CONFESSION: I fell in love with a married man

What started out to be something that shouldn’t have happened turned out to be a life changing experience for me that I will never forget.

Understand as you read my story that I didn’t seek this out, sometimes people are brought into your life to test you and you either pass or fail the test given.  In this case I had wanted to pass but it seemed I failed- not only myself but God as well. This man was a co-worker and friend and nothing more than that and for some reason what started out as an innocent flirting turned into something more.

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17 Comments

  1. chandi
    May 25, 2011

    leave married men alone nothing good can come out of this relationship.Ask god for forgiveness

  2. September 10, 2010

    now are days people dont care who gets hurt in these situation.as long as i get what i want is all.thats the thought that goes. we are living some one elses cultrural behaviors.it almost socially accecptable to have a married man in thier bed.the married men are to blame too.
    whwere is the respect for first,yourself snd your wife. wemen now are days just f–ing sick

    • miss concern
      October 9, 2012

      the men is not only to blame. evryone involved iss to blame. the woman sleeping with married man is lik a doormat. the man always goes back to is wife and at the end of it all, all benefits goes to her and their kids. so u would be just a sex toy. get morals and standard for ur lives women and find ur own to married. reason why men chose their wives. they secure their assets with someone they can trust.

  3. soldier
    August 8, 2010

    im sorry for how this life has turned out with adultery and every other sin but im here to tell u none of this is your fault sometimes thats the cards that are played before us and we cash these chips in without understanding why,however im not saying its kool to go searching for married people,i think happyness comes in strange ways and life goes on and on and on and on,good luck and im a testimony to all of this being A MARRIED MAN i assure u if u keep praying to get out of it trust me God will hear your prayer and he will answer you believe me pray pray pray and if u dont then u love being where u at.

  4. Roses
    August 7, 2010

    I see that you were able to rise out of this abuse which you found yourself and that it is good to know that you accepted the part you played in this relationship. People on a whole are deceptive and others are to always be on guard as to the words that you hear. Hope that other women who are in those types of relationships including ones of boyfriend/girlfriend, fiance/fiancee, will search their hearts and realize that life has a way of turning around.

    If we make Christ the center of our lives there is no way that we would want to hurt others that much. Homes are destroyed, children are abused, spouses are abused – the rippling effect of one selfish act. We need to recognize that many times even if we know that the men are married and we try to change them, it just will not work. Remember “What God has joined together let no man put asunder”. People do not take these words seriously. You may even find that the bride’s best friend or even a friend who was at the wedding is the first to “knock” on her husband. What a shame.

    Many times it is said that women are women’s worst enemy. They constantly keep fighting and tearing down each other. Men and women tell the men untruths about their women just that he leaves her. In the case of a man so that he can get that woman and in the case of a woman, so that she could have your man. Some women are boldface and say that they prefer married men because they do not have to be committed to them and that they the men must provide whatever they ask just to keep them. The evil that you do must come back to you. These men are worthless. They come from all ranks of life. This does not mean that there are those men who are respectful and will treat a woman with dignity. We hear of domestic abuse and this is a major cause of such. The finance which should be kept home for the maintenance of the home and care of the family is spent on an outside woman. Sadly enough though when these men get the backlash they always return to their spouses for care and attention.

    There are so many boyfriend/girlfriend relationships that are being broken because one partner is having an outside affair. When, especially the woman, decides to breakup because of that, the man would say that she has to fight for what she wants. Which man is worth fighting for? They only stand on the side and look. Let them continue their running around, it’s their life. Some women experience those problems but still get married to those man and say that the marriage will change the man. No way.

    Low self esteem is a major factor in this type of situation and it is sad to say that many women have a low self esteem of themselves. This could be brought on by the abuse they felt as children and which still impacts on them today. Our society need to understand that if we have to stamp out those types of activities we need to look towards developing its foundation – the family. Again it takes us to the men who turn their backs on their children and expect miracles to happen with the
    children’s upbringing. Time for our men to be more responsible and be what they are called “men”.
    Such actions only cause others to give a blanket reputation of what a man is.

  5. francis francis chicago il
    August 6, 2010

    so oh yeah is true you knows right she need a holy bible.

  6. Anonymous
    August 6, 2010

    Who am I be be judge and jury. The good thing is that you are no longer in that situation. Ask God to forgive you and purpose in your heart that you will not travel that path again.

    We fall down but we get up, for a Saint is just a sinner who fell down and got up! and He who is without sin let him cast the first stone.

    I praise God that he is merciful and he forgives and forgets. For if we confess our sins He is faithful and just to forgive us.

  7. baby-z
    August 6, 2010

    sweetie one advice to u…There is no future in loving a married man. Your young look for someone of ur standards… someone who can help u out as a woman not a married man he wont leave his wife for u got that!!!

  8. Karma
    August 6, 2010

    Some of all you does never check dem man when they single. Once they have a woman or get married is wen alu seeing light on dem… Fire bun alu…

  9. usherbaby
    August 6, 2010

    well my dear am sorry bout yr odeal……but it has a lot 2 do wit yr self esteem as a young lady…..i pray that u hve truly gotten ova dis man……move on wit yr lyfe…….mke something bttr of yr slf……mke dis man n all dose odas out dere who feel dat women r here 4 em 2 use n abuse knw dat we r stronger n bttr dan dis………we cn mke it witout men in our lives……now pray lwys sister

  10. OH YEAH
    August 6, 2010

    BOY LOOK KICKS ABOUT SINGLE WOMEN LOVING AND WANTING TO LOVE MARRIED MEN….HA! HA! HA!

  11. francis francis chicago il
    August 6, 2010

    in what, love money you need that, what you in love with not him please .

  12. francis francis chicago il
    August 6, 2010

    do she know the ten commandment ?

  13. Captain Zaraki Kenpachi
    August 6, 2010

    But allu, to me all I hearing these days is maried man and his outside thing or fling. What is happening dem days there nuh. I fed up!!!!

  14. texas
    August 6, 2010

    Some times relationships like these are like rain in a dry season, beyond the risk, as we know it the other person tends to bring something that may be missing in the other person’s life and the exploration can be compared to anything new that is experienced in lilfe. life is complicated sometimes people in relationships lose their fire and when those mudane times build up, the human being with the desire to be wanted as stated in the story will desire it and somtimes fail to see the risks.
    Next time be prepared for the inevitable, you might get it or your heart might be broken

  15. SMALLEE
    August 6, 2010

    You are dumb, sweff and greedy…. you really expect to change a man muchless a married man. If i was with a married man when he finish ride me he could never watch me and give me chinese food. Is steak and lobster i want for me to eat. and for u to even think of having a future with him just shows how dumb u are. Everyday we as young women are being educated on that same subject. I guess you were too busy eating chinese and having sex to get educated

  16. YOU
    August 6, 2010

    You are one and the same…Good for you!!!!

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