I met this wonderful man several years ago but we only became ‘really close’ a few months now.
He has his wife and I have my husband. I am not sure what kind of situation he faces at home but my home is as cold as Alaska.
My husband is a workaholic and hardly makes time for me. Sometimes I jokingly say we are living like brothers and sisters. He simply has little romantic involvement with me unless he really wants it.
Over the years I have tried to get the relationship spiced up. But the man says he is too busy and always tired. When I request that we go out he tells me to go alone or find some friends to go with a friend because he’d rather stay home.
We have gotten to the point where we haven’t shared the same bed for years. I use to cry and stress myself out about it until I met this person who reminds me so much of how it feels to be loved. We have not been intimate.
We mostly speak a lot. He would call in the mornings, afternoons…he would check up on me. We kissed a few times but that’s as much as we can do.
For now. Now I’m in trouble because I’m in love with him. So deeply that all I think about is him. He says he fell in love with me too and I believe him. But Bella, I’ve been thinking and wondering to myself, whether it is right what we are doing. I want to end it.
I have tried but every time we see each other sparks fly and we just can’t let go of each other. He says he’s staying and I said I would too. But what about those at home? I’m scared but I really love him and don’t know what to do. Can you advise me?
You and your lover are playing with fire and fire burns and eventually destroys.
I know sometimes women can feel pushed into a corner and neglected by the very man who promised to always be there.
But that’s not a reason to become attached to another man. I’ve heard it said that two wrongs don’t make a right and that has proven to be true over time.
No matter how much you two believe you love each other, the fact remains you are both married to other people.
You said you have only kissed each other but based on all you’ve said, I’m almost certain you will engage in deeper ‘activities’.
Honestly speaking, I believe you need to end it while it’s early. If you are unhappy in your marriage then try to work on it instead of committing adultery.