In love with my best friend’s boyfriend

Dear Bella: I never thought I would ever end up in a situation like this. I am now convinced it’s never good to say never because you never know when you will end up in the same situation.

The situation I am referring to is about me and my best friend. We have been best friends for many years. Nothing has come between us until lately when she introduced me to her new boyfriend. It was love at first site! This is not the first time my best friend has introduced me to her boyfriends. This is the first time I have felt such a strong attraction.

I try to suppress the feelings but it is not working. The funny thing is she is not sure he is the one for her though she loves him.  She says he has a girlfriend and though he has promised to break up with her he is taking too long and she is getting annoyed.

For the first time I played the hypocrite, telling her to give the guy a chance, but deep down I do not want them to be together. I dream about this guy night and day. I am always thinking about him. I blush when he is around us. I am tempted to ask for his contact information. I feel so guilty around my best friend.

What should I do?

Empress

Dear Empress:

I think you’re not worthy of being a friend if you continue on this path. And I am happy you admit you’re a hypocrite. That’s the first step to solve a problem: find the problem, acknowledge it and own up to it.

The next step now is be honest with your best friend about your feelings for your boyfriend and also give her your honest opinion about him.

I however applaud you for not going further and getting yourself involved with this young man. Do not give him the opportunity to have the best of both worlds.

You will keep me updated.

Bella

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137 Comments

  1. gullygod
    June 22, 2011

    ebeh allu jus not eazy….lool rowrow

  2. Anonymous
    June 22, 2011

    ebeh allu jus not eazy….lool rowrow

  3. In the same situation
    June 6, 2011

    ‘you are not worthy of being a friend’ ha you to mean!!!!! I love my bestfriends boyfriend and he loves me and know i am pregnant with his child i am 13 see what you have to say about that!!!!!!!!!!!

  4. u to nasty
    February 2, 2011

    cai blame d man man will always b man i am a young woman if she was ur bf there is no way u wouldve allowed ur heart to skip a beat wen she ntrduced u to her mn allu too salop dats y close ur leg n go get a man of ur own u want a man dat is a nxt woman an who is ur bf man girl u sick ewwwwww

    • sweet pum pum
      February 15, 2011

      @ u to nasty teach me how to control my heart because sometimes we fall for the wrong people and our heart skip a beat for all type of undeserving people (well some of us ) I guess people like you just too perfect wow :twisted: :

  5. chupes
    January 24, 2011

    HAHAHA THATS WHY I DONT HAVE FEMALES AS MY FRIEND, AND I KEEP MY MAN FAR AWAY FROM THEM. IF YOU CANT TRUST YOUR BEST FRIEND WITH YOUR BF WHO CAN YOU TRUST? A STRANGER!!

    LADIES MEN COME AND GO BUT A TRUE FRIEND IS ONE IN A MILLION…LEARN THAT

    • sweet pum pum
      February 15, 2011

      @chupes what make you think man don’t have the same damn issues ? Man does have feelings for their best friend or even brother woman and let out or declaway all his business just to get the woman

  6. sweet pum pum
    January 21, 2011

    Find a way to scratch that itch and fast…I would :wink: :wink: :lol:

  7. Anonymous
    January 15, 2011

    First of all…you dominican people are really stupid …..no one knows how one would act until they r in the situation themselves…

    NO one can control who or wat the fall in love with…. However, he doesnt sound nice if he is cheating oin his gf.

  8. nonesense
    January 10, 2011

    What is this? You mean to tell me the guilt you feel when you are around your ‘so called’ best friend is not enough to divert of direction of your desire for her man. Woman respect yourself and stop running to the pit of hell. What fool run into a burning fire? You seeing those people in love and you have the guts to even mention your decietful desire. What a disgrace. You too damn boldface.

  9. Muslim_Always
    January 10, 2011

    In the Name of God, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.

    The feelings displayed from this young woman are normal feelings. It can happen to almost anyone. The key thing here is self-control.

    If this young woman is really serious about controlling her lust, she may attempt the following.

    1. She needs to remind herself that her feelings are normal however she must remind herself that selfishness does not pay, also, it does not make sense to jeopardize her relationship with her best friend whom she knows for years over an infatuation that she is not sure would last in any case.

    2. She must not stay in close proximity with this young man. She must avoid physical contact with him as well as being in seculsion with him. Very dangerous if she goes down this path.

    3. The same way suggestions comes to her mind about this guy, she needs to inform herself that it is wrong for her to be so envious of her best friend to the extent that something happens to their relationship. She needs to develop the courage within herself to say I hope everything works out with them and they successfully get married. She needs to convinced herself of this.

    4. If her best friend is mature, understanding and easy to talk to, she should inform her friend about keeping her man far off. Inform her friend, be frank with her, that would make your best friend respect you even more; if she does not, then this person is not really your friend.

    5. These feelings took time to develop thus it will take time to fade away, the key thing is to try. She needs to also remember that fornication is against scriptures, and worse to lust after your best friend’s partner!

    6. If she still has difficulties after that, I suggest she seeks a mental health professional so that they can work at achieving positive goals together.

    If this woman is really serious, this infatuation issue will be resolved God’s willing.

    • nonesense
      January 10, 2011

      try to inform your best friend of your love for her man and expect her to be calm. I would disfigure her face. This is too selfish. Be happy for your friend . If she cannot be happy for her friend it simply means she is a sheep in a wolf clothing. DECIET.

  10. Reapect
    January 8, 2011

    errr….. you want 2 b da 3rd???? Nonesense where’s the da pride in our young ladies today????…
    There are sooooo many fishes in d c and yet still u want to get involved with ure best friend (da second woman) man. You got to be JOKING. DISEASES ppl DISEASES!!!!!

  11. no sir-ree
    January 8, 2011

    errrr…he already has a woman babes…hes not good for either one of you, now suck up your little infatuation, tell your girl to leave the player alone, and move on with your lives.

  12. Curious
    January 8, 2011

    Dominica should make a soaps gacon that would have people hookd lol.

  13. zk
    January 7, 2011

    the person that point finger on de man there princess stop it

  14. Gangsta gyal
    January 7, 2011

    Personally i think that if the young lasy is your best friend then you should be able to confide in her and tell her anything. if u cannot tell her how you feel then she is not your best friend. And personally.. u are not worthy of being her friend if you are trying to break them up

  15. close by
    January 7, 2011

    Girl go for it… Then regret it!!! Hahahahahahaahahaha

  16. sweet pum pum
    January 7, 2011

    Smh and lmao very loudly …so Ruthford, Nessa and Sugar I can hear the pain and bitterness in your written comments….Let me ask all you something everytime a woman write to Bella It has to be a DOMINICAN WOMAN ????? EHHHHHH another point….it sounds like a Dominican woman ran off with allyou man…learn to wash all you … properly and all you should learn how to keep all you man happy …talking crap about Dominican Women…all you man leave all you for seewo…Dominican women know to keep their man satisfied …and what ? Do Dominican women go around with guns kidnapping all you man…and if you are talking about Dominican man…like all other nations …..YESSSSSS thats our man….and we take him….PERIOD>>>>

    • day
      January 8, 2011

      it’s not just having the sweet pum pum my dear, it using it well to keep your man satisfied. that is waht the fellas talking about

  17. precious memories
    January 7, 2011

    This is wack!! how can i have a best friend that i cant look in the face and tell her, ‘girl shit you doing! u deserve better than mister. he have a woman and he jus want to have you like a rag, leave mr alone!’
    thats what a friend would do. not encourage her to stay there and wait on a man to leave his girlfriend!!
    as for the woman writing, she needs to stay the hell away from that za-man!!

  18. tomahawk
    January 7, 2011

    BEWARE OF THOSE YOU CALL BEST FRIENDS,THEY LOOKING AT YOUR MAN/WOMAN,ITS NOT ONLY THE WOMEN,MEN AS WELL DO THE SAME DAMN THING. THAT’S WHY I DON’T TRUST ANYONE

  19. adshamed
    January 7, 2011

    that boy is no good. fooling around with another woman and he already has one. stay away from that guy unless you love pain

  20. woyy
    January 7, 2011

    Is a good thing I do not have best friends. Its like having a best enemy, you see she done want to be number three…………………….

  21. hmmmmm oh boy
    January 7, 2011

    i have come to find that dominican women especially have no respect when they know that a man is in a relationship, they often push them selves ..get a piece then want to fall in love with the man , when she knows he is taken ,then want to disrespect the woman he is with .. GET ALL YOU OWN MAN.. the man will never leave their main woman to be with any outside person

    • faith
      January 7, 2011

      YUR MIND DAT TELL U DAT..MEN LIKE NASTY WOMAN MORE DAN DE ONES DAT BEING FAITHFUL…

      • true lover
        January 7, 2011

        excuse me? not a man like me i love decent women. i hate nasty people like you

  22. princess
    January 7, 2011

    All you talking about that cute young cop by the airport man? i hear plenty young girls talking about him. :lol: i hope not.

    • me
      January 7, 2011

      heh heh is that dat bad.but i don’t think is him that’s not his conduct. you girls just like trouble.

      • mvhll
        January 7, 2011

        i think i know him plenty woman like him but he looks disciplined :wink: but as they say still waters run deep.

    • fren
      January 7, 2011

      you a superstar boy doh make dem ting have you so the want fame

    • icon
      January 7, 2011

      let me say this I’m not in all you corruption OK whoever it is keep me out of it. i don’t get involved in those kind of nonsense.

      • Curious
        January 8, 2011

        lol @ icon are you the ”cute young cop working by de airport???”

    • soulj
      January 9, 2011

      i doubt is that cute cop he is not like that. He is a good guy. Keeps to his self and a real upright guy. I think our young men should be more like him. You see the thing is with people is that when you do not make your self common people tend to make and create they own notion about you. I can put my hand in fire that cop is not a run around.

      • Truth, Justice, Love, Peace and Unity
        January 13, 2011

        You should know the saying, “A thief is never a thief until caught.” Never put your hand in fire for anyone. Unless you spend 24/7 hours with them and then it is an impossibility to be with someone all the time. A lesson to be learned.

    • Airport
      January 9, 2011

      I would like to advise you folks to leave this ‘young cop’ out of this trashy stuff. He is a young aspiring man of top class and has a directed sense of purpose for his life. He has his girlfriend whom he loves very much and he has no time for this drama. Stop all of this malicious attempt to thwart this guy from his dreams and ambitions.

    • Ziontech
      January 9, 2011

      princess i suspect is you!!!!

  23. Anonymous
    January 7, 2011

    :twisted:

  24. Lizavier4Jesus
    January 7, 2011

    It would have helped a bit if you had told Bella whether your friend’s boyfriend gave you any hint that he likes you.

    Besides, you said that he has a girlfriend, which actually means that he is dating two girls at the same time. I do not know how old you are, but perhaps your feelings could only be “infatuation”–an obsession? Maybe it is better for you to try to get rid of it. You can overcome, if your are determined to do so; and it will better for you in the future.

  25. BD
    January 6, 2011

    Waw Empress Waw. It is said that 2 wrongs can make a right because it 2 negatives. 3 wrongs I am not sure about that one. Why doesn´t women never use there head. If i have a GF and have u why would I live the first one. iF U ARE HER FRIEND WHY DON{T U CLOSE YOUR EYES OFF HER bf.
    wHY IS SHE BEING SO STUPID ON WAITING FOR HIM. iF HE LEAVES HER FOR U THAT MEANS HE CAN LEAVE U FOR SOMEONE ELSE. U 2 IF U ALL ARE REALLY FRIENDS SIT AND TALK THIS OUT.

  26. I wonder.....
    January 6, 2011

    :-| :?: i wonder who is Bella??

    • Curious
      January 8, 2011

      me too she probably have more tory than anybody else lol

  27. Nessa
    January 6, 2011

    boy, it seems that Dominican women have STD repellent or something! Why is it that they all seem to be sleeping with multiple partners? I mean – Confused cheated on her small penis boyfriends numerous times, now this one is cheating with a man who has 1 girlfriend that she knows of.

    These women make themselves appear so stupid, and stupidity is a pet peeve of mine. How can any woman in today’s society with the threat of AIDS, and other dangerous STDs play Russian Roulette with their lives?

    Women wake up …. penis is not running out of style…there has to be a single penis hanging around somewhere!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! All one has to do is find it!

    To not know that your man has other women is one thing, but to knowingly enter into a relationship with someone else’s man is just plain NASTY! It’s stupid! Women who do that have no shame, no sense of pride, self respect and self worth.

    I say find your own damn man…
    As a woman it pains me to say this – but you guys ar too damn nasty! you all deserve to get rotten vagina!

    And i do not blame the man, because he never held a gun to her head…she voluntarily opened those two legs…

    Urgggghhhh

    • sugar
      January 7, 2011

      preach it girl!!! well said… their is something about Dominican women that they cannot see a man pass… some of them need to keep their legs close!

  28. yep
    January 6, 2011

    Hey sweety!

    i feel the same way about you too!!!
    i will tell her it not working and we will make it work for us.

  29. eh sa!!
    January 6, 2011

    first of all, ur fren doe easy, loving a man that have his gf!! he just der eating in ur frend plate , she needs to wake up b4 its too late… not wrong being attracted to a guy, he just happened to be ur best frends FF!! remember that man comes and goes but ur fren maybe not always , but im sure u guys have been frens for long to be best frends.. so doe go nd hav ur self wit mr cuz he will be too happy to be eating in two frenz plates… nd he wont have any sort of respect for u!!

  30. John Wayne
    January 6, 2011

    Girl do what you gotta do. simple Bella maybe done take all her man already.

    • Anonymous
      January 6, 2011

      true. lol lol

    • Don't ask don't tell.
      January 6, 2011

      What if Bella is a man? lol LMAO too!Bella will sex all who have problems lol.When I was at college there was a Gay guy on campus.(That’s what every one thought.) It took about 4 1/2 semesters to think other wise.The the guy we thought was gay plug 5 girls on campus Lol That might have been Bella!

  31. RUTHFORD
    January 6, 2011

    ALL U DOMINICAN GIRLS AR LITTLE BIT TO NASTY . FIND YOUR OWN MAN OR IF U CAN’T FIND ONE COME N GET SOME TOLILI

    • Dominician
      January 6, 2011

      How do u know that she is Dominician?????????????????

  32. Tree
    January 6, 2011

    some females really liked to be played eh, they know the man have a woman but they still want a piece….then they crying foul.

    why they like drama so nah?

  33. freedom
    January 6, 2011

    I am not at all surprise,this seems to be the way of life here among alot of women,fall for the same man.

  34. hey
    January 6, 2011

    Epress my advice to u is to try as hard as you can to forget bout him. He is a dirty man. no good. The fact that he has a gf and he is with another woman thats just pure dirtness. the same way he is about to break up with his present gf for your bestfriend, thats exactly what he’s going to do your bestfriend. And if he gets a chance he will do it to u also.
    You a damn good friend to even be asking for advice. Another woman would just do what they have to do undercover.
    My advice to you pray about it. And ask God to her you get over this good for nothing.

    • eh sa!!
      January 6, 2011

      i agree

    • Don't ask don't tell.
      January 6, 2011

      You mixing -up things.Boy who ever you are just swing dick left right & center.

      • under the radar
        January 7, 2011

        is them kind of koshoney that does let fellers fire their missiles all over eh… and after all that them girls acting like the men does beat them, drag them and kokay them against their will… they does want it so bad… as for me, i engaged to marry and i shut down my power source until the wedding. i thank you!!! :roll:

    • la femme
      January 7, 2011

      The men are the dirty ones, they cannot be committed to one .., the same thing will happen when they get married.

      Women do your research and chose wisely.

  35. Da-Don
    January 6, 2011

    You and your friend need to realise that mr has a girlfriend already and he not gonna break up with her…I’m a man and a ex player sobibknow when someone playing woman and mr playing your best friend…if he wanted to leave his girlfriend for her he would….and you should no better…you know he juggling two women already (your best friend and his girlfriend) yet you still have feelings for him and want to be with him?….that’s not wise…I can tell you are young still….look for someone with good character and I advise your best friend to do the same too….allu need to leave mr and his girlfriend alone…..and don’t let any fella come between allu friendship…Listen to the wise words of Da-Don

  36. for real
    January 6, 2011

    there are alot of ladies in dominica who only ‘love’ other people’s man or husband. go and find your own man girl. and it’s always your so called friends, always at your home, knowing all your business, that having eyes on your man. me myself have no friend around my man; i mess up when it comes to that. get your own boyfriend not somebody else own!

    • cash girl
      January 6, 2011

      i follow u on that. we need to get our own boyfriend and to me ur not a friend at all.
      just be homnest and let her now how u feeling. in my opinion the guy does not want neither of u he is oly trying to charm his way between your legs and break you friend. would you rather lose a friend for guy whose taken by another .
      YOUR JUST GOING TO MAKE HIM USE YOU AND SAY THAT YOUR DESPARATE TO HIS MAIN LADY.
      TRUST ME LET HIM GO THERE ARE SO MANY SINGLE FISHES INSIDE THE SEE

    • Don't ask don't tell.
      January 6, 2011

      what do you know?You your boy friend might be giving you bun.

  37. Ms. Pussina
    January 6, 2011

    Bella Sal you a little faker..sal

  38. sugar
    January 6, 2011

    all u dominican people are all …!!!! you guys dont have no understanding of friendship, respect and trust!!! good luck to u all:)

  39. Stranger
    January 6, 2011

    People cannot help who they are attracted but if you value your friendship you wouldn’t allow it to be destroy by this attraction.

  40. whyme
    January 6, 2011

    i had a friend and we still friends, and she sleep with my husband i saw them but because she was married i did not make a sense about it, i think of it for a while and then i decide this man is not going to distroy my friend and i, we still friends and i will trust her because some woman just cannot help it, but in empress place if you haven’t got that far leave it alone for the fact that he already has a woman and lieing to your friend what makes you think he is going to be true to you, breaking you and your best friend trust i don’t think it worth it, so stay away.

    • Wow
      January 6, 2011

      LOL – what difference would it make if your friend was single?

      • cash girl
        January 6, 2011

        SAME THING I WONDERING HOPE SHE LEFT HER HUSBAND FOR THE SAKE OF FRIENDSHIP TOO.

        • Don't ask don't tell.
          January 6, 2011

          they now washing platee.

    • la femme
      January 6, 2011

      What kind of friend is she to sleep with your husband, and you still remain friends? She is as much to blame as your husband. Or did you enjoyed watching?

    • yep
      January 6, 2011

      wait wait wait
      when you say “sleep” what you mean?

      I hope you mean they happen to just fall asleep on a bench somewhere?

      hhhm :?: who else falling asleep i wonder :?:

    • Like it is.
      January 6, 2011

      Allu washing plate since right?I not asking really just telling.

      • under the radar
        January 7, 2011

        :-D 3 some lovers that there. please go support the “where all you three some haters at” topic please. hahahahaha oh my gosh this world has tanked… nothing is sacred anymore…

        • faith
          January 7, 2011

          LMUAO..WOOOYEEEE U KILL ME DERE UNDER DE RADAR,U DYAM RIGHT

  41. Reader
    January 6, 2011

    Empress,

    At the end of the day, it comes down to what you can honestly live me. Life is short … make the most of it. If you think this guy is “the one” for you … go for it. Otherwise, you may spend the short years of your life wondering “what if”. Understandably, you will lose your friend. YOU make that choice and then YOU deal with the consequences (good or bad). Be honest with everyone – including yourself!

    • Strong
      January 6, 2011

      You have to be a………..to make that statement

      • cash girl
        January 6, 2011

        DID NOT THINK SHE UNDERSTAND THE SENARIO

  42. Screening
    January 6, 2011

    i get it that if offer him ur puss he will take it because he has a girlfriend and plus ur friend and he has comforted your friend with a lie telling her that he will break up with his woman for her. so my dear why would u even want to be with a man who says he will break up his relationship for a woman? it could be to that there is no other girlfriend but because he is a player he has to use girlfriend as part of hs lies.
    what you need to do is to back off and let ur friend enjoy her relationship while it last since she is so much in love. dont be the one to break it up. take my advice

    • under the radar
      January 6, 2011

      wisdom :idea:

    • Just logical no sceeener.
      January 6, 2011

      Screner what about U would you offer up some too? what a puss party that would be for a plyer/lier according to you. I suspect you wann join the party.
      Sparrow had a song “de both of them” – do it,do it de both of them.Well player should do it Screener the two friends and his allegeded girl friend he promised to break up with.I once had a situation like that 4 of them.Then my neighbour who I wanted to lace for 15 yrs come telling me how nogoood for norhting I was.Who told you after she could not take the constant traffic by my house came to my home 3.00 a.m one satruday night. She asking me what are you giving those girls so? I want to try it too.It have to be sweet.She get it too now I move up to 5.

      • under the radar
        January 7, 2011

        and then women want to blame us for everything when is they that does instigate the mass kokay session. awa boy. my padna i can relate… them woman will take bus from calibishie, to possy, to roseau then to my place just to get hammered then take the long journey back home whatever time of day or night, even bomb ride all the way to and from… weh boy its gone horribly wrong. i can testify, the most medication i administered was done like a real doctor… the patients came to me.

        • WEL WELL
          January 7, 2011

          and what dat burnin me is dat some of dem have man .. and dey still bombin ride to ur home … dey even have man droppin dem at ur home ..

  43. blackbeauty!!
    January 6, 2011

    lol :lol: :lol:

  44. sunshine
    January 6, 2011

    MY BEST FRIEND BOYFRIEND TRY A THING ON ME AND I TELL HER THAT…..THE WOMAN TELL ME IS JOKE I MAKING…….

    • just saying
      January 6, 2011

      yes smtimes thy think thier bf is mr.perfect…..even thinks you are jealous when you trying to be honest…

  45. AY AY!!
    January 6, 2011

    BUT BELLA HAVE ISSUES MAN???!!!… ohhhhh i wouldn’t recommend writing anything to BELLA!… mamselle ni twop ohra!!…. how you can tell the girl first thing you don’t think she is worthy of being a friend if she continue on this path…. BUT BELLA u have stress??… If you understood love you would not say that.
    AY AY… that wasn’t a very nice things to say in the first place…the rest is ok…BUT she have to consider her friends feelings towards the guy and you know people already. If she ever tell the girl now the girl will not believe her and just think that the guy is going behind her back with her best friend. so she has to come up with the best plan to seat and speak to her friend up front and let her know how she has been feeling but that she havn’t told the guy anything as yet – unless if she didn’t tell him yet too.

    • hmmmmm
      January 7, 2011

      I suspect u like people man!!!

      • AY AY!!
        January 7, 2011

        YOur retard!!!!… just hold on to yours, because u just never know what might be coming next!… And this is not a threat.. its just .hmm.. business :wink:

        • hmmmmm
          January 7, 2011

          I see I hit a nerve there. This confirms it, I no longer suspect. I know you like people man………………….Lol

        • WEL WELL
          January 7, 2011

          well ay ay u can check me .

      • faith
        January 7, 2011

        IS DAT

    • precious memories
      January 7, 2011

      mohdyine!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! allu serious man?!?! lololololol
      Ay Ay, u must be a teenager!! where the hell does love come in here!? the woman said ‘love at first sight’ as a term, she then clarified as ‘STRONG ATTRACTION’. she hasnt even spoken to the dude other than with there best friend around. how she love him there nuh? hmmmmm *smh*

  46. Dangg!!
    January 6, 2011

    she can overcome her feelings by the guy by giving him some steamy sex- maybe brainwash the girlfriend into a threesome. Then what?!…. life goes on- it’s just feelings that doesnt mean she’s gonna fall in love with him in the long run- though she mentioned it was love at first sight. please….

  47. hmmmm
    January 6, 2011

    so he hv two girlfriends and empress want to make it three?? stupes.

  48. Anna
    January 6, 2011

    YOU PEOPLE BLINDED OR SOMETHING? 1ST OF ALL SO MANY THINGS WRONG HERE. 1 LOVE AT 1ST SIGHT? THERES NO SUCH THING U JUST SEE A MAN YOU TALKING ABOUT LOVE THROUGH A PETTY ATTRACTION? IN THESE DAY AND AGE 2011 WE STILL IN THAT MENTALITY? 2ND WHAT KIND OF FRIEND WOULD WANT HER BESTFRIEND MAN THEN HYPOCRITICALLY TELL HER GIVE HIM A CHANCE WHEN SHE KNOW SHE DON’T MEAN IT? THATS THE SAME POSITION AS A BACKSTABBER PEOPLE TO BE CAREFUL OF. THATS THE TYPE TO KILL U WHILE UR TRUSTING THEM FAKE FRIEND! 3RDLY A MAN HAS A GIRLFRIEND PLUS HE WITH UR BESTFRIEND AND THATS THE KINDA MAN U SOCALLY INLOVE WITH? THATS LIKE UR ASKING FOR PAIN AFFLICTION SORROW AND ALL SORTS. THEN WHEN HE HURTS U NOW, U SAY OH MEN ARE DOGS SMH…WE BRING HURT UPON OURSELVES MOST TIMES….CLEAR TO SEE THIS CHICK A FRAUD

  49. Mouse
    January 6, 2011

    At least she is honest to chat about it. She is not like many you crooks.. We all are human.. At least we should commend her for being opened about her feelings.

  50. natureislandprincess
    January 6, 2011

    y do u want to be the #3 track on his playlist…y u even want to entertain the idea of getting his number when u already say he has another girlfriend…and how could you tell ur friend to give hima chance when he has a woman…u just want to be able to see him when u want thats y u tell her that…dominica have so much fine man, girl get with the program!!

  51. Precious
    January 6, 2011

    seems that this guy was not anyone’s man in the first place.He have a girlfriend and still seeing your best friend. Please hun don’t put yourself into this drama. It would also help if you told your friend about your feelings towards him also. :)

  52. Nice
    January 6, 2011

    Girl!!!

    All you have to do is bring a bottle of hypnotic and a few DVDs of hot action sex and let nature take its course to a manage-a-trois!!!!

    AA, girl the swag on girlfriend.

  53. Juice
    January 6, 2011

    i can understand u have developed feeling for the guy, just ensure that a relationship does not materialize between the two of u. IF IT DOES…. THEN FIRE WILL BURN U

  54. lol
    January 6, 2011

    Are you all stupid?

    HE ALREADY HAS A GIRLFRIEND.

    Empress doesn’t even say if this boy has made ANY indication that he even likes her, unrequited love/crush/lust?? Empress’ friend should dump him till he’s single and Empress should go look for a single man

    • SS
      January 6, 2011

      i was just goig to say that. Even if her friend were to leave the guy the fact remains he still has a girl friend, that means her best friend is a side peice.. jeezzzz man

      • precious memories
        January 7, 2011

        i know right!! this sounds all triangle-ish lol. the friend likes the dude, who’s with the best friend AND consequently he has a girlfriend aside from the best friend! total rubbish.

  55. Wow
    January 6, 2011

    Congrats young lady – keep your head on your shoulder and try to avoid ocassions where you encounter your friend’s boyfriend, at least until you are able to see him as ‘just another man’. Hats off to you.’

  56. star*s
    January 6, 2011

    my girl u can like ure best friend man all u want but if he dont like u back nw wats the point… makes no sense risk ure friendship over a boy… Boys come and go but friends stay forever…

  57. righteous
    January 6, 2011

    that false friend neeg Jesus in her life and sorry to say but she is an embarassment to all decent women in our dominicd

    • ehh
      January 6, 2011

      and u call urself righteous..small minded ppl like u dat in dominica dat y dominica cant move 4ward..shame

      • Righteous
        January 7, 2011

        that’s why Dominica cannot move forward in what? in nastiness? prostitution?? Ur a fool its plain to see, get a life and go to church that girl has an issue with lust.

      • Righteous
        January 7, 2011

        what Dominica cannot move forward with ehh? nasty business? people like you that have our nation like its cursed i hope you find God someday.

      • j
        January 7, 2011

        grow up ehh de person correct

  58. concern child
    January 6, 2011

    Perhaps her friend will not understand and it may create trust issues between friends but then again it may serve as a test of their friendship.

    the answers are usually in your heart…. follow your heart

    • Heart
      January 6, 2011

      The heart [is] deceitful above all [things], and desperately wicked: who can know it? Jeremiah 17:9….sometimes when we follow our heart, that’s when we get into more problems

  59. wikiLee
    January 6, 2011

    i am not even reading the article…. STAY AWAY FROM THEM PEOPLE RELATIONSHIP U TOO DIRTYYYY

    • didi
      January 6, 2011

      had u read d article, u would realise dat u r d dirty 1..in d dictionary, next 2d word dirty is u roten mind..jumpin 2conusion witout even knowin on wat u concludin..

  60. gaza
    January 6, 2011

    nasty she nasty females like that usualy are just ridden and then parked(bycycle)

    • Wow
      January 6, 2011

      There is something called infatuation – she cannot be in love with someone she doesn’t even know. I believe she likes the guys physical appearance and there is absolutely nothing wrong in liking to see another human being. What is important is how we conduct ourselves and control our imaginations, especially in the presence of the individual.

    • didi
      January 6, 2011

      gaza u dat is d nasty 1..theres noting wrong in bein attracted to some1 even if its ur best fen man..just dat u hav to get a hold of urself n b good to ur bestfren..do all u can not 2 act on ur feelin 4 d person.ppl like u jus like to tink life is a fairy tale..bull pupu..stupes…want to say ppl this n dat..watch in d miror.

      • Gaza
        January 7, 2011

        i agree with Wow that’s true you have a lot more common sense than Didi. but some young women knows they are being played and they are still trying to break others relationship even their best friends own and that’s a shame. 8-O

  61. DA Queen
    January 6, 2011

    Stupesss….

  62. Anonymous
    January 6, 2011

    Good advice.cuz how d he’ll u gonna ca,l her best friend a d dreaming bout her dayuuum man…not cool..but credit goes to you 4not takin it further than just imagination…

  63. Piper
    January 6, 2011

    Bella, how can you tell the lady she is not worthy of being a friend when all this time she has restrained herself? She also does not feel good about her feelings for the guy because she said she feels guilty about the way she feels.

    She also says she has tried to supress her feelings toward the guy.

    You cannot always control the way you feel. It is what you do about it that makes the difference. I think she is indeed a very good friend not having acted on her feelings.

    I think you are dead wrong on this one.

    • Realist
      January 6, 2011

      English is important…. Bella said that if she continue on this path – she will not be worthy of being a friend! Good advise though. Once the line is crossed, the ‘friendship’ will not be worth it. But in being honest, be wise in how you divulge info on your feelings.

      • Piper
        January 6, 2011

        Good thing you mention the understanding of English because Bella did not say “If you ACT upon your feelings, you will not be worhty of being a friend”. All the lady has talked about are her thoughts and feelings. Nowhere did she say she was prepared to or contemplating acting on her feelings.

        If anything, if she took the time to write to Bella, that indicates to me the confusion she feels in feeling the way she does.

      • nope darling
        January 6, 2011

        Bella still meant what she said….because the girl was already on the path….bella wouldn’t use the word ”Continue”….so check your english again…. BELLA TOH KOPAWEZON!

        • Lizavier4Jesus
          January 7, 2011

          nope darling

          I agree with you. Based on how the lady spoke to Bella, Bella’s opininion sounds positive as she writes: “I think (you are not worthy of being a friend)”. the rest of the sentence does nothing to change that opinion. If Bella means anything different, she must rephrase the statement.

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