Caught up between a bad break up

Dear Bella: I’m caught in between my male friends and one of those friends’ ex-girlfriend. Recently my friend broke up with his girl for some dumb reasons. He claims that he wasn’t in love with her, it was just for the sex. They broke it of some time ago, and now the girl talks to me about the problem.

She tells me certain things that I already know and I don’t want to tell her that I know because she might think that I betrayed her by not giving her a heads up. On the other hand, I feel like telling my friend what’s going on, but I still don’t feel like telling him for the same trust purpose, but if I don’t and he finds out we may not be friends anymore. I keep getting myself into these situations. I sometimes wonder if its because I’m too nice. So what should I do? Also, how can I avoid getting into these situations?

Too Nice.

Dear Too Nice,

There’s nothing wrong giving your emotional support to those who trust you enough. Your male friend and the girl have already broken things off so why mix matters to cause more of an uproar? Simply listen to what each party has to say and don’t feed neither of them information about each other. If you disclose to neither of them what they’ve been telling you then they won’t trust you anymore. Let your buddy know that not because he and the girl are not on good terms there is no reason you should not be friendly to her.

However, if you feel like there is too much pressure on you to please people kindly tell them that you wish not to hear their stories and you are not the best at giving advice. Let your friends know that you hate being at the centre of a relationship that is no more and they should forget about each other, move on and give it a rest.

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3 Comments

  1. September 6, 2011

    You say you are to nice,I think you like playing preacher to both your friends and you are fed up of hearing the same story all the time blameing each other.
    If you were honest at the beging and give your honest opinion and let it rest they would know how you think and have some thing to think about,but you like beff and enjoyed being in the center of things and you are bored with the same shit.
    The best addvice keep your nose out of others business and let them sort it out,else they will turn on you as a traitor for taking sides :lol: :oops: :cry: :( :) :twisted: :?:

  2. cass
    June 25, 2010

    Trust me darling…STAY OUT OF IT!!.. i was recently in a situation like that where both parties were my friends and i tried being supportive of both of them and it blew over totally. right now, i have lost both of them as friends and i ended up looking like the bad person wen i was just stuck between two friends…dont get involved, tell them you dont wanna hear about their problems with each other….

  3. quickie
    June 25, 2010

    Since you are friends with both parties just tell them calmly that you don't want to discuss whatever happened between them both. Things are over and that they should just move on

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