Dear Bella: I’m a male teen in high school and I’m constantly being picked on by some other guys my age.
It’s about three of them, and they keep bullying, robbing and assaulting me. I’m scared because it’s only me against them and even if someone stands up for me they pick on them too. Everyone knows those guys are famous for doing that.
I am not even interested to go to school, and on weekends when Monday morning arrives I just lay in bed. I have even lied to my parents and pretended to be sick. I haven’t told anyone, not even my teachers know because when they are around those bullies act nice. My parents are also bringing the hammer down on me because they observe that my good grades have declines. This is affecting me a lot.
Bully victim.
Dear bully victim,
You most definitely need to alert your teachers and parents about this. This needs to stop before you get more affected by this psychologically. You also need to gain the courage to stand up to your bullies, but do it in the presence of other students in school. So if they attempt to hurt you some of the students can testify to the faculty or principal. Do all what it takes to make this abuse on you stop. Even warn their parents or if you do not have the boldness to do it alone let your parents accompany you and have a sit down with these boys’ parents. Bullying is a major ill within schools and has even driven victims to commit suicide because of the extent of their harassment. While the culprits will have what’s coming to them in the courts, their punishment comes too late since a life would have been lost. If after you’ve exhausted these efforts and the bullying does not stop I suggest you report the matter to the police.
Bella.
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if i was you long i deal with them fellas…but maybe it's best u talk to your parents for real……………
sweetie the fact tht when others around they play nice mean they ent tht bad, stand up for yourself, dont make ppl push u around or make u feel scared..remember ur future is determined by how well u do in school and these ppl are affecting your future, now you dont want in a couple years u got a job u hate because some little ignorant boys had u scared to go school…u stick up to these boys and make sure they understand you want nothing to do with them anymore and ensure your parents and teachers know, see how fast they run scared when they reach principal office…
My suggestion to this person that a bully is just that – a bully. Take up some form of self defence – karate, judo or kick boxing and stand up to these bullies and you will find they will avoid you like the plague, because you will show them and others that you are not afraid of any of them.
trust me friend u need to report it b4 it gets worst and they might bully u to d point dey do u someting bad . first talk to yr parents den hav dem com to d school to deal wit it ok bec yr education is suffering ok.
MY ADVISE TO YOU IS STAND UP FOR YOUR RIGHT. HAVE SOME BALLS
The best advice i can personally tell you is first inform your parents so they know the seriousness of what’s going on and along with your parents handle it. Taking the matter into your own hands could
be a huge mistake because your decisions would be based of fear and the outcome good be grave.
You sound as if your a intelligent young man you hav a bright future ahead don’t let this minor obstacle
hinder you. Good luck and i don’t know if there are any self defense classes taught in d.a. but look around
so in the future when you get pass this it won’t happen again. Sometimes when people know that your
capable of protecting yourself they tend to think long and hard about try to take advantage of you.
one luv
I am so sad about that, but you see these guys wo are doing these things to our children who are well decipline need to be dealt with severly.
I know that guy who lives in bathestae, always call the talk show have a son who, is a bully but yet a corward, he only abuse kids he know that is smaller than him and are scared, so he take advantage.
He is a coward also, but if you play scared of him he will take advantage of you and make you sad, scared and traumatize.
You need to stand up for you self and fight these guys , get your family involved get a good police friend , and tell the police you situation and get them.
I for one is not going down that road with these kids when it come for my children. my son was one who was a victim of that, these guys think they are so strong when you see i hold one of them the cops have to wonder what is it for .that have to stop. when you raised your kids well and these animals come from no where and want to have your children scared it hurt you as a parent when you know and the law have played with it and say is children,well that have to stop. if you scared my kid hit my kids or do anything to my children, the law will have to say well is adults,for dominica have some kids who think they can do what they want and the law will say they under age.that do not reign again the chicken hormones have evryone big so nothing like that.
THE POLICE HAVE TO TAKE THAT SERIOUS, LOOK AT WHAT HAPPEINING IN THE STATES THE CHILDREN KILL THEM SELVES BECAUSE THEY ARE SCARED, WORK WITH THE KIDS LET THEM HAVE CONFIDENCE THAT YOU WILL PROTECT THEM FROM THESE HUMAN ANIMALS SO CALLED BULLYS I WILL WAIT FOR THE NEXT.
You sound like you a parents spoil you. Trust me it is easier than you think. REAL REAL EASY. You may think that no one can take them on but anyone can. just make up you mind to get a little blows. put down your foot and give one of them a hard hard blast. Something that might get you suspended or even get the police involve. but hey you are stll a teenager probably even underage. Trust me that will make one of them respect you. AND NOT ONLY THAT: There are others who are only waiting for someone to make the first move. Be that someone and see how much others you will rally to gang up with you against them.
There is no two ways about it. That is the prison mentality right here in our schools. :TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THE WEAK ONES. you have to stop it NOW. Other wise you will be setting the trend for a long and painful future of Harassment. DONT GET COMFORTABLE WITH IT.
Three tings:
1. Talk to your parents about the matter
2. Try to warn their parents
3. Report the matter to your school
4. Report the matter to the police
or if those don’t work,
Show them your HAMMER!
you need to close your eyes and punch one of them really hard in the eye .
THATS NOT NICE DO LIKE ME START WARNING AND GET THE TEACHERS INVOLVE YOU CAN EVEN CONTACT TONY WILLIAMS THEY SURE WILL GET A GOOD BEATEN LOL
ahahahahaha. They will die in mr arms. Darling let your parents know as well as your teachers and principles
wow u need to let ur parents know about this if u think they cant do nothing go to the welfare division and ask for help this is not right for u to miss out cause some dogs want to play