Bella,
I like two women I work with. Honestly, I do. And I don’t know which one to choose.
They are very attractive, great personalities, kind and were brought up proper.
[They are] the kind of women a man might want to spend a long time with. Even marry and all. We work in a small organization in Roseau and we get along well. All of us.
They are both single and I speak with them after hours a lot on WhatsApp.
Neither of them knows. I am the supervisor and we don’t talk so much at work.
I just ended a very bad relationship and was giving myself time to heal. But now 6 months later, I feel ready.
Both have expressed love interest in me. I have gone out with them already but nothing serious happened. To be exact we only exchanged a kiss once or twice.
I know if I choose one, the other will be jealous and it could cause issues at work.
So, I don’t know which way to go. But whichever way, I think I am in love with them both.
Torn
Hello Torn,
Sooner or later you are going to have to make a choice but to string both women along is not the best way to deal with such a situation. If you continue dating both women who work in the same building then naturally, you may cause contention if you decide to take one of them to be your woman.
No matter how you look at the issue, you would have to choose. Or you could look outside the circle for a potential partner. In that case there will be not “cat fights” at work.
You said they were both raised “proper”. however, when it comes to matters of the heart women forget all the etiquettes they were taught.
While it is early and while there are no serious relations, you may want to change the way you move forward.
Decide who you want and work from there. If you don’t, you may end up losing both women and be labelled as the womanizing boss.
Best Bella
My advice to you is to talk to them both, and if they agree, take them both. You say you love them both so don’t cheat yourself, be true to yourself first and always!
Absolutely great advice. For years we were raised to believe that a man only needs one woman only to realize that its ok for him to have at least two. No woman in her right mind should expect to be the ONLY one drinking from a pipe especially if the man can hang and he treats you well. I am not saying men have to be salop but if you have a man and he has one other woman whats the big deal? Just stay in your lane and enjoy life.
Nothing wrong in being the secret number two or even number one. Who cares? As long as you get your share of water when you feel thirsty then so what? Just make sure at least one of them knows that you are plumbing the other’ sink and no one else then voilah!! You dont need drama! All you need is love and plumbing work on regular basis.
I did not mean for the man to have one in the open and the other in pubic. He should be willing and aloud to have both of them in the open. It is the European culture which teaches one to have only one woman, then have secret lovers. This is not what I am talking about. “Our” African culture teaches us different. Have both openly, and treat both equally well and fair!
Never have work place romance man. “Cat fight” situation is exactly why you don’t. Do you really want to see that woman at work every day? 5 days a week?
You break up then you will see her double time.
No dating of co workers!
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You need to be honest. Let them both know that you are dating them. If they allow it then you date them until you can decide or until they make the decision for you. Hopefully, you will live to tell the tale. Good Luck Lover Boy.
you are a player,you want all,you not satisfied.you are their supervisor, they scared of losing their Job so they looking at you for security. that is a recipe for problems, and you are going to be single again and maybe you lose your Job or those woman lose their job.you must be the hottest bachelor left.If the ladies were raised well they need to go back to their up bringing to handle this situation.make sure you are all on solid grounds on the Job, some bosses don’t like affairs on their Job.
Eventually these women will reveal to each other their relationship with you and you might end up losing both. But knowing that slave plantation mentality island,it might not matter to them
They might end up hating each other and fighting over you to see who will keep you. It would be something if you happen to get them both pregnant and this is what brings everything to light 
My advise is put on ur pipe fitter clothes and tools and go to work like a well prepared Dowasco worker. Lay some serious pipe in both of the trenches to see which one fits better over time and where the water flows more readily with some kinkiness. No old fashioned stuff only. After about a 6 moths you make a selection of one or better yet both if they agree.
don’t you love ur job sir..well business and pleasure don’t work..stop playing those games on ur job..am guessing u very young as well..
you have already said more than you, when a customer enter your shop no one attend to them, staff playing with their mobile phone. If you cannot choose between two women, you don’t love any. You are employed so just pass it. both women can read you perfectly
My advice to you is keep both of them and see which one of them satisfied you most in bed then Bob is your uncle as the British would have said.
Good advice Bella. Torn, given the circumstances, I suggest you call it quits with both for the time and let things smooth over. If later you still have interest, you have to choose one. You may ruin a perfectly good working triangle and possibly friendship. Even choosing one now is asking for trouble, so just leave them both alone. ‘Lose’ interest – one may just decide to move on…or both lol
“You said they were both raised “proper” however when it comes to matters of the heart women forget all the etiquettes they were taught.”
Um… excuse me? That is not an accurate statement. Some PEOPLE forget the manners learnt during their upbringing when it comes to matters of the heart. Some people. Some times. Not “people”, and certainly not “women”.
Being very careful with our choice of words is essential, especially when giving advice. Blanket statements are a dangerous thing.
Don’t be so sensitive smh. I’m sure she meant it in a general way. She doesn’t know ALL women around the world for her to be certain what they all do. As a female I understand completely what she meant
This sound like fun talking about goats in savanna. take a different angle. SOMEONE unknown ,said lie down and open your leg and put a pound of beef between it. cannot see daylight, sun or moon and wash it three times a day, does that come cheap, if you cannot afford one, how can you maintain two. Just a thought.
My advice to you never date someone you work with
Especially if you are their supervisor!
Bella put it best. You said that you just came out of a bad relationship. Now you are in a situation that is going to end up bad. I think you are looking for big trouble for yourself. The problem is within you and you alone can fix it. You eyse is very bright and you don’t seems to settle with one woman so you will keep on going from relationship to relationship.