The guilty cheater

Dear Bella: I cheated on my boyfriend during the Parade. I am very guilty and I do not know what to do. I know my boyfriend said he has never cheated. But I feel so guilty and I can hardly look him in the eye. I told him I have a headache and he believes. He would not believe I would cheat. But I cannot continue to live the lie. But I do not want to break his heart and risk a break-up. What should I do?

Confused

Dear Confused:

Be honest. Let him know you cheated. Otherwise your guilt will eat away at you. If you continue to live a lie, your guilt will grow. I know it is not easy but be honest and ask that he forgives you.

Also be prepared for a break-up, but it will be a lesson learned.

Bella

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21 Comments

  1. Anonymous
    June 12, 2013

    Dear Bella, I am so in love with my b,f, 5 years we’ve been together but he still to this day refuses to call me his “girlfriend”?? we’ve lived together, but now he has to help his parents so he spends half the week there and half, 4-5 days actually with me. we have ridiculously great sex,well, sometimes, it’s almost like a we have a new adventure every time except for…..he only gets and orgasm and i have to masturbate after we’re done cause he says he’s too tired from work? When i say we have great sex I meanbut at and this little biker bar. I am 50 he is 43. I feel like I leave in a dungeon that he locks me in and if i do go out, which i maybe do once every 3-4 months, he threatens to leave me and accuses me of being with other men which i would never ever never do??!!:( all i do is work, go to the gym with my 17yr old daughter and stay home and cook vegan meals and me clean….i’m so lonely and have no friends but him……I’ve even taken personal days off at work and told him to plan to do something together with but he ALWAYS blows me off to be with his friends?? please help me….I want to be free of this man and don’t know how to do it or get thru to him id rather stay with him….i know it sounds pathetic but i love him so much…..signed Wet and left to dry alone…………

  2. April 24, 2012

    Your mind is not healthy ad so too is your body and your soul. You need to repent before its too late.

  3. Charmin
    June 15, 2011

    tell him you it was you were high on drugs, and you’ll never do it agian

  4. queenie
    May 25, 2011

    woman
    your boyfriend know u cheat already….
    he just waiting to see how long it going to take for you to tell him……………

    please be informed that he has a side woman…………..
    so open the hole in your face and tell him…………….

  5. sweet pum pum
    January 21, 2011

    Damnnnnn some of all you sound downright perfect wow and insulting too who have perfect woman dat never cheat , who feel the need to chastise all Dominican women, on top of that you can tell some of allyou did not finish school can’t even spell the damn insults Girl nothing wrong in what you do enjoy it and smile to yourself no need to feel guilty any time you suspect mister of cheating on you just remember that you did it first :lol: when it sweet you repeat…o.k. when it nice you do it twice or more if you want take your thing and just make sure you don’t get caught no one is perfect all those holier than thou stupes… :roll:

  6. rushand
    January 27, 2010

    well i dont care for neither the guy nor the girl, both of them can take what they get…. good guys always want woman all dominican men want, so take it, the nice hardworking faithful loving beautiful gils like me always end up with shitty cheater men, why aint the nice guys attracted to us nice girls…….well if is BET girls you want take the package.ie the cheating, STD and not forgetting HIV

    • AbovetheFold
      June 29, 2010

      rushhand…. I am a good guy not looking for BET girls…if you are good hard working girl.. then let’s meet… who knows…. . email address is myhealthbeat@gmail.com

      • under the radar
        January 6, 2011

        dont worry, some of the hardworking girls dont say what they working hard on. not just the BET girls thats the problem. atleast this type is open and easy to read from the get go. its the well dressed seemingly decent well spoken girls u gotta watch well. most times, that’s the ones that cheat and do … behind our backs and get away with it for a very long time. careful out there. not denying that there aint great girls in the midst. be patient and obeservant people.

  7. empress in orando
    January 26, 2010

    This is the most absurd thing i have heard of.
    wy should woman cheat though, the same thing your man is giving to you , is the same thing you go and get from this man, you have to take into consideration there is a thing call Aids, stds and so forth, be satisfied with the one man you’ve got. i am from D/ca also living in us for many yrs, aways known the da woman are fast. i understand d/ca has beautiful men, but i have one there ,my husband , please hands off of him. you girl is too slack , put a sock on you . you know what

  8. cheatter
    January 25, 2010

    you feelin sorry for her she is just a nasty girl. if your man cannot satisfy you just finish with him and check your sin, the man never cheat on you but u cheatin on him AND U SAYIN U SORRY. and there is a sayin ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER K. BABY GIRL GET A NEW LIFE K.

  9. January 25, 2010

    Well its a giood thing you have come to realize that you cheated on him, because you would have continue and hiding it… just tell him,

    “Am sorry through my own grievious fault.” He will overstand.

  10. Ok then
    January 25, 2010

    My girl the best thing i can tellyou is don’t tell your man anything. Just put it behind you and move on. What he don’t know won’t hurt him

    • under the radar
      January 6, 2011

      but is that she saying, he aint know and it aint hurting him. its hurting her. jeeezos man. read and understand the article.

  11. KING MAN
    January 25, 2010

    carnival doh even start yet and man taking horn. just an afternoon to have some clean fun and you going around cheating, that is if you know who you did that with.
    and besides it seems like you always cheat or was just waiting for the chance to do your nastyness.
    thats why i not trusting any woman them times, they always claim to love you but just waiting to take man on you.

    • under the radar
      January 6, 2011

      my padna, it rough you know… sometimes i feel the only thing that stands between two people and trust is a rubber. that just like immigration. “you can land on the runway but you not getting in without a search”

  12. Yah
    January 25, 2010

    see is woman like all you dat making other fellas not trust women. Thats why all man have to use allu Dominican women and neva love and wife allu, I already got my wifey and I know she’d never cheat on me in the slightest form cuz she aint at all fast and dumb without a clue of the future like the seemingly majority of allu Dcan woman. If you value something takecare of it and don’t F*** up wit the first nigga dat wanna tap it and tell you lang patat mamaw afta lmao.

  13. kopawayson
    January 25, 2010

    lol @ervin and teddle cat… i agree.. but I would like the young lady to say what she did… you cheated in a parade? How? You danced with another man? :S

    ………….

  14. Mervin
    January 25, 2010

    If you claim say that your boyfriend never cheated on and you trusted his comments….
    It was just a parade for god sake, why you had to do such a thing. Now you can even look him in the eyes.

    And sometime you wemen wonder why cant you get and keep a real man. some of you are to stupid. im not judging here dont get me wrong it goes both ways.

    But i blame you ( Miss confussed )……

  15. cheatter
    January 25, 2010

    if u dont want to break his heart y cheat, it already happen k. typical dominican women.

  16. January 25, 2010

    girl you mean to say you cheated just to get something to tell bella; what’s ur problem if you don’t want to break a man’s heart what’s the point of cheating and to tell him. Well forget it this is the end of the relationship; blame yourself and grow up. Bella cannot help you!

  17. just a thought
    January 25, 2010

    geez, another one!

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