I can’t get my father to stop flirting with my friends. It is embarrassing, humiliating and it makes me uncomfortable.
I am 19 and every now and then I would have friends over. The man would always want to hang around us…suddenly begins to roll out drinks and stuff.
At first it came off as a “cool” thing because my friends would say my dad is a “cool old man.” Anyway, a few weeks ago, I got wind that my dad was secretly paying the rent of one of my friends, giving her money and even bought her a new phone.
I noticed she always started ‘blinging’ and I know she has things hard. Never did I think my dad was secretly laying down with one of my best friends. Sigh.
Last week I decided to ask her a trick question…”so how does my daddy know your number?”
She frightened and replied, “he asked it to me when one time by you”
This was all I needed to hear. I am so ashamed. I feel bad for my mother and I want to kill my friend. How could she do this to me. I am thinking of telling mommy but I don’t want drama in this house. Should I talk to pops first?
Hello Shamed Daughter,
No one who is truly a friend would come to your house and leave with your father in her back pocket and no honorable husband and father would humiliate his family in such a way.
You need to first have a more detailed conversation with your friend. Make sure that what you are insinuating is factual. That he is in fact in a romantic relationship with her. Once this is established, then you may want to put that friendship under review.
You need to also confront your dad about this matter. Let him know how you feel. How his extra marital affair with your friend is affecting you.
I know this is an uncomfortable conversation but it needs to be held.
As for informing mommy? Well, that would depend on the information you receive from the alleged culprits.
Let’s leave mom out of the equation for now.