I am a 17-year-old and I lent my mom’s phone to go online.
Then I saw a message show up on her WhatsApp and I read it.
It was a man who she has saved as B.L. I Don’t know who he is but they were having sexual conversations.
I even saw she sent him a pic of herself and making general statements like “It was good indeed” and there was another one which says, “what hubby don’t know, won’t kill him”.
Now, Bella, my father works hard to take care of his family and he travels a lot but that’s no reason to cheat on him.
My parents have been married for years and just the thought of not seeing my parents together makes me want to cry.
I feel embarrassed to confront my mom and I am wondering whether I should tell dad.
But that might cause problems and mess up my life.
Hello Teenage Fear,
This is quite a predicament that you have found yourself into. I think you should talk to your mother.
It can be quite embarrassing to speak to your mom about something like that but I think you should.
You can write her a letter if you want to express your concerns because It can be hard facing your mother with something like that.
Your mother is making a very human mistake but on the other hand, your family as you know it could be threatened or irreparably damaged by her mistake.
What’s important is for you to tell her how hurt and disappointed you would be if that were true.
There’s no way it wouldn’t impact her thinking.
Whether she admits/denies it or not is irrelevant. Expect defense, denial, ‘it’s none of your business’, ‘there are things you don’t understand’, etc.
What’s important is that she hears you on your feelings.
It may just bring her back to Earth and make her realize what she is risking.
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