DEAR BELLA: Soldier lover disappeared after Maria and I need to find him

Dear BellaDear Bella,

I know I have heard people make fun about the soldiers who were in Dominica during the passage of Hurricane Maria but my story is no joke.

And before any one of you judge me, let me just say I am human. Bella after the storm I met this guy. Let us call him Kwame. He was one of the soldiers who came here to assist the other police officers here. He was good to me.

He made sure I was alright and he made all my fears about Hurricane Maria disappear. I won’t go into details but we became close and did everything lovers would do.

Anyway, it was time for him to return to his homeland and he gave me his overseas number. He already had my Dominica number.

Bella, I haven’t heard from him since. I called the number he gave me and it doesn’t exist. I also looked him up on Facebook after he left and he doesn’t seem to even be part of planet earth.

I went to the police station and asked for him and the officers there didn’t know him by the name he gave me.

Some of them even had a look on their faces like I am crazy. Bella I am not crazy. I fell in love with a wonderful man.

The only crazy thing about this is that he has vanished and I can’t seem to find him. I’m thinking of taking a trip to go over to Barbados to find him. What do you think I should do?

The Soldier Girl

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Hello Soldier Girl,

It is obvious that your soldier lover ensured that you won’t be able to contact him once he’s left.

And as much as this may hurt, it is the truth. Let’s look at facts here. He did not give you his real name.

That’s the first indication that this man had no intentions of keeping you in his life.

He gave you a number that doesn’t exist. It’s also quite clear that he does not want you to contact him.

You can’t find him on facebook and he has not tried calling you since he left. Now tell me, why would you think of even travelling to Barbados to hunt down a man who doesn’t want to be found.

My dear friend, I want to encourage you to take time to know someone before you decide to open your heart to them.

We should guard our heart because everything we do flows from it.

Best,

Bella

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38 Comments

  1. patriot Dominican
    July 18, 2018

    this is crazy ,i mean can you even believe that .soldier girl i feel your pain keep your head up stay strong.some of them with the negative comment they might have done worse than you …..

  2. Tasha Robinson
    July 13, 2018

    Soldier girl I agree with you…take your money buy a ticket, pay for an apartment for the few days and go look for”ur man”..

  3. solidergirl
    July 11, 2018

    i dont care what you all say, i need to find him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • marie-claire R Skerrit
      July 12, 2018

      Woman you in a bush and get a big wood then seat on it. Tell me what you feel after… DUMB BELL

  4. marie-claire R Skerrit
    July 11, 2018

    Bella/DNO I see you’re being selective in what you all want to post. Why open this forum for public opinion then you all want to pick and choice what to post. All i said the story was fictitious whats wrong in my belief? Anyways in order to grow you must be able to receive comments that you are not privy to knowing seating inside that Box…

  5. Jameson
    July 11, 2018

    But a joke that there man?? Why is it that our Dominican women are so stupid to the point that they fall in love with the wrong person? Open your EYES girl! He played you hard so that he can get the panties. Some of our girls need to take the time to look at the characteristics of a man instead of letting their hearts fool them. Educated yourself my girl! Because if I was a parent, I would have not let you do that kind of nastiness with soliders…that could have diseases!

  6. Taytay on belly
    July 10, 2018

    Ki sot sa mamzel is a big tebeh a kick i would give her.

    • marie-claire R Skerrit
      July 11, 2018

      Let me tell. I never see an arbewbew like that

      • Merina McKenzie
        July 15, 2018

        Good for her.
        Before a foreign man touch down in Dominica
        most of those sisters run for them.-killers, molesters, tax evaders, not time to waste.
        So many of them ended up with soldiers babies after hurricane David without no child support.
        You was not but a “ration’ girl.
        Barbadian man please?? the man went to meet his man-Lol?

  7. Nana-Lain
    July 10, 2018

    @Soldier Girl…There is no time to butter you up. The Bajan soldier don’t want you. Sakwey Sot , You need to forget about that man and move on with your life. He has vanished. Talking about going to Barbados to look for man? Girl, stay your azzzz where you are eh. You need some nice blows

  8. Awa
    July 10, 2018

    Bella did you all write this mess? Here I thought these things are only seen in the movies. Next story please. Lol

    • marie-claire R Skerrit
      July 10, 2018

      I know right @AWE bella just upset my inner walls with that mess. she need to me come write and entertain the masses for her. Hire me Bella

  9. smh
    July 10, 2018

    this is a parent who’s daughter became pregnant by a soilder writing this lol well teach ya’ll kids better

  10. jamie
    July 10, 2018

    You are crazy girl,if this man wanted a life with you he would have reached out,you women tend to make yourselves to vulnerable too strangers,this is why when i do visit home i keep away.

    • smh
      July 10, 2018

      oh please ain’t nobody want you! u sound full of it! :mrgreen:

      • Kermit
        July 10, 2018

        Lmaooooooooo!!!!!! Look is there I fall down. Where you see those Dominicans there when they go away they playing so heavy when you do look. Our belly more full than their own and we looking better than them.

  11. Jacoof
    July 10, 2018

    Man I wish I was a soldier!! :mrgreen: :mrgreen:

  12. bring back our kidnapped parrots
    July 10, 2018

    Your soldier lover is probably married so gave you bogus information.

  13. Melly Mel
    July 10, 2018

    Bella,

    Fantastic response!

  14. Nican Girl
    July 10, 2018

    Bella, open your heart??? I was thinking to myself that this was great advice and was hoping you would have ended open our with a plural word. But great advice still :) , Soldier Girl take heed!!!

    • Karl Orndem
      July 10, 2018

      more like open you legs. them woman too like to use that as a trap. that doesnt hold man again lmaoooo

      • marie-claire R Skerrit
        July 11, 2018

        WHOOOOOOOOOOOOOS you’re so right

  15. FEAR, LOVE AND NAIVETY
    July 10, 2018

    con’t…/ ,it illustrates how allegations of sexual exploitation and abuse, involving UN Personnel are managed.

  16. FEAR, LOVE AND NAIVETY
    July 10, 2018

    FEAR. LOVE AND NAIVETY
    Civilians are cautioned to beware of acts of exploitative relationships, among other transgressions by peacekeeping forces and special political missions. It is well for the heart to be naive and for the mind not to be. My young lady quickly familiarise yourself with it, that sexual exploitation and abuse are the modus aperandi of Peace Keeping forces worldwide. Sexual activity with minors and actual / threatened physical intrusion of a sexual nature by force or under unequal or coercive conditions are common. Peace keeping forces generally abuse the position of vulnerability, differential power or trust, for sexual purposes, including, but not limited to, profiting monetarily, socially or politically from the sexual exploitation of another. In a recent UN peacekeeping – management of reports and allegations, involving UN personnel in peacekeeping and special political mission,… con’t…/

  17. Jo D
    July 10, 2018

    Why was she on d coast guard base in the first case

  18. Zandoli
    July 10, 2018

    Bella,
    Here in lies the problem with your advice. If she had led with her brain rather than her heart, she would not even be talking to you.

    The brain is much smarter than the heart. I stopped loving with my heart a long time ago. I don’t trust my heart to make good decisions. My brain on the other hand, has not misled me.

  19. TheGagIs
    July 10, 2018

    Whew Chile.. The mess… Sweetie it was a smash and pass Kwame is booked and busy

  20. Josh Shaw
    July 10, 2018

    enjoying this make up story!

  21. July 10, 2018

    You silly woman !
    You have been used and trashed out !

  22. Selflove
    July 9, 2018

    Belle beff is now it sweet ..sweetie i feel your pain

  23. Iamanidiot
    July 9, 2018

    So it was you that was on the Coast Guard Base

  24. Cluns
    July 9, 2018

    Soldier girl! Papamet! Soldier girl, what happened in DA stays in DA wii pal.

  25. Kermit
    July 9, 2018

    Go for his woman or his wife to boss your tail for you in BIM, if is sot you sot lol

  26. Bob
    July 9, 2018

    Hope u doe give a da man a jacket :-|

  27. Realist
    July 9, 2018

    Lol, well my girl u get food and wood, now hush and go about ur life

    • Merina McKenzie
      July 15, 2018

      She was too greedy.
      She did not want to wait in line.
      Wood on aid dollars- sex for free.

  28. Unbelievable
    July 9, 2018

    Why after maria allu on the coastguard base ??

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