There is this guy that I’ve known for about four years now and we’ve been together for about six months. He is my best friend’s cousin, but the thing is at first she was the one who was kind of pushing us together and now that we are together she has a problem with it.
I’ve tried talking to her about it on many occasions, but she shuts me down and walks away.
Not too long ago we stopped talking because I just couldn’t take in the stress of her not talking to me whenever I’m around my boyfriend. I mean that’s just child’s play.
We stopped talking for about two-three months. We started talking again, but it was at a time when my boyfriend and I had gotten into a misunderstanding. Now we are back together and I’m afraid I might get back into the same confusion with my friend.
I don’t want her to feel like I am putting my boyfriend before her, I try my best to spend as much time as I can with her and at the same time try to give my boyfriend attention as well; but I don’t like choosing.
I know there is a saying that friends come first, but this guy means a great deal to me and letting him move on to be with someone else would eat me up inside. This is not the first time my friend has tried to choose a boyfriend for me.
Bella what do you think I should do?
Dear Unsure: You stated that your best friend pushed you to be with this guy, so what has changed? Perhaps, as a close relative, she knows something about him that you don’t.
Your friend could also be feeling a little jealous and resentful, now that you may not be spending as much time with her as you did in the past.
Be patient with your friend; don’t be quick to shut her out of your life. Usually when relationships turn sour, friends are the ones who are there to help you to pick up the pieces.
Give her time to accept your new relationship or open up to you about what may be bothering her.
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