DON’T get married, and if you already are, seek a divorce immediately if you want to experience true happiness. That’s advice coming from Courtney Kazembe, international lawyer and transformational coach, who is warning that marriage comes with too many pitfalls, and the unions are bound to end in messy divorces.
Using his years of experience in the field, Kazembe can say that marriage is “one of the ugliest institutions that human beings have invented”.
“Invariably it leads to misery,” the divorce lawyer told All Woman. “In fact, most of the misery in the world is a direct cause of marriage.”
And so: “Do not get married, and if you’re already married, get a divorce!”
Kazembe said in marriage one of five things always happens:
I know what a Canadian lawyer is.
I know what an America lawyer is.
I know what a Jamaican lawyer is.
But the law is different in each nation. A man who is trained in Canadian law may not be competent to practice law in America or Jamaica. That is why a man must be licensed to practice in the country he is going to work in. As far as I know it is a provincial or state license.
With me it is different. I am an international evangelist because I preach in many nations. This is possible because the Word of God is the same in every country.
Perhaps somebody can explain to me what an international lawyer is.
I am also wondering if there is a law in Jamaica that forbids a man from impersonating a lawyer.
Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. International Evangelist.
Shocked! This man is a lawyer? His speech is anything but funny so forgive me for asking where he came from. If his parents were married – and are married – it suggests marriage can produce something good, or at least I would expect he would think so. If they divorced it may explain his bitter feelings towards marriage. His philosophy that people should be free to have sex with anybody anytime they wish would open the gate to a flood of STD, rob children of the love and care they need for a proper upbringing, and diminish planning for the future. Social scientists tell us a man is at his long term best in the workplace and the most productive when he is married. Married people tend to be healthier and live longer. Marriage has survived thousands of years. It as been the cornerstone of society in those nations with the highest standard of living and the best educational opportunities. The things Mr. Kazembe says happen to married couples is simplistic. Actually, it is more complex. With some couples their situation changes from time to time. I suspect some marriages are a combination of two or more of these things depending on what day you walk in on them! Marriage has its challenges. Everything worthwhile in life does. It requires commitment and work. But this brings out the best in a person. It builds character. In closing allow me to share this. My wife Sarah and myself are both in our early seventies. Next month God willing we will celebrate our seventieth wedding anniversary. We are beginning to feel and look (ouch!) our age. But to me Sarah will always be the most beautiful woman in the world! We recommend marriage. As a minister and a trained pastoral counsellor I am qualified to answer Mr. Kazembe. Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist.
SORRY! THAT SHOULD HAVE BEEN OUR FIFTIETH (50th) WEDDING ANNIVERSARY. MARRIED APRIL 20, 1963. PLEASE FORGIVE THIS MISTAKE. Don Hill.
this is a load of crap my ex bf tried to kill me we were never married or planning to a crazy person is a crazy person married or not married makes no difference
Unless you are a crazy person you will not marry a crazy person so what on earth are you trying to say?
Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill.
I don’t understand why ADMIN is always so UNPROFESSIONAL with his/her comments or feedback. People are always going to make idiotic comments, don’t stoop to their level.
i thought all real asses were dead, damn am wrong. Man get work for you to do, does not mean that because you were not mean for the sacrament of marriage that every one else is doomed. what the ass, where mr living
OMG this lawyer has lost his marbles… he just hv to be crazy…
LMAO
What kind of law a** are you? this is such a low way to advertise and a poor way to make money. get a job you son of a gun.
Excuse my English but in what country does this #%&@ hold his license to practice law? No offence intended, but in my country and province it is unlikely he would get called to the bar.
Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. International Evangelist
It’s good that you put the post there even if I don’t agree with it. I firmly believe in the mariage as being instituted by God. It’s always nice to be able to read what the unbelieving have to say. It helps us to witness to them better. I would really like to meet this man and share the love of God with him. He is so lost.
Very surprised at DNO. How is that news? This article does nothing to uplift or educated. What sense it makes to publish such nonsense.
ADMIN: So you could read, which obviously you did. lol
Agree with you Gwen.
DNO…get real.
Take your theory back to hell u sick Bastard!!
Please people dont ride this train with this devil,, he is here to destroy homes that are already being destroyed,,We cannot allow him to destroy more!!!
Unless you are a crazy person you will not marry a crazy person so what on earth are you trying to say?
Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill.
Live free or die hard….
I am not really sure which side to take on this article. Lol, seeing that i am a very free spirited person, but i am also married with a beautiful daughter.
A case can be made for both side of the argument. Marriage can bring you terrible misery and some people are better being single. But on the other hand, being single can bring people misery also…
One man meat is another man poison…
If i get divorced, i wont marry again. Would live free
Marriage is not the problem, it’s the two people in the marriage that’s causing the problem..Some people get married for the wrong reasons they dnt get to know their partners before jumping the broom.. They see lil flaws in the relationship and yet still they ignore it thinking after they get married that everything will automatically be fixed.. This is one of the biggest problems.. Another thing is lack of communication..Some people in a relationship, they r like two moomoos..they got something on their mind and they dnt speak..if u dnt express ur feelings how is the other spouse going to know and this what that slowly tears the marriage apart.. Another thing is that some people stop having fun after being married..The same thing that the 2 of u use to enjoy doing together, u should continue doing it..Marriage is all about having fun and enjoying each other..So i will say it again Marriage is not the problem the people in the marriage has the problem..
On another note I believe this lawyer is an anti Christ..he is here to destroy people relationship…I just dnt understand y 2 people will be happily married and just get divorce for no reason..
People we need to pray nowadays people believe more negative than good..This is y we need to be strong and have faith so when these kinds of people come about speaking their rubbish we wont bother!!
Peace to all!!
This article proves what my grand ma always taught me, “edukasion sa pas lespwe/education is not wisdom”
DNO I am a bit disappointed that you could even publish this.
Where is the statistics to support his claim?
I am suggesting to you DNO, that there are alot of marriages out there and even relationships that need help, encouragement and a little boost. So please next time you decide to post something on marriage,for example, nagging, cheating, abuse, etc. get the quotes from life manual, “the bible” and then we can have a meaningful discussion here. You will be surprised to find out that there are positive remedies, attitudes and attributes just lying out there waiting to be shared. AND DR. KNOW NOTHING ABOUT MARRIAGE, I am looking forward to my marriage. What God has put together let no one put a sunder.
Yes Yes after reading this article, I must say that the devil is alive..He is here to kill and destroy.. I believe this man is just looking for attention.. This man is sick!!!And if any woman put their self with this guy, i am very sorry for them..
I just don’t understand y someone would be happily married, living good together and just get divorce just for divorce sake..So what does he say about the spouses who are living together and they are not married..From what I am getting from this psycho is that just live ur life freely..jump from one partner to the next..That fool so doesn’t know anything he said that man created marriage..Go read ur bible u Punk!!!
He maybe thinking with the lawyer degree he has he will fool people. I believe his head is full with too much knowledge and he is loosing his mind right now..
A better news item should be on here, not this piece of CRAP from this self proclaimed “international lawyer and transformational coach”.
Lights out;Game over ;cut; nuth said.
CHOOPES… ASS WIPE
LETS HAVE A CONSTRUCTIVE DISCUSSION,LETS PULL THE POLES,Y WOULDN’T I GET MARRIED AGAIN?
ST. PAUL SAID WHO MARRIED GOOD FOR THEM WHO NOT BETTER YET. SO I AGREE HUNDRED PERCENT WITH THE LAWYER.
St. Paul was saying for some people it is good to be married and for others it is better that they remain single.
This recognized that there are different personality types. It also allows for the fact that there are different callings in life.
There is absolutely nothing in the Bible to support one statement Mr. Kazembe has made. He should not be given a platform from which to make his sick ideas known
Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. International Evangelist.
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Come on ppl lets not be hypocrits, We just put up a front to make ppl believe thats its all good when its not. I am not saying that there are no working marriages but form where i c it, its a slavery thing.
I do not think Mr Kazembe should advise people to get a divorce if they are married, neither should he discourage people from getting married.
But I would agree with him, if he had advise people to think clearly before they get into marriage, for marriage can take up a lot of time in the lives of two people, just to end up in square one 10, 15 years down. Worse too, when children are involved.
I can understand his negative opinion about marriage, because in his views–“he sees marriage as one of the ugliest institutions that human beings have invented” Anything that is thought to be man-made will also seem frail and futile, because without God, man can do nothing!
I believe it is that idea of “human invention” in marriage that makes it a very common misery among marriage couples.
Why? Because people do not wait to “love” each other, as God commanded us to do so, before they run to the alter. Unfortunately it is only that “man-made marriage concept” that “identifies” two people as being a married couple, not the bonding of Love, which is of God–those two people truly loving each other.
I am saying that a man and woman who has committed their lives to each other, because of Love, just because they did not get involved in a perplex and materialistic ordeal of religious rituals and partying, society looks down on them with all sorts of unfair judgments.
However Love has to be the primary reason for the marriage of a man and a woman. For without Love, there is no God, and without God there is no Life, and without Life no one can experience peace and joy. But peace and joy is the energy of Life which is of God, who is Love.
Human affection is not the reason for two people to run to the alter. That marriage is bound to come crumbling down; for human affection is fragile, it is here today and gone tomorrow. It cannot bond two people.
As I have already said, an alter ceremony is the “man-made ritual” by which society accept that two people are truly married, but that is not good–especially that today man and man, woman and woman, go to the alter as well, in countries where this is allowed.
Marriage is a Love bonded ritual that happens between the man I love and myself in the presence of Almighty God, by our faith, in the first place. We can take it to the public alter if we choose to do so.
But the most important thing is that Love has bonded us and God is our witness–not human affection, not the repeated words of another human being; not a set of men on the groom’s side and another set of women on the side of the bridegroom.
This is the sort of thing that apostle Paul tells us it is worldly and “it is passing away with the form of this world.
Jesus tells us that His seocond coming will be just like in the days of Noah. People were marrying and being given in marriage, feasting away; and they did not know that Noah had entered the ark, until the flood came and took them all away.
Jesus is telling us that while we are busy satisfying the flesh–the desire to fulfill sexual desires is one of the first reasons most people get married– we ingore getting involved in Life that is of Spirit and Truth, and to be ready for the days He will come to rule over us, executing the the Ways of God Almighty who is not of flesh and blood.
Marriage is for until death do us part. Jesus tells us that in the resurrection they neither marry, nor are given in marriage, for we will be like angels in Heaven. In other words marriage is for human beings, but humanity must be done away with, before spitiutally begins.
Anyway while in our human state Love bonds two people in marriage. Because of this bonding they are guaranteed to have the ecstasy of joy and peace–the energy that moves them, regardless of the circumstances they will encounter, through their married Life–the Ways of God will always the top of everything they think, do and say.
correction
humanity must be done away with before spirituality begins.
If having my wife as my one and only sweet heart is a fallacy, and it is wrong. I don’t want to be right.
God blessed the day we found each other.
God was the one who established marriage and He has given us the manual…The bible
Dear J.J. I love your comments. Many of us shout AMEN! Next month my darling wife and I will celebrate fifty (50) glorious years of married bliss. Thank God for people who speak out against such rank stupidity. There should be a review of Mr. Kazembe’s credentials to practice law. His advice that married people should divorce is especially grievous. The Lord Jesus said, “What God hath joinded let no man put asunder.” Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist.
MR.MAN IF YOU BELEIVE IN GOD YOU COULD LIVE YOUR LIFE AND OBEY THE PRINCIPLE OF GOD MARRIAGE IS PART OF GOD PRINCIPLE THE BIBLE SAY THAT A MAN SHOULD LEAVE HIS MOTHER AND FATHER JOINED HIS WIFE AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH.AS A LAWYER YOU SHOULD SPEAK WISE UNDERSTANDING AND KNOWLEDAGE.
life without a wife is like a kitchen without a knife. tell this lawyer go to hell go to hell .is non of his ……… business how or where we get our wives.
He is an instrument of satan.
Tell this guy to go get a life. He’s a case for the psychiatric unit.
stuuuuuuuuuuups that man need help …….his words cannot be for everyone there are pple who are happily married y would they wanna get a divorce….like i said stuuuuuuuuuuuuuuups
Where did that alien fell from, I wonder if he got that from his dad or what. Did your dad just —- your mother to get you or are you the devil’s advocate. Its a shame if any woman in her right mind would even think of falling in love with you. You better have plenty for her to eat and run, because you sorry ass do not deserve anything more than that. If you are hurt do not pass it on the world. Hide that feeling and I tell you if You haven’t discover what it is to have a woman, bro stick with the men that you are use too. Sorry pal…you are an alien here on earth.
It better be plenty money for the women to eat and then run is what you are talking about…
Couldn’t some better news item be brought out, rather than this CRAP from this self-proclaimed “international lawyer and transformational coach”? What does he know about marriage and the origin of marriage? This man needs help, he’s mental!!
He is probably an outright fraud
impersonating a “lawyer”. 
However, some people expect a psychological evaluation might show he is borderline psychotic.
Before consulting a lawyer you should inquire
about their credentials and be sure they are current and valid.
Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. International Evangelist.
mister is a kunt to tell ppl tht married get divorce give better advice than tht…although there is a high rate of divorce happenin now a days
this man must understand his confusion,there it is his asking you to get a divorce,after stating it will end confusion,so why go through the trouble,you might as well stay married.
Where is this guy from, hope not Nigeria cause he is out to make money
Mr. on crack man! He is obviously looking to increase his clientele. WOW!
I agree with this idea. I was married and going to get a divorce. I was happier before I got married and will be happier after I’m divorced. Man and woman were born to be free. Being married is to much stress when woman cheat in marriage they still espect to get benifits. Marriage is a thing of the past. Everyone cheats those days so it doesn’t make sense to be married and cheat. Its a world of players and playets. Live happy and die as what is to be will be.
With all his talk, instead of advising people to get divorced why not talk on marital problems and think of ways in solving some of those problems? Why not tell those home wreckers to leave people’s husband/wives for their spouses?,tell those married people who still think they are kind of single to go home to their wives/husbands? Most times marriages fail because of a man or woman on the side. Satan knows how to get his way around people. My advise for those who get married is pray and let God first in everything you do.
Just as he said religion and politics are foolling us, so he is trying to do the same that he can get persons running to him for a divorce. This wil make him be a rich man in short time, and he will say through his teeth after he has made all his money, you all can go to hell.
Statistics has proven that married men live longer than those who are unmarried.
I wonder who/what caused this person to come up with such advice.
So this man is telling me leave my family and get a divorce to be happy. What the hell I am gonna do bt myself? What to do with my kids and wife, my family?
Why is this lunatic even getting press time….
At a time when we need stronger families this mad man is advocating breaking up the traditional family.
At a time when we have gays fighting to be married, this man wants normal people to give up the institution of marriage to gays.
This man needs help
Be very careful people. This is a message and messenger from the pit of hell.
why dosent he offer them free advice instead of trying to make money from unhappy people divorce never never comes cheap he must be a very unhappy man who has never tasted the beauty of a Godly and loving relationship.Physician Heal thyself x
you got to be a catherlic prist.
God have mercy on his soul….I mean I am aware that there are more bad marriages than good ones, and sometimes I really don’t think that I would be personally able to cope with it, but this does not mean that persons who are in a blessed union or who truly love each other should not be together. He should be preaching fidelity, which would help in strengthening marriages rather than this message of division and confusion.
no mercy for such an instrument of the devil. GOD ORDAINED MARRIAGE AND FAMILY. ONLY THE DEVIL WOULD SPEAK THE WORDS OF THIS MAN. I REBUKE YOU SATAN IN JESUS NAME, TAKE YOUR EVIL THOUGHTS AND IDEAS FROM OUR COUNTRY. TO GOD BE THE GLORY.
Sounds like he’ll soon be advocating for same sex marriage. lol
Sour grapes. He just needs a good Dca woman, sounds like he’s been awfully hurt.
lol…you so right..he just need a good DA woman. Get a good home cook food everytime he come from work and house sparkling clean, then he will NEVER want to leave that marriage.
We are truly living in the last days. Man have become so much in love with himself that he refuses to share that love with another human being. Thank God he reserved us the right to be all knowing and all powerful. Whatever that is sanctioned by God cannot be a curse. What gives you the right to advice persons who are married to divorce? God gave you your will to choose. You can share your experience but allow people to make their own decisions without interference.
when your wife reach 50 trade her in for two 25 year olds lol
lololol
i dying there :
This man is sick! The bible says that marriage is honourable and more so God ordained marriage! His experience doesn’t have to be someone else own.
Marriage is just another institution of control. It is the institution where by women look to be the driver and men become subordinates. The men become whipped , have to go on play dates and cyan even go play dominoes without coming home to an ice box.
I’ll tell you why the catholic church in particular discourages divorce- because the priest, pope never experience being in an unhappy marriage.
Putting all jokes aside marriage can be a beautiful thing only if the people are perfect for each other however if you are unhappy I agree with the lawyer if you are unhappy get the heck out as soon as practical. According to the “zouke song – Si ou mal mayais demayais
he trying to make money,
where is this guy from, hope not Nigeria, this man is sick i say a sicko, this is
when u marry the wrong person for the wrong reason at the wrong time then thats what u’ll get, marriage was instituted by God not man, so if you dont do it Gods way then its not gonna go how it is meant to be
Agree
Excellent point..Agree with u 100%!!!!
Being happily married is like any other pursuit in life; the more effort both partners put into it, the more satisfaction they get out of it.
If you take it or your partner for granted, it will eventually get stale and fade away.
The Lawyer just want’s to make money
Being married is the best, there are up and down, however you have to work on it. Making up is so make fun, put your trust in God and pray for both of you.
this man sounds like a lazy man that is looking for reasoning to remain lazy
On Love and Marriage: “The TRUTH is everybody is going to hurt you, you just got to find the ones worth suffering for.” Bob Marley
Was the biggest mistake he make because he did not put God first in his relationship. If GOD is your relationship and both of you stand on his side..NOTHING will tear it apart…u will go tru hell and high water and in the end if God is in your relationship you will be smiling together after the storm….Im getting married soon. This man nonesence he talking sure isnt going to make me change my mind
i could not agree with you more
Mister dont have good head man. That man crazy. My mom and dad was happily married for fourty years until she passed on and the never got tired of each other. Is how u make yourself.
He is WACKO, his looks says it, something is deffinitely wrong with the man
man did not invent marriage it was instituted by god.
AMEN!
It was instituted by God in the time of man’s innocence for the mutual benefit of both parties, the propagation of the human race, and the care and wellbeing of children.
There is only one model and blueprint for marriage and that is the one affirmed by our Lord Jesus in Matthew 19:4-6. According to the Word of God a marriage is one man and one woman publically making an exclusive commitment to each other for life. No human government has the authority to redefine marriage because marriage was not man’s idea. it was instituted by God.
Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. International Evangelist. Licensed Pastoral Counselor.
BROTHER YOU ARE SO RIGHT
iT IS BEST TO REMAIN SINGLE. I HAVE BEEN MARRIED AND IT MADE ME MISERABLE. IT IS BEST TO REMAIN SINGLE. WOMEN ARE TOO TRICKY AND I PREFER TO BE TRUTHFUL. THEY DO THEIR THING AND YOU CANNOT DO YOURS.
Okay …my brother I hear you. I’ll be divorcing my darling wife after 25 yrs of marriage and I’m going to come live with you if that’s going to make you happy.
I totally disagree with you pal. what do you mean opposite sex. is that to say you should go same sex – sodom life.
The book of life “the BIBLE” 2 things God himself ever Blessed…
1. The Sabbath Day (Saturday)
2. Marriage
This lawyer is an anti-Christ….period
AMEN
Jodi, Girl I hear you, I am in the same situation… More fighting and quarreling than every, being single and dating is more fun that being a married person i thought i would feel better being marred but i guess wrong …you have to beg him to please go out with me, when he don’t i go and here goes trouble always mad if i go out without him but will not go out with me, whatever!!!
All I am saying is if you are not married DON”T get married…. If you are Married listen to the man and get a Divorce…. I did…I am DAMN WELL better than when i was marreid
I guessed you only got married for FUN!!! Is it that the man wont go out with you or that he is tired from work and you always want to go out? You sound like a fun loving person to me and maybe your husband had decided to concentrate on building a family and saving money for a rainy day for YOUR FAMILY…but i guess fun is more important…SMH
Obviously, you showed very poor judgment when you got married.
You know this now 
or you would have stayed in that marriage.
You are still showing bad judgment. The Bible says “To avoid fornication let every man have his own wife…” It looks like you are literally “sniffing” from one to another like a dog on the street.
Christy said, “If any man follows me he shall not walk in darkness, but shall have the light of life.”
Become a follower of Jesus Christ. Let the Word of God be your light. You will not be making such mistakes in life, and then repeating them.
Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. International Evangelist.
Sorry for this spelling error. It is one I take seriously.
Last paragraph:
Should be “Christ” not “Christy”.
Sincerely, Rev. Don Hill.
I agree totally agree… Been there done that… If you are married get a Divorce if you are getting married DON’T, Trust me getting married is work.. just work and more headaches…
All work is good work!!!!
The good things in life you have to work hard for them.
Find someone who you truely love and you will be suprised that what you call work and headaches will only bring u all closer and the love stronger.
“The TRUTH is everybody is going to hurt you, you just got to find the ones worth suffering for.” Bob Marley
in order words YOU ARE A LAZY PERSON
SMH!!! SMFH!!
The man is right, he is so right if i would see him i would kiss his big toe. i am married and the feelings i had for the man is no longer, it is a constance bickering all the time, he is stubborn, ignorant, goes no where with me, it was much better when we were dating, i may be the only one , i know someone will comment on my statement , but that is mine, the man is right
The man is right I agreed with him
HEY!
I GOING AN TELL JAMES WHAT YOU SAYING ABOUT HIM
THAT WAS FOR JODI
lol
Don’t worry I am sure you are not the only one, just look at the divorce rates and not to mention the many UNHAPPY people who stay in the marriage for the children, the money, the security, what people would say, and on and on. Marriage can be lovely and long lasting and happy thing, but it still isn’t a trouble free road. Nothing in life is. But the truth of the matter is relationships more often than not tend to change after the marriage, the “piece of paper”, the institution, something causes a new slant on things. If people were to be very honest, believe me, you would be shocked at how many married people are unhappy. Looking around at all the marriages that appear fine is one thing, until we go beyond their closed doors. Its not about being bitter or against marriage or any such thing……its simply reality.
I’m no expert on marriage and I know and see so many unhappy married people, but I really don’t agree with this man. Sometimes we marry “males/females” and not “men/women”. My belief is that you should marry your friend. Someone who you are open with and who is open with you.
Mister must have gotten the biggest GP in the world
wow.. i dont think this is wat jesus would say
That’s the point of the article–he criticizes religion later on, if you read the whole thing. He seems like he’s being satirical to a degree, but I think he believes most of what he wrote.
IS DERT!