Family friend wants my husband to have meals at her home all the time

Our family friend is married, helpful and also a Christian, however she is  closer to my husband than me.   She sends lunch occationally to my him or would invite him for lunch  at her home, even when I’m home.

I ensure I cook three tasty meals daily at our home, yet still she insist on offering my husband meals.

I don’t think my husband and our family friend is having an affair because I  trust my husband and he is very helpful and friendly.

Should my husband  continue accepting  meals from our family friend? My friends think I should stop this practice before its too late, as it just don’t seem and look right.

Concerned

Dear Concerned,

It is a very unusual that your family friend is insisting that your husband should come for meals at her home despite the fact that you cook at home. We all have the right to have friends, including your husband, but there should be boundaries.

I think you should talk to your husband about it, let him know that you have no problem with him having friends and that you trust him, but the constant invitation for meals at the family friend’s home is not healthy. Having meals with your husband strengthen the bond between the two of you and you should try to keep it that way.

Talk to the family friend and explore the possibilities of having your husband and you come to her home for a meal maybe once a month, just to strengthen bonds of friendship.

But the constant invitation, offering and acceptance of meals at her home should stop.

Bella

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60 Comments

  1. September 6, 2011

    To the concernd wife.This Christian woman behave like a bitch in heat for your husband
    and enjoy her angels food,is something wrong with your food?I think if you spice up your food a bit he will not have to go eat forbiden food with this Chritian woman she might be a devil in disguise and cant have enough of your husband in her house.
    If she is a Christian tell your husband to take her to your church to pray for each other and ask the lord for mercy.It seem fishy to me for a Christian woman to comit adultry and only interested in your man and not inviteing you to her home with your husband,is she catholic or penticostal, Im curious of this abnoctious behaviour of hypocretes who pretend to be so clean and do the same as those who dont go to church.
    Its amazing why do people call themselves Christian with babarian habits to take what is not theirs then say after Lord have Mercy on a poor sinner,and repeat the the same offence over and over in tresspass.
    God himself repented he passsed on the seed of god and made mankind not perfect Gen6.4 and as the bible state God is a god of god it is very interesting to know who is this god who passed on his seed for Christians to behave this way to eat forbiden food with a married man who made a vov to love each other to death
    Jesus said it is not nescessary to be married as all mankind is born in sin,so the
    Christian woman dont care if she sin or not with the married man,so the woman can do tjhe same and get a young strong man to do the same as her husband,what a calamity in religeon we are like sheep for slaughter,the preachers call money seed of god and say they will pray for those who commit adultry.if God repented how can preachers save siners who like to sin and pass on seed of god.the bible state many are called few are chosen,but I dont think the Christian woman and the married man will be among the chosen ones,What do you say?true or false with these hypocretes in sheep clothing.
    Concerned woman save your self and divorce this man and take him to the cleaners.as the bible say be wise among snakes.he is to greedy.

  2. eating it
    July 14, 2011

    The real reason she wants him to have meals at her home is the kind of meal she wants to feed him. She wants to give him her pussy to eat. Ofcourse she cannot send it to him so he must come at her home to get it.

    I wish I was that lucky man. The real way to a man’s heart is not through his stomach, but through his mouth, (how sweet he can eat her pussy).

    A man cannot satisfy a woman unless her eats her long and sweet. This woman needs her pussy sucked often but she is very selective who allows to suck it. She has chosen her best friend’s husband for that sweet honour because she knows the couple well.

    He should be very discreet so that his wife doesn’t get to know about it, and settle down and eat her lovingly, passionately, regularly and with lots of loving and caressing, and she will be his forever.

    There is no greater, intimate, feeling and sensation than oral sex. Mere intercourse is a poor substitute for the pleasure of tasting the sweet juices when she cums in your mouth before you swallow the sweet cream

  3. La plaine New-jersey
    March 13, 2011

    My lady, look out… dont trust no one, not even your shadow bcuz sometimes it frightens u, your so called christian friend and husband are in love more than he is in love with u. if u dont put a stop 2 it- by the end of this year he will be sending u divorce paper & by valentines day next year there wedding bells will be ringing….. stop it now..

  4. sweet pum pum
    March 4, 2011

    Where is the helpful family friend’s husband in all that ? since she is married what is the husband sayyyinggg ???

  5. The Future Of The Nature Isle
    March 3, 2011

    That family friends was to Hurt Terribly Bad…. tell her Back it’s simple…

  6. Wesley massive
    March 3, 2011

    Listen lady next time she invite him you go ahead with him. And keep going with him every time and she will stop inviting him over. Or if u are anything like me u will go over there and tell her if she invite your husband one more time in her house u will come take the plate of food and shove it hu her a$$.

    • Jayne
      March 3, 2011

      LOL @ Westley massive…I totally agree.

  7. Gaza
    March 3, 2011

    Some people like the leftovers

  8. us/fla
    March 2, 2011

    invite yr sister to dinner then confront both of them

  9. HMMMMMM(the psychic)
    March 2, 2011

    Woman, are you out of your mind? Do not let and I repeat …DO NOT LET YOUR HUSBAND GO BY THAT WOMAN’S HOUSE. There is a saying ” to win the heart of a man is through his stomach”. (or something like that). I don’t care if she claims to be christian or religious or whatever. She ain’t no friend so don’t call her family friend. She is a serpant and is looking for a way to put your husband under her claws. Who knows what she putting in the food for your husband? She might be putting something in his food in small amounts. Next thing you know he taking his belongings to go live with her or he fall dead somewhere and when the doctors do autopsy they cannot tell you the cause of his death because she killed him with something that doctor’s will never be able to find in his system. BEWARE OF THE WITCH.

  10. mac
    March 2, 2011

    NO SHE WILL GIVE HIM KARKO

    • Zero Gravity
      March 3, 2011

      :lol: oh my god…. DEY KARKO HIM!! DEY KARKO HIM!! lol

  11. Pnuts
    March 2, 2011

    The meal is not what attracting the man over to the sister’s house, sthing funky is being served with that meal. Watch out wifey, u r being served the short end of the stick.

    • under the radar
      March 3, 2011

      more like the soft end… lawesta lol

  12. jamdem
    March 2, 2011

    he going by your neighbour for food and you cooking for him? ahhhh mr jammin d neighbour girl!

  13. sweet pum pum
    March 2, 2011

    hmm sounds highly suspicious to me but its nice that you can trust your husband. Anyways watch out for she might be putting something in the food to hook your husband and then its end of story for you. Woman protect your turf before its too late.

  14. concerned
    March 2, 2011

    i would have cut out there penis,ur wife there for all the time and that is what u doing,i want to see if u fall paralyze or sick and not able to do anything for urself if the one that inviting to eat at her house will invite herself to come take care of u on ur sick cleaning ur poopoo

  15. Muslim_Always
    March 2, 2011

    @ Concerned: Firstly, trust your spouse but do not trust satan. Secondly, are the two alone in the house having lunch? If so, this is very dangerous. Prophet Muhammad taught, ‘when a man and a woman are alone satan becomes the third person.’

    Another point, be careful of religiousity. Do not allow satan to whisper ‘oh she is a christian she wouldn’t do him that,’ or ‘I trust my husband, he is a good man or a christian man.’ This is very dangerous. It is good to trust however, we must have boundaries that protects that trust. One must not allow oneself to become too vulnerable for satan to attack.

    Lastly, please communicate your concerns in a dignified and respectful manner to your spouse. Effective communication helps to curb problems. I hope this helps.

    • WENDY
      March 2, 2011

      boy you are very worldly for a muslim eh , i think you need to take a trip to MECCA you need a whipping,no funny intended my brother :-D

      • sweetness
        March 3, 2011

        muslim,don’t worry with them u on the right tract,i support you.

      • Muslim_Always
        March 3, 2011

        Allah says in the Quran we are a balanced nation. We commit to both spiritual and worldly affairs. We do not neglect one at the expense of the other.

  16. mouth of the south
    March 2, 2011

    here’s what bella advised “Talk to the family friend and explore the possibilities of having your husband and you come to her home for a meal maybe once a month, just to strengthen bonds of friendship.” bella u are advising a 3some,,, i can smell it,,, u know when two woman fighting over a man,,, all he have to do is offer a 3some n its all good all parties will be happy lol

    • HMMMMMM(the psychic)
      March 2, 2011

      She is not advising 3some. Maybe by inviting herself to go along with the husband to the ” family friend’s” house she will learn if the so called friend is a true friend or a serpant. If the so called “family friend” is a true friend and living a christian life, she will be more than happy to have them both join her and eat from her plate but :-| if she has other plans she will try to find excuses or end that invitation fast

      • under the radar
        March 3, 2011

        wisdom!

      • sweet pum pum
        March 4, 2011

        True friend would have invited them both don’t you think ?

  17. oh dear
    March 2, 2011

    lady ,
    First of all you cannot allow any woman to feed your husband but you. Second, are you nuts? You trusting sister with your husband. Feeding your husband? Sending him food but not the rest of the family. Lady you not easy nuh. And you still do not think it’s anything more? Tell me, at what point are you going to tell this woman to know her place. To respect your family? To be a good christain woman and respect your family boundaries? I hope it’s not when your husband is so sneered that he ask for a divorce. This jezebel is beguiling your husband and you there playing pious? Woman you joking. I am a christian woman and no sister christain or not have any business feeding my husband ANYTHING. He eating exactly what I give him my dear. Just know that there are alot of “christians” but not many “believers” Trust your husband dear but don’t trust the sisters.

    • Optimist
      March 2, 2011

      Good advice!!

      • Reader
        March 3, 2011

        Quick question for optimist : Oh Dear or Sparrow’s advice? Who are you rooting for?
        I am rooting for Sparrow.
        let me hear you Oh Dear or Claire.

  18. SPARROW
    March 2, 2011

    To concerned: You are 3/4 way on track just come super with meal #4. That’s where you are difficient. it’s obvious to all & sundry.
    To the Husband: Do it, do it, de both of them. Full ur belly man! life is short.every meal time is a party.Do it, do it de both of them.Look at Itally’s preseident almost 80 and oing it. To those who could be his great-grand daughters.
    Just look around for carnival you will see wildness in de country.Carnival time it doh have christian nor peagan.Everyone gone peagan.Maybe for carnival you can try give him something to think about Bun without cheese.

  19. Piper
    March 2, 2011

    Why doesn’t the woman have a chat with her husband and tell him she is not comfortable with that arrangement?

    Also, if the christian woman is so generous, I think she should also invite the wife for lunch or dinner.

    • Is dat i just dere saying
      March 3, 2011

      EXACTLY!!! Invite de wife over to!!

  20. Really Concerned
    March 2, 2011

    Lady,

    Don’t worry with Bella and all them people here. This is what you should do.

    Stop cooking, put the money you spending for food in the bank, and you and your husband should go eat by your friend everyday. It sounds like your friend have plenty money, she just trying to share. Nothing wrong with that. You have any children? Take them there for lunch there too. And you should start recommending what you all want for lunch. If this goes on for years, then you will have plenty money in the bank; but something tells me that after feeding you, your husband and your children everyday for a while, she might decide to change her mind about giving him lunch everyday.

    If your husband is a good man and you trust him, don’t sound insecure by making this a problem. Just invite yourself along with your husband and the kids over to her place and let it be all good.

    One more thing; did he tell you the meals are tasty or did you just assume that? You sure you are a good cook? Make sure you ask him.

    • hmmmm
      March 2, 2011

      great response, i like.

      • cherfond
        March 2, 2011

        yes good response

      • Anonymous
        March 2, 2011

        good job, I like, but she will get tired ,,,, three is a crowed

        • eh eh
          March 2, 2011

          you making me laugh,she will stop immediately

    • Halian
      March 3, 2011

      perfect response!!!! Is so woman come out these days. They taking the bull by the horn. I agree with Really Concerned….. bring the whole family over there and save yourself the hassle of having to cook. Let us see if she continue.

      • wow
        March 3, 2011

        Oh my God – WOW! Wow! Wow! – well said.

    • real recognize real
      March 4, 2011

      you hit the nail right on the head.
      if there’s nothing behind the ‘feeding’ she should have no problems having the wife over too.
      and how come no one mentioned the fact that the ‘helpful cook’ is also married?! what’s he husband’s view about this constant feeding of another man?!!??!?!

  21. Anonymous
    March 2, 2011

    he is in the honney bee, its too late as he has ignored the lunch tasty that y ensure is perpared and place on the table. and turn to a friend who is inviting him only to eat lunch? i wonder what is he eating when he goes over for lunch. please advise if he eats on the dinning table or in bed. i have a very strong suspicion he is eating in the bed room.

  22. sweet pea
    March 2, 2011

    Alot of people hide behind the name of being “christian”. Not all “Christians” can be trusted. Be careful and protect whats yours.

  23. no name
    March 2, 2011

    my lady becareful. i am a married man and i had work to do at a womans home. she had just broken off with her boyfriend and she is a christian lady. i am very friendly and helpfull. i worked there every day for a while and then it started. she gave me meals and made me feel welcome. up to now we are doing it[going to bed] and my wife refuse to believe it because of my nature. so i would advise you to keep your eyes open. i swear my comment is the truth.

    • mouth of the south
      March 2, 2011

      garcon u wicked eh lol,,, u comin n confess on d.n.o,,, why not tell ur wife,,, i think u want to confess but somehow u love what the other woman giving u lol,,, hope it not too sweet that u’d get high sugar

      • no name
        March 2, 2011

        doh worry dat no one will know the real me. only dno i thnk they can trace where this was blogged from. i swear again im telling the truth

    • Mpress
      March 2, 2011

      So are you the husband?

      • no name
        March 2, 2011

        i am not. i just gave her aclue of how it is. :mrgreen:

      • wow
        March 3, 2011

        Hahahah

      • Marigotian!!
        April 24, 2011

        I am wondering the same thing…are u the husband? i have a feeling you are !!

  24. mouth of the south
    March 2, 2011

    well the good book says to love ur brother n sister,,,, doh worry hun she’s just showing love to her brother in christ,,,, nothing wrong with that,,, its funny no form of suspicion was brought up other than being offered food,,,, well man always hungry,,, so once woman offer us ‘food’ u know we doesn’t refuse,,,, fresh or sour food,,,, deux pee chey yah cah bart nous cah bowl

    • fire
      March 2, 2011

      You funny :lol:

      • mouth of the south
        March 2, 2011

        don know,,, i doesn’t even try lol

    • sweet pum pum
      March 2, 2011

      What’s your favourite dish mots ? :lol: and you better not tell me its pyrex :lol:

      • mouth of the south
        March 2, 2011

        sweet pum pum i think u have my fav dish already,,, jus make sure it well sweet n fresh,,,,

    • sweetness
      March 3, 2011

      Boy,transulate your creole noh,i don’t know what you saying there noh.

  25. Meeeeeeeeee
    March 2, 2011

    The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach…watch out.

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