Having a master’s degree, speaking proper English or being extremely beautiful are not necessarily qualities that will keep a husband happy. In fact, nine out of 10 men polled by All Woman confessed that a woman’s brain power comes second to her desirability when it comes to keeping them interested.
And as family counselor David Anderson said, “for women beauty fades, smarts is forever; for men beauty goes, he runs for another.”
“Don’t ever fall for the misconceived belief that you can settle into ‘housewife mode’ after marriage because you already have the man,” Anderson, recently married, warned. “I can tell you that from the Christian to the pauper; from the rich man to the professor, they want one thing — desirability. All else is secondary.”
I found this article insightful, because it highlighted what was important in keeping two people together by addressing the needs of only one party.
We should uphold the author’s conclusion, that women must appear desirable to maintain their marriage, and accept the fact that mutual attraction is the central and pivotal factor in any marriage.
What we can derive from this insightful article is that the women who decide that they want a marriage to be more about virtue than desire; a marriage pivotal on things such such love, honesty, communication, and commitment should be well educated placing their virtues first and looks second so that the few men who do cross them (the 1/10) are ideally what they are looking for.
Humanist, I swear i have the biggest crush on you. I can ALWAYS count on you to be the rational voice in all this foolishness.
I can’t, with this article!
Not today
so basically the article is sayin u must hide from ur husban? alot of women husband is their best friends and their husband acturally loves wen they are so open with them, just now u will say dont eat infront them 2?
Educated beautiful women should start buying themselves dildos…enough with these men and their crap.
You’ve never seen a woman who is in love with her dildo, skin shining, hair well done, make up well done, fashion to kill…always well rested….
These men think that they can walk around, some of them don’t worth a damn fart and stress women out with their nasty behavior and demands. Enough with that, unless men learn to respect women and to recognize that we are partners and not properties, then we will continue loving our dildos…in the meantime those men that do not care to appreciate and respect women can hop on men back….who really care….
This article simply tells us how easy it is for a man and woman to lose their mate.So a relationship is basically hard work yet still it is not guaranteed to last forever. Infact many of us are simply actors on a stage paid to do our part very well and whatever the motivation is ,it is our payment.In relationshop only time will tell the integrity of it.
Humanist, to me, doesnt deserve so much pressure.
I ususally disagree with thepoints (s)he brings, but this I am in Humanist corner for the greater part.
I acknowledge the depth of thought and the way it is excuted.
Thanks
ok humanist i’m done…i give up…. trying to watch a horror movie there on my computer
hey man humanist i just leave that danm computer is the same thing…spending too much time on it…doing cunstructive stuff thought… but i check dno often..i am just happy that you reading my reponses…sorry for all the errors ..i post too quick at times…anyways man you have been warned …on judgement day you are going oo remember this….hey i just want you to go to heaven man don’t want you to burn in the lake of fire
So…a woman who is married to someone, living in the same house with them, mos likely not a mansion, should never talk about her period, fart, use scrub on her face, shave or any of those things wih/in front of her husband? When is all this supposed to happen? WHen you live apart it all well and good to keep the ‘mystery’ because he doesnt live with you…and when married you should still try..but of course you share quarters so it would be infinitely more difficult. Next you’ll say men should not be present when women give birth, should have sex with others when she is pregnant..and more hogwash
Well i am going to the salon tomorrow.
Short and sweet, to the point!! makes sense.
I like this article.
heavenly father………humanist stop twisting peoples words…the writer of the article never stated that women lose men because they are smart…are you doing this on purpose
… the fool has said in his heart that there is no God…the one who created you said you are a fool..
whenever crime is committed or women are abused in God’s name it is because some fool twisting the word of god to suit his evil deeds….
more horrendous crime have been done against women and against humanity in the name of atheism than in the name of Christianity….more people have been killed in the twentieth century by nietzsche fans such all other centuries
combined.
and i drive a car ….i use a computer and i wear fashionable clothes….i am not Amish …their way of life is ridiculous if you ask me…but i do agree that Satan use SOME of these things these things and to keep us busy…from spending time with God…..yes and i will restate he is responsible/provided the knowledge for MANY inventions..bombs electronic gadgets etc..
oops …than all other …
Now, you’ve gone so far off-topic that it’s hilarious.
Anyway: no, you’re completely wrong on all counts. Crimes committed in the NAME of atheism? Nope. Stalin was an atheist; he did not commit crimes in the name of atheism. Hitler was for a long time a Catholic; there is no clear evidence that he was not one his entire life. When you think about it, there are comparatively few crimes committed “for” atheism, and, at any rate, such people are not following a doctrine that actually TELLS them to commit genocide against multiple people, rape women almost on sight, to kill your own son to prove one’s “devotion” to god (as in the horrifying case of Abraham and his son), etc. It is your religion, in fact, that is not only immoral in great degree but responsible for the greatest number of and most brutal tortures and murders we have known in the world.
And what religions cause violence? The monotheistic religions, primarily. Why? Because they believe in a single deity, and therefore all who do not believe in this specific god are potentially threatening to their doctrine. This is why Christianity and Islam (though, notably, not Judaism, which was never an evangelical missionary-type faith like its two offspring) are responsible for the worst crimes in religious history, since they are bent on rigidly converting the world to their narrow, specific belief systems. Contemporary (or, better, moderate) Christians and Muslims are not like this, and can practice their faiths behind closed doors–which is fine. Most such people, in fact, are excellent people and some count among my close friends. My concern, however, is with those who have not moderated/diluted their belief systems to fit the times we live in, which characterizes a large number of Dominicans (and a vast number of Jamaicans).
And come on…no one cares about your conspiracy theories about technology but you. You’re just making yourself look like a lunatic luddite.
plain and simple… men don’t know what the hell they want.
One minute they want a woman with xyz qualities and as soon as they see something different they want that too. Being married is not the end all… cause their are miserable married women out there… There are also women who stay looking good and their husbands still leave if he wants to.
Couldn’t agree with you more.
I quite agree with u! I know women who are beautiful and educated and their husbands go after those spanish salops that have no brain, just maybe a round bottom! Men don’t know what they want!
humanist… u clearly read something different…. i don’t get what u trying to imply there… the guy never said to not get an education….smh
we know that loose behaviour is all around by both sexes,but good relationships are based on good freindships first because a friend is a friend…..for all seasons.
what is pathetic is when a woman is very desirable, trustworthy and educated but somehow the man is forever looking out for other desirables…married and all; and when other women work so hard to distract a man…married and all
Humanist u make no sense at all.
I was being sarcastic in the first paragraph and non-sarcastic in the second.
I think what they’re saying is stop being a bitch. Be desirable for your husband; that’s the main reason he married you. The moment you stop being desirable is the moment he stops being interested and that is also when the bitching increases because you wondering why he’s not interested and probably blaming the man. This is an obviously recipe for divorce. A woman wants certain behavior, looks, protection or finance form a man; most men want a woman who’s smart and desirable.
He forgot The other thing is the smell of the poopoolooos. After the wedding the poopooloos must be kept in good odor. Ladies never stop blowing the trombone because when you play that instrument on a regular basis your basis papa no leave. When the kids sleeping walk around the bedroom with sexy apparel. Next keep in shape – run , walk keep , cut down on the bad eating habits. Finally cut off the cold shoulder – ice box treatment. The colder you get is the more we move away. to mention –
lmbo @ poopoolooos
so love bird the poopooloos should not be keep in good odor before the marriage/wedding?
OK… … … so what about men now??? I love how women are supposed to do SOOOO much to please their husbands… yet men can let themselves go and not take care of themselves and their appearances… and that’s ok because they are men… they can pass gas… belch… and get drunk and act stupid in public… but that’s ok cuz they are men… give me a break and get a life…
Yes! Men despise independent thinking intelligent women. They marry them for their own financial security! You are right author of this article!
humanist …for someone who is well read like yourself you are one of the biggest fools there is
being very intelligent is not a quality that will make one keep a husband i totally agree… hell…. didn’t you read the part which talks about self respect?
anything to wage war with the bible and your creator huh?
the bible states a woman should submit herself too her husband it instructs a husband to love his wife like it was his own body… now with these two combined there can be no wrong….it’s like allowing one sibling to cut the desert but allowing the person who did not cut the desert the chance to choose first…the one who cut the desert would have no choice but to cut it equal halves
A man who believes that demons living in factories at the bottom of the sea control the world and that there are uncharted islands on which evil scientists create technologies to deceive the masses (cars, tablets, computers, etc.) wants to tell me that I am a fool? Hahaha. Fantastic, fantastic. Those who do not get my reference–refer to the article on Steve Jobs on DNO, where you will see tiny’s unbelievable conspiracy theories from some crackpot video–which he seems to believe.
As for women losing men because they are smart–well, why should an intelligent woman settle for a dumb man? Marriage should be based above all on love, not a battle of intelligence, and if a foolish man dislikes his wife because she has been better educated than him, he should either step up and get better educated himself or should get out of it altogether. Being educated doesn’t mean being sarcastic or being a jackass to your spouse. It just means that you know things–and knowledge is never a bad thing, especially in this day and age.
No one can tell me women are inferior to men. People who believe in women being subservient or even in being slaves are living in the wrong day and age. The feminist movement was born for a reason–and its fruits have been good. If you disagree–well, have fun being a dictator or a slave. Just don’t try to push it on me or my loved ones.
Waw do me a favor. read the article and understand it then comment.
Don’t you people think before u comment.
Ah, so women should be dumb and subservient to men and basically treated like inferior creatures, as they’ve been through most of history. Let’s return to the glorious 50s, when husbands spanked their wives in advertisements for coffee. Let’s return to the days of the bible, where men rape women simply because they like how they look–an act sanctioned by god, no less, alongside genocide. Wonderful idea, wonderful!
No, this is BS. Let two human beings get married–not two stereotypes. Women are NOT inferior to men; men are NOT superior to women. That is no more than a disgusting prejudice perpetuated for centuries by ignorance and men who like the feel of being in control–domestic dictators, at worst. Women should actively TRY to be as educated as they want to be. To hell with this Jamaican idiot telling women to be less intelligent and subservient to their husbands.
couldn’t have said it better, thank you
Very often the demand that marriage/life places on us -cooking, cleaning, getting things done on time so that ends can meet or simply women with degrees and who are the bread winners with loving hearts tend to ensure that things work for both of us – take their toll on us and sometimes make us look a little less appealing; in other words we sacrifice the time we should take ‘preening’ ourselves just to please them and the family, and they don’t recognize that. They turn aroung and give us the k… But women, based on the trend, I think we need to regain who we are, they saw us when we were beautiful and appealing to them, we should maintain that – not so much for them but for ourselves.
I think you missed the point
The article is not saying you should not be educated or that you are inferior but instead states that you should not ignore what the man was attracted to in you in the first place. do not ignore yourself and relax and stop taking care of yourself because you are married. The same way you don’t want your husband to be untidy and leave dirty plates in the sink, he doesn’t want you to be untidy and let your mascara run or leave out make up altogether, or (please forgive me) rapidly put on weight to the point where your figure becomes closer to blob than human.
Basically As human beings (and it goes both ways) we tend to bring a representative to the table before marriage and withdraw the representative after the fact however if we continue to work on marriage, keep being desireable to one another, keep our hair well done, weight reasonable and conversation enlightening (again i reiterate it goes both ways) then a happy, long and prosperous marriage should be achieved
Just my opinion
As soon as the marrige vow is read- man become slaves and subservient.As for the cat that is like Santa – once a year.
i agree wit you, humanist.
@ for real i would like the general reading public to know that me and you do not share the same view,even if we seem to box in like the same,i am forreal and you are for real,so please do mistake me for baron according to the sound with them calysonians from trinidad are clearing me name,and i do agree with humanist, like winston t said he missing the point.
sorry for the word that is missing.i meant that i do not agree with humanist,he is missing the key factor in what was really written.
I love dat