Bella,
I know right now this may not be a good time to write about personal issues but I have a situation I need some advice on. My boyfriend for 3 years hasn’t been coming to see me for a while.
He is one that would stay over sometimes on a Friday night or Saturday night. He has children with another woman and I understand that he would spend time there. But he assured me over and over that his concern is for his two children.
Bella when the COVID thing came out he said he would not be able to come and see me that often. I told him since he lived alone just move in for the time and we can stay together. He refused.
Anyway, I did not make a fuss. But Bella now we can hardly have a conversation because every time I call, he answers me like he was talking to one of his work partners. “Yes Man”….Oh OK.” stuff like that.
When I tell him, I love him, he would reply things like “Of Course I know that” …I asked him where he was finally and he said he went to visit the children and got stuck there.
He said because the prime minister said people shouldn’t go out unnecessarily, he decided to stay inside and he is stuck. Bella what stupidness is that? Like I must be a retarded or something.
Anyway, I asked him how long he will be there he said until the pandemic is over. So, this means until that time I cannot see my boyfriend who I am hopelessly devoted to.
I don’t want to seem heartless but I think he’s not being honest. I should leave him. What do you think?
Nobody’s Fool
Hello, Nobody’s Fool,
Your boyfriend isn’t stuck at his children’s mother home. It appears he is living there with his family, woman included.
I believe you were being taken for a ride over the years and I am sure if you sit and look back, there would have been signs pointing to that.
If you are in a serious relationship, a weekend nap isn’t enough. Any man who is serious about a woman wouldn’t be sleeping over at her house on a weekend.
It seems to me that he was just stealing love on the side while you were “hopelessly devoted” to him.
Love, or what we think love is, can blind us to important factors that are usually right in front of us.
I am sorry that COVID-19 had to awaken you like that but be thankful that it did.
We are required to practice social distancing and we should but if your boyfriend really wanted to, he could have made a decision to stay with you.
Your boyfriend is not under house arrest. He is with his family.
Bella
There is none so blind as he who won’t see. Leave that loser alone. He is a lying, cheating son of a gun. You can do much better.
I thought part of safety procedures is to keep safe distance apart from mr covid19. A family is the wife and children.you been interfering for too long so mr.COVId-19 PUT A STOP TO YOU. Secondly you call him a boy so he behave like a boy. Men are handsome stop giving them bad name.Bello were were magnificent with your advise.bye bye to covid-19
No girl stay with your man .You ain’t going nowhere .
Thats right bro!
Well said Bella 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
True dat bella..you said it so right
Are you this stupid to think that your ‘boyfriend’ got ‘stuck’ with his children during lockdown? The man decided to stay home with his family. Some of you women like to turn a blind eye to things that are right in your faces. I’m sure the signs were there but because you were so ‘in love’ you chose not to see it. Leave that man alone. Now that you’ve seen his true colours, let him stay with his family and soon enough you will find a man who is devoted to you and ONLY you and vice versa. It’s sad that he was able to play you for all these years but thanks to Covid, you finally see the light. Now wish him well and keep stepping forward.
Allu always think some devoted man is right around the corner for some damsel who pretends to be in distress. When will Dca women realize there is NOT a man for every woman on island and its time for the women to remember; Sharing is caring! Any woman in Dca who think her man is only mar-tay-ing her is stupid. Likewise, the same women that there playing com-see- dee have their diaspora flex on the side. Well me self believe sharing is caring and that’s why I like the muslim faith because I can have 7 wives at least. Its called variety
Leave him alone his no good
Leave him you deserve better he is still with his children mom
There is a clear difference between being with his children mom and helping out the situation by plumbing the sink to make his ex and children are happy in such dangerous times. STOP being selfish my dear and just recognize your turn will come
Happy children means a happy man and by default a very happy, smiley ex.
The partner has to take care of his children and make sure he puts a BIG smile on their mother’s face too. At least if he stay there with her and survives then you will have him after the COVID threat is reduced. Laying a little pipe in easy terrain that he is obviously familiar with will not hurt anyone
. Why not just video call him to see whats up? If I were you I would just volunteer to join him and your Cor-Boss because the more the merrier. Chillax, you will have the man when Skerro remove the lockdown. Just be happy he is happy and COVID free. 
