DEAR BELLA: I’m having dreams about my neighbor


I have been having dreams about my neighbor.
Not the kind of dreams that I am happy about. I know some people say dreams are sometimes what’s in your mind but at 52, with three children and a loving husband. I see no reason why I should even have thoughts about another person.
We live in  a village near Roseau and he moved in to a new home next door. I understand he bought the house.
Anyway when he started living there, he came to our door and introduced himself. He had questions about basic things like garbage collection and transformation.
Bella, I think the young man, probably in his late 30’s, is taunting me.
He walks around his porch with boxer shorts all the time and he is always just hanging around his porch, in my direct view.
When he greets me, his eyes would sparkle and I know he’s just making them do that to tempt me.
Yesterday, some girl came to visit and she stayed there for hours.
Why would he even allow me to see people coming to his house?
Is that my concern? I think he knows the time I am in my yard and he shows off himself to get my attention.
What do you think I should do?
Frustrated  Neighbor
Frustrated Neighbor,
You seem to be the one with the problem and not your neighbour. Perhaps you can start by minding your business?
Whatever this man decides to do with his life is not your concern.
It seems to me you are the one taunting this man and not the other way around.
Obviously you are suffering from a lustful disease which you need to get rid of.
And while I may sound harsh, sometimes we have to be cruel to be kind.
Now I am wondering how is it that a man, or anyone for that matter, can cause their eyes to sparkle?
Also it is quite normal for someone to relax on their porch with shorts.
Additionally, it’s very normal to have visitors. What is abnormal is the fact that you know how long his female companion stayed there and to even consider that he’s just trying to make you jealous.
This is very extreme. You need to check yourself before you wreck your family over someone who probably doesn’t even realize how obsessed you are with them.

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  1. Mr. Ben Dover
    May 7, 2019

    Cold showers do still work. If it doesnt, take another shower.

  2. May 7, 2019

    Bella . You could not have said it better. This woman have a lostfull problem that she need to deal with. And to you Lady. Don’t let.the Devel destroy your family. said it’s a beautiful family

  3. Didymus
    May 6, 2019

    DNO it seems like you have your prefered persons you would like to contribute to your post. so without warning you removed my response to this post. I will seat on the side line to observe if you are fear to everyone or if you have your chosen people. its okay. (Donkey do not have any rights in Horses race. its not the first time you removed my post seems like you know me personally?


  4. Didymus
    May 6, 2019

    This woman can put herself in a whole bunch of trouble. she give too much details, her Husband could catch up on this post because he would know the young 30 year old who bought a house who leaves next door and introduced himself to his family and ask questions about basic things like garbage pickup time in the neighborhood etc. The young man on the other side am sure follows DNO. now he knows the neighbor wants to give him a piece of her pie.sometimes a man have to work so hard to get a piece of pie where as some people ends up stumbling on a piece of pie. behave yourself married with children woman your husband cannot handle that knuckle you about to give him. its out of your hands its all up to the young man if he knows and is up for already cook and ready for him to will regret that move. tell your husband you cheated on him (in your thoughts) maybe he will forgive you other wise be prepared for a divorce.

  5. Conscious
    May 4, 2019

    She needs to go to a psychiatrist, psychologist, marriage counselor and remove the eyes that cause her to lust after her neighbor. Then go to a priest to confess her sins.

    • Bwa-Banday
      May 5, 2019

      No priest needed here. Just make the plumber aware and the pipe will be laid accordingly. Most men that work at Diwasco are able to lay serious pipe upon request 8) 8)

  6. Braindamage
    May 4, 2019

    When women want “sumting” and they can’t get the “fing”, that’s their typical behavior.

  7. May 3, 2019

    @frusted neighbor, don’t forget that you are the one who is dreaming of the young man, not him dreaming of you–as far as we know

    And as you said it: “I know some people say dreams are sometimes what’s in your mind” But—-

    So after all that information that you gave to Bella, can’t you realize that you have this young man on your mind, every day, day after day; and your dreams are all yours, what you fantasize about him, you are the only actor in that story.

  8. %
    May 3, 2019

    But what I hearing there nah!!
    You mind seem to be going wild when he has his boxers???
    I wonder if the man even knows that you exist!!!
    Stop longing for what is under the boxers!!!
    It’s not for you!! You can cry as much as you want..You won’t get it though,,!

  9. Diana Cockburn
    May 3, 2019

    reminds me of a young doctor neighbor I had. Same thing I was older than him . Just like this woman I was attracted. He had many young and not so young beautiful female coming to him nightly sometimes two a night. I got crazy as I wanted to know what he was giving out so! Lord!!!! I took a taste and got hooked. So I understand how Frustrated Neighbor feels.
    I told hi thanks for the times that he gave me. The memories are al in my mind. I have been smiling for daily years. My advise go ahead safely take a taste.
    Who knows you may join me smiling daily. peeps will just wonder. But to you it will be a lifetime treasure.

  10. Bwa-Banday
    May 3, 2019

    Young lady it appears as if you have the hots for guys that work at Dowasco where “laying pipe” is fundermental. I happen to believe the young man is just behaving normal while I am almost certain you have found a safe place in the house where you can watch his boxers, and do what you have to do.

    STOP VAYAYING and approach the young man on your issue so he can lay the pipe as necessary. You are the one with the problem, not him.

  11. kIMPOO
    May 3, 2019

    Papa ZORRR…But Bella you on your period man? Great answer tho. I mean maybe Bella just fed up with stupid letters. HAHAHHA Woiii My ovaries. I love you DNO

  12. Toujour belle
    May 3, 2019

    Very good response

  13. Dane
    May 3, 2019

    Mind your business, your horny old woman.

  14. Tamara charles
    May 3, 2019

    Love the answer bella

  15. Frank N Stein
    May 3, 2019

    Moderssssss! Wow Bella you outdid yourself. No further comment. But that woman funny we, awah that cant be real. :mrgreen:

  16. As if
    May 3, 2019

    Let’s be honest, you macoing the young man, how would you know that the young lady was there for hours.

    You may be bored. You seem sexually frustrated and blaming the young man for taunting you. Maybe your husband not ………. you down like he used to. Take some time for just the two of you away from the kinds or send them by grandma.

    • Letrisma
      May 3, 2019

      Anyway dominicans like margeee eh. To me i know the lady? But u cyan believe she would go in DNO With that!!!

      • Do what you want
        May 3, 2019

        Next time you see him on his porch with his boxers walk on your porch with your panties to.

    • Isabel
      May 3, 2019

      Anyway anyway. Dno know how to have people laughing eh? That lady serious? I mean what is that? Hahahah. Poor fellow dont even know granny wanna exchange spits with him. Lol

  17. Interpreter Found
    May 3, 2019

    “Perhaps you can start by minding your business?”

    AYE I CACKLE AT THAT… Bella you hit that one for 6!

  18. Maybe
    May 3, 2019

    You have interest in him he don’t have none in you get a life

  19. Joe
    May 3, 2019

    great answer Bella!!!!

  20. Truth
    May 3, 2019

    Well said Bella… that woman has a serious issue. She needs to put the wasteful time and energy she has into focusing on her home and family, making it a safe and enjoyable place to live and stop being miserable. MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS AND LEAVE PEOPLE BUSINESS ALONE….8-O

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