Dear Bella: My husband is in the US Army and it is stifling out relationship. He is constantly on my mind and we hardly get to see each other. Last year he spent a month with me before he went back to serve. We have a young child and she does not recognise her daddy.
I am in need of emotional and physical support and he is not there to give it to me. He is also not willing to leave the Army as he says it’s his career path. I am confused and frustrated. I love my husband very much but I wish he could just leave the Army and reunite with his family.
Before you got married you very well knew the consequences. Love is unconditional and though I feel sorry for your situation, you enlisted for it when you said “I Do”. That’s a life contract. Your husband is not giving up on you, so do not give up on him.
I believe you need to express your true feelings regarding his matter or seek counselling, but I do not think you should just worry away and give up on the relationship. Please be thankful that he is still alive and that he comes back to you. When he does, sit down and have a serious talk with him.
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