Men: walk away. Simple. You win. Why do something you will regret? If you get that, no need to read the rest of this article. Some may ask, but wouldn’t that then be abandonment and neglect? Well, it depends. Let me explain.
When I was just a little boy, 10 maybe, I witnessed an incident that scarred me for life.
Location: The bus stop for the villages in the Valley, just past the junction of King George 5th Street and Bath Road. That was just a block away from Merry-Go-Round and where we then lived in Boyd’s Avenue along with Phillip Timothy. It was a Christmas Saturday afternoon. Folks were preparing to return home after market and festive shopping. Without warning, this big, strapping fellow fell upon this woman, raining vicious blows upon her like nobody’s business. She was stout and dark and reminded me of my mother. Her blood-curdling screams grated my heart as he tore her dress, leaving her a half-naked, bruised and battered trembling mass. I felt the tremendous urge to step in and stop this madness.
Of all the adults present that day, not one raised a hand. Not one even raised their voice in defence of that poor lady. I couldn’t understand that! Welcome to the real world buddy. Some how, this ti garcon knew that had he attempted to intervene, he would be swatted away like a fly – possibly even by the woman, for interfering with her man beating her. It was landmark event in my personal history much like the lasting impact that the Kitty Genovese scandal had on the New York psyche 50 years ago.
Sometimes, I’m so disappointed in the human race. We are capable of great folly. But we have also been known to rise to the occasion. I think we are about to. Just watch:
The Challenge
This physician has no desire to turn social commentator. I am simply responding to a regular reader who appealed to me to take up the issue of domestic violence. In her view, it is a pressing health issue which is indeed responsible for considerable emotional trauma, injuries and much more to vulnerable segments of the population. I agree.
Our national anthem describes us a people ‘full of Godly reverent fear.’ True. But here’s something that our society evidently believes much more than John 3: 16
“Every now and then knock them down
They’ll love you long and they’ll love you strong
Black up they eye bruise up they knee
Then they will love you eternally.”
This, my friends has been our modus operandi, our standard way of doing things. These are the words of the enduring, incredibly talented and massively popular Slinger Francisco. AKA the Mighty Sparrow, he has been our opinion leader and West Indian folk philosopher since the 1950’s! It is a monumental task to change the mindset of generations, but we must chart a new path. You and I are about to get involved in the process.
Domestic violence affects all nations, all races, all educational levels and all classes, rural and urban. It was universally codified in all major religions. Thankfully, some theologies have made more strides than others in throwing off the shackles. Drugs and alcohol do not cause abuse, though it may facilitate it. Domestic violence is fundamentally a power issue as the male seeks to control the female. Rather than disappearing, the problem in many places is becoming more acute. Factors contributing include women make significant strides in the modern workplace while an increasing number of at-risk males are neutered by substance abuse and prison sentences.
For a scoop on the data, trends and initiatives on domestic violence in Dominica, please refer to the excellent article by Dr.Valda Henry
Politically correct platitudes
“Men! You just can’t leave with them; and you can’t live without them!” This was once blurted out at a family gathering – by a six year girl!
Everyone was like, “Whoy! Where did that come from?!” Well, obviously, since she did not figure that out herself, she was just repeating what she heard an adult say, her mother most likely. Listen to experts and you hear them blaming the men, the men, the men. However, conscientious mothers know better. They permit their teenage daughters to be cute, even a little flirty. However, they warn that dressing like a tramp and losing control of oneself with drugs and alcohol risk bad things happening.
Hold it! Was any of that a factor in the public display of animosity at the bus stop? Not! Indeed rapists and batterers need no excuse or pretext to inflict their wickedness. However, experts need to empower women by not glossing over the part they must play in solving this matter.We must continually model to our young men how to walk away and get help in situations that may be getting too hot to handle. Billboards are great, but we must find ever more creative ways to take the message relentlessly to where the men are – sporting events, ‘the beautiful game,’ cricket, dominoes, festivals, churches and so on.
Meanwhile, women are oftentimes their worse enemies. They seduce, manipulate situations sometime push the wrong buttons. Have you ever overheard a woman’s dare, ‘Let’s see if you’re man enough to do something about it?’ Not wise. On the other hand, they can be so merciless to the sisterhood. The root of the cat-fighting and conniving often centres about who has the ‘ring’ and who has the man. Men feast in this cheapened market place and tend to lash out when either one complains and interrupts his party. The fascinating Old Testament story of Sarah and Hagar is a prime example. Old Abraham was just a sideshow, even pappy-show. The un-ending inhumanity of their descendants to each other, Arabs and Jews, keeps drawing the rest of the world to the edge of all-out war.
A battle or a game?
Creatures, male and female, on the group level, are locked in eternal competition. Who is going to get the better of the other? Females often win. Just ask the partner of the Black Widow spider! However, when a woman and manbecomes an item, as designed, it is bliss and joy beyond compare. The result is harmony in the home and amazingly productive families that move the national narrative forward.
How to beat UP a woman?! Did I say that? No boy! Why would a man ever want to hurt a woman? That doesn’t even make sense. Men are created bigger and stronger for a reason and this is not it. What I did propose was a path forward: how to tune out certain aspects of Sparrow’s legacy as we build a more equitable and secure society for all.
So the battle of the sexes can be seen as a game as well. If there’s any beating to be done, I’d much rather the kind that makes her say: killing me softly. Oh,I’m dating myself. Yeah! Make love, not war. Sounds like a much better option to me.
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Dr. Sam Christian is a general surgeon who manages the Urgent Care at 137 Bath Road. It is a facility for general medical care, surgery and acupuncture at short notice. He is author of the faith and fitness book, ‘Mannafast Miracle’ and serves as Medical Officer of the Dominica Cadet Corps and Medical Advisor of the Dominica Cancer Society. He can be reached anytime at 440-9313 / 613-8345 or [email protected]
@Francisco Telemaque July 16, 2014F
You lie, nobody want you except the Arizona Dominica boy perhaps, and doh count on me cause ah have Rendy, and a few more ou===
Why don’t you also tell DNO readers that you have been married twice and the wives divorced you, I know the reason they did; you claim be afraid of me, so don’t push me–you will regret it; that is a warning,
So with Rendy you are an adulterer–is God not against that conduct? Is God not against lying which you do here so boldly? Is God not the pages and pages of profanity which you have sent to my inbox–even just 3 weeks ago?.
You better stop speaking lies about me here–for you cannot deal with one strike from God, much more for the many I have asked Him to peach to you, you know very well that you are lying–stop calling for God’s wrath; for detests a lair, because that person belong to Satan.
God said about people like you, that you all are the children of the devil–you can say what you want about me, because you have no understanding of God–but I know what Satan can cause people like you to do against people like me–because he is against me and you are one of his sons–according to Jesus. However you are fighting a losing battle–so just give it up
If Elizabeth is an example of a Christian, I do not wish to be a Christian, she is one cynical woman!=== You are right not to claim to be a Christian, because you are not qualified and you will never be qualified to claim the Christian virtue in the eyes of God–just look at whom you are teaming up with to speak against me!
She claimed to be my friend==Why do you continue to speak those disgusting lies? You are contradicting yourself with your follow–ups; why, if I wanted to be your friend, would I be saying “Amen” to something someone said against you?
And Amen means that the truth is spoken–however that truth is spoken. The person who said you were plagiarizing hard spoken the truth–that is why I said Amen!
Man, you know very well that I dropped friendship with you as soon I got know you; and I have forgotten more than I will ever know about you–that was since the late 2011.
The problem with you is that you cannot accept that rejection from me–I don’t want you for a friend–and you know it!.
Well, ah fraid Elizabeth oui!===Don’t be afraid of me, be afraid of the wrath of God, who will strike against you, on my behalf.
Regardless of the lies which you speaking against me here–I am a woman of God and His vengeance against you will be for my sake–I hope you will survive His rage when it comes upon you.
@The Facts July 15, 2o14
There are some writings that DNO should disallow and this one of yours is one of it, As always, I did not read your long writing. I only saw the first few words. . When will you learn to respect my writing or any other person’s writing? Who do you think you are? You are not any more intelligent than I. —–(Say what!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!)
If you are any so-called Christian, you would learn to respect what others write. Did I judge you or are you guilty of something? DNO’s Website should not be used to throw words at others. —–(Well look who is talking!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!)
If you were a so-called Christian you would be a loving person. You are showing who and what you are and this is one wicked person.—–(This is about you own filthy attitude, not mine at all; you do not know me and my comments are the written words of Holy Spirit through me. But how could you understand that through that carnal mind of yours)
You are simply jealous of what I wrote.—(I have always perceived that you were a crazy creature; you have given me that conviction through that nonsense of yours here)
You are my enemy without me doing anything wrong to you. Know your place and mind your own business—-(Now that is what I call hypocritical; even if you spoke that thing here, the wrong way. Are you claiming that you have done me no wrong–even by calling my son a bastard–as if you know my existence from the day I was born. Lady I do not know you! And I give thanks to God, in advance, that He will never cause me to come face to face with you )
I have previously told you not to respond to my writing–(Well what a laugh! But I am not in the laughing mood right now) ,
you frustrated woman. May God rebuke you! He knows your type and that you mean more harm than good; no good at all.—(All of this is about yourself, you are the one who do not simply need rebuke from God, but you need an exorcism; I have told you about this before; but here is what DNO and other bloggers have to say about you–the are all on my side–based on the sentiment.
(1) ADMIN: “We have absolutely no idea of what you are talking about. And if you continue with your baseless accusations, you will be totally banned and blocked from DNO.” Yes this is to your form DNO themselves and it is justification from God on my behalf, when I called to Him against you
(2) BRAIN DAMAGE July 9, 2014
ADMIN, it’s time to take a stance against this nuisance blogger.
ADMIN: LOL…..this blogger has been accusing us of all kind of things, including trying to hack her computer. We have warned her that if she continues, she will be banned. But otherwise, everyone is free to express themselves.—-and this banning will come to pass, as God is on my side
(3) Gretta July 8, 2014
The Facts, you keep on changing your fake name the same way snakes changes their skins, regardless how much you change from Justice and Truth etc, just like snakes will always be snakes you will always be that person who thinks that you know the minds, heart and soul of others, you will still be the same person judging others
And now I rest my case!
So a woman who has no other source of comfort will tell herself that it is a sign that he truly loves her when her man beats her.
In my counseling training I I learned that this type of thinking is what psychologists call a defence mechanism. It is an example of sweet lemons – the opposite of sour grapes – when somebody accepts something bad and makes themselves believe it is good in order to make it bearable.
Unfortunately these are women who have sometimes had a less than ideal childhood. There could have been verbal abuse from a parent who did not want them. There may have been physical or sexual abuse. They may have had a learning problem in school. Some experienced bullying in the school yard. Usually a combination of these things leaves a girl full of anger and wanting to fight back OR feeling worthless.
When the dating years come a young woman in this situation may think she is lucky to be noticed and willing to go with any guy who will have her. Even if he physically abuses her she tells herself he must love her to even stay with her, so she sets herself up for a lifetime of loving abuse.
This is in itself an illness, a pathology. It is nurtured, fed, and caused to grow even worse by the violent and criminal lyrics of songs sung by certain entertainers that promote the idea that this kind of behavior it normal and even beneficial for the victims. Some popular songs also encourage drug abuse and even suicide. If it was only entertainment it would not be a problem. But music and the lyrics that are sung DO affect behavior. Ask the advertising industry! They use songs big time to sell products to the tune of billions of dollars.
That is why knowledgeable governments are looking closely at this now. Entertainers who use their questionable talent to hurt rather than help are sometimes not admitted to their countries. I say good for them.
As grandfather with a grandaughter I think the world of let me add this. We should do all we can to help our girls and young women know their worth. Regardless of the hurts they have experienced in the past the best gift we can give them is to help them discover their value and believe in their God given potential!
Let them know if they will honor God and walk in His ways they CAN be anything they decide to be and they do not have to accept anything less.
Nor does she have to accept abuse from any man!
Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. International Evangelist and Pastoral Counselor.
The title was intended to arrest our attention. The good doctor has given us much to think about when it comes to human relationships.
If we want to know God’s plan and the Divine ideal we have to go back before sin entered the world, before the fall, and the curse.
The Bible shows in Genesis 1:26-28 that God created both men and women in His image and likeness . He made them to be equal partners in society, and share in the governance of planet earth.
Many social evils spring from a lack of benevolence being shown to women by men who see them as a convenience to be used a servants and sex objects. A man who marries a woman for his advantage rather than to compliment her by showing mutual respect and to build a life together is a man who is apt to initiate domestic violence in his own home or abuse other women.
It is from this mentality we get an almost total acceptance of fornication as normal, single mothers, children with no father in the home, a lack of educational opportunities for girls, young women being discouraged from entering the professions, sexual harassment, and a lack of equal opportunities and pay in the workplace, and women being beaten, raped, and even murdered. As varied as these abuses are they all have the same evil root: a lack of godly respect for women.
The measure of the civilization of any people is their respect for their women folk!
A man who shows respect for women will have a wife who is a lady. They will raise a family of well mannered children who will become young ladies and gentlemen.
Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. International Evangelist.
Loved your article but your topic header: “How to Beat a Woman” got me. Perhaps, say, “How to Beat a Woman @ her own game?”…just saying
Doctor I personally have heard women saying , when your man hitting you is the love that is strong..I often ask myself how can some women be so silly to think that pain is nice and acceptable which can finally be interpretted as love?Doctor your words a good words but I am sure it will pass through many death men and women’s ears…
My husband only rough me up once ,in seconds my little jack knife was in his ribs,my teeth also and blood in de place ,well the good part of the ending was ,he never did that again and kept his hands to his damn side till he diead.
Ladies if you cannot get a hero do not get a zero and same to the men also because some women do the same to their companion…move on .
So a woman who has no other source of comfort will tell herself that it is a sign that he truly loves her when her man beats her.
In my counseling training I I learned that this type of thinking is what psychologists call a defence mechanism. It is an example of sweet lemons – the opposite of sour grapes – when somebody accepts something bad and makes themselves believe it is good in order to make it bearable.
Unfortunately these are women who have sometimes had a less than ideal childhood. There could have been verbal abuse from a parent who did not want them. There may have been physical or sexual abuse. They may have had a learning problem in school. Some experienced bullying in the school yard. Usually a combination of these things leaves a girl full of anger and wanting to fight back OR feeling worthless.
When the dating years come a young woman in this situation may think she is lucky to be noticed and willing to go with any guy who will have her. Even if he physically abuses her she tells herself he must love her to even stay with her, so she sets herself up for a lifetime of loving abuse.
This is in itself an illness, a pathology. It is nurtured, fed, and caused to grow even worse by the violent and criminal lyrics of songs sung by certain entertainers that promote the idea that this kind of behavior it normal and even beneficial for the victims. Some popular songs also encourage drug abuse and even suicide. If it was only entertainment it would not be a problem. But music and the lyrics that are sung DO affect behavior. Ask the advertising industry! They use songs big time to sell products to the tune of billions of dollars.
That is why knowledgeable governments are looking closely at this now. Entertainers who use their questionable talent to hurt rather than help are sometimes not admitted to their countries. I say good for them.
As grandfather with a grandaughter I think the world of let me add this. We should do all we can to help our girls and young women know their worth. Regardless of the hurts they have experienced in the past the best gift we can give them is to help them discover their value and believe in their God given potential!
Let them know if they will honor God and walk in His ways they CAN be anything they decide to be and they do not have to accept anything less.
Nor does she have to accept abuse from any man!
Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. International Evangelist and Pastoral Counselor.
@The Facts July 13, 2014 As Our Lord Jesus Christ said, “Teaching as doctrine, human precepts.”
Lady come on now! These are the times of which I cannot tolerate those nonsense which you are writing here. Are you so stupid, not to be aware that you are speaking against the principles of your own church through that comment of yours above?
And yes indeed! God lamented against those practices of your Church, when He said through His prophet Isaiah–those words of Jesus Himself is at Mather 15: 6-9 He says to the Jewish leaders who would not believe nor accept His claims, but they claimed righteousness”: Thus you have made the commandment of God of no effect by your tradition. Hypocrites! Well did Isaiah prophesy about you, saying: ‘These people draw near to Me with their mouth, and honor Me with their lips, but their heart is far from Me. And in vain they worship Me, teaching as doctrines the commandments of men.”
What denomination do you know is guilty of that practice more than your Roman Catholic Church?
Jesus rebuked those called Him good or holy–as He was in the flesh–He told those people this kind of praise belong to only God Almighty–Eternal Spirit -at Revelation 15: 3-4 it says:
O King of the saints! Who shall not fear You, O Lord, and glorify Your name? For You alone are holy”
At Luke 18: 19 It says: So Jesus said to young rich man “Why do you call Me good? No one is good but One, that is, God.
The people of your church congregation call the Pope “Holy Father” and every priest is your father–need I continue to point out the many ways that your church teachings are built on religion-, but religion holds the principles which are the ideas of man–not of God?
Aaron, who was Moses’ brother was the High priest of Ancient Israel, when they lived in the Wilderness for 40 years. Aaron had a wife and children–to the point that God caused two of his sons to die because they went against God’s law –what was called a profane fire, which they made.
God chose the whole Tribe of Levi, one the twelve sons of Jacob, of which Moses and Aaron belonged, to be His priests in the Temple. All of those men had their wives and children. Where did the law of celibacy, for the men of women who are priests and nuns in your Church, come from?
The stature of Mary and all the other statues of dead men around your church houses are idol, and God detests the worship of Idols from the very beginning–so isn’t your worship to Mary, who is sleeping in her grave, the commandment of men?
So once again I ask you who are you judging this time–if not your own self and your religious practices. But God wants a “relationship” with Him–by our faith He teaches us to know Him and His Ways of Love–hear Jesus saying to the Jewish leaders, for example: The Sabbath was made for man, not man for the Sabbath, when they complained that He was doing works on the Sabbath–which was His healing for the people.
Now you can write 3 pages of your stupidity against me–such as calling my son “bastard” DN|O has already justified my calling to God against your nasty words to me and all the rest of us here–to God be the glory!
And here is what the apostle Paul assures me at 1st. Corinthians 2: 14-16 “But the natural man does not receive the things of the Spirit of God, for they are foolishness to him; nor can he know them, because they are Spiritually discerned. But he who is Spiritual judges all things, yet he himself is rightly judged by no one. For “who has known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct Him?” But we have the mind of Christ”, That “we” in Paul’s saying includes “ME, MYSELF, and I
There are some writings that DNO should disallow and this one of yours is one of it, throwing stones at others. some Christian you are, eh?.
As always, I did not read your long writing. I only saw the first few words. I have informed you that I never read your writing, your lengthy ones.
You have your personal views about God and religion. As it is said,”‘God and religion is not a matter of personal opinion” as yours.
When will you learn to respect my writing or any other person’s writing? Who do you think you are? You are not any more intelligent than I.
You are free to comment but your consistent criticism without responding to the issue is out of place.
You have a right to comment so do I.
If you are any so-called Christian, you would learn to respect what others write.
Did I judge you or are you guilty of something?
DNO’s Website should not be used to throw words at others. If you were a so-called Christian you would be a loving person. You are showing who and what you are and this is one wicked person.
I commented and I abide by my comments. Your words are of no help to anyone. You are simply jealous of what I wrote. Take a back step will you?
You are my enemy without me doing anything wrong to you. Know your place and mind your own business. I have previously told you not to respond to my writing, you frustrated woman. May God rebuke you! He knows your type and that you mean more harm than good; no good at all.
You know how to spoil a good article, Dr. Christian’s article.
Eat your heart out with envy about what I wrote. It hit close to your home?
The fascinating Old Testament story of Sarah and Hagar is a prime example. Old Abraham was just a sideshow, even pappy-show. The un-ending inhumanity of their descendants to each other, Arabs and Jews, keeps drawing the rest of the world to the edge of all-out war. –News article
Dr. Christian that statement above is very true –the attitude and conducts of man today–husband and wife, boyfriend and girlfriend, son, daughter, brothers, and sisters it all stemmed out from the beginning–even further from Sarah and Hagar, but into Adam and Eve themselves.
Today the further away we are born from the primary state of Adam–remember that Adam was a perfect man before he partook with his wife, in that disgusting orgy with Lucifer–the rebellious angel against his own creator–And so the further away we are born form that state of perfection, the worst we are as human beings–humanity will not change for the better, for this state is the world to God; but world and everything that is in it most be done away with.
Perhaps you know, or you may not know, that God saw Abraham, whom He would use as the root of His chosen people, but at the time Abraham lived among a people of lawlessness. Abraham and Sarah were brothers and sisters–Sarah was a daughter of Abraham’s father but not his mother– in the law of his homeland this kind of marriage was allowed. Today we know that sexual conducts between a brother and sister is known as incest–this conduct is forbidden according to God’s Laws
That is the reason God called Abraham out from his homeland and his people, in the UR; Sarah and Abraham were already husband and wife at that time, but God knew the plans He had for Abraham Let us not forget that God gave His laws to the Israelites, through Moses–Abraham and Sarah were long, long, gone –Jacob, who is the great Father of the then Israelites–Israel is the name that God gave to him–he was the great, great, great, grandson of Abraham.
God’s chosen people failed through disobedience to His laws–that is the main reason for Jesus’ suffering and dying; for He told us through His disciples–“Do not think that I came to destroy the law and the prophets; I did not come to destroy but I came to fulfill” .
Jesus is saying in that message that He came to obey on behalf of disobedient people–for the disobedient to the law brought death–especially the death of the spirit, as we have suffered through Adam and Eve. Faith in the sacrifice of Jesus Christ on our behalf is the only way of regulation for us See my continuation, to this news article, below
I am not a wife, nor a mistress, nor a girlfriend, and I have no desire for those kinds of relationship in my Life today–I give thanks to a God who has loved me and has cleansed and sanctified my mind to respond to His Ways of Love–in Jesus Christ I have Life and this Life which I am living is for Him and Him alone.
However, my father, my brothers, and even my son’s father has been the best men in the world to me. My son’s father would not even share in a quarrel with me–his words through a stern but quiet voice would be “stop making all that noise” what else could I do but be quiet!
The apostle Paul advised us at the Book of Ephesians as he compared the relationship between husband and wife with the relationship between Jesus and the Church–and while I at it, it is scriptures like those that convinced me that Christianity is not a “religion” and religion is not of God.
So Paul advised us at Ephesians 5: 22-33 with the headline below:
Marriage—Christ and the Church
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the Church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the Word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious Church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish.
So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does to the Church.
All is well and ends well when Love is the motivating power, for God is Love–this means that Love is the Spiritual nature of God Almighty, He reveals the attitude and conducts of Love, in us, by the Power of Holy Spirit, who connects us through conscience.
When we are doing the Love of God in our lives–nothing can go wrong, unless it is for discipline and training of our minds from God.
A husband and a wife was called to build a family–a family that they would present to God, for His cleansing and sanctification, to claim that family as His own, for God is about family–but what human being can know that “Truth” when he exist with the sole control of his human senses with a mind in its carnal condition–which cannot adhere to the Living God and His ways of Life in Love
This is a continuation of Paul’s teaching at Ephesians 5 as of above–I needed to comment on that part by itself to show the many ways that we, who do not understand God’s Word, have done our own thing–especially the things of religion, which God has called “the commandments of men”
“For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones–that is pertaining to Jesus and the Church–the Church who lives with a mind of the Spirit of God”.
Please take not of these 2 verses 31 “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. 32 This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the Church.
33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
I believe that everyone of us has interpreted the verses 31 as their reason for marriage or togetherness, but pay attention to verse 32 where Paul says: “That is a great mystery” –this means that the meaning of that saying from God has not been revealed, otherwise Paul, who was taught by Holy Spirit, Himself, would not describe it as a mystery–even writing in his message to the Church of Ephesus
So what Paul is talking about–as he quoted that verse– is the Love of God which binds two people –except that in the days of old, sexual relationship was the way that man and woman were joined in marriage–not the fake thing, with the endless men on the side of the groom and the same with women on the side of the bride, the unholy ritual which is conducted by sinful man himself.
I believe and will continue to believe that “Love” between two people is the force which joins them together and keeps them together–not this nasty physical marriage which is happening today.
According to the worship song. Love is the Spiritual cord that cannot be broken; and so, when two people have been joined by Love there will be no form of physical or even verbal abuse between them. Let us not forget that verbal abuse is just as bad as physical abuse for the first goes after the Spirit and the second goes after the both–they both are executed through the mind of destruction.
Thanks to You dear God that You have given me only one husband in the form of Your Son, in the flesh–but You are the very Person, the Spirit, Love, in Him. I have embraced Your love for me, when You said: Come to Me all You who labor, and is carrying heavy loads, I will give you rest” Amen!
lizavier4jesus July 13, 2014
“I am not a wife, nor a mistress, nor a girlfriend, and I have no desire for those kinds of relationship in my Life today–”
You lie, nobody want you except the Arizona Dominica boy perhaps, and doh count on me cause ah have Rendy, and a few more oui!
I full-up!
Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahah!
Francisco Etienne-Dods Telemaque
Matthew 15:8:9 – :Our Lord said: Hypocrites, well did Isaiah prophesy about you when he said: “This people honor Me with their lips, but their hearts are far from Me. In vain do they worship Me…”
You are one of them. You love trouble and to attack people. You put yourself on a pedestal greater than others, deceiving yourself into thinking you know more than they. You are not a humble person. Go and learn the mean of love, humility and respect. You are sadly lacking in them.
Whatever you write has absolutely nothing to with what I wrote; it has no relevance to my writing. You are not a smart woman. You cannot leave at peace with others. Satan is helping along very well.
In this age of some restless people going from church to church and renouncing the one they were baptized in, when you die you will see the error of your ways.
God has taken good note of you and your attitude which is unbecoming of one who says she is a Christian. Your day is coming.
Learn to be amicable.
How can you know what I write if don’t read my messages. And those images that you love to post with your comments speak louder than words. It tells me how carnal and ignorant of God is the state of your mind
All those wicked judgment which you are speaking against me will come against you.
DNO’ s stern warning to you, last week is justification from God on my behalf–or did not see it?
Well DNO, just like us, who comment here are very unpleased with your nasty rudeness, self-pride and all the other attributes that comes from a self conceited individual like you. I look forward to the day when DNO will barn you completely from this website–for me, they are taking too long
The Facts, I told her no later than last week, when she and her man in Arizona attacked me in another Forum, that she is a devil!
She believes that she is an authority on God word, she believes she knows it all, even to a point where has decided to write books about God. The worst thing anybody can do; no matter who, is to try to improve on what is written in the Bible, because they cannot!
One have to read the Word of God for themselves, and the Sprit of God will give them the understanding to understand what they should know about God. True sometimes we need a teacher, nevertheless, we have to be very careful about what others preach.
If Elizabeth is an example of a Christian, I do not wish to be a Christian, she is one cynical woman!
You remember that old Calypso of Chalk-dust of so long ago “Ah Fraid Carl.” Well, ah fraid Elizabeth oui!
She claimed to be my friend, but every chance she get, as soon as she read something bad anybody say about me. Her first response is Amen! How can someone who claims to be a Christian behave in such a way. Amen simply means “so let it be” after one pray to God, if she was such a Christian such simply things she would have known. In the event she read where someone said: Francisco is a dog, rather than trying to find out why the person called me a dog.
She supports the persons argument by singing “amen.”
Well, we know that even the devil knows that God, exist, and knows the scriptures better than everybody alive, and that is why we have to watch out when we hear some of them talking God, because we do not know which god they serve.
Francisco Etienne-Dods Telemaque
Does Dominica have a refuge house where battered women can feel safe with their children for a while? Doc, if Government doh have that, civil society should organize one.
Maybe it’s just me, but it seems like when a lot of women go back to their parents, instead of offering support, they still send them back to their abusive husbands.
Am I wrong or right?
Dr. Christian, such topics which pertain to humanity is one which I love to discuss; not necessarily argue about.
It is not a matter of competition but that everyone should do their utmost to get along with others, in words and deeds. This is a world-wide problem which appears the majority of humanity have yet to conquer and appear to be far from it. I wonder if they ever will.
There are some domineering men and women. I wonder if it evens out on both sides. Women used to be called the weaker sex.
Then, there are those who lack respect for either sex. I do believe in this case males have the monopoly over woman. Some have not yet learned, “Free to agree and disagree” amicably. Who is correct anyway? Everyone has an opinion as they see the situation. The only correct one is The Truth of God and even then some people interpret it according to their mentality.
As Our Lord Jesus Christ said, “Teaching as doctrine, human precepts.” So we have a severe problem in the world, people not getting along with others and not respecting them and their views and some who are not trying at all.
You know, men still feel (at least many of them) they are the boss – head of the house, superior and women are not, inferior. In this era with the feminist movement this has somewhat changed.
There are some men who still feel they are the boss and what I say goes. Do as I say and do not question me. I know better.” Some ignorant ones who also cannot contain their anger will beat up on the women, inure them and even kill them. One can imagine this type of talk and attitude stated in unbecoming manner will produce arguments and lack of peace, if either party survives them.
Some men, and I would think the majority of them, have experienced this in their household, the manner in which their father treated their mother. Children learn from examples, in words and deeds.
It will also be said, “My father did this and that and my mother said nothing. She bore it all. Therefore I can do likewise and do not try to prevent me.” Certain men have made this statement to their girlfriends/wives about that.
Education commences in the home, parents being the primary educators. What children observe occurring in their home, more often than not, they will emulate. When they attain adulthood, they will no doubt practice what they observed and treat their partners in likewise manner. I mean, the majority of them are men. Women very well know this. The psychologists will also confirm it.
There are people of certain cultures who treat others indifferently. These will never change.
If this type of treatment of especially women is to be eradicated (too late for some), there must be relevant training which hopefully will assist both men and women to treat each other with respect and accord them their due rights and dignity. How much of this do some people know? How much of this they were taught or ever considered as they attained adulthood?
I recall a certain person whom I befriended would inform me, “You are always stating ‘my parents”’. This led me to believe that the person probably had an unhappy childhood and either one of the parents was not available in the home, if you know what I mean. With that type of attitude, keeping up such a friendship and being married to such a person would be impossible. Otherwise, this could be courting trouble for a psychological and social problem existed on the part of that person, the reason why some relationships/ marriages end, some, before they have taken off the ground, if you know what I mean. People have to use their discretion in this respect.
Getting along with others also pertain to respect for the religion, religious beliefs, teachings and practice. In this era, it is lacking as also noted on this Website.
If the human race is to get along, it is imperative that everyone practice the Golden Rule, Matthew 7:12 which Our Lord Jesus Christ taught us. If we fail to practice it, He will hold each one accountable.
St. Paul said, “Teach and remind people of these things.”
I believe in discussing and writing but also in taking action. I hope you take some action in this respect to help your fellow people in Dominica. You are in a position to do so. God bless!