Is there a real definition for a ‘good woman’?

Most men aim to have the perfect woman so that they can live in healthy relationships and raise children of their own. I may not speak for all men when I say this but at least this is what I would want. Men have several definitions for a good woman based on individual characteristics and social status. I am no expert in this matter however I would like to give the readers some food for thought. Subsequently, in this article I am going to provide several definitions for a good woman to guide men who are afraid to commit because of the belief that there are no good women out there.

Firstly, a woman who is good in bed can be considered a good woman to some men.  This perceived good woman performs oral sex, dresses up sexy and constantly entices her man. Men want women that are freaky and willing to go the extra mile to fulfill their sexual desires.  Independent men who are successful and self sufficient would prefer these type of women so that may release the stresses of work and other daily commitments.  Lawyers, businessmen, scientists and doctors may prefer these types of women to add variety and excitement in their lives. Do not judge a lawyer who takes a popular woman to be his bride because to him this is a good woman.

Secondly, a good woman can be defined as a woman who is religious and God-faring. These women attend church regularly, practice and profess the word of the lord. Some men are attracted to these women because of the perception that they will be less unfaithful and stable. Stability and respect are two attributes men usually look for in most relationships. In other words a man wants a woman who supports him and does not cause an embarrassment through infidelity. Infidelity hurts, and reduces the pride and self esteem in a man.  Good Christian brothers and men who have been hurt in previous relationships are commonly attracted to these women.  Do not laugh when you see brothers who were hurt before suddenly attending church services. They are looking for good women.

Thirdly, “stay at home women” usually implies that these women are good. Stay at home women are family type women who work and stay home most of the time. If unemployed they remain at home do daily chores and infrequently roam the streets. These types of women attract men who want family life and stability or are insecure in relationships. Men are usually more insecure than women in my view and as a result there is a popular pursuit for stable women. Stay at home women provide this level of security in a relationship because of limited visibility to other men. Do not laugh men with stay at home women who appear boring because they are good women.

In sum, I would like to say that there is no definition for a good woman. It all depends on your perception of what you would like a good woman to be. Perceptions vary and as a result the qualities of a good woman are not uniform among in the minds of men in our society. Do not be afraid to choose your good woman no matter what anybody thinks.

A good woman is a woman that is good in the sight of the beholder.

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  1. franko says
    October 11, 2012

    a good woman is one that doesn’t cheat, lie, steal, and that doesn’t create such drama. where in the world are they today?, especially one that is not nasty either.

  2. TEQ
    November 14, 2011

    a good woman is one who has a firm believe in the almighty Lord.. and respects her man.

  3. Anonymous
    November 13, 2011

    The book of life which is the bible, describes a good woman and a good man, I would encourage you to read the book of proverbs and enlighten yourself.

  4. November 13, 2011

    Doesnt infidelity hurt women too when the boyfriend or husband does it?

  5. Another Lawyer
    November 13, 2011

    Apart from writing a silly,wanting and suspect article.You are certainly a lawyer by profession. lawyers marry dumb wives. (I know one)lol!The wife is so dumb she does not want to know whather husband does.he brings home the corruption $ takes her on crusies every two yrs provides as her income is hers .She is permanently dumb.End of story.As stated earlier either you are a lawyer or writing about the issue for indirect reason ej a lawyer friend.
    Why did you choose such a vague and difficult subject? All things are relative and misleading?

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  7. The Real 767
    November 12, 2011

    A good woman is a woman who has a good man!

  8. truth
    November 12, 2011

    You will know a good woman the instant you have one. There isnt a category shape, size or religion to define her. She will be unique from other women in your eyes and will make you feel just as unique from other men. What happens during and after is life.

  9. Tropicale
    November 12, 2011

    What a stupid article! What century is the writer living in .. “A good woman is in the sight of the beholder” … A woman’s worth and value is NOT and SHOULD not be based on what other’s think, this is perverse objectification. Listen .. I am who I am, and I will find someone who is prepared to live with who I am .. PRONTO. A man would expect the same..

    • man-to-man
      November 12, 2011

      just share your opinion. thats all its about. no sense trying to be clever man.

  10. Country Girl.......
    November 12, 2011

    A good woman, after being taken on so……many rides, by men who profess I love you. should say to herself, F**k all men..move on and do what makes her it for that GOOD WOMAN….cause she should always be NUMBER 1….GOOD MAN MY FOOT….

    Even if you do the unthinkable for the ungreatful, they will never be satisfied….

    • Abu Sulayman
      November 13, 2011

      It seems you are speaking from experience. If you are making the same mistakes over and over, then you need to question your method in selecting men.

      It seems you have been battered and bowled all over the place. I feel compassion for you. May Allah guide you to Islam. People like INDEED FREE and others who criticize about women in Islam should take a look at what societies such as your own are doing to women. It creates revengeful and bitter women.

      • Country Girl.......
        November 13, 2011

        Guess you know my story….

  11. ineedfree
    November 12, 2011

    The muslims men are vain, oppressive and immoral with twisted versions on their role on earth.

    They have legalised immorality bycharging that they can be fair to women and that they have to train a women to comply to the laws of the Creator whereas they twist the minds of the sisters into believing that obedience to them is tantamont to obedience to the Creator……fouled mental enslavement.

    No wonder…. some of them are truly insecure….they are in constant fear of educating the sisters because they become face to face with their equals since education is the great equaliser and liberator…I mean the untainted system that allows for righteousness and peace on earth.

    You can train animals and nurture babies but when it comes to women our roles are intrinsically different only when we are growing up our children.Who are you muslims claim the responsibility to TRAIN AND NUTURE WOMEN. THEN YOU MUST ALLOW THE WOMAN TO DO THE SAME BECAUSE WOMEN ARE ABLE TO IN BED, SCHOOLS, HOME….


    The difference is physical strength for the most part( dont forget that along the way we find women who are just as strong…althought truthfully a man’s form is naturally made to be the protector and the provider when babies are being nurtured but that doesnt justify four or more women to equate his soul.

    Give us some reason to believe that a man’s soul is heavier than a woman OR MORE WORTHY IN THE SIGHT OF THE ALMIGHTY….

    to help the woman accept that she is worth less than a man.

    The teachings of the quoran is not immune to distortion as the Bible.

    I think the Arab culture has tainted the whole message of the quoran…..wanton greed, invasion, insecurity .Like all bad cultures and We can identify all bad cultures….

    they have a way of invading Africa….check it out :mrgreen:

    • Abu Sulayman
      November 13, 2011

      @ Indeed ‘free:’ It is clear that you are a slave to your desires. Firstly all the accusations you have made against Islam are 100% false.

      Firstly, men and women are equal in the sight of Allah. Chapter 33:33 of the Noble Quran along with many other verses are a confirmation of that.

      Secondly, the prophet said, ‘seeking knowledge is compulsory on every male and FEMALE Muslim.’ In many Islamic countries today there are many women scholars. Even during the time of the prophet Muhammad peace be upon him there were women scholars, his wife Aiesha may Allah be pleased with her after her husband passed away she taught for the rest of her life, she taught law, astronomy, Quranic exegis and many more. I refer you to the book entitled ‘Great women in Islam’

      Thirdly, please share with me what kind of spirituality women have in the west? Most women for example in Dominica have children out of wedlock when this is supposed to be a ‘Christian’ nation. The women are aged as low as 12, please check the health stats for confirmation. Also, where is the spirituality when many children are neglected of nurture as a result of both parents competing for careers as a result their children become dysfunctional? Of course there are exceptions to the rule but we see a pattern in this society. The sad thing is many Dominicans are either unaware, turn a blind eye or have no practical tools to curb these social issues.

      Lastly, it is so sad that in the age of technology and information many Dominicans are extremely ignorant about Islam and Muslims. There is a radio program every Thursday night from 7pm-8pm. If many bloggers on DNO used to listen attentively I believe there would be less ignorance.

    • ArAb
      November 13, 2011

      WOW…someone must have been hurt or jealous.

      1) I am Muslim and i have sister who are highly educated.

      2)look at Divorce in Islam and compare it to what ever religion you belong to.

      3) Muslims are jealous….hmmmm Human beings are Jealous. it is part of Human nature

      You sound like an uneducated individual who would think that Allah is the name or a man Muslims worship.
      Wait please don’t tell me that is what you think

  12. Chien lawe
    November 12, 2011

    There are no good women. They all the same. Pretenders, cheaters n liars. Just use them 4 ur gain and dont get caught up in their enslaving illusion called love.

    • Abu Sulayman
      November 12, 2011

      This is as a result of the society you all created.

    • Telemaque
      November 13, 2011

      These are some of the words that some men utter when they have been recently hurt by a woman. But time heal wounds. Then the mind set changes again. All women are good to someone, somewhere or themselves.

  13. One Love
    November 12, 2011

    8-O To cut a long story short; the Holy Bible reveals what a GOOD WOMAN IS.

    We all have our own experiences with women. Genuine CHRISTIAN women are the best material to work with in a marriage partnership.

    Do NOT humiliate your woman by sharing your body with other women; or forcing her through economic or other blackmail to accept an adulterous state as a way of life : GOD gave ADAM – – – “ONE WOMAN”

    and remember prayer helps – to the FATHER through the SON with the help of the HOLY SPIRIT

    • Abu Sulayman
      November 12, 2011

      @ One love, I beg to differ regarding the authenticity of the Bible. Could you kindly bring the Bible in the language it was revealed so that we can study it if you are truthful. The Bible has undergone many changes and revisions.

      Secondly, the Noble Quran is the speech of Allah All Mighty. It was revealed in a pure Arabic tongue. It has been memorized by millions of Muslims and it has been preserved in the language it was revealed up to this day.

      Lastly, that prayer, since it involves intermediaries, this is polytheism, the worship of more than one gods. Those who disbelieve say that Allah is three in a trinity. No, there is only One Creator. He is one and Unique, not in parts. He is eternal. He was not born neither does he beget offspring or have a family tree. There is nothing in this universe comparable to Him. Muhammad who came after Jesus Christ peace be upon them both, is the last prophet and messenger of Allah. He reaffirmed what was originally revealed in the Torah, Psalms and Gospels.

  14. Abu Sulayman
    November 11, 2011

    In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.

    The prophet Muhammad peace be upon him said, “There are 4 reasons men usually marry women for: a) their lineage b) beauty c) wealth d) their spirituality. Marry the spiritual and virtuous woman for she will bring joy to your soul.” (Paraphrased)

    Also, he mentioned there are 4 comforts of this life, a) A spacious home b) A good neighbor c) A good means of transportation d) A virtuous spouse.

    Due to the filth of materialism and secularism many men and women are destroyed in this society. Even some Muslim men and women are affected. The best from amongst the women in this world are Muslim women. The first reason why is that they hold the best belief, the belief in One Creator alone without any partners. Second reason, in Islamic societies the women are raised and cultured to be submissive to their husband according to God’s principles, she doesn’t raise her voice to her husband, she doesn’t insult him or bring other people to the house without his permission. She seeks his permission before going out, she doesn’t misappropriate her husband’s property and they satisfy their husbands very well, she doesn’t refuse him sex without a valid reason, she smells good and sexy in her home purely for her husband, the only thing that is not allowed in the bedroom is anal intercourse. The Muslim woman does not display her body except to her husband. There are lots more, there is nothing better than that in our world today. Divorce rates are extremely low amongst Muslims in Islamic countries in comparison to the west. In Dominica it’s 1 in 2 marriages end in divorce.

    All praises be to Allah who has revealed the truth of Islam and has made amongst us the best women in the world. Thus to the writer of this article if we are talking about righteous women this is where the real deal is. :-D

    • Francis Chicago
      November 12, 2011

      IS THAT SO SO WHY [email protected] ALWAYS WANT SECOND [email protected] THATS FOR YOU.[ABY SULAYMAN]

      • Abu Sulayman
        November 12, 2011

        There is no special reason why Muslims want a second, third or fourth wife. It is a permissible given from God All Mighty to these men who can treat each of the women with justice and equity. If he cannot do justice then Allah told him to stay with only one.

    • One Love
      November 12, 2011

      8-O Muslim men are so insecure eh?

      • Abu Sulayman
        November 12, 2011

        It has nothing to do with insecurity, these are from the practices of Islam, this is what the prophet Muhammad taught. This has always been the ethics in the Middle East and taught by all prophets.

        Unlike we in the west who are so “secure” yet fornication and adultery are rife. This is why there is a moral breakdown in the society.

  15. Anonymous
    November 11, 2011

    I thought I was a good woman and my man just left me…papa met send help!

  16. ineedfree
    November 11, 2011

    good is good…man or woman.

    it goes with the fear of the Creator
    it goes with the golden rule

    it goes with knowing yourself

    it goes with knowing that The Creator comes first before the man/woman and not the other
    way around

    it goes with knowing that God can be found in every living and godly being.

    it goes with knowing that our mission on earth is to glorify Our Creator The Almighty in all our words, thoughts and deeds while we besiege His mercy and grace

    good is pure and simple….it goes for man and woman

  17. AmazingFace
    November 11, 2011

    To the Author of this commentary: Sounds like you are trying to give YOURSELF courage. We all know what a good woman is.

    • forreal
      November 11, 2011

      aye you make my stomach role,i could not help myself,i got to thinking,that must be partner personal experience,since he so versed on that subject.

  18. ellen evaline paul
    November 11, 2011

    Who can find a GOOD woman of worth? Far beyond jewels is her value. Her husband trusts her judgment; he does not lack income. She brings him profit, not loss, all the days of her life. She seeks out wool and flax and weaves with skillful hands. She is not a busy body, gossiper or employed at idle hall estate. Like a merchant fleet, she secures her provisions from afar. She rises while it is still night, and distributes food to her household, a portion to her maidservants. She picks out a field and acquires it; from her earnings she plants a vineyard. She don’t waste her husband money putting nail extension and pays a made to cook, wash or do gardening. She girds herself with strength; she exerts her arms with vigor. She enjoys the profit from her dealings; her lamp is never extinguished at night.She puts her hands to the distaff, and her fingers ply the spindle.She reaches out her hands to the poor, and extends her arms to the needy. She is not concerned for her household when it snows— all her charges are doubly clothed. She makes her own coverlets; fine linen and purple are her clothing. Her husband is prominent at the city gates as he sits with the elders of the land. She is no trouble maker always in people business. She makes garments and sells them, and stocks the merchants with belts. She is clothed with strength and dignity, (not skimpy clothes, bling and fashion she have to take a loan to maintain) and laughs at the days to come. She opens her mouth in wisdom; kindly instruction is on her tongue. She watches over the affairs of her household, (she doh have no servant) and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband, too, praises her: “Many are the women of proven worth, but you have excelled them all.” Charm is deceptive and beauty fleeting; the woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.* Acclaim her for the work of her hands, and let her deeds praise her at the city gates

    • RC
      November 11, 2011

      See second comment below. All women should aspire to be that “perfect woman”.

    • Crapaud
      November 11, 2011

      Proverbs 31 vs. 10-31

  19. ok
    November 11, 2011

    So is there a REAL definition for a GOOD MAN? :(

      November 11, 2011


    • freaky one
      November 12, 2011

      there is no real definition for a good woman. A good woman is whom ever u want her to be or what ever she is in his eyes.

  20. G
    November 11, 2011

    Good women always get the wrong men. They are always taken for a ride. To me a good woman is one who is naturally loving and goes the extra mile for her man. Most times after a while they always end up by themselves because they cannot trust another man again. Good women? my advise is ” just live your life for Jesus”

      November 11, 2011


    • Abu Sulayman
      November 11, 2011

      Good comment, the only problem is the last few words, ‘just live your life for Jesus.’ This is the reason for the thumbs down. One needs to worship God without mediators also Jesus is not God.

      • Francis Chicago
        November 12, 2011

        Mr man keep your knowledge to you and your kids and your muslims brother and sister.JESUS IS NOT GOD ARE YOU MAD.Jesus is the way the truth and the life.NO ONE GOES THROUGH THE FATHER EXCEPT THROUGH ME.I AM THE FATHER AND THE FATHER IS IN ME .THE FATHER THE SON HOLY SPIRIT IS ONE. THATS FOR YOU.[ ABU]

      • Abu Sulayman
        November 12, 2011

        @ Francis Chicago: Jesus was a prophet and messenger of God. He and his mother peace be upon them ate daily food. The signs have been made clear however, it’s you people who are far from the truth. The trinity is Greek Roman paganism. This was not the message of Jesus peace be upon him. Allah/God is only One, not three. Jesus peace be upon him taught the children of Israel that Allah is One and He alone one should worship without mediators, rivals or partners.

        Second, the Bible is not the word of God, do you want to prove me wrong, could you kindly bring the Bible in the language it was revealed please? Thanks.

        The Noble Quran is the speech of Allah. It was revealed in a pure Arabic language. Secondly, it has been memorized by millions of Muslims. Thirdly, it has been preserved up to this day. It was revealed by Allah to prophet Muhammad via Angel Gabriel peace be upon them.

  21. to add
    November 11, 2011

    A good woman is humble,pleasant,has dignity, respects herself and others and most importantly God fearing.

    • Lee
      November 11, 2011


    • Francis Chicago
      November 12, 2011


  22. RC
    November 11, 2011

    See the first reading from the book of proverbs for this weekend’s liturgy of the Catholic Chirch. Here is a good theological/religious explanation for what a good woman ought to be.

    • Abu Sulayman
      November 11, 2011

      The priests need the instructions more than anyone else because God gave them no authority to practice monasticism but they invented it!

    • FattDoll
      November 13, 2011

      hahahah…***points finger whilst laughing*** catholic chirch!!…u right is a chirch…Big ass money collecting every sunday and even at funerals cult!

  23. Senior Citizen
    November 11, 2011

    A good woman is one who respects herself and others, and she will consequently be given the respect she deserves

    • Abu Sulayman
      November 11, 2011

      This comment is too vague.

      • FattDoll
        November 13, 2011

        Abu Sulayman, pls hit yr self in the face really hard with a quaran..and then go away.!

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