Dear Bella: I have a problem, I’m a 23-year-old male and I’m in love with four women. One might agree that at my age I’m to young to be settling down with all the other options available to me but personally I hate playing games… I’m tired of chasing women that are of no benefit to me in the long run.
Anyway these women are all what any real man would call “WIFE MATERIAL”. They’re all educated, extremely beautiful in my opinion and they’re all very unique. One is a model/architect (2) is a teacher/IT technician (3) is a singer with a gospel recorded label but studying to be a nurse and (4) is an accountant. You can’t ask for better combination than that “unless you are a greedy guy and you’re looking for a quick fix, so you check for an old rich lady that soon ready to die to give u all she money”.
But anyway this is not about money. My problem is I don’t know which one to pick! I love all of them; they all make me happier than when you give a three-year-old a lollipop! And I don’t date any of them. I really respect women so I spend time with each of them when I get the chance and I they do know that they’re not the only women that I’m talking to like that, so they all know is that there is competition on the other end.
The thing is it’s mixed, where one lacks the others are strong and it’s like that with all of them so its difficult and I don’t want to hurt any of them; these girls are like rare gems and diamonds, all are worth it, none less valuable than the other .
Please give me some advice.
Dear Sir: It is simple. Choose the one that you like the most because there must be one that stands out in the way you want. None of them will be perfect. Also you’re doing the right thing not to be dating any of them. You must be commended.
I would suggest you continue to be friends only with them, but this could be tricky in the long run as one or more of them may develop feelings for you , and that’s when the trouble starts – that’s if you can keep the prick in your pants steady.
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