some people just shouldn’t be married, they do not understand what marriage is. How sad in today’s society.

      • September 21, 2011

        @TrueWord

        What people do not understand is the concept of Love or its nature–not actually the ways of marriage.

        People fail to understand that “Love is Spirit”, just as “God Almighty is Spirit”, for God is Love. This means that Love is God’s nature, just as the nature of human beings is flesh and blood.

        So our God, who is Love, has the virtue and character of goodness and kindness among the other natures of the Spirit, and He puts those virtues and characters in us, because He wants us to be like Him.

        Therefore Love is not something we can feel, because it has nothing to do with the flesh.

        But Love enlightens the mind, not with what is known as happiness, because happiness has an opposite, which is sadness or sorrow. Love give us “joy and peace”–the strength of Life, causing us to go on, regardless of what is taking place in our existence of the day.

        The misconception of Love comes from the command of our human senses–feel, touch, taste, smell, hear, and see, which are controlled by our brain. Mind and brain is not the same–even if human wisdom says that.

        For example it is something in the “mind” of that lady’s husband that cause him not to express sexual interest in her. His human senses are working fine, because he is not suffering from “brain” damage.

        Each of those senses can have our bodies covered with goosebumps towards another person–mostly the opposite sex–and right away we decide we are in Love, and we jump into marriage. That is where the mistake happens.

        Marriage for the sake of the fleshly satisfaction, without considering the ups and downs that will certainly come with that marriage business, can cause a lot of disappointments further down.

        Because when human affection dies, so does the marriage relationship. “At first we had a very healthy sex life”. That is the way it always starts–because flesh becomes attracted to flesh, without the connection of the Spirit, and marriage is involved.

        A woman who is in love with her husband would not seek for sexual satisfaction and solace in another man’s arms and, or his bed–no way!

        Unfortunately, we still have people who are pressuring our young people–get married if you want to have sex! Instead of encouraging these young people to hold tight until they understand what marriage and sex life is all about.

  27. Sout Man
    September 20, 2011

    “At first we had a very healthy sex life and we have two children”….” He swears that he is fine health-wise and is not cheating.”

    What’s his relationship with the children? You fail to mention his interest in the kids. Do they look like him? Some men sometimes have misconceptions as the physical features of their kids become more obvious. You have discussed the possibility of he being a cheater; but have you discussed any suspicion he has of you being a cheater, even before the couple of times you admitted to Bella? I suspect that he suspected you were a cheater and that’s why he is so turned off. The kids may hold clues that he does not want to reveal to you for fear of being wrong. You seem to have been cheating a long time ago and you are now making excuses for your cheating.

  28. fat chick
    September 20, 2011

    well look case and before my husband see me he hard DWL—ithink is the woman that have the problem coco is man weakness for him to doh wantor he mayb have 6 other woman so they dog take ur Tolly else where self DAT CAN MOVE HAHAHAHA

    • pusina
      September 21, 2011

      Really not all de time coco is a man weakness cause those tha bulling men is not de coco that is de weakness puss..you song like you from de country..Whosssssss

      • DCA
        September 23, 2011

        yeah the sweet country….looks better than that ghost town called ‘town’.

  29. LIBERAL: MAN
    September 20, 2011

    Most women always want to have their cake and eat it. She is getting her sex else where but the she is wondering if he is cheating. Women are just so selfish.That is why I just deal with women like a rented apartment. Any time they can say the lease is up and when things do not work out, they come back begging. All you women can take that, because the truth hurts. Women has destroyed some good men also.

    Women nowadays are the pursuers. They are so easy to give it up. We men do not find a challenge in that. Women now call the shots and they are even more secretive than men. You always hear men bad but look what is happening now. WOMEN RUN THINGS, but it is all based on emotion until it wears off. That is why the world is in so much trouble. Issues are addressed based on how the women feels at the time.

  30. pusina
    September 20, 2011

    Well that songs just like how i treating Admin my s doesn’t beat when admin making break behind me whossssss

    • Homeboy
      September 20, 2011

      You meant sound right? No wonder Admin eh want you!!

      • pusina
        September 21, 2011

        Pusss you do seeing is Admin that editing things to look like it mean that write that non-sense. Mine me..look at the history and see who want who. MAshhhhhhhhhhh

      • pusina
        September 21, 2011

        To show who how this was edited i had my coc** on there. so mine me Admin you making youself look like a hungry u know what..mess with me still and see what i will put on you..

  31. Anonymous
    September 20, 2011

    sackway. just like eve in de bible

  32. miss LLOYD
    September 20, 2011

    well if he is not cheating not on you on his self he have a health problem that need attention asap there is no way he if he love you and he sees you naked he dont get an errection no he have a problem either he do not love you any more and have no i mean no feeling for you take a small trip away fr home check in a hotel with your husband and talk and try a romantic night and see if that works if it dont well he have a medical problem good luck

  33. Tomian
    September 20, 2011

    I have been married for nine months now and with the man for over 11 years in total.I understand that it can be frustrating sometimes but that doesn’t mean that u have to go out and cheat on your man. You have to find ways to spice up your relationship before u jump into someone else arms cause sometimes those out there are only preying on your weakness.

  34. no name no warrant
    September 20, 2011

    u wondering if d man cheating? but u cheating… dats y u suspect yr husband. after 6 yrs of marriage u expect it to b like d first day

  35. Wise Man
    September 20, 2011

    My BF and I had that same issue but I still couldn’t bring myself to cheating, however not all of us are that strong. He would cut off his neck and say he not cheating. Nothing I did was working. I would send the kids by their grandma on weekends, wear lingerie, lied naked in bed, massage him, give him BJ’s but nothing worked. When I tried to talk about it he would walk out. In the end i found out he had 3 other women. What can say???

    • O_O
      September 20, 2011

      wISE MAN? lolLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL i DIDN’T JUST READ THAT!… :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

    • peace n much love
      September 29, 2011

      ou mateeeee…maybe you was too fat…lol men are easy to turn off,have you all guys thought of that..just eat kfc,get big like a cow and wen all you man dont worry anymore say he cannot hard…

  36. 1979 has NO country
    September 20, 2011

    give the man some space to be a man… remember the man you met on the first day of your life together…. everyone needs their personal space to feel the sunlight on their face and do what they want clear their mind and not have to worry about wife or husband… that’s why I ain’t ever getting married…. that is a technical Prison! have you ever seen what happens to a wild animal when its locked up in a cage?? its spirit dies!

    • Time to move on
      September 20, 2011

      Well thank you!!! At least I know now not to think of marriage with you. But don’t think that i’m gonna spend the rest of my life living in sin. If i’m good enough to live with you and have your kids, i’m damn well good enough to be a wife. If it’s space u want and u want to act like a wild animal, then stay single and just let me be!

      • shy
        September 20, 2011

        leave him self, the old thing .He want to have the cow and still get the milk for free.CLOSE THE SHOP.

      • 1979 has NO country
        September 20, 2011

        Ohh my god she leaves and takes my breath of life away from me, sadly I don’t use those lines, about “you are my everything” “ill die without you” all those nice things women and men love to rub their ego with. Pure bull

    • O_O
      September 20, 2011

      hahaahaa.. yO CHAYBAY cHUCKEE!!!! LMAO :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

      • Anonymous
        September 20, 2011

        LMAO!!!! that one have me on the ground!

    • Anonymous
      September 20, 2011

      dama** that is why woman does cheat on all you good for nothing men

      • 1979 has NO country
        September 20, 2011

        to cheat or not to cheat is for yur conscience to decide honey… when you catch a cold is it me with the runny nose??? 8)

      • 1979 has NO country
        September 20, 2011

        you women act like if you all cheat the world will end, I have lost count of the women who have been unfaithful to me….even when I was a good likle boy….so now can you blame a guy for not really giving a flying f???? do what you feel you must man shate. even if it sting for a while it will eventually go away….

    • 1979 has NO country
      September 20, 2011

      I cant remember having taken any hostages : 8) lemme check, nope no hostages here! WHEN ANYONE CHEATS IT IS THEIR FACE THAT THEY HAVE TO LOOK AT IN THE MIRROR.. I AM NOBODY’S VICTIM.

      • 1979 has NO country
        September 20, 2011

        SAY IT AFTER ME! I AM NOBODY’S VICTIM… NOW THAT IS SELF EMPOWERMENT IN THE 21ST CENTURY FOR YOU… I CAME OUT OF THE WOMB ALONE…SO WHAT ANY OTHER HUMAN BEING DO WITH THEMSELVES IS JUST THAT….AND LIFE GOES ON….

      • 1979 has NO country
        September 20, 2011

        I don’t need to cheat on a woman, women cheat on themselves when they think that they hurting somebody by cheating…I have lived long enough to learn what is truly important in life, I was crazy about sex before but lately not even that bothers me….i just like Peace, nobody on my gad dam back man….just quiet and do things when I want HOW I WANT. BUT TRUST A GIRL TO ALWAYS HAVE SEX AT THE FORE FRONT OF HER MIND…i missed my mother when she died, and as much as i love my mom. I DONT WANT ANOTHER MOM ON MY BACK!

    • September 20, 2011

      @1979hasnocountry

      Just to let you know that wild animals and humans beinga are different. A wild animal or any other of the lower animals has no spirit.

      God only breathed His Spirit into man, whom He wanted to have Life in him–that Life is God’s Nature, known as Love.

      However a human being have a spirit, which is alive in them, when that person is born again–to be born of Love.

      The apostle James says just as the body without the Spirit is dead, so is faith without works dead.

      In other words many human beings are working about with a dead soul. Without the guidance of conscience, their minds simply process and produce the input of their human senses. But those products do no last forever.

      That news article is a perfect example of human senses in control of two people’s existence.

      Marriage based on “human affection”, which has gone sour or stale. One has definitely admitted to cheating, while the other shows no interest.

      It is time for people to stop running to the alter of marriage, because they feel human affection for each other. Human affection is not Love! It is here today and gone tomorrow.

      Love must bond two people together so that their affection for each other will last forever. When Love has bonded two people they will not even the absence of human affection–that is the truth.

      • September 20, 2011

        Correction

        When Love has bonded two people they will not even know the absence of human affection.

    • 1979 has NO country
      September 21, 2011

      what is Adam was strong and say take eve and do what you must with her lord for she has eaten the forbiden friut, give birth to a new mate for me out of the dust from whence we came. WHAT KIND OF WORLD WOULD WE HAVE THEN??? I WONDER…I am nobody’s victim….remember, “no other god above me??”, “remember, love no other more that the creator?” hmm ohh I see..

  37. mindme
    September 20, 2011

    Dam girlfren, you already stepped out on the man? I have been married for 6 years too and I know it can get a bit stale if no effort is made but marriage is about putting work into it. The first thing you shuld have suggested is for your hubby to have a general check up with his doc – maybe there he would bring up the issue of the ED (if that is what he has of course). What about taking a vacation just the two of you? That always adds some spark to my marriage. Also, just talk it out. Tell him you need fulfillment and you want to work with him. Some women make their whole life about the children and ignore their husbands too. SO many things could be wrong but before you ran and cheated on him, you should have at least made all the effort up to and including counselling. Coz now you are just wrong and a sorry excuse!

  38. concerned
    September 20, 2011

    Does your behaviorn entices him to want to have sex with you? If you always complaining, arguing, he can be fustrated from all that but because he loves you he will not say so. Then yes you are human, you should also remember that sex is not all. what if he finds out and decide to quit? you will say he bad Don’t do what you don’t want them to do you

  39. lol
    September 20, 2011

    dat can move. ur peepee cannot staaaaanddd… das ur bizness wi! ur woman checkin other maaaaannn.. das ur bizness wi…

    • LOL
      September 20, 2011

      Your parents must be proud ..i am sure they tried their best….u should have been ab*rted!!!!!

      • Anonymous
        September 23, 2011

        :-D u doe gud nahh 8) :-? :-P :?:

    • Anonymous
      September 26, 2011

      n wat urz shud have dun to u :mrgreen:

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