Dear Bella: I never thought I would ever end up in a situation like this. I am now convinced it’s never good to say never because you never know when you will end up in the same situation.
The situation I am referring to is about me and my best friend. We have been best friends for many years. Nothing has come between us until lately when she introduced me to her new boyfriend. It was love at first site! This is not the first time my best friend has introduced me to her boyfriends. This is the first time I have felt such a strong attraction.
I try to suppress the feelings but it is not working. The funny thing is she is not sure he is the one for her though she loves him. She says he has a girlfriend and though he has promised to break up with her he is taking too long and she is getting annoyed.
For the first time I played the hypocrite, telling her to give the guy a chance, but deep down I do not want them to be together. I dream about this guy night and day. I am always thinking about him. I blush when he is around us. I am tempted to ask for his contact information. I feel so guilty around my best friend.
What should I do?
I think you’re not worthy of being a friend if you continue on this path. And I am happy you admit you’re a hypocrite. That’s the first step to solve a problem: find the problem, acknowledge it and own up to it.
The next step now is be honest with your best friend about your feelings for your boyfriend and also give her your honest opinion about him.
I however applaud you for not going further and getting yourself involved with this young man. Do not give him the opportunity to have the best of both worlds.
You will keep me updated.
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