Gay wants to go straight

Dear BellaI am a 20-year-old male from the south and I realize that I am sexually attracted to men. After reading the excerpt from Parry Bellot, I realized that I need to be open about me being gay.

Over the past three years I have been with almost 21 men from the country. Bella to be honest with you I did not know there were so many gay men in Dominica, most of them walk the street dressed in jacket and tie and some have wives or girl friends.

It’s just amazing how these men made me feel, when I’m with them I feel like I’m on cloud nine.

None of my family members know about my secret life and everyone in my family is homophobic, there is no way they would treat me the same if they found out.

Now I want to stop, and get my life on the STRAIGHT and narrow road.

What should I do?

Confused 22

 

Dear Confused 22,

“Cloud nine” huh? Let’s get down to cloud “one” for a second here. According to the constitution, homosexuality is still very much a crime in Dominica (until government decides to amend the act and make it legal), so you coming out in the open and telling the world you are gay could just land you in jail.

Just like you said, I too ” did not know there were so many gay men in Dominica,”.

You claimed that you wanted to change your life and this I can assure you will take some will power, faith and support because after sleeping with over 21 men in a three year period and love being on cloud nine, there’s no telling this wouldn’t be easy.

You need to seek God. He is a forgiving God and once you are truly repentant, he will forgive you. Your first step would be to end all existing relationships with your male partners. You can also seek to speak to an elder or the head of your religious organization and move on from there.

Good luck

Bella

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204 Comments

  1. February 6, 2013

    When I hear of a gay thinking of going straight or a straight thinking of becoming gay it confirms the truth that nobody is born gay. We have known men who married and fathered children who later became homosexuals and moved in with men. Obviously if they were attracted to women and sexually aroused by women they were straight at that time. We ave also known women who married and had children. Their husbands testify that they were passionate and responsive lovers within the marriage. But they later left their husbands and paired off with other women. The gay community usually denies this or minimizes it but the truth is there are both men and women who have broken free from homosexuality who are now married and have families of their own. It is an unreasonable excuse for gays to say “I was born this way” or “I cannot change”. Here is why it is unreasonable. Pedophiles (men who rape litle boys) also say “I cannot change. I’ve always been like this.” Did you know there are men who practice beastility (sex with animals) who claim it is the only sexual orientation they have ever known? Once homosexuality is decriminalized and legalized it will only be a matter of time before other deviates and perverts are lobbying the government for equal treatment. And don’t think civil rights organizations won’t take up their causes! Those who say homosexuals are “born that way” are being cruel. If they are born that way they cannot possibly change! This locks them into a miserable life of shame and despair. A homosexual is more likely to abuse alcohol or drugs than a hetrosexual. Homosexuals have a higher suicide rate. They have a shorter life span. As they get older the more difficult their lives become. There is a saying “Nobody loves you when you are old and gay.” But when we tell a homosexual “You were not born gay. You can change” we are offering hope. A gay person who wants to leave the homosexuals world needs to know that he or she is loved by those who call themselves Christians. We should let them know we are there for them – to listen and pray – to walk the journey with them. Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist.

  2. Dr. Daniel Jordan
    November 22, 2011

    Sexual orientation is not a choice. How many heterosexual people decided” to be straight. Like one day they were thinking about what they liked and after thinking (or doing) for a while, they woke up and said I think I’ll be straight. Like, I think I’ll have mango ice cream today. That is not how it works. We did not choose our sexuality, neither do gay folks. We just are what we are. No one has a right to judge anyone for their private lives. Personal is personal. Human rights includes the right to privacy and the right to your own sexuality. Telling people they should change is very sad, and just plain wrong.

    • January 2, 2014

      We have all been born sinners with a fallen broken
      nature we inherited from Adam.

      Every sin we commit is because of this Adam nature. It is a bundle of “tendancies” to do anti-social or sinful things and manifests differently in each of our lives. Not all temptations are equally strong. But a sexual sin repeated again and again is often habit forming and creates a life time bondage. Homosexuality is one of these.

      The cause sometimes begins so early in life it is easy for a person to think he or she was “born that way.” Same sex experimentations are not uncommon among small children and are more common among teens. This happens at an age when boys are more or less afraid of girls and keep with other boys. The same is true of girls. It is therefore not unusual for a person’s first sexual arousal to happen with a member of the same gender. Most move on. A small percentage get hung up there and are not able to move on and properly relate to the opposite sex.

      Obviously, the sins are different in each of our lives, But homosexuality and every other sin errupts from within.

      Studies have shown that many (in some cases most) male homosexuals were either abused as young children or seduced in their teens by an older male. With lesbians it is often a condition that develops almost accidently between girlfriends, or with women who have had several bad relationships with men. They are angry, and ready to try an alternative rather than be alone. Some of these return to a normal life.

      To say homosexuals are “born that way” is cruel. It means they cannot change and are doomed to an unhappy and miserable life. Gay people have more mental health issus, a higher rate of alcoholism, more cases of AIDS, a higher rate of suicides, and a shorter life span.

      To say homosexuality is an acquired behavior suggests they can change.

      The truth is they were not “born thay way”. Many homosexuals were married and had biological children. This would not be impossible for a lesbian. But a male homosexual would not be sexually aroused with a female suffiently to have intercourse and ejaculate to cause a pregnancy! Yet I personally know of many men who were married, had childred, and then came out and began to pursue A gay lifestyle. I also know former lesbians who left the gay scene, married, and had children.

      Homosexuals can change their orientation. There are therapies that have been effective with those who truly want to turn their lives around. Some have found deliverance through faith in Jesus Christ and the power of His shed blood. There have been both homosexual man and lesbians who were delivered, married, and have biological children.

      You have said that “Sexual orientation is not a choice”, and “personal is personal”, etc. I assume this means we should leave each one alone and not let their choice of sexual pleasure become a police matter.

      Would this apply to (a) rape, (2) incest, (3) pedophilia, (4) beastility? There are pedophiles AND people involved in beastility who claim it is the ONLY orientation they have ever! They say they were “born that way” and want it declared an “orientation”! Once it is legally declared an “orientation” in my country it CANNOT be legally discriminated against.

      Why would an evangelist be concerned with this issue? Because it is (a) against nature, (Romans 1: 26,27) and an assault on God’s model for marriage, (Matthew 19: 4-6), and part of the Word (the Bible) we are mandated to preach. (1 Corinthians 6:9,10) (1 Timothy 1:9,10) (Jude vs. 7) (2 Timothy 4:1-5)

      Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist

  3. potterz
    October 24, 2011

    papa mettt!!ebeh mi debriss!!

  4. Niak
    October 21, 2011

    Niak..that is so disgusting..did you really have to be so graphic?? :-|

  5. Know it all
    September 23, 2011

    Alu you dam hypocrite…..alu them ‘DOMINICANS’ there there are more gay people in dominica than sr8….. open alu eyes its only a matter of time…. there are gay pll all over the world and trust me dominica is no exception YOU ALL NEED TO OPEN YOUR EYES TO THE SIMPLE FACT!…..PEOPLE ARE WHO THEY ARE YOU CANT CHANGE THEM ONLY THEY CAN CHANGE IF THEY WANT TO… you can bring the animal to the water but you cant force it to drink… on that note all you people who going around calling people batty man and gogar man have NEVER been to a big and fast country cuz anytime you open your mouth and think of saying fag you will get a lick stone from the batty man or you will get charged… and not $275 like in dominica its $1000’s over there so behave alu little selfs so the next time you call someone batty man in public your words dont go directed to one person it goes to mostly all the men around you including those in your lil ‘clique’!

  6. Woman of Integrity
    August 10, 2011

    Anonymous, if you are the same person who commented on July 12th, 14th and 15th am a bi t confused. Again it goes back to what I was saying. I hate to disappoint you but as much as you wish your life to be yours, IT IS NOT!!! When you have the power to lay down your life and take it up again, then you can brag about what you can and cannot do; until then your body, my body, our bodies belong to God and how we use and misuse it will determine our fate with God. That is the purpose of the bible, that is the reason why Jesus Christ of Nazareth came and that is why we look out for each other because everybody wants nothing to do with Satan/hell but so few want to do what it takes to make it to God’s eternal kingdom – it requires a holy walk!!! Without holiness, none of us (note I said ‘us’) will see God. Again I say, we can do as we please, but it does not change the fact that God is watching and will judge everyone according to his works. Since you are not the one about whom the topic is posted (else I would think you are bipolar) then let these words go to whom it is directed. He is crying out for help and you are telling him, it’s OK, you can stay where you are. Whose agent are you? Whose mouth-piece are you? Who do you represent, God? Is that the message God who hates sin gave you to give to the young man – love who he wants? I didn’t think so, dear! To God Be All The Glory!!!!!

  7. Anonymous
    August 9, 2011

    but wat i hearin dere ner u love who u love eh wat dat have to do wid any body i sure some of allu dat talkin against gay people dere in it more dan any ting else mind allu damn buisness

  8. telson
    August 9, 2011

    There are many ways to mock and defame those people who believe in God and the Bible. One very common way is such a kind of in which people mix up all commands of the Old Covenant to the New Covenant. In this writing, I bring forth that how mockers distort, take things out of the context and mix up order of the Old and New Covenant.

    I bring forth few arguments that mockers use. My answers are according to the order of the New Covenant, and I rectify few misunderstandings and misrepresented things.

    Source; http://koti.phnet.fi/petripaavola/answeringtomockersoftheBible.html

  9. Woman of Integrity
    July 29, 2011

    What amazes me is to see how men and women are so independent of what God has already stated in his word which he also stated is exalted far above his name. Once the word does not match one’s lifestyle is always man saying what they want; Yet, once trouble that is beyond our control arises, we know just where to find God (or so we think). Believe the bible or not, does not change what is written; believe God exists or not, does not change the fact that He exists; No wonder the bible says, because judgement is not executed immediately, man do as they please (paraphrased), simply because God is long suffering and so his mercies upon the children of men are taken for granted!
    All those of you who wish to run your life (the one you did not give yourselves) rather than run to the one who brought you here, saying you were born this way and that way, just bear in mind that there is a judgment day coming right after death. God does not sleep and certainly does not contradict Himself; He makes no mistakes; He is righteous and holy and no filth can and will stand in his presence – His judgments are true and righteous altogether. The Homosexual spirits are on the rampage seeking those to devour, and all those who find themselves gullible because of hurt from some relationship or the other, rather than find the one who created every bone and fiber of your being, may God have mercy – and I say that to one and all, regardless if you are in church, out of church, minister or no minister, against or for homosexuality! I leave this one thing with you, according to Ecc.7 v 20 – “Lo this only have I found, that God hath made man upright; but they have sought out many inventions” (written by the wisest man who ever lived – King Solomon). Therefore, let God be true and every man a LIAR!

    • February 7, 2013

      Woman of Integrity: You know what you believe and you speak the truth. There is so much trash on this page your comments stand out. Thank you for being loyal to the Word of God. Many will rise up in a coming day and call you blessed. You mentioned “homosexual spirits”. Why is it today there is such ignorance about the demonic realm? Even religious leaders are afraid to tell people the truth about the dark side. Homosexuality is a compex condition. There are natural causes. But there are also demons that will enter and take possession of individals if they open their minds and souls by alcohol or drug abuse, porn, and other evil thngs. These demons can create a sin problem or increase and make worse a sin problem that is already there. I believe the increase in homosexuality we are seeing today is caused at least in part by demon possession. And yes, the demons are waiting, seeking whom they may devour. Christians – especially those in ministry – have a responsibility to teach these things. Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist.

  10. July 23, 2011

    love is where the heart is ,if you are not intrested you would not be on that site

  11. July 23, 2011

    everlyn..stop useing people name and write your own,i am everlyn have two kids and is married

  12. YesIsaidItAnd?
    July 22, 2011

    My advice to you sir is: you need to figure out whether you’re gay or straight. It is not up to your family or society to figure that out. If your family really love you, as hard as it is, they’ll accept you. If they can’t accept that then too bad. It’s your life. But sleeping with so many down low men who you claim have wives and girlfriend, I hope you’re protecting yourself because in this day and age its too common to spread diseases/stds. Those down low men pretending to be straight, such a damn shame.
    I said it once and I’ll say it again…Dear “Bella”, I wonder if you’re really a) a man b) a homophobe or c) old and wrinkly. For your answer to this had me shocked for it is very one sided and biased. Under the constitution, homosexuality is a crime?? Are you serious?? Ignorance like this still exist?? Someone coming on here needs ADVICE, NOT YOUR JUDGEMENTAL STATEMENT. Gays, lesbo, are all human. and only one person should judge them and that’s god. So you just showed the world that you’re a homophobic individual. If you have nothing good to say, say nothing at all. -YesIsaidItAnd?

  13. Is a Vybez
    July 22, 2011

    WAT RUBBISH I READING DRE NUH?! LBM I SAY TO U BATTY MEN….get away in allu moda….i can’t take dis…

  14. asitis
    July 19, 2011

    look comments! anyways wat happen to dem bogahrah deh nor

  15. PNLE
    July 19, 2011

    Bella i think u gave the worst advice in this case. U cannot just decide to be straight. U can hide it, pretend u r not, lie to yourself and family and friends, out of fear and self preservation, but u can never turn off or get ride of those feelings. U r what u are and no amount of prayers and repentant can change that. Ur type of advice is what causes teens and otgher kids to commit suicide and or cause harm to themselves. U should hve advise him to talk to some. a counselor or a good friend. Find a way ton sit with his family and discuss his life choice. He maybe surprised to find out that some of his family already know he is gay and have no problem with it. The best, one can hope for is understanding and patients. Parents love their kids and they may need time to come around but in the end he will be much happier and confortable knowing that he is nolonger lieing to people he loves the most. if they cannot then it is better to know now and move on from that point. Be strong my boy, only u can make u happy, other people r just moments to enhance that happiness if u let them.

  16. July 19, 2011

    You idiots can’t see that the bible contradicts itself when it comes to homosexuality…God said to love everyone as he has loved you but he also says that its an abomination unto him to lie with a person of the same sex. My 2cents is to be neutral. Fly allu homosexual kite. As long as u ain’t lang in front ov my pretty face i have no problem with your gayness :-D

    • Truth,Justice,Peace
      July 20, 2011

      @JustPassing

      You are indeed just passing. Our Lord Jesus Christ said: “I give you a New Commandment, Love one another as I love you. Love one another as you love yourself.”
      Where are your brains? Did you not comprehend this simple but direct Command from Our Lord?
      Our Lord does not contradict himself nor is the Bible contradictory. He did not state to screw around with everyone and be a homosexual. These are mortal/grievous sins, offences against God which could take you straight to Satan’s dungeon of Hell for all eternity.
      Love means, if your neighbor (anyone) is in need of help to assist them. Also, if someone asks you to go one mile, go a second. Give to those who ask of you. This is love for one another. In other words, help others along the way without counting the cost and time. If you do this with a cheerful and willingly heart, this is how you show your love to God and to others.
      Read The Ten Commandments of God and The Beatitudes.
      Are you a Catholic Christian? Read the Corporal and Spiritual Works of Mercy which is really a breakdown of the Ten Commandments and The Beatitudes. Pray to God for enlightenment.
      Anyway, Bella’s advice to the young man is correct. Bad habits are difficult to break. Sin always appear sweet. This is the influence of the cunning one, the enemy of God and of our souls.
      This man needs God in his life and the grace of God. I visualize that he has to do a lot of praying and making penance and sacrifice with a humble and contrite heart to appease God and receive His forgiveness.
      Go to God in prayer. Worship God. Stay away from those men. Do not continue to associate with them. This may be difficult for you to do but this is the only way to make a change of life. It can be done. Take one day at a time. Know that God is ever willing to help His children and will welcome them with open arms. God wants you to be happy in life but you must live according to God’s commands.
      Whenever you feel such sinful urges, say with all your heart and soul: “BEGUN SATAN!” also The Our Father and any other prayer. Read a passage of Holy Scriptures.
      If you are a Catholic Christian get some Holy Water and bless yourself and your surroundings. Do this often, morning, noon and night, if possible. This drives away the devil and grants you much peace of heart.
      Our Lord Jesus Christ said: “Ask and you shall receive. Seek and you shall find. Knock and the door will be opened.”
      Our Lord also said: “Behold I stand at the door (to your heart) and knock.”
      I wish you God’s blessing, graces and peace. May He grant them to you. May He assist you and His Holy Spirit always be with you.

      • Truth,Justice,Peace
        July 21, 2011

        :oops: I meant to state: “BE GONE…!”

  17. July 18, 2011

    that si bullshit i believe a woman write that shit for publicity not in da once you gay people dun know long time dat story is just for vibez its fake …but im not saying dat there are not batty men in da

  18. July 17, 2011

    Bella i was once married ,with two kid but always have an eye over woman,but i still went and get married still with eye over woman but now after five years i started looking more of wemen,now i am inlove with a woman i feel so much in love and more relax ,is it wrong,my feelings for men is no longer there

    • Truth,Justice,Peace
      July 20, 2011

      @ everlyn

      Are you serious? You should know that it is wrong being in a so-called relationship with another woman. Are you not a baptized Christian and was once or is a practicing one? Surely, you who are an adult should know the difference of right from wrong.
      You also need the blessing and grace of God to overcome this abomination. Pray to God and practice the faith. Ask Him for forgiveness. May God grant them to you.

  19. Diva
    July 16, 2011

    Smmhh…. i really wonder for real to myself if these stories are really real .. hmm.. anyways this guy , he have been in this for 3 years why now he is thinking to change to be straight ?? This is Bull shit !! Dude seriously if u wanna stopp u have to be reall serious about the situation and try your outmost best to come out in that.. # Best of luckk !

  20. forreal
    July 16, 2011

    Gentleman you need to first ask yourself are you Gay? because if in fact you are listening to a priest or any other person it won’t change the fact that you are who you are, only then can you seek the help that i think you need . From what you stated you have had a change of partners for the past three years, you have an identity issue,you need to b true to yourself, an issue like that does not just go away, you have lots of work ahead of you if you decide to go straight. We have the false notion that it is easy for us to pick up an change our sexuality it involves far more than meets the eye, this can destroy you, as am sure it has to an extent because you have kept it from your family which is perhaps the reason you have plunged into the constant changing of partners over this period of time. Isn’t? there one family member you can go too? You may be very surprised to find out that they already know your preference and has remained quiet about it cause this is not the lifestyle they want for you or they themselves are embarrass . (hence the reason they always speak ill about lesbians and gays) Let them know when you love people come what may you are not ashamed of who they are . Truly, gather the courage, at least speak with your mother when the two of you are alone.

  21. spy
    July 15, 2011

    GO to elder carefull bro.
    IF T AND P GET SKERRIT TO LEGALIZE IT WELL
    PERHARPS WE WILL HEAR THOSE GUY PRIEST AND HYPOCRITE PASTORS

    JEHOVA ARISE AND SAVE YOUR PEOPLE.

  22. blak
    July 15, 2011

    go barbados..u’ll have abetter life brethren

  23. overseas
    July 15, 2011

    i think all this need to stop now! pleeeeeaase.we cant be like this, we all are brothers and sisters . we are vex with each other all because we dont like someones comment.we need to try help the young gay guy so that our childreen will not be victims. boy i love you with the love of the lord.God dont like what ur doing but he loves you. you must make a dicision to what life you want to choose. he will not accept you as u are.so please choose GOD.

  24. mecaaaa
    July 14, 2011

    @Gaypride you are an abomination to the lord

    • May 14, 2014

      Gay Pride :!: Isn’t that what they call their parades :?:

      A gay pride parade is a true window into the pathology that is homosexuality. :idea:

      When they started the parades we thought they would be a display of what gays had to be proud of. We expected to see something of cultural value. Straight people thought they would see floats or displays of how homosexuals had contributed to the arts and sciences, to the military and to medicine.

      Instead we saw floats of semi-nude men and women, some wearing loin cloths, some in feathers. We saw men with men, and women with women simulating sexual acts. There was leather and whips, bondage and discipline; A near naked man in feathers wearing fishnet stockings and high heels, with a whip, leading another man down he road on a leash. :roll:

      It has got worse. Now the men want to march in the parade naked in violation of the laws against public nudity. This year in Toronto city council and the police have had meetings to decide how to respond to the nudity. If it were heterosexuals who were appearing naked in public thy would be arrested in a flash for indecent exposure. But it seems political correctness trumps the law, and God forbid anybody would think the city council and the police are homophobic. :roll:

      If there is any good thing to be said about the gay pride parades it is simply this. They have backfired! Instead of convincing the public that homosexuality is normal, that it is a healthy alternative lifestyle, they have shown beyond any doubt that it is an abnormal twisted perversion, an exaggerated and out of context expression of misdirected sexuality. :twisted:

      Something to be proud of? Less people think so now. :cry:

      Rev. Donald Hill. International Evangelist.

  25. J.J.John-Charles
    July 14, 2011

    Those who accuse us of being judgmental,and say people who practise sodomy is between them and God. Have it so wrong.God have already spoken, it is an abomination, We are only repeating His words. we read.

    “God created male and female,Then blessed them,and God said to them,Be fruitful and multiply;fill the earth Gen 1:27-28” Again in verse 31
    “God saw everything that he had made,and indeed it was VERY GOOD.”

    We have no right to rewrite what God have already wrote

  26. Alexander Harrington
    July 14, 2011

    Dear Editor,
    Could you kindly post this quoted letter on the comments column please, happy reading

    “Subject: Hey, Dr. Laura – What about all of this ????

    In her radio show, Dr Laura Schlesinger said that homosexuality is an abomination according to Leviticus 18:22, and cannot be condoned under any circumstance. The following response is an open letter to Dr. Laura. It’s funny, as well as
    informative:

    Dear Dr. Laura:

    Thank you for doing so much to educate people regarding God’s Law. I
    have learned a great deal from your show, and try to share that knowledge with as many people as I can. When someone tries to defend the homosexual lifestyle, for example, I simply remind them that Leviticus 18:22 clearly states it to be an abomination … End of
    debate.

    I do need some advice from you, however, regarding some other elements
    of God’s Laws and how to follow them.

    1. Leviticus 25:44 states that I may possess slaves, both male and
    female, provided they are purchased from neighboring nations. A friend of mine claims that this applies to Mexicans, but not Canadians. Can you clarify? Why can’t I own Canadians?

    2. I would like to sell my daughter into slavery, as sanctioned in Exodus 21:7. In this day and age, what do you think would be a fair price for her?

    3. I know that I am allowed no contact with a woman while she is in her period of
    Menstrual uncleanliness – Lev.15: 19-24. The problem is how do I tell? I have tried
    asking, but most women take offense.

    4. When I burn a bull on the altar as a sacrifice, I know it creates a pleasing odor for the Lord – Lev.1:9. The problem is my neighbors. They claim the odor is not pleasing to
    them. Should I smite them?

    5. I have a neighbor who insists on working on the Sabbath. Exodus 35:2 clearly states he should be put to death. Am I morally obligated to kill him myself, or should I ask the
    police to do it?

    6. A friend of mine feels that even though eating shellfish is an abomination, Lev. 11:10,
    it is a lesser abomination than homosexuality. I don’t agree. Can you settle this? Are
    there ‘degrees’ of abomination?

    7. Lev. 21:20 states that I may not approach the altar of God if I have a defect in my
    sight. I have to admit that I wear reading glasses. Does my vision have to be 20/20, or is
    there some wiggle-room here?

    8. Most of my male friends get their hair trimmed, including the hair around their
    temples, even though this is expressly forbidden by Lev. 19:27. How should they die?

    9. I know from Lev. 11:6-8 that touching the skin of a dead pig makes me unclean, but may
    I still play football if I wear gloves?

    10. My uncle has a farm. He violates Lev.19:19 by planting two different crops in the same
    field, as does his wife by wearing garments made of two different kinds of thread

    (cotton/polyester blend). He also tends to curse and blaspheme a lot. Is it really
    necessary that we go to all the trouble of getting the whole town together to stone them?
    Lev.24:10-16. Couldn’t we just burn them to death at a private family affair, like we do
    with people who sleep with their in-laws? (Lev. 20:14)

    I know you have studied these things extensively and thus enjoy considerable expertise in such matters, so I’m confident you can help.

    Thank you again for reminding us that God’s word is eternal and unchanging.

    Your adoring fan,

    James M. Kauffman, Ed.D. Professor Emeritus, Dept. Of Curriculum, Instruction, and Special Education University of Virginia

    (It would be a damn shame if we couldn’t own a Canadian :)”

    • Anonymous
      July 14, 2011

      COPY AND PASTE TOO LONG, WE LIKE BETH THAT IS NOT…WHO DO YOU THINK IS GONNA READ THIS?

      • Truth,Justice,Peace
        July 21, 2011

        @ Anonymous

        When are you going to cease criticizing and dictating to people? Allow them their freedom of speech as they allow you yours. You should know the Golden Rule.
        They do not reside in a communist country with a dictatorship government. Furthermore, it is your prerogative to read it or not. Just simply pass it without your demeaning and disrespectful comment. Accord others their due right and dignity.
        You need to learn self-discipline and self-restraint (one and the same) in your words and unbecoming manner of speech.
        Be kind, loving and patient. You will be happier and peaceful for it and able to generate it to others. This also helps to have a peaceful heart and to grow older gracefully which will show on your face for what is in the heart projects itself unto the face. The face is a mirror of the heart; it reflects what is imbedded in our heart.
        Keep in mind, what you sow, you shall surely reap in time and two-fold.

      • Anonymous
        July 23, 2011

        @….T_Justice thanks for the educated documentation, no need to ague for you have won your case, for to jail I must go….

        but remember, power has a way of changing hands…as you move on from grass to grease enjoy your victory….to you am a fool…..

        seem like my hate for others has transferred to your well deserved hands..enjoy..

    • Anonymous
      July 15, 2011

      no sense what so ever; will & come again. IDIOT.

    • dhestini
      July 15, 2011

      i just read this and thank you for posting it. i hope all of the homophobics and the ‘holier than thous’ in this column will take time off to read this too. its all extracted fr the bible. funny but informative. state your views now.
      thank u.

    • .
      July 17, 2011

      good article.

    • January 10, 2013

      I am writing in reply to Alex Harrington requesting that the letter from Dr. James Kauffman, ED.D. to Dr. Laura be posted. I am surprised that a man wth James Kauffman’s education would be so ignorant of the Bible. Obviously Mr. Harrington thinks this leter is a powerful weapon to use against Bible believers who oppose homosexuality so he has asked to have it posted. Which leaves me wondering why Mr. Harrington wants to defend homosexuality. hmmm… Dr. Kauffman quotes from the Old Testament to show the O.T. law forbids homosexuality. Then he shows that the same O.T. law also forbids a great many other things. Some of these rules make no sense to us today. Dr. Kaufman is implying that
      the the Bible – including what it says about homosexuality – is not relevant for us now. What D. Kauffman does not understand is that the Old Testament law was given to Moses (1) to govern one particular nation namely Israel, and (2) to govern them through a particular and limited time in their history – from the time of the giving of the law at Mt. Sinai to the death of Christ at Mt. Calvary, and (3) much of the O.T. law that makes no sense to us now was of great ceremonial value to the Hebrews of that time, rich in symbolism and represented better things to come. Nevertheless, the Old Testament law ended at the cross. I invite you to read Romans 10:4 and Colossians 2:13-15. So what about homosexual behaviour? Is it now “legal” in the sight of God? NO! Now we have the New Testament. What is binding now on the entire human race are the commandments God has given us in the New Testament Scriptures. The moral commandments in the Old Testament reflect the nature and holiness of God’s character. These have been carried forward and are repeated in the New Testament. The New Testament forbids homosexuality. Please read Romans 1:22-28 and 1 Corinthians 6:9-10. I invite ou to visit my webite http://www.livinghopeministries.ca Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist.

  27. July 14, 2011

    proud to be a lesbian!

    • Alas
      July 14, 2011

      Proud to go Hell Too??

    • the creator son
      July 15, 2011

      the creator made adam and eve so stop promoting nastiness,wood u fraid

      • July 15, 2011

        lol i love pu$$y! wooooosh!

      • Anonymous
        July 15, 2011

        Salop she salop. Abomination

    • May 14, 2014

      Strange!

      The lesbians I have met were not proud.

      Many seemed to be rather troubled :cry: and some were suicidal.

      If they are proud why are they writing to Bella or in therapy?

      However, when you truly want to change there is a loving Savior waiting for you. And when you come to Him He will say. ‘I’ve been here all the time!”

      Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. International Evangelist.

  28. REASONING
    July 14, 2011

    I thought to b gay was to b happy?In the beggining GOD created man and gave him a woman, not a buggar.So to come say GOD created homosexuality is total blasphemy,that’s anti- GOD and anti-man.

  29. Gaypride
    July 13, 2011

    I am a homosexual man from roseau and i’m proud of it. Good Luck confused dont be ashamed of who you are.

    • Anonymous
      July 13, 2011

      Gayshame;NASTY!!

    • Jah Fond Cole
      July 14, 2011

      pit of hell…. thats all im sayin….

  30. J0jo
    July 13, 2011

    i’m male….Allu know i would be going to some areas in Europe with women. where i would endup seing that most couples are actualy men..kissing and holding…the crazy thing is dem BOGGARA always make me feel like im the person with the problem….lol…funny world ain’t it ?

  31. dhestini
    July 13, 2011

    its so funny. Dominica has alot of gay pple. and almost nobody can say for sure who they r. which means it cld be just about anybody. and normally the ones who r trying the hardest to bash gays, r the ones who r actually gay, and is just trying to cover it. pple stop being so hypocritical and judgemental. all u doing is making urselves look guilty like u r actuaaly gay too. and i wldnt be surprised if some of u infact are.

    now…the young man said he wanted to go straight. thats his choice. i just hope it is based on the right reason – that he realises its wrong and want to correct that, and not the fact that society and their stereotyping is weighing him down. being gay is not a switch that can be turned on or off. either u r or u’re not. dont force urself to be straight when u know deep down u’re indeed gay. but like i said – its ur choice. just remember only u no whats good for u. dont allow pple to tell u otherwise. good luck

  32. July 13, 2011

    my boy stay gay u will just cut my hooper if u go straight.take your wood boy!!!

  33. Anonymous
    July 13, 2011

    BEING GAY IS NOT THE MAIN ISSUE, SLEEPING OR SAYING THAT HE HAD RELATIONS WITH 21 MEN AT THE YOUNG AGE OF 20 IS. NOW BELLA ON THE OTHER HAND DID NOT SAY TO THE SALOP THAT HE SHOULD GET TESTED! BUT ASK HIM TO SEEK GOD…AM NOT SAYING THAT IS WRONG, BUT GOD WILL NEVER HELP HIM IF HE IS HIV POSITIVE… FOR GOD KNOWS THAT HE PLANS ON DESTROYING HIS PEOPLE WITH HIS C**K KAKA, PAY ATTENTION THE SALOP SAID GAYS ALL OVER THE COUNTRY NOT ONLY IN THE SOUTH..THEN HE THINKS IT’S OK TO JUMP FROM MALE TO FEMALE? AND MAKE BABIES WITH HIV? WE ALL KNOW THAT SOME FOOLISH MEN/WOMEN DON’T THINK OF DANGER DURING SEX.

    IF A MAN CHOOSE TO BE GAY THAT’S HIS BUSINESS BUT THAT DOSE NOT MEAN I HAVE TO SHAKE HIS HANDS AND GIVE HIM A MEDDLE…IF IT WAS RIGHT WHY WOULD THEY HIDE IN THE DARK…..

    IF HE WAS NOT A SALOP HE WOULD HAVE FIND HIMSELF A LOVER….
    21 MEN X $500= YOUR ASS MUST BE RICH..BODDA CIDA..

  34. antiguan
    July 13, 2011

    these stories sounds vague,i think these stories are made up that just me i read through stories to know if its coming from some one real.Get rid of this article.

  35. EXPRESSIONS
    July 13, 2011

    My Two Pence out of Dominica’s 60% OF YOUTH THERE ARE 35% THAT ARE GAY SOME OF WHOM ARE NOT INTRODUCED TO HOMOSEXUALITY BUT ARE ACTUALLY ON THE HUNT FOR THE NEXT YOUTH IN THEIR category

    • da real hmmm
      July 13, 2011

      WA USAYIN OVER HALF OUT YOUTH IS GAY ?.. HMM MUST BE CRAZY

  36. pusina
    July 13, 2011

    Bella,

    On the real tip, i think most of you all Dominican that portray to have some type of education hence so think that you are an expert of the world. Dominica on the hand in many cases is so back words and some rules make no complete sense as it relates to relating to the outside world. I say all that to say my you providing a response to this person’s dilemma, to start off by saying it’s a crime and that can get you into jail. Do some research, process your thoughts, use the internet and provide the pros and well as the cons as to relating that being gay may be socially acceptable in other countries etc but the reality of it all as it relates to Dominica dated laws might be an offense. Try and provide fact then take it back to the flawed system that is Dominica.
    God is a very forgiving God again; when you are providing therapy or guidance to someone you should not bring down that person at your expense. We are not god and should not judge man here on earth. Let each person answer when called upon by God.
    Bella on a side note I think you should take yourself to God in pray because as you say he is a forgiving god and these Fake stories with poor grammar and plot line is becoming a Joke to me. Someone of your so called expert status need to realize that the garbage stories/ responses all songs FAKE.. NEED I SAY MORE PUSS!

  37. kaiso man
    July 13, 2011

    batty man fi get boom

    • george
      July 14, 2011

      batty man affi dead……run them way….

  38. Splendid
    July 13, 2011

    Woosh!!! It’s not only those in suti and tie that gay!! Those so called thugs, gangsters,”im from the block/hood”, drug dealers that more gay!!!From the south eh!! Which village? Hmmm

  39. Past Student
    July 13, 2011

    I AM VERY MUCH CONCERN THATS NOT GOOD AT ALL CAN THE YOUNG GUY STATE WHICH VILLAGE IN THE SOUTH IS HE FROM PLEASE THANK YOU

    • DARLENE
      July 13, 2011

      FROM PICHELIN

      • babes
        July 13, 2011

        you sure bout that? well thank you is not south city

      • wi bondou
        July 14, 2011

        hmmmmmm

  40. Mix
    July 13, 2011

    It is sad to read these comments.why do ppl have to be so judgemental? Let God judge him.im not sayin u have to love, we are all different therefore we shud respect each other. Not only GAY men or women carry the Aids virus. Lets not be ignorant and foolish. We all should get tested ESP if we have unprotected sex!! To the young man, being promiscuous is a tragic life to be living but at least u realise that u need to change ur life around. Its the first step of recovery. That Is All

    • July 13, 2011

      mistaken,

      lev,18;22 pls read it carefully,if not, your a anti-christ,cause your against his principles,and values,

  41. not homophobic
    July 12, 2011

    There is nothing wrong with being gay. You should not let people make you who you are

    When everyone hated black people just because they were black, they never tried to bleach or anything. It was illegal for them to be using the same bathrooms as white people. Now the same discrimination is being held against gay people.

    You can’t change being black, you can’t change being gay. Its scientifically proven.

    • da real hmmm
      July 13, 2011

      DA HAV NTTN WIT BEIN BLACK O WHITE .. GOD NEVA SAY MAN TO MAN GOD SAY MAN TO WOMAN .. PURE NASTINESS .. U WITH BATTYMAN U AGAINST GOD

    • FattDoll
      July 13, 2011

      I quote the chief of Police and say I have one word for you..”Utter Rubbish”!

      God says that being gay is an abomination. He never said anything about being black!…So what you are trying to say is that God created people gay and then turns around and says tells us its an abomination to be gay.

      Stuppess…Get out with that crappy reasoning! We should not discriminate against gay ppl..cause judgement is between they and God..it is not our place to judge and condemn..but being gay is wrong. Point blank period!

      • AHHHHH..i see!!!
        July 13, 2011

        NOW HERE IS SOMETHING FOR YOU TO THINK OF!

        the same bible you read where it says that GOD says being gay is an abomination, didn’t the same bible say he CREATED ALL THINGS? hmmmm GO AND PONDER cause that’s where scientist and other knowledgeable people telling you all sometimes the bible contradicts! gay people is part of creation whether you like it or not. since in the time of Sodom and Gomorrah when destroyed the city it was because the people forgot him and induldge themselves in these acts and forgetting their creator. That DOES NOT MEAN that he didnt create gays. He did so in his own likeness and image. its up to us HUMANS to understand and accept who we all are and how he made us and learn to live with each other. BUT YOU PEOPLE DO NOT USE YOUR talents of knowledge, wisdom and understanding that God himself gave you all and just using the bible to attack people and making mockery of the lord! STOP….READ AND UNDERSTAND AND STOP LETTING PEOPLE TELL ALL YOU WHAT IS AND WHAT ISN’T… SMH

      • July 13, 2011

        your right

        and to Aaah i see,your full of it,the lord created everything perfect,okay, read genesis correctly,pls,as again read lev,18;22
        and stop with your anti-christ talk,

      • AHHHHH..i see!!!
        July 14, 2011

        Whoever you are ELMORENO – TAKE THAT BACK!!!! your damn APE! Why don’t you just call everyone anti-christ! I would believe you’re the one bringing out Anti-Christ theory here…because based on your other comments that’s all you are telling people! You seem to be one of those religious hypocrites that sits at church and scream hallelujah while doing committing your sins behind closed doors!!! SO TAKE THAT BACK!!! you well rude and out of place! You should call yourself EL MONGREL for crying out loud! UGH SMH!!!!

  42. overseas
    July 12, 2011

    question to YOU BOGGAR ….. ARE YOU ONE OF THE 90 MEN THAT THE DECEASED MAN; DASHAUN FROM ANU WENT WITH IN DOMINICA? IF YOU ARE… OH! BOY! ANYWAY THATS NOT THE END OF THE WORLD YOU CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE BY ACCEPTING GOD AS YOUR PERSONAL LORD AND SAVIOUR AND HE WILL HELP YOU. A BIT 0F ADVICE:GO GET TESTED.

  43. baby
    July 12, 2011

    boomb bye bye in a batiman head,,,fire bun fags

    • da real hmmm
      July 13, 2011

      yh man .. FYAH BORNNN!!!

  44. babes
    July 12, 2011

    Why is the south involved in this? That piece of info was not relevant. I really think this is a hoax story and that DNO against the south. we down south are hard working poeple who stand no shit so we got no reason to push no shit….so please DNO will and come again and leave the south out of your media grabber.

    • oh boy
      July 13, 2011

      that is by far the dumbest comment i’ve ever had the displeasure of reading… why on earth would DNO have something against the south. And gay people are everywhere. Don’t be act so ignorant.

    • REASONING
      July 14, 2011

      Babes u are so wrong and telling lies,if one wants to hear and see shit is in the south.I’ll name a few,drugs,prostitution,crime and many wrong doings including buggary.I am from that area,i know what i’m talking about alot of blood shed in that place and blood money.The spokesman for your parl rep party and president is a buggar.

    • i know
      November 16, 2012

      so much bogaras dhat in the south what u know chupes!!! And allu blasting dem gay ppl but allu not seeing the other sin all u committing all sin is sin..

  45. May-Wee
    July 12, 2011

    You are so confused young man! And is either u in or you out..and I HIGHLY doubt u are from the South..I more believe is the North, since u so confused n on cloud 9, u don’t know your cardinal points! Get everything right and BELLA..u full of crap if you ask me..u too dam judgmental!

  46. natural dominican
    July 12, 2011

    let him come out…so we can burn his a$$ to the ground

  47. stupes
    July 12, 2011

    i’m reading these comments and all i can do is smdh. stop judging people. so what if he’s gay? It’s his life not anyone elses.

  48. Tolerance Advocate
    July 12, 2011

    Dear Bella,
    There is no law against being gay, there is a law about being caught having homo sex. and for the most part you have to be caught in public, on one of the parties involved have to complain or one of the parties is a minor.
    Depriving someone of their sexual expression is depriving them of their human right, and this is one part of our laws that need to be rethought and or justified. your interpretation of the Bible should not be imposed upon another persons expressions especially if it does not harm anybody else.
    Bella, wake-up! and start advising persons on a neutral ground.

  49. Francis Chicago
    July 12, 2011

    AM FROM THE SOUTH LIST SOME NAME WANT TO KNOW WHO’S GAY .

  50. da real hmmm
    July 12, 2011

    is like boom bye bye …..hmm day dem legalize da nastiness in dca is d day i migrating .. boi if i no u a fag doe come round me .. hold u distance da jus me ..god neva say da in d bible and i no he cant have a problem wit me not like homoz…da is jus pure nastiness

    • Alas
      July 12, 2011

      AS FOR ME!!! MIGRATE ALONE!!…sttps

      • Irv
        July 13, 2011

        Migrate to where- a gay-free zone? Are where is that place? Dominica due to its population probably has the less gay dudes in the world….migrate…you would be jumping from the frying pan, straight to the fire…Be careful, Rash acts are not always the wisest one.

      • Alas
        July 14, 2011

        Yes Like russia or ISREAL… even Better

    • Irv
      July 12, 2011

      Are you insecure, my boy? Sometimes, those who bray against something the most and those, who mouth open and story jump out- look it- they are deep in it. I lived in Bath Estate and when this guy died with AIDS recently and release his list- I hear manly men ( some I sure was talking like you on the block)- those you would have never expected or suspected- run for cover…Why?
      My granny always say; its better to know what in front of you; than you never know at all…It is the DL (down low) men I am afraid of- not a sissy, u-know-I-am-gay dudes- I can always wan that nastiness off..

  51. Domnitjen
    July 12, 2011

    NONESENSE BELLA. Who say that being Gay is a crime. IT IS THE ACT OF HOMOSEXUALITY THAT IS A CRIME. THE MAN CANNOT BE JAILED FOR SAYING THAT HE IS GAY

    • Domnitjen
      July 12, 2011

      Young Man I applaud you for wanting to come clean and get straight. I am sure there are persons of the opposite sex who will take the risk of being in a relationship with you. But I encourage you to go for an aids test so you can know about your health condition for starting legitimate relationships with the opposite sex.

    • Alas
      July 12, 2011

      lmao so what is homosexuality and gay? i would like to no the difference?

      • oh boy
        July 13, 2011

        Being gay is who the person is – attracted to men, not women – in the case of a man or attracted to a woman not a man in the case of a lesbian. There are gay men who sleep with woman, marry women, and so forth not cause they care about them or are even attracted to them but just want to stay on the down low.
        Gay sex is just that- having sex with someone of the same sex. Something a str8 person would do with the right incentive

      • Alexander Harrington
        July 14, 2011

        homosexuality is the scientific or bibilical word used to describe men who have sex with men or are in a same sex relationship or relations.

        Gay/Queer means happy, high spirited ( oh i feel quite gay today! isn`t it a queer day!? and so on. We just prefer to use gay as we are always happy :):):) hope that sums it up for you…

      • Alas
        July 14, 2011

        as you should no gay is also a GENERAL TERM FOR MEN AND WOMEN The Man is always Dominant it’s even the spanish culture where there are men and women you say Los Men Only you say Los Women Only you say Las…

        It’s also in English You call your friends off both genders when they are together Hey GUYS!!!

      • February 9, 2013

        The word “homosexualiy” is a scientific term to describe either men or women who are sexually attracted to people of the same sex. It is not a Biblical term. The words “homosexual” or “homosexuality” are not found in the original Hebrew or Greek scripture, nor in the King James Version on the Bible although they may be used in some modern versions and paraphrases. The word “gay” has aways meant happy or light hearted. Unfortunately is being used to describe homosexuals and is applied to both men and women who are homosexuals. In this context it is a slang expression because generally speaking homosexuals are no more gay in the true sense of the word than straight people. Alex Harrington says “…we are always happy.” The higher than average rate of alcohol abuse, depression, and suicide among homosexuals says differently. King Solomon of ancient Israel in the Book of Proverbs wrote wrote “Even in laughter the heart is heavy” implying that some people put on a happy front to mask their true feelings. Such people make a joke of serious things and act light hearted when faced with grave realities. It is a “coping mechanism” and we’ve all done it. But it is more pronounced among homosexuals and they go out of their way to project a happy, light hearted, and gay imagine of themselves. But something better is waiting for them. God is calling every person – because we are ALL sinners – to come out of the bondage of our guilt and shame into Christ and find a new beginning. The Bible says, “Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; and behold all things are become new.” (2 Corinthians 5:17) Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist.

    • Gaza
      July 12, 2011

      monkey!!!bella neva said anything about being gay is a crime she said homosexuality is a crime according to the constitution. and i quote her “According to the constitution, homosexuality is still very much a crime in Dominica (until government decides to amend the act and make it legal)”. so idot read properly b4 commenting

      • miim
        July 13, 2011

        that is so true..i always say once a man having anal sex with his girl or wife..he is gay potential..
        is the same bottom hole male or female..is the same bottom hole..
        i have no problem with gay people..everybody have their choice..
        the only problem i have with gay people is when they want to involve innocent young boys in their nastiness..

  52. Anonymous
    July 12, 2011

    some of allu woman allu man bulling allu so whats the difference if a man bull a man is the same bottom

    • Anonymous
      July 12, 2011

      Nasty, man as well as woman, the @$$ is to pass fecal matter, not 4 lolo

  53. Anonymous
    July 12, 2011

    But Bella u judgmental wi!

  54. dyke
    July 12, 2011

    I am honestly apalled at these comments there is absolutely nothing wrong with this young man being gay, his promiscuity is a different issue. I never understand how gay women like myslef are accepted but men can’t be gay. Another double standard in society. Confused be proud to be gay.

    • Anonymous
      July 12, 2011

      U find nothing wrong with him being gay. Shit should refused to pass out all U ass, both male and female that taking lolo in their @$$. It should stay in or pass out of all u mouth. Nasty

      • dyke
        July 12, 2011

        First of all i am a lesbian that means i have a girlfriend i dont take anything in my ass. so your comments make no sense. Most of you ignorant people who bash gay people are the ones who are afriad of their true selves. my gay brother no need to fear

  55. .
    July 12, 2011

    stupes (shakes head)

    this is shameful.. a 20yr old man already had 21 sexual male partners!?

    what relationship you expect to have with a woman now that you want to become straight? Will you tell her that you was once gay and had 21 sexual male partners?

    This is heartbreaking for me and my children to come. i hope you go get an AIDS test done. Thats how you guys spoil innocent ppl children lives!

    And you can’t be on the straight and narrow road….. is one or the other!
    Get on your Knees and PRAY.

  56. Francis Chicago
    July 12, 2011

    Confused 22 As i said before No onewas born as gay .It a desires of sinful nature sexual immorality impure thoughts eagerness for lustful pleasure.ANY one living that sort of life will not inherit the kingdom of god. BUT god desires forgives.NOW turn from your sins and turn to God so you can be cleansed of your sin; read this ; ACTS;3;19 Because we are born as sinners sin come to us naturally live god way.

  57. pinky husband
    July 12, 2011

    but is boggar boggar boggar a.lone the youths hearing the leaders talking about on the media. boggarman rights and alol kind of crap… hang all boggarman they tooo nasty

  58. /
    July 12, 2011

    Stay Gay, keep ur STD’s among your circle of 21. SALOP
    Talking bout confused, U were not confused when u had 21 men humping u? ABOMINABLE creature.

    • i know
      November 16, 2012

      retarded did he say he have any of these

  59. TeteMorne I from...
    July 12, 2011

    Stuppesssss noticing you wany boy.

  60. Anonymous
    July 12, 2011

    I myself, all I want is the list of names. we need to know!!!

    • Anonymous
      July 12, 2011

      what u doing with names; what r u afraid off.

      • Alas
        July 12, 2011

        Aids…and all the other STDS he might be carrying!!!

      • pooks
        July 13, 2011

        DUHHHHHH DAMN FOOL AIDS NUH N THE OTHER STI STEWPSSSSS

    • Alexander Harrington
      July 14, 2011

      You would have to check yourself into the mental ward of the Princess Margaret Hospital if I were to post a list of names in here, wives would be asking for divorces, girlfriends would do things they would never thought or dream of doing;

      stock farm would have to make room, the jail cells in Roseau would be full to capacity awaiting Magistrate court appearances.

      Dominica would be on fire if names were published in here or anywhere, the very persons you speak to laugh with go out with and in your face every day, would have you shocked. so do not ask for names.

      Dominica has about 70,000 people if half of that are men between the ages of 25 to 75 80% are gay, 20% are Bisexual, 15% are on the Down Low, the rest are Curious, Gay for Pay, Male Prostitutes, Curious and want to try it…

      • Anonymous
        July 18, 2011

        What category do u fall into?

  61. Anonymous
    July 12, 2011

    BOY STOP WITH THAT B-SHIT TALK, AND REMEMBER ONCE YOU GO GAY YOU CAN’T GO BACK.

    IF YOU WERE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH ANOTHER GUY EVEN WE ALL KNOW IT IS WRONG, THAT WE COULD TRY TO UNDERSTAND, BUT YOU’RE NOT ONLY GAY, YOU’RE ALSO A DAME MALE ROSTITUTE…YOU SHOULD HAVE SAID TO BELLA THAT YOU’RE NOT SURE IF YOUR ASS IS FULL OF AIDS..

    NOW AFTER YOU RENDEZVOUS WITH ALL THESE SO CALL MEN..YOU WANT TO DO WHAT! GO TO A WOMAN, WITH YOU C**K KAKA? YOUR PICTURE SHOULD BE PUBLISHED WORLD WIDE…
    AND YOU FAMILY SHOULD SEE TO IT THAT YOU’RE GET CASTRATED..NOT AT THE HOSPITAL, BUT IN THE BARK YARD LIKE HOW THEY DO THOSE DOGS..

    THAT’S YOUR CURE FOR YOUR NASTINESS….
    YOU’RE NOT GAY YOU’RE JUST A BIG TIME SALOP.
    WHAT EVER YOU DO! DON’T DRINK SOUP..YOU WILL SHIT YOURSELF.

    • Boss
      July 12, 2011

      :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D this is just too hilarious

  62. Kurosaki Ichigo
    July 12, 2011

    I kind of think Bella the homophobe just made up this story since she’s so addicted to attacking gay people. The fact that this has such an obvious religious bent is ridiculous. Why not just give the guy advice without bringing religion into it?

    Anyway, no one can “go straight” or “go gay.” People are born what they are. Some people are bisexual; a small number people are asexual. Don’t listen to the clamor of voices below. You can only be who you know you are. Anything else is a lie you are telling yourself.

    As for God–go do some research on homosexuality, religion, and unbelief, and try to find the answer yourself. Do not rely on biased people like Bella.

  63. Reader
    July 12, 2011

    Confused has left me confused! He ends the first paragraph by saying that he “needs to be open about being gay”. Then he ends a few short paragraphs later saying he wants to be on the straight and narrow.
    Hmmm … you’re obviously confused! It’s either you’re gay or you’re straight! Either you want to come out or not! You decide! But please don’t stay on the down low and regardless of which way you turn … please protect yourself from HIV/AIDS!

  64. Homeboy
    July 12, 2011

    PEOPLE WATCH OUT FOR ANGEL.!!!!!!

  65. inlove dj
    July 12, 2011

    when you started your batty boy thing you didn’t need any adverse, so why now you want adverse to stop batty boi

    • Alas
      July 12, 2011

      Advice* and is true!

  66. Mapwey
    July 12, 2011

    You know honestly I think Dno and Bella overdoing it with all these gay stories; am sure dominica has much much bigger issues than ggays; so dno and bella get something better to do please!

  67. Eagle-Eye
    July 12, 2011

    Pure sensationalism and attention whoring!

  68. DA bronx *** Dominic
    July 12, 2011

    i have been in relationship for the pass 5 years with my girlfriend. we love one another very much.

    • Glen Beck
      July 12, 2011

      OK AND???? WHERE IS THE REST OF YOUR POINT??

    • .................
      July 12, 2011

      and the point of your story is… :?: 8-O :-?

      • J0jo
        July 13, 2011

        Lol…bUT i’m gay…that’s what he wants to spit out .

    • Anonymous
      July 13, 2011

      I suspect that you are the one person who wrote this article to madame Bella.

      attention you want..:cry:

  69. 7.0" gone 2.2
    July 12, 2011

    MY ebeh DNO hgave story, 21 mnen in three years, boi u doh easy, all yr grip run out wii, you maybe passing feaces freely, lol.. so where are the men from, are they all from the south? tell us we wanna know. lol….
    I mean how can men really push popo nuh, wen u are constipated that is so painful, much less to take lolo up yr A$$… woye ebeh look story,,, “cloud nine” my boi u not easy, and u only 20, best you stop for real….

    • Straight Wood
      July 12, 2011

      lol nasty does kind of ting there nasty. dress in suit and smelling poopoo. lol

      • Boss
        July 12, 2011

        lol that is why i does sniff . People even ask me if i was a dog in my before life :lol: :lol: :lol:

    • bella-ann
      July 12, 2011

      HAHAHHAAAAHHAHAHAHAH…………

  70. Anonymous
    July 12, 2011

    Here everyone is telling this young guy what to do from what not to do. What has struck be the most is that the same one who are intructing him to talk to elders or pastors are the same ones that can’t be trusted. They themselves are damn right gay. They other day I was watching tv when I heard them spoke of the first gay clergy to be ordained. Something is really wrong with this world. And as individuals we all need to seek Gods face for our selves, for is he and opnly he can help. My friend I share your pain but u need to go down on your knees confess your sins call on the father and he will c u through

  71. la beauty
    July 12, 2011

    stupes..dis story aint makin any sense..isn’t the man straight since for the past 3yrs he has been wit 21men..wat more does he want to be straight again? sleepin wit 100men :lol: :lol: :lol:

    • Jah Fond Cole
      July 12, 2011

      It seems so!

  72. namich2008
    July 12, 2011

    People we must stop calling these nasty people gay….. this word is to nice. This word makes them feel it is acceptable to our society. WE HAVE TO CALL THEM BUGGERERS.

    Plain and simple.

  73. WOW
    July 12, 2011

    CHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOPS.. I’ve noticed people are just making up stories and sending them to Dear Bella.. Majority of those Dear Bella can relate to real life issues but I strongly believe they are just made up shit!

    • July 12, 2011

      I SUSPECT YOU RIGHT YOU KNOW

  74. Alas
    July 12, 2011

    Gay Men Are promiscuous whether you believe it or not… is one of the reasons why they want to be gay in the first place!

    • Anonymous
      July 12, 2011

      Straight men are promiscuous too. So what is your point?

      • Alas
        July 12, 2011

        True I have to Agree… but most straight men don’t carry STDS….unless they were bulling and they had a cut!

      • nubian
        July 13, 2011

        @ alas… what a load of shit!! straight men dont carry STD’S UNLESS THEY HAD HOMO SEX.. HOW STUPID CAN U REALLY GET??!! MY GOD U R SO DUMB.. just now u will blame the heat on homosexuals too.. dumb ass

  75. Sweet Pea
    July 12, 2011

    Confused…i wish i knew u so we could sit down and talk. seriously i would ask u all the questions that would help me to better understand the logic behind being gay. as i see it there is nothing delightful about it, i keep trying to figure out how you can even get to cloud one. but hey i cannot judge anyone. why do u want to become straight again? because u are afraid of your family disowning you or because u really think its wrong? if its the latter then all u have to do is take it to the lord in prayer…he will help u from there…he alone knows what is really in your heart and why you chose that road.

  76. Pnuts
    July 12, 2011

    ABOMINATION!!!! Damn NASTY!! Your @$$ HOLE was created to b a 1 way street; waste material should b getting out, nothing should b going in. By age 40 U would b shitting urself. U better save sbody poor innocent girl from all the STD’S u and ur 21 salpotay have spreading there. DISGRACE. I hope other poopoo pushers reading. DISGRACE!!

  77. voice of reason
    July 12, 2011

    You cannot change who you are. Can a straight man be sexually attracted to a man? No. Neither can a gay man be sexually attracted to a woman. You are what you are. But maybe you are bi. Ask God for the grace to accept what he has given you.

    • Alas
      July 12, 2011

      uhh…yes…straight men can come gay…they want to explore all there options… :roll:

      • Anonymous
        July 12, 2011

        Trying 2 tell us sthing bout u; is that ur excuse.

      • Alas
        July 12, 2011

        No About You! And All The Other Morons That think It’s Right!

    • nubian
      July 13, 2011

      @ voice of reason… wow:-).. first sensible comment i have read.. wow.. i could’t have said it better myself..

    • Rev. Donald Hilla)
      February 28, 2013

      There is a saying that misery likes company. It is a characteristic of the gay community to stretch the numbers. In the States homosexuals claim that eight to ten percent of the population is gay. Statistics based on actual scientific studies show it is two to three percent. It is not unusual in the States or Canada when there is a gay parade for them to report that the turnout was fifty to a hundred percent better than it was. We know this from the police reports based on scientific methods of evaluating crowds. It is also well known that homosexuals love to say that celebrities and well known people in politics, sports, entertainment, and the religious world, are gay. This has a psychological bases. It is mental defence mechanism to ease their own guilt. But on a larger scale it is done for political reasons. It’s a way of saying to government “See how big we are? See how many votes we control?” As nations edge closer to deciding for or against same sex marriage it becomes obvious how wise or foolish their governments are. And don’t think people of faith aren’t watching. They are praying that their political parties will show themselves worthy of their vote at the next election. Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist.

  78. the lolo
    July 12, 2011

    Could someone explain to me why homosexuals who claims they like “men” act like women or date men who act like women?

    • Alas
      July 12, 2011

      I Like that… same goes for the women who date women that act like men…they should change the meaning of gay or homosexuality rather that liking the same sex to…like a fake man or woman!…

      They Don’t like the real thing…which shows you how crazy these people really are :lol:

      • J0jo
        July 13, 2011

        hihihiiihi…so true

    • Anonymous
      July 12, 2011

      This is so true. I would really like to know too

  79. G.H.R.
    July 12, 2011

    Is it just me or is D.N.O. Publishing more gay related news than the U.S.?

    • Irv
      July 12, 2011

      U must agree gayness has become a permanent fixture in our society, today. And as the world popularizes the lifestyle through their gay rights mumbo jumbo; as the internet glamorizes the lifestyle as an alternative, young people are finding the act more fashionable than conventional sex. So, I expect an increase of such topics being discussed on social medias such as Dear Bella.

    • miss natika
      July 12, 2011

      im biginning to suspect the employees

      • 7.0 gone 2.2
        July 13, 2011

        Who are the employees, lol, where are they from?

    • Tea
      July 13, 2011

      This is a strategy that DNO IS USING…..I mean sex sells and for DNO to get very popular they must do something to catch that public’s eyes…There is nothing better than a big juicy gossip article ….hmmm Most of these articles are based on speculation and and creativity by the writer.

  80. linky
    July 12, 2011

    dominique ni maladition gason.

  81. Young Wisdom
    July 12, 2011

    Nonsense… tell that son of a who cut his hair to go get tested for STDs man. 21 people, is orgy alone man. be Gay if you want, but but but but allllll dem people….. you doh respect yourself. if you did you wouldnt care what people had to say about you. but because your self eestem in the toilet, literally…. what can i say???

  82. Muslim_Always
    July 12, 2011

    @ Confused 22:

    I am very happy you have come out and admit homosexuality is plain wrong. I wish many more like you will come out so that we can clamp on homosexuality laws being amended in this country.

    Confused 22 my friend, Allah is Oft-forgiving Most Merciful. You can leave homosexuality for good if you wish, it takes time and will power. You need yourself if you feel attraction towards women? If so, this is a good sign.

    There are many sites on the internet which many gays have changed their life around. Google it, hear the amazing stories of gays who have left this abominable act.

    I pray to Allah He guides you to Islam. This is the real place to be if you want to experience cloud 9 on spirituality.

    • Young Wisdom
      July 12, 2011

      You are the worst man… you just pushing your ting in di man face. honestly, you wan to help di person cramming any kinda religion down their thought not helping them… whether it be christianity, islam, judism, sun-godism, buddism, or whatever or whoever people pray too… stop peadling your religious drugs nuh my brother…

      • Muslim_Always
        July 12, 2011

        This is why the western society is plagued and morally bankrupt because of their lack of Allah in it. This is the guidance the young man needs, not people talking rubbish on DNO.

        Most of you cannot advise the young man properly. Your hatred for Islam knows no bounds.

    • Irv
      July 12, 2011

      Are u trying to imply that there are no gay guys who are
      Muslims? Correct my misinterpretation, please?

      In my estimation, no religious sect is immuned to homosexuals….They may just be hiding behind a spiritual cloak.

      • Muslim_Always
        July 12, 2011

        We don’t have that gay problem in Islam. Anyone who claims that homosexuality is correct HE IS NO LONGER A MUSLIM AND HE IS EXECUTED/KILLED IN AN ISLAMIC STATE. WE ARE VERY HONORED WITH OUR POSITION TOWARDS HOMOSEXUALITY AND THERE IS NO COMPROMISE.

        Worst in this western society is many people think that homosexuality is okay or that people can do what they please. This is a major concern for people who want to achieve spiritual excellence.

        Thus, Islam is the answer to many of these problems that exist in the society.

      • aiight
        July 13, 2011

        Dude, homosexuality is entrenched in the arab (under)world; that same world that is plaguing the world with Islam. In their culture, they dress their young males as girls for their entertainment and sensual pleasures. That dominican muslim is a damn hypocrite – religious beliefs is a choice of free will – a human heritage that is frowned upon in Islam.

      • Anonymous
        July 13, 2011

        @ aight: Could you kindly give the authorities the names and addresses of these gay people in the arab world please? Thank you.

        It seems that you experienced the arab (underworld) homosexuality. Did you have a good time? If you did so, most likely you may never get constipated again.

    • nubian
      July 13, 2011

      @ muslim_always… SHUT THE HELL UP!! if u think there are no gays in ur muslim society think again.. the meg one that selling i***** is wat?? gay! the tall one that flaunting his d**k on internet for my best friend.. who happens to be gay is what?? GAY!! the handsome BROWN SKIN one.. well he not gay.. he’s bi!!! shHH! SHUT YOUR YAP!ITs just a way of life.. deal with it.. u always allah did and alla dat! open ur damn mind

      • Alas
        July 14, 2011

        I can’t remember What I Just said and I Can’t find it… so i’m to start off with I’m LAUGHING AT YOU!!!! HAHAHAHAHA…. first of all you idiot…. i’m sure i didn’t say they don’t get it…. if you would ask any doctor it’s much harder for A Man to get an STD espically AIDS rather than women!

        Sigh I unless Don’t feel like typing Anything Long So Whatever you say and The Majority of you people here can dwell in ignorance if you want!

        and i’m going to end with I’m LAUGHING AT YOU!

        P.S Right now there are More gay people with Aids In The World right Now!

  83. Irv
    July 12, 2011

    “I am a 20-year-old male from the south and I realize that I am sexually attracted to men.”

    you have had 21 partners…only now u realize….u are a chronic bulla who need some serious godly intervention……go seek God and stop ur nastiness.

    • July 12, 2011

      thats what he is doing fool!!!!

  84. Irv
    July 12, 2011

    yo, before u try to venture into the straight and narrow, you need to do some test….get yourself checked out…21 partners in a three year period and you have the guts telling the nation so. No wonder the cliche attached to the gay lifestyle continues to persist- gay men are promiscuous…..boy, before you pass on whatever you have brewing inside of you to an unsuspecting young girl, who may have really fall in love with you on entering the straight and narrow – get yourself purge out and if u can’t purge yourself out medically or otherwise- keep you nastiness among you and your 21 soul mates before, you easing into the straight and narrow way putting me, my straight friends, my daughter or son at risk.

  85. nah
    July 12, 2011

    OMG! gay and promiscuous….how worst can it get????

  86. oh my my my
    July 12, 2011

    i so not buying that story.once again bella giving the people exactly what u think they wanna hear.crap.

    ADMIN: What you want us to do? Publish the actual name and email address of the people who writes to Bella? We have to protect the identity of these people. If you thinks its crap, there is an English word call “ignore.” Use it.

    • oh my my my
      July 12, 2011

      DNO is the most “unproffessional” website.look up that word.shame publish this!sort

      ADMIN: So what you doing on an unprofessional site? LOL

      • James
        July 12, 2011

        @DNO,you’re one of the best,never mind with those IDIOTS,one of the things DNO should do is don’t post any bad language on your site,make people clean up their act,the site is not there for fools to insult people.thanks.

  87. Anonymous
    July 12, 2011

    Them men just nasty 21 different men what I hearing there nah and most of them always in jacket and tie I believe some government official is most of them and the rest pastors and priest! Far burn batty man

    • July 12, 2011

      You might just be one of them or a member of your family . Stop judging you are not GOD.

    • Anonymous
      July 12, 2011

      True dem boys alone wearin jacket and tie.

    • Alexander Harrington
      July 14, 2011

      Sometimes I wonder…

      Everyone is so caught-up at the amount of men the young man has slept with in three years, that’s 7 men a year!? so what, for all the straight guys who are bashing this young man;

      How many women have you slept with in three years, not counting your wife and your main girlfriend!? and how many have you used protection??

      And to those women… how many men have you slept with in three years and did you use protection!?

      I suggest you take a long look at yourselves before spitting at someone else.

  88. oh boy
    July 12, 2011

    Does anyone else think these Bella stories are fake and used to gain publicity? It’s like almost every story involves a gay person – the attention grabber in Dominica. Just a though.

    Anyway assuming this story is true, nothing’s wrong with the person being gay – it’s who they are. But there is something wrong having that many partners in such a short space of time cause you have control over that.

    • Muslim_Always
      July 12, 2011

      There is something terribly wrong with being “gay.” It is morally wrong for an individual to engage in sexual activity with a member of the same sex, pure and simple.

      • Irv
        July 12, 2011

        And Islam best bet is to kill them…Ur religion is strange, pa…So, Allah would justify your killing another human being because he is gay- a choice sometimes , he didn’t choose….I don’t believe the some one is born gay, but situations, being sodomized while young, being treated like a girl, or raised among girls, etc could confuse one’s sexuality and old habits takes long to die.

        But Islam doesn’t consider the social factors that could lead a man to homosexuality. It just wants to kill them. No wonder it is stigmatize as a violent religion. No one except God should take another life. No reason can justify a man taking another’s life… :twisted:

      • Muslim_Always
        July 13, 2011

        @ IVR: Allah legislates the state to take life on these counts: 1. adultery 2. Treason/apostacy 3. Homosexuality 4. Premeditated murder and terrorism/bandits.

        If capital punishment is not allowed in certain cases then immorality will be on the rise. Homosexuality is a dangerous psycho-sexual disorder. Once this disease start spreading it’s like a cancer. It is a very perverted sexual attraction and it is like a drug. It threatens the human existence as homosexuals cannot reproduce. Homosexuality is a violation of women’s rights as a woman has a right to a companion, more people turn to homosexuality prostitution will increase.

  89. Zor
    July 12, 2011

    If you want to come out that’s not the way, say your proper name and the men u’ve been with :mrgreen:

    • oh my my my
      July 12, 2011

      is true lol

    • Alas
      July 12, 2011

      L.O.L :-D :mrgreen:

    • July 12, 2011

      so you could redicule them? thats NOT RIGHT.

      • Alas
        July 12, 2011

        WOW… GO AHEAD STATE THE OBVIOUS 8-O

      • Anonymous
        July 12, 2011

        they redecule themselves. Stinking up the atmosphere.

    • Chiensal
      July 12, 2011

      agreed 100%

  90. July 12, 2011

    You are not gay..you are just a nasty nigga.you do not have to write this to stop your bullcrap and people like you make it hard for the folks who are really gay and proud.

    • Lavie Dominique
      July 12, 2011

      I agree with you Salop, this person is just a promiscuous person, that has nothing to do with him being gay.. He would be promiscuous if he was heterosexual also. This issue it seems is his promiscuous behavior and not gayness! Maybe he is doing it form money? Are you??? Now I don’t know who Bella and whether she is qualified to give answers to these issues, in my opinion, she is not because she never addressed the CORE issue with this person. Promouscuity!! Try again Bella!

      • stupes
        July 12, 2011

        WHOY!… bella never giving good responses. AHBEN LOOK IT! I waiting to see the next bella story! HAHAHA.. awa! by the time all man in dca come out, i THINK everybody will run for their lives lol lol lolllllll

  91. SWEET KAT
    July 12, 2011

    lol cloud nine that is an abomiation &i make no appolgies for saying that it is WRONG WRONG WRONG!!!!!!!!!

    • Alas
      July 12, 2011

      agreed!

    • Alas
      July 12, 2011

      IS NOT CLOUD NIN NUH….is cloud 666… d devil that have dem so

    • Anonymous
      July 12, 2011

      That’s right, it is WRONG. All those giving thumbs down there mayb taking lolo in their @$$. Nasty, man as well as woman, the @$$ is to pass fecal matter, not 4 lolo.

      • Alexander Harrington
        July 14, 2011

        GIVE IT A TRY SOMETIME, YOU JUST MIGHT LIKE IT/LOVE IT… YOU ARE QUITE CURIOUS AND THAT GOES FOR ALL THE MALE BASHERS IN HERE, IT BURNS YOU SO MUCH THAT YOU JUST CANNOT WAIT TO FIND THE RIGHT PERSON TO DO IT WITH!

        YOU GUYS REALLY AMAZE ME AND YOU ALL KNOW YOURSELVES. I SHOULD KNOW, I KNOW A FEW OF YOU VERY WELL…

      • Anonymous
        July 14, 2011

        @ ALEX HARRINGTON….A GUILTY CONSCIENCE DOES NOT NEED AN ACCUSER! BUT YOU SEEM TO HAVE TRIED BOTH SEX..AND STILL DOING SO. YOUR COMMENTS SAYS IT ALL..YOU HAVE PROVED TO US THAT YOU ROLE WITH BOTH MAN/WOMAN AND YOU LIKE IT….MAKE SURE YOU WASH YOUR CORKCORK WHEN YOU’RE DONE..

        THOSE LIVING IN GLASS HOUSES SHOULD NEVER THROW STONES…..

      • Anonymous
        July 15, 2011

        @ ALEX HARRINGTON; U r dismissed, U make absolutely no sense.

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