In our early teens she developed a tomboyish style which annoyed me, then things became normal again.
At age 16 our friendship was unexpectedly blossoming into something more and I admitted my feelings for her. Her reaction was odd and then she told me she was a lesbian.
I took that pretty hard and felt betrayed because I’ve been through past horrible relationships with the wrong girls.
I tried months later but she still refused to accept my love. However I knew she loved me because she was always around me, hates the attention I give to other girls and I am the only boy she trusts around her body.
I then learned this year from a friend that when she was young a relative from overseas sexually assaulted her. I broke down. I understand now why she acts and dresses like a boy but I really want to be with her.
You are dealing with a very deep issue here and I encourage you to approach it with great caution. If it is true the young lady was sexually assaulted when she was young, she probably is still suffering the the after-effects of such an encounter.
From your email, it is obvious you two are close friends and I encourage you to have a face to face talk with her, ask her to seek the help of a counselor. Sexual assault can scar a person tremendously but healing is possible. And this is what I would like for your friend.
I think you need to push the lesbian issue to the back burner for the time being. Be there for this young lady, show her that you love her, support her and hopefully she will be able to deal with the scars of her past.
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