Dear Bella: After being in love with a guy for six years I’m still not sure what’s going on. I love him I must confest but I think I’m addicted to sex!
My boyfriend and I live together. We both work and finish work at five o’ clock for the earliest so when we head home he is really tired. He just take his dinner and head to bed whereas I’m still there wanting to make love. But Bella I have been sleeping with other guys – let’s say 25 different other guys.
My boyfriend and I have had problems because I know for a fact he cheated once before, but like the saying goes once a cheater always a cheater.
I am not sure if I should tell him about my affair or just leave it like that and try to change. Please tell me what I should do before it’s too late.
Being addicted to sex does not give you the right to cheat on your boyfriend. It is disgusting and heartbreaking. I doubt you can change overnight, but you need to take some deep soul-searching. And be prepared for a breakup if you confess, which I think you should. Can you live with a lie as big as that one? If you can, then you’re dangerous.
I am sure your man is not tired all the time. Communication is key. Talk to him. It’s been six years, your communication skills in the relationship should be sharp, better yet open.
Talk this concern with him but this cheating must stop if you want to change, and if you honestly love him. You’re also putting yourself and your boyfriend at great risk for STDs. Please get tested. Plus, if you do not want to live a lie, confess, and be prepared to move on.
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